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Best use of Excel...ever?
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"Do you guys play fast tempos with odd time signatures?" "Yeah" "Cool!!" Last edited by Suburban Rhythm : 07-21-2014 at 12:16 PM. |
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Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Chicagoland
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I'm surprised this hasn't happened before, tbh.
Well, I'm sure it's happened before. I'm surprised it hasn't been turned into a new story until now. |
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Favored Bitch #1
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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kind of a douche move by the husband. If you and your wife aren't having enough sex maybe try talking about it with her.
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Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: Fantasyland
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For all you know, he has and she's denied there's a problem. Given that she posted this online, I'd say it's far more likely she's the problem. Last edited by Blackadar : 07-21-2014 at 12:37 PM. |
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Back in Houston!
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What's the over/under on the next 50 entries now? 4?
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Arlington, VA
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Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Pittsburgh
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Sort of upsetting that he didn't put a little more effort into it...
The spreadsheet I mean. Not with the wife. That ship has probably sailed long ago. But he could have at least added a graph depicting most frequent responses.
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"Do you guys play fast tempos with odd time signatures?" "Yeah" "Cool!!" |
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Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: Le stelle la notte sono grandi e luminose nel cuore profondo del Texas
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How To Fudge An Excel Spreadsheet?
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Join Date: Apr 2001
Location: Early, TX
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Ditto. If you can't make it happen, you are the problem. I can't believe people are backing this; however, I didn't even read it, so I suck. ![]()
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Backwoods, SC
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Shit around the 4th "No" he should have added an additional column
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General Manager
Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: The Mountains
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That's my problem with it to. It's just a list. He could have used Word. On a notebook. |
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Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: NYC
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Seeing the responses of "I feel gross and need to shower (didn't shower until next morning)" tells me this is a wife issue.
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Head Coach
Join Date: Dec 2002
Location: Maryland
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You want a crack at my wife then?
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Join Date: Jan 2001
Location: Keene, NH
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you know I thought of you almost immediately when I saw this the other day
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Join Date: Jul 2007
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I can´t be the only one wondering what exactly happened when the response was "non-verbal"
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Coordinator
Join Date: Jan 2001
Location: Keene, NH
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my take, by the way...Spreadsheet? Yeah, kind of lame but not totally outrageous. But the big issue is the way he sent it to her - a nasty email as she left on a ten day trip. That's beyond childish.
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Join Date: Dec 2002
Location: Maryland
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Yeah...funny how that is. I've thought of logging it before, but frankly it's not that hard to track mentally.
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Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: the yo'
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Immediately knew what thus was going to be about by the thread title.
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Favored Bitch #1
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Pittsburgh
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Maybe I'm giving the guy too much credit, but my assumption is this isn't a new thing, but going on months (years?) before the list was compiled. Also, maybe showing my age and length and state of marriage, but is 3 times in 27 days that horrible?
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Back in Houston!
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Wasn't it 3 times in 7 weeks and he had tried 27 times? SI
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He could have gone from 3 to 5 if they had cut down on drinking. I'm guessing drinks might have been involved the other time as well.
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Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: The Satellite of Love
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I read the original reddit post (because I've become quit addicted to reading the relationships subreddit and saw this a few days ago). Apparently their sex life had taken a dive, according to her, over the past few months, but before that they were doing it fairly regularly (a few times a week). And for people argueing over whether it's the problem of the wife or the husband, I'm reminded of a line I heard several times while watching Sports Night. "Like it can't be both?" |
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Join Date: May 2001
Location: Bloodbuzz Ohio
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Join Date: Sep 2004
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My suspicion is that she's fucking somebody else.
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Favored Bitch #1
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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Join Date: Aug 2008
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If true, then he's screwed in a bad way.
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Location: Troy, Mo
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Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Pittsburgh
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I just counted rows. You are correct, looks to be about 6 weeks. Quote:
Makes me think of the story... A couple goes to a marriage therapist. During the first session, they each meet with the therapist separately. The therapist asks the husband about their sex life. "Oh...it's horrible. We hardly ever do it. Once a week...maybe twice a week if I'm lucky!" Then the therapist meets with the wife, asking the same question. "Ugh...it's ALL THE TIME. At least once a week, sometimes twice!"
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Favored Bitch #1
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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I'm curious why you guys think she is cheating. Is it frequency or the way he or she reacted?
I think it is hard to make that conclusion without knowing more information. |
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College Prospect
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: High and outside
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I see what you did there... So, in a way, maybe he WAS screwed 27 times in 27 attempts! Last edited by Bobble : 07-22-2014 at 07:44 AM. |
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General Manager
Join Date: Jul 2001
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I don't agree at all with the cheating assumptions. The total probably would have been 0 and I especially don't think she post it for her cheating partner to see she's still sleeping with her husband . A couple with some serious communication problems.
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Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Pittsburgh
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Yeah...seems like quite a leap. There's probably a enough blame to go around. But I do find it amusing that he tracked it all. His delivery might have sucked, but the data itself is solid.
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Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: NYC
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Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: Fantasyland
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I'm putting this mostly on her, based on her original post (which is now been hidden/removed from Reddit).
They were having sex 3-5 times a week. She got weight-conscious and life got "hectic". Their sex life tapered off and her post indicates she didn't think this was a problem. She then rejected her husband enough that he started keeping track of this (which didn't happen overnight). When he finally kept track of it, the facts showed that she rebuffed him about 90% of the time. When you get rejected by the one you love 90% of the time over the span of months, you're not likely to appreciate it much or react well. I don't think we can trust her word that she didn't know anything was wrong. That sounds too convenient and makes her too oblivious. Maybe she is, but that's not a really good excuse either. Now it's possible the husband's email and actions were immature. But there's a fundamental lack of communication here and instead of dealing with her husband, she chose to post this on Reddit. Does anyone really think that is the sign of a mature adult who is looking to resolve this situation? Or more the actions of an immature bitch? --- On a personal note, I once read my wife the riot act via an email. Talking to her wasn't working - it was going in one ear and out the other or she would derail the conversation into a fight about something else. So the best approach was in writing, where I could lay out my concerns. My wife realized that she had been taking me for granted and things changed. So this guy sending his wife an Excel spreadsheet isn't necessarily the worst way to communicate with her. It may be his last ditch attempt to communicate before he seeks a divorce from his clueless and immature wife. |
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Join Date: Jul 2001
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Reading this thread makes me think that this is just some unusually formed Rorschach test. People are seeing what they want to see based on their own relationship history, or maybe based on how they grew up and how dug in they are on gender stereotypes, I dunno. People who have had more bad experiences in relationships blame her. People who lack those bad experiences/are in very successful marriages blame him. People who have been cheated on assume she's cheating. I think the only thing any of us amateur relationship counselors can safely do with this is to feel pretty certain that this relationship isn't in the best place right now. I love Reddit, but seeing the leaps being made here and extrapolating that out into the god awful advice it would lead to over on reddit is the reason I stay far, far away from any sort of relationship sub. |
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Join Date: Nov 2000
Location: Phoenix, AZ by way of Belleville, IL
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Everyone goes through dry spells. I think his mistake was his persistence and not understanding how to achieve the goal he wanted. You get rejected Monday and Tuesday night - don't ask Wednesday and Thursday, you're just being an ass then. Give her a few days off, set up a nice romantic dinner on Friday and if you still don't get some - you have a strong case when you talk on Saturday.
![]() Honestly, it looks like both these people are miserable. She feels he's super pushy and isn't interested for whatever reason (self image via weight, his attitude, stress, ...). He's pissed because it went from 2-3 times a week to 2-3 times a month (fair initial response), but he's handled it like a child instead of just talking to her. Tells me he's tapping out mentally and is probably getting some on the road. Then, when she catches him, he can whip out the spreadsheet as a justification. |
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Favored Bitch #1
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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This My wife and I both work full time and have a 4 year old and a 1 year old. We both acknowledge this time in our lives in likely the worst it will be with regards to sex. During the week we are both exhausted, on the weekend we are always with the kids, my 4 year old climbs in our bed most mornings and is an early riser, so that is out. If I initiate a couple times in a row and get shot down I flat out tell her let me know when she is ready, and she always does. Now I have no clue where they are at in their lives, kids, etc...but tracking that, then sending it in an email and saying he won't miss her on her trip is pretty shitty. If all he cares about is sex, and he won't miss her because of that then the relationship is nuked. IMO. |
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Backwoods, SC
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I guess each person and each relatonship has a different priority regarding sexual frequency and quality. Got into a rather long discussion about this a few weeks ago at a (multi gender) poker night. Based on that I am not sure anyone else can say what is going on in their house, but I feel its pretty apparent they place different levels of emphasis on sexual contact in their relationship and thats a pretty big hurdle to over come in my opinion.
If he sees their frequency as a problem, it is a problem for the relationship whether she thinks its a problem or not. I think far too often we fall into a trap of valuing the other person's feelings too much. In Arles example above. On each attempted night each of the partners has a desire/need. The initiator has a desire for physical intimacy with their partner and the other partner does not share that desire or has a different desire (laziness, alcohol, sleep, etc). Each of these desires is valid AND equal. The wife and I have had discussions over this in the past, and this is the basic conclusion we reached for our relationship. If you take 100 "attempts" by either partner. Lets assume 50 are mutually desired so we are working with 50 unrequited attempts. Occassionally one should give in and do without, and occassionally one should relent and proceed even if they may not be 100% on board. If the pendulum always swings in 1 direction (hubby always wants it wife always doesnt in the spread sheet example) she is then valuing her desire to not have sex over his desire to do so. In this case a compromise is in order and they can both achieve what they want (he can have sex and she can abstain) if she isnt willing to concede this, nor willing to "take one for the team"...then she is being a selfish beotch IMHO. ![]() just kidding on the conclusion a bit...but I think the sentiment is still there. Last edited by CU Tiger : 07-22-2014 at 11:24 AM. |
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Join Date: Oct 2000
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In her original post, she said that after getting the email, she tried calling and texting her husband the rest of the day, and the next morning, but he wasn't responding. |
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Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Dallas, TX
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I just had to google "what is reddit" and I'm still not sure I really understand.
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Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: The Mountains
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It's like FOF if we had about a hundred million posters and thousands of sub-forums. Last edited by molson : 07-22-2014 at 02:32 PM. |
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Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Chicagoland
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Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: The Satellite of Love
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Back in Houston!
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Can we all agree that sending a spreadsheet and not answering your phone is probably the wrong move and that then turning around, posting it to reddit, and then asking for advice there is /also/ a wrong move?
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Last edited by sabotai : 07-22-2014 at 02:54 PM. |
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Favored Bitch #1
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: homeless in NJ
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If nothing else her comments validate a need for communication in their relationship. She clearly thought nothing was wrong, and he clearly did. For it to get to this point there is enough blame on both, but the husband comes off as pretty immature. IMO. As does she for posting it on a forum.
FWIW 26 and no kids they should be doing it more often. |
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You could always use the spoiler tag for something like that SI
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Houston Hippopotami, III.3: 20th Anniversary Thread - All former HT players are encouraged to check it out! Janos: "Only America could produce an imbecile of your caliber!" Freakazoid: "That's because we make lots of things better than other people!" Last edited by sterlingice : 07-22-2014 at 02:58 PM. |
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Retired
Join Date: Oct 2000
Location: Fantasyland
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Yes, 100%. Saying "I'm watching my show and I don't want to miss anything" to avoid sex should be grounds for an immediate divorce. |
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