Blade6119
12-17-2004, 10:49 PM
This is from askmen.com
I found it interesting in that it wasnt as stupid as most i see of this sort. A lot of these might work if your not ugly or from illinois(same thing really ;) )
Fellas, you never know when it can happen. You could be walking along the street, eating at a restaurant, hanging out in a nightclub, or chillin' at a friend's barbecue and suddenly, there she is: a gorgeous woman you'd love to talk to. So what are you going to do about it? You're going to step up to bat and talk to her, that's what.
But if you never learned how to approach women (and if so, you're not alone), here are some icebreakers that could come in handy when it comes to picking up women in different locations and venues.
Your main weapon is always the art of adaptation. Before moving in, assess whether the scenario involves a "hot" or a "cold" pickup.
Hot situations occur when she's noticed you and has given you that "come hither" signal (either via eye contact, a sexy flip of her hair or one of those shy smiles).
Cold situations, on the other hand, indicate that there hasn't been any previous flirting. This scenario can prove to be more difficult as you're never sure if she is, or will be, interested.
Now, on to the icebreakers.
Number 10
Introduce yourself
This almost goes without saying: If there has been no previous flirting, she's not going to know you exist until you make her aware you're there. To use a golf analogy, it's always the approach shot that sets up the hole. No different with the ladies. Stride up to her casually and introduce yourself.
What to say:
"I'm Joe, happy to meet you."
"I'm Joe. I don't believe we've been introduced."
Number 9
Buy her a drink
Whether you're at a bar, restaurant or coffee shop, a great icebreaker involves the classic buying of the drink. Have the waiter send her another round of what she's already having (if you want to be more aggressive, you could send her your favorite drink), accompanied by a playful note, with your phone number included. Be sure to have the waiter let her know the source of the drink. On your way out, stop by her table and introduce yourself. It's a bold approach, without being invasive.
What to say:
"Hope you enjoyed your drink."
"This is my favorite drink; thought you might enjoy it too."
Number 8
Ask if she's single
Hey, you're going to want to know at some point, so why not get it over with at the outset? Keep in mind, however, that this is a bold move in any situation. If you're a handsome guy, the chances that she'll react positively are obviously better. If you're not, it's all the more reason to be friendly. In any case, this approach always demands that you be direct. You can bet that she will be; if she tells you that she's not single, or if she's not interested, you'll find out quickly. Asking a stranger if she's available immediately reveals your intentions and eliminates the chances of awkward misunderstandings.
What to say:
"Before I even ask your name, which is probably as beautiful as you are, I need to know; are you single?"
"Could I be so lucky that you're single?"
Number 7
Be blunt
Here's an approach for those willing to be even more direct. In many cases, walking up to a woman and letting her know you're a take-charge kind of guy can act as a strong appeal. She'll likely take your confidence as an indication that you're someone worth talking to.
What to say:
"I was trying to think of a clever pickup line, but then realized there's no such thing. My name is Joe. What's yours?"
"Mind if I join you?"
Number 6
Comment on your surroundings
Wherever you may find her, there will always be stuff around to observe. Use it as conversational fodder. Look to your environment to induce a positive conversation and gently ease it towards common topics. This strategy needn't be restricted to the nightlife; if you notice a woman having a bad day at the office, say something that will make her forget her drudgery. This allows her to vent and capitalizes on the setting to get the conversation rolling. Be sure, however, that she's not seriously busy before you move in. Pick your timing as carefully as you do your prey.
What to say:
"I've heard this DJ somewhere else, he sounds great."
"You look like you're having a great day." (use with sarcasm if she looks bored or unhappy)
Number 5
Ask an open-ended question
The hardest part of using an icebreaker is employing it to start a conversation that doesn't end 30 seconds after it's begun. Avoid this scenario by asking her a question that requires some kind of elaboration in the response, and not simply a "yes" or "no."
What to say:
"So, what do you do for fun?"
"So, how do you keep busy on weekends?"
Number 4
Have her buy you a drink
Throw a twist into your icebreaker by using a little gender role-reversal. If you find yourself in a hot situation at a bar or club, approach her and ham it up a little. It should surprise her in a mischievous way, and can be charming. Although riskier, this approach might also work in a cold situation.
What to say:
"I'll tell you what, how about I let you buy me a drink?"
"I've always felt that it's a bit chauvinistic to offer to buy a woman a drink. So I'll let you buy me one and promise to repay the favor."
Number 3
Give a sincere compliment
It's no secret that women enjoy compliments. However, they can always detect when the compliment is an insincere one. No matter the situation, you should always be able to find something unique and legitimate to flatter your target with. It may be risqué or a more tame form of praise, depending on her body language towards you. Be sure to follow through with a Negative Hit, so that she doesn't believe that you're in awe over her.
What to say:
"It's funny that you noticed that... you're very perceptive."
"You have a nice, sugary laugh."
Number 2
Say "hello"
As obvious as it seems, this classic approach is often overlooked. Most women will say it right back, if only because it's common courtesy to do so. Their acknowledgement, however, opens the door to more conversation. It's a simple, no-nonsense approach, and just mustering the courage to greet a stranger may win you some respect. This approach works in virtually any setting.
What to say:
"Hi."
"Hello."
Number 1
Make her smile
Getting her to smile works magic for breaking the ice; women love a man who can make them laugh. Cracking a joke could prove the difference between picking up and striking out. Humor sets up a pleasant context and hints that you're a fun guy.
What to say:
"I bet I can make you smile in five seconds."
"Want to hear a really bad pickup line?"
go break some ice
Whether you're at work, play or somewhere in between, there are always opportunities to meet women. It's just a matter of knowing the right thing to say at the right time. Remember to stay cool and honest.
You'll strike out from time to time, but that's okay. Don't dwell on rejection. Stay confident and you'll be meeting more women than you know what to do with.
I found it interesting in that it wasnt as stupid as most i see of this sort. A lot of these might work if your not ugly or from illinois(same thing really ;) )
Fellas, you never know when it can happen. You could be walking along the street, eating at a restaurant, hanging out in a nightclub, or chillin' at a friend's barbecue and suddenly, there she is: a gorgeous woman you'd love to talk to. So what are you going to do about it? You're going to step up to bat and talk to her, that's what.
But if you never learned how to approach women (and if so, you're not alone), here are some icebreakers that could come in handy when it comes to picking up women in different locations and venues.
Your main weapon is always the art of adaptation. Before moving in, assess whether the scenario involves a "hot" or a "cold" pickup.
Hot situations occur when she's noticed you and has given you that "come hither" signal (either via eye contact, a sexy flip of her hair or one of those shy smiles).
Cold situations, on the other hand, indicate that there hasn't been any previous flirting. This scenario can prove to be more difficult as you're never sure if she is, or will be, interested.
Now, on to the icebreakers.
Number 10
Introduce yourself
This almost goes without saying: If there has been no previous flirting, she's not going to know you exist until you make her aware you're there. To use a golf analogy, it's always the approach shot that sets up the hole. No different with the ladies. Stride up to her casually and introduce yourself.
What to say:
"I'm Joe, happy to meet you."
"I'm Joe. I don't believe we've been introduced."
Number 9
Buy her a drink
Whether you're at a bar, restaurant or coffee shop, a great icebreaker involves the classic buying of the drink. Have the waiter send her another round of what she's already having (if you want to be more aggressive, you could send her your favorite drink), accompanied by a playful note, with your phone number included. Be sure to have the waiter let her know the source of the drink. On your way out, stop by her table and introduce yourself. It's a bold approach, without being invasive.
What to say:
"Hope you enjoyed your drink."
"This is my favorite drink; thought you might enjoy it too."
Number 8
Ask if she's single
Hey, you're going to want to know at some point, so why not get it over with at the outset? Keep in mind, however, that this is a bold move in any situation. If you're a handsome guy, the chances that she'll react positively are obviously better. If you're not, it's all the more reason to be friendly. In any case, this approach always demands that you be direct. You can bet that she will be; if she tells you that she's not single, or if she's not interested, you'll find out quickly. Asking a stranger if she's available immediately reveals your intentions and eliminates the chances of awkward misunderstandings.
What to say:
"Before I even ask your name, which is probably as beautiful as you are, I need to know; are you single?"
"Could I be so lucky that you're single?"
Number 7
Be blunt
Here's an approach for those willing to be even more direct. In many cases, walking up to a woman and letting her know you're a take-charge kind of guy can act as a strong appeal. She'll likely take your confidence as an indication that you're someone worth talking to.
What to say:
"I was trying to think of a clever pickup line, but then realized there's no such thing. My name is Joe. What's yours?"
"Mind if I join you?"
Number 6
Comment on your surroundings
Wherever you may find her, there will always be stuff around to observe. Use it as conversational fodder. Look to your environment to induce a positive conversation and gently ease it towards common topics. This strategy needn't be restricted to the nightlife; if you notice a woman having a bad day at the office, say something that will make her forget her drudgery. This allows her to vent and capitalizes on the setting to get the conversation rolling. Be sure, however, that she's not seriously busy before you move in. Pick your timing as carefully as you do your prey.
What to say:
"I've heard this DJ somewhere else, he sounds great."
"You look like you're having a great day." (use with sarcasm if she looks bored or unhappy)
Number 5
Ask an open-ended question
The hardest part of using an icebreaker is employing it to start a conversation that doesn't end 30 seconds after it's begun. Avoid this scenario by asking her a question that requires some kind of elaboration in the response, and not simply a "yes" or "no."
What to say:
"So, what do you do for fun?"
"So, how do you keep busy on weekends?"
Number 4
Have her buy you a drink
Throw a twist into your icebreaker by using a little gender role-reversal. If you find yourself in a hot situation at a bar or club, approach her and ham it up a little. It should surprise her in a mischievous way, and can be charming. Although riskier, this approach might also work in a cold situation.
What to say:
"I'll tell you what, how about I let you buy me a drink?"
"I've always felt that it's a bit chauvinistic to offer to buy a woman a drink. So I'll let you buy me one and promise to repay the favor."
Number 3
Give a sincere compliment
It's no secret that women enjoy compliments. However, they can always detect when the compliment is an insincere one. No matter the situation, you should always be able to find something unique and legitimate to flatter your target with. It may be risqué or a more tame form of praise, depending on her body language towards you. Be sure to follow through with a Negative Hit, so that she doesn't believe that you're in awe over her.
What to say:
"It's funny that you noticed that... you're very perceptive."
"You have a nice, sugary laugh."
Number 2
Say "hello"
As obvious as it seems, this classic approach is often overlooked. Most women will say it right back, if only because it's common courtesy to do so. Their acknowledgement, however, opens the door to more conversation. It's a simple, no-nonsense approach, and just mustering the courage to greet a stranger may win you some respect. This approach works in virtually any setting.
What to say:
"Hi."
"Hello."
Number 1
Make her smile
Getting her to smile works magic for breaking the ice; women love a man who can make them laugh. Cracking a joke could prove the difference between picking up and striking out. Humor sets up a pleasant context and hints that you're a fun guy.
What to say:
"I bet I can make you smile in five seconds."
"Want to hear a really bad pickup line?"
go break some ice
Whether you're at work, play or somewhere in between, there are always opportunities to meet women. It's just a matter of knowing the right thing to say at the right time. Remember to stay cool and honest.
You'll strike out from time to time, but that's okay. Don't dwell on rejection. Stay confident and you'll be meeting more women than you know what to do with.