Are you the worrying kind?

[FrogMan]

Something fairly simple happened yesterday morning that made me realize how much I worry about people I love and are close to my heart (namely my wife and sons) when I expect them to be/arrive somewhere and they aren't/don't arrive (or arrive very late). In short, my wife currently works the night shift (midnight to eight) and she usually gets home between 9 and 10 am, given that her commute is roughly 45 minutes and she never leaves at exactly 8. Our break here is at 10 and she usually calls me around that time, sometimes before, when she wants to go sleep earlier. Yesterday, no news of her at 10. I called home, left a message. 10:30 came, no news, then 11:00 came, still no news, then 11:30, again no news. She called me from her workplace on her cell at 11:45 telling me she was leaving from work. Turns out she had to work a bit later since they had a client who was coming and they needed her to clean up some things. She knew I'd be worried, it looks like, and thought about calling me before hitting the road instead of 45 minutes later...

I tell you, from about 10:30/10:45 until she the time called, I was getting more and more nervous, almost frantic, worrying that she'd left work at her usual hour and that something had happened to her on the road home. She has to drive through some backroads and while weather was really nice yesterday, it's still Winter around here and these roads, well you encounter other idiotic drivers on them. That, and when you work the night shift, you can be more tired after your shift than usual and well, driving somewhat long distances isn't the best when you are tired... I tell you, I had real problems concentrating on my work.

This has happened to me in the past, sometimes with my oldest son when he goes to play at the park and we tell him to come back say at 4 and it's 4:20 and he's not home. I go take a walk to the park and he'd gone off to his friend's place. We live in a fairly small town, it's not like he'll be kidnapped 9 out of 10 days he goes to play at the park, but I worry. He's 8, I'm not really blaming him, although I sternly reminded him that he needs to tell us where he goes.

But yesterday was maybe the roughest I'd felt it so far...

I don't think I'm a control freak. I mean, my wife can do about whatever she wants and I'm pretty lenient with my son, as long as I have an idea where they're at. I feel like losing them, especially those very close to me like my wife and my sons, would be such a blow. I don't know, maybe I'm a pessismistic whiner that simply assumes that something bad is bound to happen... And it's not like I'm always pessismistic. I mean, I'm a fairly easy going person who takes life as it comes, but when I think about losing one of my very close ones, I tend to freak...

Maybe my feelings were amplified by the fact that her employment situation is still sucky and that she's still not heard from the people who interviewed her recently (remember the thread about good thoughts?). Not a peep, even though she sent them an email. Not even a reply. She's feeling down about it, I'm feeling down about it, and she's working nights, woopee. (she did have some better news waiting for her after she woke up yesterday though. An employer wants to meet with her about a possible job in her field. Interview set for Monday)

I don't know...

Do other people worry like that?

FM

[Drake]

There are two kinds of people in the world:

1. Those who spend the time their spouse is late worrying, and
2. Those who spend the time their spouse is late fantasizing about how they're going to spend the life insurance money.

[FrogMan]

Originally Posted by Drake

There are two kinds of people in the world:

1. Those who spend the time their spouse is late worrying, and
2. Those who spend the time their spouse is late fantasizing about how they're going to spend the life insurance money.

okay, I guess we've found what kind I am. Now, what kind are you?

FM

[oliegirl]

I worry too. It's weird you posted this in the half an hour I was gone...

I leave to pick Anthony up from the bus stop at 3:10..the bus is usually here around 3:15 and we are back home a minute or two later (because of my leg being in a brace, I drive down there). Today - 3:15 comes and goes, 3:20, 3:25...at 3:30 I call radii to get the phone # to the school, the bus is 15 minutes late and I am starting to worry. I call the school, goes to voice mail. I call radii back and as I am saying "If it's not here in another 10 - 15 mins, I am going to call my dad and have him come wait at the corner while I go up to the school"...in my rear view mirror I see the bus pulling in and say "never mind - it's here"...hang up, breathe a huge sigh of relief and ask what happened.

Of course, 5 minutes later I am yelling at Anthony because he got 3 checks at school this week and I am thinking "Man, couldn't they have just kept him for the weekend?"

[Greyroofoo]

I sometimes worry that I don't have enough alcohol to get through the weekend.

[George]

I often worry about how much I worry about worrying.

[Raiders Army]

What, me worry?

[heybrad]

[Harry Caray Voice] I guess I'm a worrier. That's why my friends call me Whiskers.[/Harry Caray Voice]