Male/Female Roles

Raiders Army · 03-08-2007, 07:27 PM

Talking to a dude today at work and my parents told me that the guy is supposed to sleep on the side of the bed closest to the bedroom door (or the biggest chance of unlawful entry). My wife and I sleep that way. I sleep on the right side of the bed, closest to our bedroom door. Do you guys do that or not? Poll forthcoming.

Also, I was always told that the guy is supposed to sit in restaurants facing the door.

Karlifornia · 03-08-2007, 07:31 PM

I always sleep closest to the door when I'm sharing a bed with a girlfriend. I was always would tell a girlfriend that I get the "caveman spot". Our bed was against the wall, so it might have been a ploy just to be able to sneak out of bed without waking her.

If it's just a casual fling type of thing, I really could care less.

Groundhog · 03-08-2007, 07:45 PM

I dated a girl once who always wanted me to sleep on the door-side of the bed, sit on the seat next to the aisle, and stuff like that. I don't usually think of it automatically, and no girls I've dated before or since have ever mentioned it.

FrogMan · 03-08-2007, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Raiders Army

Talking to a dude today at work and my parents told me that the guy is supposed to sleep on the side of the bed closest to the bedroom door (or the biggest chance of unlawful entry). My wife and I sleep that way. I sleep on the right side of the bed, closest to our bedroom door. Do you guys do that or not? Poll forthcoming.

Also, I was always told that the guy is supposed to sit in restaurants facing the door.

wow, the unlawful entry has never, ever occured to me. Ever since I've started living with my wife, we've always selected the side of the bed based on the which side is closest to a window, as we usually don't have AC in our houses up here so when it's too warm we sleep with the window open and she doesn't like having a breeze on here. Or in the winter, in really cold weather, the window side is a tiny bit colder than the side further from the window...

FM

Craptacular · 03-08-2007, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Raiders Army

Also, I was always told that the guy is supposed to sit in restaurants facing the door.

My father-in-law is a cop and always likes to sit facing the door, preferably with a wall behind him.

JonInMiddleGA · 03-08-2007, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Craptacular

My father-in-law is a cop and always likes to sit facing the door, preferably with a wall behind him.

I'm not a cop but I sit the same way. In the past 20 years I can think of two people that I trusted enough in terms of their ability, their judgement, and their awareness to put my back to the door.

Ben E Lou · 03-08-2007, 08:08 PM

I absolutely sit facing the door in restaurants, and greatly prefer to have my back to a wall. I also walk closest to the street, and sleep closest to the bedroom door.

Karlifornia · 03-08-2007, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by JonInMiddleGA

I'm not a cop but I sit the same way. In the past 20 years I can think of two people that I trusted enough in terms of their ability, their judgement, and their awareness to put my back to the door.

LOL. Are you the president?

DeToxRox · 03-08-2007, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

and sleep closest to the bedroom door.

Yeah! Fuck women and children first!

Ben E Lou · 03-08-2007, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by DeToxRoxDVHStyle

Yeah! Fuck women and children first!

Uh, no. If some mofo comes in my bedroom, I don't want to get gunpowder residue on my wife.

Poli · 03-08-2007, 08:24 PM

First place: Furthest
2nd: Closest
3rd: Closest
4th: Closest
5th: Closest
6th: Furthest

My wife likes having the bigger open space on her side, that's about the tihng she considers.

JonInMiddleGA · 03-08-2007, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Karlifornia

LOL. Are you the president?

Nah, I just eat in worse neighborhoods than he does.

bulletsponge · 03-08-2007, 08:32 PM

i sleep on a huge pile of money with many beautiful women

Ryche · 03-08-2007, 08:48 PM

I always sleep on the right side of the bed, regardless of where it is. Not sure why, that's just how we ended up. Feels strange at this point to sleep on the left side.

rjolley · 03-08-2007, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

I absolutely sit facing the door in restaurants, and greatly prefer to have my back to a wall. I also walk closest to the street, and sleep closest to the bedroom door.

Yeah, I always walk closet to the street, usually directing my lady to move over so that I can. I currently sleep closest to the bedroom door and usually sit facing the door.

SnDvls · 03-08-2007, 08:58 PM

wow guess I'd never even thought of that or had to worry about it here in AZ I sit on the side I can see the TV in a restaurant. I currently sleep on the side closest to the door, but I was on the other side until we got new beadroom furniture and I wanted to be on the side closest to the dresser drawers as I wake up about an hour before my wife and I don't want to wake her getting my stuff out.

Groundhog · 03-08-2007, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Ryche

I always sleep on the right side of the bed, regardless of where it is. Not sure why, that's just how we ended up. Feels strange at this point to sleep on the left side.

Actually, I do this too usually, and never really realised it until now. Even when I'm in bed by myself I sleep on the right.

Mateo · 03-08-2007, 09:21 PM

I always sleep on the side furthest from the door. That way if someone comes in, they get my wife first.

Raiders Army · 03-08-2007, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

I absolutely sit facing the door in restaurants, and greatly prefer to have my back to a wall. I also walk closest to the street, and sleep closest to the bedroom door.

I walk closest to the street as well. Forgot that one!

ISiddiqui · 03-08-2007, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Mateo

I always sleep on the side furthest from the door. That way if someone comes in, they get my wife first.

Winner!

stevew · 03-08-2007, 09:30 PM

After living in the city for awhile, you do start to become aware of things like where exits in restaurants are. If not for self protection, then at least in case of fire or something.

M GO BLUE!!! · 03-08-2007, 09:47 PM

When walking down stars always allow the lady to go first. That way if you trip she will break your fall.

SFL Cat · 03-08-2007, 09:49 PM

Uhm, we've always slept on a certain side. In some houses I was closer to the door, in others she was.

Groundhog · 03-08-2007, 10:12 PM

I've also got to say, I'm surprised that so many people are constantly aware of exits, entrances, keeping their backs to walls etc. Maybe it's just from growing up in the areas that I have, but that kind of stuff never even enters my mind for a second. When I'm sitting in a restaurant all my attention is used up on ordering, waiting, or eating.

FrogMan · 03-08-2007, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by stevew

After living in the city for awhile, you do start to become aware of things like where exits in restaurants are. If not for self protection, then at least in case of fire or something.

being aware of where the exit is and always having to be facing one are two different things to me. I do take notice of where the exits are, as you say, mostly in case of fire, but I have never felt the need to be on the lookout and be facing the door at all times. Maybe I'm just used to living in smaller cities (some would probably say towns) but I just don't see the need for it. Having this attitude toward protection reminds me of the far west and old western movies...

FM

FrogMan · 03-08-2007, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Groundhog

I've also got to say, I'm surprised that so many people are constantly aware of exits, entrances, keeping their backs to walls etc. Maybe it's just from growing up in the areas that I have, but that kind of stuff never even enters my mind for a second. When I'm sitting in a restaurant all my attention is used up on ordering, waiting, or eating.

you posted as I was typing but this summarizes my thinking quite well.

FM

Rizon · 03-08-2007, 10:22 PM

I also sleep closest to the door specifically in case of a break-in.

Celeval · 03-08-2007, 10:39 PM

The door is facing the foot of the bed. So... uh... I sleep in whatever side my wife isn't sleeping at.

And in restaurants, I'll sit on whichever side of the table faces the televisions.

Vinatieri for Prez · 03-08-2007, 10:44 PM

Wherever the wet spot isn't.

st.cronin · 03-08-2007, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Craptacular

My father-in-law is a cop and always likes to sit facing the door, preferably with a wall behind him.

I do this whether I'm with or without a woman. In fact, I won't sit down someplace where I have my back to the door.

Karlifornia · 03-08-2007, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Vinatieri for Prez

Wherever the wet spot isn't.

Haha. Amen to this.

TroyF · 03-08-2007, 11:10 PM

My dad is one of those who always likes to be facing the door and have a wall at his back. I've never really cared myself and no women I've ever dated has seemed to care either.

21C · 03-08-2007, 11:26 PM

I've always slept further from the door because my wife often gets up to go to the bathroom during the night - so it's closer for her.

And then when we had kids, it was closer for her to get up when they cried in the middle of the night . . .

DanGarion · 03-08-2007, 11:27 PM

I sleep on the far side, but only because my shoulder dictates what side I sleep on.

Icy · 03-09-2007, 03:08 AM

I sleep closest to the door but not to protect my wife if somebody enters but because she always want to sleep close to the windows and I don't care where as long as I sleep in a bed so i never complain.

Butter · 03-09-2007, 07:25 AM

I sleep next to the wall, because I'm big and I like the extra space of hanging a leg off the bed if I want to. Plus, when the kids come in to bug us, they totally have to go through my wife to get to me.

Subby · 03-09-2007, 07:35 AM

Our au pair sleeps closest to the door, then me, then my wife.

Subby · 03-09-2007, 07:35 AM

(he knows karate)

KevinNU7 · 03-09-2007, 08:10 AM

My wife and I have moved around quite a bit. If you are laying in bed I am on the leftside and it doesn't matter where the door is. Every place is different but I am always on the left.

Eaglesfan27 · 03-09-2007, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by SFL Cat

Uhm, we've always slept on a certain side. In some houses I was closer to the door, in others she was.

Same here. Ever since we were married, my wife always prefers to be on the left side of the bed. In most of our places, this put me closer to the door. In our house, it puts her closer to the bedroom door. I never considered the safety concerns before seeing this thread. However, I almost always sit with my back to a wall and facing the entrance in a restaurant.

spleen1015 · 03-09-2007, 08:40 AM

I don't sleep closest to the door, but there's not much difference for us. The door is directly across the room from the bed.

I do all of those other things though. I will also make sure I am the person sitting in the emergency seat on an airplane. I doubt I'd survive a plane crash, but if I do, I'm not relying on someone else to get that door out of the way.

Passacaglia · 03-09-2007, 10:12 AM

I usually sleep closest to the window, since I like it to be cold more -- unless I have to get up super-early, in which case I sleep on the other side, closer to the alarm clock.

Desnudo · 03-09-2007, 10:17 AM

I just got the boot to the far side of the bed this week

TroyF · 03-09-2007, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by spleen1015

I don't sleep closest to the door, but there's not much difference for us. The door is directly across the room from the bed.

I do all of those other things though. I will also make sure I am the person sitting in the emergency seat on an airplane. I doubt I'd survive a plane crash, but if I do, I'm not relying on someone else to get that door out of the way.

I travel a lot and sit in the emergency row whenever I can. My reasons have nothing to do with personal safety though. If the plane goes down, I figure I'm screwed anyway.

No, being 6'3", I want that extra leg room.

Kodos · 03-09-2007, 10:53 AM

For now, I sleep on the side that is about a foot and a half from the wall.

And I usually pick my seat in restaurants based on where the TVs are, or which one provides the best "scenery".

On sidewalks, I make my wife carry me.

Honolulu_Blue · 03-09-2007, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

Same here. Ever since we were married, my wife always prefers to be on the left side of the bed. In most of our places, this put me closer to the door. In our house, it puts her closer to the bedroom door. I never considered the safety concerns before seeing this thread. However, I almost always sit with my back to a wall and facing the entrance in a restaurant.

Likewise. I always sleep on the same side of the bed. In our current bedroom, it's the further from the door than my wife.

As for restaurants, I perfer to sit facing the door/window, but don't make a big deal about it if I don't. In fact, I think most of the time I don't even really think about it.

BrianD · 03-09-2007, 11:29 AM

I sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door. I also sit in a restaurant with my back to a wall. My wife isn't terribly observant so I like to have a view of the surroundings.

I have also read that guys should get into an elevator first just in case there is a problem with it, so I do that too. I guess I'm cautious by nature.

digamma · 03-09-2007, 11:32 AM

I sleep on the left side of the bed. When we lived in our old apartment, I think this was because it was closer to the door. Now, because of the somewhat odd shape of our bedroom (there is a nook for the bed) it is probably equidistant or she is a bit closer.

Mateo · 03-09-2007, 11:41 AM

My wife is lucky she gets to sleep in the same house, let alone in the bed.

Eaglesfan27 · 03-09-2007, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by BrianD

I have also read that guys should get into an elevator first just in case there is a problem with it, so I do that too. I guess I'm cautious by nature.

I've been having a lot of nightmares about stepping into an elevator shaft with no elevator waiting and dying in a similar fashion as Rosalind Shays. So, now I've been extra careful about making sure my wife doesn't step into an elevator first, either.

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03-08-2007, 07:31 PM	#2
Karlifornia Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: San Jose, CA	I always sleep closest to the door when I'm sharing a bed with a girlfriend. I was always would tell a girlfriend that I get the "caveman spot". Our bed was against the wall, so it might have been a ploy just to be able to sneak out of bed without waking her. If it's just a casual fling type of thing, I really could care less. __________________ Look into the mind of a crazy man (NSFW) http://www.whitepowerupdate.wordpress.com

03-08-2007, 07:45 PM	#3
Groundhog Coordinator Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Sydney, Australia	I dated a girl once who always wanted me to sleep on the door-side of the bed, sit on the seat next to the aisle, and stuff like that. I don't usually think of it automatically, and no girls I've dated before or since have ever mentioned it. __________________ Politics, n. Strife of interests masquerading as a contest of principles. --Ambrose Bierce

03-08-2007, 08:08 PM	#7
Ben E Lou Morgado's Favorite Forum Fascist Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Greensboro, NC	I absolutely sit facing the door in restaurants, and greatly prefer to have my back to a wall. I also walk closest to the street, and sleep closest to the bedroom door. __________________ The media don't understand the kinds of problems and pressures 54 million come wit'!

03-08-2007, 08:24 PM	#11
Poli FOFC Survivor Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Wentzville, MO	First place: Furthest 2nd: Closest 3rd: Closest 4th: Closest 5th: Closest 6th: Furthest My wife likes having the bigger open space on her side, that's about the tihng she considers. __________________ Cheer for a walk on quarterback! Ardent leads the Vols in the dynasty forum.

03-08-2007, 08:32 PM	#13
bulletsponge Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: TX	i sleep on a huge pile of money with many beautiful women

03-08-2007, 08:48 PM	#14
Ryche College Benchwarmer Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Highlands Ranch, CO, USA	I always sleep on the right side of the bed, regardless of where it is. Not sure why, that's just how we ended up. Feels strange at this point to sleep on the left side. __________________ Some knots are better left untied.

03-08-2007, 08:58 PM	#16
SnDvls Pro Starter Join Date: Jul 2001	wow guess I'd never even thought of that or had to worry about it here in AZ I sit on the side I can see the TV in a restaurant. I currently sleep on the side closest to the door, but I was on the other side until we got new beadroom furniture and I wanted to be on the side closest to the dresser drawers as I wake up about an hour before my wife and I don't want to wake her getting my stuff out.

03-08-2007, 09:21 PM	#18
Mateo Mascot Join Date: Jan 2007	I always sleep on the side furthest from the door. That way if someone comes in, they get my wife first.

03-08-2007, 09:30 PM	#21
stevew Hall Of Famer Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: the yo'	After living in the city for awhile, you do start to become aware of things like where exits in restaurants are. If not for self protection, then at least in case of fire or something.

03-08-2007, 09:47 PM	#22
M GO BLUE!!! Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2005	When walking down stars always allow the lady to go first. That way if you trip she will break your fall.

03-08-2007, 09:49 PM	#23
SFL Cat College Starter Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: South Florida	Uhm, we've always slept on a certain side. In some houses I was closer to the door, in others she was.

03-08-2007, 10:12 PM	#24
Groundhog Coordinator Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Sydney, Australia	I've also got to say, I'm surprised that so many people are constantly aware of exits, entrances, keeping their backs to walls etc. Maybe it's just from growing up in the areas that I have, but that kind of stuff never even enters my mind for a second. When I'm sitting in a restaurant all my attention is used up on ordering, waiting, or eating. __________________ Politics, n. Strife of interests masquerading as a contest of principles. --Ambrose Bierce

03-08-2007, 10:39 PM	#28
Celeval Pro Starter Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Cary, NC, USA	The door is facing the foot of the bed. So... uh... I sleep in whatever side my wife isn't sleeping at. And in restaurants, I'll sit on whichever side of the table faces the televisions.

03-08-2007, 10:44 PM	#29
Vinatieri for Prez College Starter Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Seattle	Wherever the wet spot isn't.

03-08-2007, 11:10 PM	#32
TroyF Coordinator Join Date: Oct 2000	My dad is one of those who always likes to be facing the door and have a wall at his back. I've never really cared myself and no women I've ever dated has seemed to care either.

03-08-2007, 11:26 PM	#33
21C College Prospect Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Newcastle, Australia	I've always slept further from the door because my wife often gets up to go to the bathroom during the night - so it's closer for her. And then when we had kids, it was closer for her to get up when they cried in the middle of the night . . .

03-08-2007, 11:27 PM	#34
DanGarion Coordinator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: PNW	I sleep on the far side, but only because my shoulder dictates what side I sleep on. __________________ Los Angeles Dodgers Check out the FOFC Groups on Facebook! and Reddit! DON'T REPORT ME BRO! Last edited by DanGarion : 03-08-2007 at 11:27 PM. Reason: eidt!

03-09-2007, 03:08 AM	#35
Icy Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Toledo - Spain	I sleep closest to the door but not to protect my wife if somebody enters but because she always want to sleep close to the windows and I don't care where as long as I sleep in a bed so i never complain. __________________ Last edited by Icy : 03-09-2007 at 03:09 AM.

03-09-2007, 07:25 AM	#36
Butter Coordinator Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Dayton, OH	I sleep next to the wall, because I'm big and I like the extra space of hanging a leg off the bed if I want to. Plus, when the kids come in to bug us, they totally have to go through my wife to get to me. __________________ My listening habits

03-09-2007, 07:35 AM	#37
Subby lolzcat Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: sans pants	Our au pair sleeps closest to the door, then me, then my wife. __________________ Superman was flying around and saw Wonder Woman getting a tan in the nude on her balcony. Superman said I going to hit that real fast. So he flys down toward Wonder Woman to hit it and their is a loud scream. The Invincible Man scream what just hit me in the ass!!!!! I do shit, I take pictures, I write about it: chrisshue.com

03-09-2007, 07:35 AM	#38
Subby lolzcat Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: sans pants	(he knows karate) __________________ Superman was flying around and saw Wonder Woman getting a tan in the nude on her balcony. Superman said I going to hit that real fast. So he flys down toward Wonder Woman to hit it and their is a loud scream. The Invincible Man scream what just hit me in the ass!!!!! I do shit, I take pictures, I write about it: chrisshue.com

03-09-2007, 08:10 AM	#39
KevinNU7 College Starter Join Date: May 2003 Location: Beantown	My wife and I have moved around quite a bit. If you are laying in bed I am on the leftside and it doesn't matter where the door is. Every place is different but I am always on the left. __________________ Boston Bashers - III.14 - (8347)

03-09-2007, 08:40 AM	#41
spleen1015 Coordinator Join Date: Sep 2003	I don't sleep closest to the door, but there's not much difference for us. The door is directly across the room from the bed. I do all of those other things though. I will also make sure I am the person sitting in the emergency seat on an airplane. I doubt I'd survive a plane crash, but if I do, I'm not relying on someone else to get that door out of the way.

03-09-2007, 10:12 AM	#42
Passacaglia Coordinator Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Big Ten Country	I usually sleep closest to the window, since I like it to be cold more -- unless I have to get up super-early, in which case I sleep on the other side, closer to the alarm clock. __________________ Pride and Prejudice -- an FOF9 Lions dynasty, starting 1966

03-09-2007, 10:17 AM	#43
Desnudo Coordinator Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Here and There	I just got the boot to the far side of the bed this week

03-09-2007, 10:53 AM	#45
Kodos Resident Alien Join Date: Jun 2001	For now, I sleep on the side that is about a foot and a half from the wall. And I usually pick my seat in restaurants based on where the TVs are, or which one provides the best "scenery". On sidewalks, I make my wife carry me.

03-09-2007, 11:29 AM	#47
BrianD Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Appleton, WI	I sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door. I also sit in a restaurant with my back to a wall. My wife isn't terribly observant so I like to have a view of the surroundings. I have also read that guys should get into an elevator first just in case there is a problem with it, so I do that too. I guess I'm cautious by nature.

03-09-2007, 11:32 AM	#48
digamma Torchbearer Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: On Lake Harriet	I sleep on the left side of the bed. When we lived in our old apartment, I think this was because it was closer to the door. Now, because of the somewhat odd shape of our bedroom (there is a nook for the bed) it is probably equidistant or she is a bit closer.

03-09-2007, 11:41 AM	#49
Mateo Mascot Join Date: Jan 2007	My wife is lucky she gets to sleep in the same house, let alone in the bed.

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