RIP: My grandmother and granddaddy

[cartman]

I just got a call from my dad that his mom passed away a little while ago. It was not unexpected, and she went pretty quick after entering the hospice program.

I guess it is hitting me harder than I expected. She is the last of my grandparents to pass. My dad's father died suddenly when my dad was only 2 or 3 years old, my mom's father died in 2006 and my mom's mother died in 2000.

We knew it was coming, but you are never prepared for when it actually happens. We had a close, but strained relationship, as was her relationship with my dad and my uncles and aunt. There are always loose ends you wish could be tied up, but I guess somethings just aren't meant to be.

[King of New York]

Sorry, Cartman. Losing the last grandparent is always especially poignant.

[Vegas Vic]

Sorry to hear that. You and your family are in my prayers.

[stevew]

Sorry to hear about this. Mine died a few weeks ago, as well.

[Neon_Chaos]

It's a tough one.

I'm sorry for your loss.

I lost my grandfather several years ago, and it hurt a lot.

[kingnebwsu]

Sorry to hear that :(

[M GO BLUE!!!]

Sorry for your loss... and that you didn't get the opportunity to make final peace with her.

Be glad your parents are still around. Let them know how you feel about them, since you never know...

[Radii]

Very sorry to hear that cartman :(

[Crim]

Sorry, cartman, hang in there.

[JetsIn06]

Sorry to hear, Cartman.

[JeeberD]

My condolences, Greg...

[SteveMax58]

Sorry about your loss cartman.

I lost my last grandparent about 4 years ago, and it changed my outlook on a lot of things pretty significantly...I like to think for the better...as strange as that might sound.

[BYU 14]

My thoughts and prayers to you and your family Cartman.

[Eaglesfan27]

My condolences, Greg. I know that when my last grandparent (only 1 is left) passes, it will hit me hard as well.

[Raiders Army]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. My last grandparent died in 1988 and my mom and dad are both dead, so while it's been a while for me, I can emphathize with you regardless.

[flere-imsaho]

My condolences.

My grandparents on my paternal side died when I was young, so it didn't really hit me that hard. However when my maternal grandmother died a few years ago it did, as you say, hit me harder than I expected.

[CleBrownsfan]

Sorry for you loss - my thoughts are with you :(

[Lathum]

Sorry to hear Greg, like alot of others I lost my last grandparent a few years back.

[Dutch]

Sorry to hear that.

[Dr. Sak]

Sorry for your loss Greg.

[WSUCougar]

My condolences.

I've been there as well...a tough moment in life.

[Antmeister]

Hang in there man. Lost my grandmother last year. Wish I had known her better.

[MizzouRah]

Sorry for your loss. My Dad's mom passed away about a month ago and I still miss her dearly. :(

[Marc Vaughan]

Sorry to hear of your loss :(

[oliegirl]

So sorry for your loss. I lost my last grandparent a few years ago and it's very hard, harder than I thought it would be. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

[terpkristin]

I just got a call from my dad that his mom passed away a little while ago. It was not unexpected, and she went pretty quick after entering the hospice program.

I guess it is hitting me harder than I expected. She is the last of my grandparents to pass. My dad's father died suddenly when my dad was only 2 or 3 years old, my mom's father died in 2006 and my mom's mother died in 2000.

We knew it was coming, but you are never prepared for when it actually happens. We had a close, but strained relationship, as was her relationship with my dad and my uncles and aunt. There are always loose ends you wish could be tied up, but I guess somethings just aren't meant to be.

I'm really sorry for your loss, cartman. When I lost my grandfather in 2002, we knew it was coming (he had home hospice care towards the end of his final battle with stomach cancer), and I felt extremely lucky to have been able to have "said goodbye" to him before he went. With my other grandparents, most recently with my "final" grandparent (my grandmother) this past summer, I wasn't so fortunate, and I can truly sympathize with both not "tying off the loose ends" and with losing the final one...

You and your family will be in my thoughts, keep strong.

/tk

[vtbub]

So sorry Greg.

[Emiliano]

Sorry to hear Greg. My condolences to you and your family.

[cartman]

Thanks for the kind words everyone. The memorial service was this past Saturday in Fort Worth. She was cremated, and we will wait to inter the remains until after my grandfather passes and have a single ceremony. Since they are going to be placed at the National Cemetery in Dallas, it was just easier to wait to do it all at once.

I know I mentioned in my first post that she was my final grandparent to pass, but that is not entirely accurate. She remarried a couple of years after my dad's father died, and they were married for 52 years. I didn't mean to have it come out that way. He's my granddaddy, and he's been a father to my dad since he was 5.

My granddaddy is holding up pretty well, but he is also in hospice care and declining pretty fast. It tough seeing relatives go through the final stages of life, when you remember being around them all of the time growing up and how they influenced you. They would do anything for you, and now, there's not much you can do for them.

[ColtCrazy]

At age 34, I'm blessed to have both grandmothers left. But one is in a home and the other in 90 this year. I know the time will come and I know I won't be prepared for it. I never knew one grandfather, he died in 66 and the other died in 95. I feel for you because it's hard to watch a generation of people that watched you grow pass away. There is some solace in the fact that you have many memories with them. My thoughts are with you.

[JeeberD]

I know I mentioned in my first post that she was my final grandparent to pass, but that is not entirely accurate. She remarried a couple of years after my dad's father died, and they were married for 52 years. I didn't mean to have it come out that way. He's my granddaddy, and he's been a father to my dad since he was 5.

My granddaddy is holding up pretty well, but he is also in hospice care and declining pretty fast. It tough seeing relatives go through the final stages of life, when you remember being around them all of the time growing up and how they influenced you. They would do anything for you, and now, there's not much you can do for them.

After my grandmother died a few years ago, my grandfather went downhill fast. It was extremely sad...he was always very active (I remember him turning cartwheels in the front yard and mowing the lawn well into his eighties) and very sharp, and near the end couldn't get around without help and he barely knew who any of his grandchildren or sons-in-law were... :(

[MikeVic]

Sorry to hear. :(

[Lorena]

Wow how did I miss this? I'm so sorry Greg :(

[Lorena]

After my grandmother died a few years ago, my grandfather went downhill fast. It was extremely sad...he was always very active (I remember him turning cartwheels in the front yard and mowing the lawn well into his eighties) and very sharp, and near the end couldn't get around without help and he barely knew who any of his grandchildren or sons-in-law were... :(

Yup, same here. My paternal grandmother passed away several years ago, and my grandpa died almost a year to the day after she did. He was very active as well, well into his 80's.

[Kodos]

It was really sad when my dad's mother passed away not only because of her death, but also because it ended one of the constants in my life. Her death marked the end of an era -- for my whole life, they lived in the same house, "The Farm", and it was like an island that only changed at a very slow pace compared to the rest of the world. The Farm was one of the few constants through 30+ years for us. After her death, we had to sell it. Just like that, one of the pillars of my life was gone. It still makes me sad. I'd love to have another family croquet match with Grandma and Grandpa down by the creek. But that will never happen again. :(

[cartman]

Just got the call that my granddaddy passed away this morning. Looks like I'm heading back up to Ft. Worth again soon.

[Kodos]

:(

[Lathum]

Man greg, sorry to hear.

[Radii]

damn cartman, that's terrible :( So sorry to hear.

[Flasch186]

so sorry man....

at least theyre together again. My prayers are with you.

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

Just got the call that my granddaddy passed away this morning. Looks like I'm heading back up to Ft. Worth again soon.

Holy Jesus. Sorry to hear that you lost him as well. With that said, I have several family members who work in various parts of the health care profession. You'd be shocked how often this happens in older couples. One dies, and the other dies within weeks of the passing of their spouse. The disappointment of losing their spouse along with the lack of will to live thereafter obviously play some part. Unfortunately, that doesn't make it any easier for you.

[path12]

Sorry to hear that, Cartman. Lost my last grandparent a few weeks back. My condolences.

[JonInMiddleGA]

Sorry for your loss, prayers for all those affected.

[Eaglesfan27]

My condolences for your loss.

[Lorena]

So sorry Greg :(

[vtbub]

:(

[oliegirl]

Wow, Cartman, I'm so sorry for your loss.

[BigDPW]

My condolences...

[MikeVic]

:(

[CamEdwards]

Very sorry to hear about this Cartman.

I talked to my mom last night, and it sounds like her pancreatic cancer may have returned. She's very scared and is having a pastor come over today to talk to her. It absolutely sucks being 2000 miles away right now.

[sachmo71]

sorry to hear this, Cartman. hang in there.

[JeeberD]

I'm sorry, bud. :(

[CleBrownsfan]

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss :(

I'ts hard enough to lose somebody you love but I couldn't imagine losing two loved ones in such short time - at least they're together again...

[Warhammer]

Sorry to hear the news.