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Suburban Rhythm
07-09-2007, 02:46 PM
I guess in the grand scheme of things, my issue isn't that big...but dammit, I want to vent! :mad: :mad: :mad:

A few weeks ago I started a thread about driving to OC Maryland for my brother in law's (2nd) wedding.

Well, that was this past weekend. Our original plan was this-

The wedding was Friday at noon (yeah, who has a wedding in OC on a Friday at noon, 2 days after the 4th of July?? Not really well planned).

It was me, my wife, daughter (3), son (10 months) and mother in law.

I had some stuff to finish up Thursday at work, so went in early, left about 11, came home, we left and drove to Easton (to clear the Bay Bridge Thursday night and not worry about traffic Friday morning).

For Friday and Saturday nights, we had a place to stay. The bride's family owns a condo in OC, and offered us a room, mother in law a room, and another couple (the groom's best friend from HS/college) a room.

Since we were driving that far, my wife and I figured we might as well stay for a few extra days, and booked a room in another place (condo already rented out the next week) for 2 more days. Mother in law was going to ride back with best friend guy and his wife.

Fast forward to early Saturday afternoon. Best friend guy and his wife aren't going to stay through Sunday morning, they'd rather leave to head back to Pittsburgh then and be home all day Sunday.

Mother in law decides she's not riding with them...only doesn't really mention this to anyone. We were out with the kids doing the OC tourist thing, come back to find the other couple had left, and she hasn't gone with them.

We couldn't find another room in our hotel, and MIL really didn't want to spring for a room anyway. Hotel would not allow a rollaway bed in the room (probably could have gotten away with if I hadn't asked, but simply requested the bed...but too late for that). So I cancelled the 2nd night in the hotel, too late to cancel the 1st night, so on the hook for that room ($100+).

Am I out of line for being pretty pissed? All in all, the weekend was pretty nice, had a good time at the wedding, my daughter loved the beach and boat rides and those types of things. But, I think it was a pretty asshat-ish move by the MIL.

rkmsuf
07-09-2007, 02:49 PM
that battleaxe

send her camping next time

gstelmack
07-09-2007, 02:49 PM
Bad move by MIL, not fair to you to change plans irrevocably without making sure it would be all right. Also bad move by best friend guy and wife for leaving WITHOUT making sure everything was okay with MIL, since they changed the plans that screwed all this up. Inconsiderate all around.

albionmoonlight
07-09-2007, 02:52 PM
Sounds ass-hatish to me.

Also a bit ass-hatish by the friend. If you have agreed to have someone ride with you, then you don't really have total control over getting to change your plans at the last minute.

That's one of my common complaints in general though. A lot of people feel that if they are doing you a favor, they have the right to change their mind about doing it up until the last minute. I don't really buy the "I didn't have to agree to do it in the first place" argument. Once you commit to doing a favor, then you should do it. The fact that you "didn't have to" loses relevance as soon as you decide to.

cougarfreak
07-09-2007, 02:52 PM
I'm going through the dreaded in law vacation doldrums as well. We leave Friday. Rented a house on the beach in Myrtle Beach with my wife's parents. We paid 1/2 and have a 14 month old daughter. Supposed to be the 5 of us. Now it's the 5 of us, plus her sister, 2 brothers (all are over 21, not kids), and her sister's boyfriend of all of one month. To boot, my wife is 5 months pregnant. The house has 2 bedrooms and 4 beds. You do the math. And my wife can't figure out why I am not looking foward to the trip. It's not that I don't like my in laws. But I sure as fuck don't want to take a vacation with the people I am trying to take a vacation from, and get stuck in too small accomodations with all of them.

Suburban Rhythm
07-09-2007, 06:48 PM
I'm going through the dreaded in law vacation doldrums as well. We leave Friday. Rented a house on the beach in Myrtle Beach with my wife's parents. We paid 1/2 and have a 14 month old daughter. Supposed to be the 5 of us. Now it's the 5 of us, plus her sister, 2 brothers (all are over 21, not kids), and her sister's boyfriend of all of one month. To boot, my wife is 5 months pregnant. The house has 2 bedrooms and 4 beds. You do the math. And my wife can't figure out why I am not looking foward to the trip. It's not that I don't like my in laws. But I sure as fuck don't want to take a vacation with the people I am trying to take a vacation from, and get stuck in too small accomodations with all of them.

I'll echo your last point.

The 2 extra days we had were supposed to be my vacation from the first 2+ days of "vacation".

At least you'll have the ride to/from on your own...hopefully.