Advice: Someplace "happening"

[panerd]

So a friend of mine asks for advice with his girlfriend. (You may recall from earlier threads I have been messing around with a divorcee and have problem with her crazy husband. So I am the last person someone should go to for advice. :) ) But anyways...

He is messing around on her cell phone and finds a text message about New Year's Eve (he is going to be out of town) where she says: We need to go to someplace "happening" on New Year's. (she used the quotes in her message)

My advice: Why are you checking her phone in the first place? You obviously have some serious trust issues, you really need to shit or get off the pot. Either trust that she isn't going to cheat and be happy with your decision or leave her because you think she will and be done with it. But why worry?

But then I got to thinking about what his big complaint was, that is a very odd use of the quotes. Especially when you have to go out of your way on a cell phone to type them in. Did I give my friend bad advice? Even if he wants to, how can he possibly confront her anyways? What do you guys think? I still say he is way overanalzing, but not sure, and I really don't care much for his girlfriend so I would love to agree with him if I can.

[Lorena]

One things for sure, *this* place ain't happenin' without Pumpy Tudors.

[panerd]

Oh, and the conversation lasted about 59 more minutes than I wanted it to so we went back and forth on this. So I have offered all of these non-cheating reasons up to him...

A) Maybe she was making fun of the fact that she was using the word happening. Like I would type: I love Led Zeppelin, they "rock".

B) Maybe her friend uses the term happening all of the time and so she is teasing her friend

C) Maybe she really wants to go someplace happening :)

But since I talked to him for so long and may have convinced him I will feel real guilty if she is banging some guy New Year's. Why do I feel like I am about to be offered some money to trail her on New Year's?

[Deattribution]

Sounds fairly harmless, especially if you have no idea who the person receiving it is. It could be a chick, it could be a guy, it could be her brother. Even then, it's not exactly like she used anything that unusual.

He has trust issues - and if his woman is going out with another guy on new years eve, her wording is the least of his worries.

[Cap Ologist]

Damnit, I told her to erase that message after she sent it to me. ;)

[k0ruptr]

Tell him to date fat chicks, they usually won't cheat.

[sabotai]

Without knowing who the message went to, it could mean anything.

Why is he going to be out of town on New Year's and why isn't she going with?

[panerd]

Sorry. Hate to start a thread and not at least respond to the first couple posts. I forgot to include that it was a text to one of her female friends. (Obviously if it was a guy than I am sure I would side with him)

Sabotai: Week long business trip. She has to work and they don't have much money to make business trips into small vacations.

[sabotai]

I forgot to include that it was a text to one of her female friends.

Then I doubt it's anything. I would see the quotes as meaning she is saying it to her friend sarcastically. It would be how I would phrase it to a friend of mine if all I really wanted to do was sit around, hang out, drink a bit and do whatever. I wouldn't say that with quotes if I actually meant I wanted to hit the bars/clubs and try to get me a one-night stand.

Even if she actually wanted to go someplace happening, I don't really see the big deal. If she said it to a guy, then yeah, I understand. But to a female friend...so she wants to go have fun on New Year's Eve instead of sitting at home, missing her boyfriend. Unless this is a specific female friend who has a...reputation, I wouldn't worry.

[MikeVic]

If it's to another female, who cares. Just a text because she wants to go out. :)

[Deattribution]

Yeah, sounds like nothing. If he can't trust her to go out with her girlfriends then he needs to rethink the relationship.

[Chief Rum]

Dude, this is a text from his GF to his GF's female friend? That text is just plain and nothing.

Seriously, the real problem is your friend checking her cell and thinking this is something. If she has done other things to increase his suspicion, then that's something else, but if this is it, he needs to seek help for his "trust" issues.

[EagleFan]

It could be a chick

pix plz k thx


:D :D :D

[wade moore]

Mountain, meet your new friend mr. molehill.

[Danny]

I'm sure he was messing around and "accidentally" found that message. The fact that he did that and then was worrying about her sending a message to a female friend about going out for new years leads one to think he has some major trust issues. If he is that worried about it, just ask her what her plans for new years are with him out of town. Why is he going out of town anyway? If its something that can be rescheduled, he should find a way to change his plans and include her on new years.

[JPhillips]

The only time I use quotes around happening is if I'm using it as code for "bukkake orgy".

[Draft Dodger]

weird - my wife wants to go someplace "happening" as well. this could be good...

[Karlifornia]

The Power Exchange is about as "happening" as it gets.

[Blade6119]

Tell him to date fat chicks, they usually won't cheat.

QOTM material :D

[sterlingice]

We're pretty "happening" over at FOFC, right guys? Right...?

*crickets chirping*

Right?


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I don't even know why I bother... ;)


SI

[Lorena]

The Power Exchange is about as "happening" as it gets.

So what offensive thing did you post that you had to edit?

[Desnudo]

I've got a solution:

He asks his girlfriend what she is doing for New Year's.

[Warhammer]

No, the guy should go to his girlfriend and ask if she would be interested in a menage. Depending on how she answers, he has his answer.

[korme]

I will never again see the word happening and not think about a bukkake orgy. I love this place.