happiness is fleeting

[cody8200]

Today, one of my best friends died at the age of 23. The symptoms sound like it could have been caused by a pulmonary embolism. It really REALLY sucks. He just got married a month ago. I was one of his groomsmen. 2 months ago I got married and he was one of my groomsmen. He found out 3 months ago he was going to have a kid soon (it's now 4 months along). He was a hard worker. No one studied like this guy did. He had a 3.9 GPA in Honors courses in Biochem. He got his BS a year early. He was going to graduate school to be a dentist. Now all of that studying, committment, and effort seems like a waste. I've never had a friend die before.

Overall, its been a really sad day. Monday I had a really good day when I was offered a new job position. I worked for 2 months looking to find a job and was ecstatic to finally get an offer. It's more than I thought it would pay and has great benefits. It really feels like a great fit. I would give up that job in a second to have my friend back...

Well, I start on this upcoming Monday. I don't know when the funeral will be. I'm definetely going. What should I tell my new employer? I think I'll go on Monday to work and just tell them that I need the day of the funeral off. I really don't know what I should do in this case. Any ideas?

[dawgfan]

Just tell them the truth. Most places are pretty accommodating for funerals for close friends and family.

Sorry to hear this - what a shocker and a tough thing to deal with. Just forces you to appreciate every day you get, knowing that there are no guarantees in life. Good luck...

[Crim]

Terrible news, I'll be thinking about you.

[Arles]

Just tragic. Both you and his family will be in our prayers.

[MacroGuru]

For me, if I was to loose one of my best friends, it would be the equivalent of the loss of a brother. We have all known each other since 7th grade, We are Uncles to all of our kids, our kids consider themselves cousins that is how close we are.

To me, as a former boss, your explanation would be more than enough.

[CU Tiger]

I have managed employees for 10 years.
Sit down tell the truth, it will be fine.
You new boss is a human who can relate, if not best to find out day 1 and not waste a large chunk of your life wroking there.

Juts lost 1 of my 3 true friends in this world in januray at the ripe age of 27.

Id like to say it will get easier, but I am not sure it does.
Everyday I think of him. Sometimes I smile and laugh, sometimes I cry (and prior to this it had probably been 7 years since the last time I sheed 1 tear)
but I always thin of him.

Just remember all you had and all you shared. You are in my thoughts and prayers

[BYU 14]

I know if it was one of my Employees I would certainly accommodate them in any way possible.....I would imagine there is no way he/she could not be understanding.


Very sorry for your loss.

[Fidatelo]

That is horrible, my thoughts are with you and the families involved :(

As for work, as others have said, just tell them what happened. There is a 99% chance they will totally understand. And if they don't, you don't really want to work at a place like that anyways.

[cody8200]

Guys, thanks for your thoughts, prayers, and advice. I appreciate it. I'm going to call up his wife today and ask her if she needs any help getting back home to Indiana (they lived in Ohio). I've decided that I need to just try and help her as much as I can.

[Swaggs]

Tough news. :(

[JeeberD]

How horrible. I'm so sorry... :(

[Lorena]

I'm really, really sorry for your loss. When my brother-in-law passed away I was completely devasted. He died the day after he god married and left a child behind. Just like your friend, he had everything coming together and one day he was just gone.

Anyway, I agree with the others, definitely tell your new employer and if they don't accomodate or act like dicks, then it's not the place to be.

Gluck, I have you all in my thoughts.

[Karlifornia]

That is very, very sad. Keep your chin up there....

[DanGarion]

I'm very sorry for the loss. You and his family will be in my thoughts.

[Lathum]

Sorry for your loss and I agree with earlier sentiments, if your new employeer doesn't understand then you are better off not being employeed there.

[MIJB#19]

My condolences, Cody8200.

[MizzouRah]

Didn't think I'd be reading such sad news. :( Hang in there.