How important are looks in a significant? [Archive]

MikeVic

07-15-2008, 02:09 PM

I'm mid-20s, so take that for what you will... but I need a nice face. I need to be able to look at them. I don't need some 10/10 beautiful face, but something I find attractive. The body isn't as important, but I mean if they're severley overweight, it'll reflect in the face as well.

edit: Didn't see the poll at first, but I guess I'd fall in the "yes" camp.

RomaGoth

07-15-2008, 02:09 PM

I think you know the answer to this question already.

JeeberD

07-15-2008, 02:12 PM

I think looks matter up to a point, but they aren't the end all be all. I think they're usually important in starting a relationship with someone, but by the time it gets serious they shouldn't matter that much.

Subby

07-15-2008, 02:14 PM

sabotai used a quote once that is now one of my favorites (paraphrasing): "As insanely hot as she might be, someone, somewhere, is tired of her bullshit."

Lathum

07-15-2008, 02:17 PM

Fidatelo

07-15-2008, 02:19 PM

I can't see how they would not matter. That said, women don't have to look like Scarlett Johansson to be attractive to a man either, and men have all kinds of taste.

But overall, yes, you have to find your spouse attractive, I would think.

gstelmack

07-15-2008, 02:20 PM

Physical, mental, and emotional attraction are all important in a relationship.

Dr. Sak

07-15-2008, 02:22 PM

muns

07-15-2008, 02:26 PM

MikeVic

07-15-2008, 02:28 PM

If you're not blind, you're going to have to look at them. Maybe what's attractive to you isn't the same as someone else's standards, but the bottom line is that I think the significant other has to be attractive physically in some way to you. I don't know how you can answer "no" here?

path12

07-15-2008, 02:35 PM

They have to be attractive to you. I think those standards change as you mature and your relationship needs change.......though I don't know that 'standards' is the right word there.

Maybe it's just as time goes by and you discover the things that are most important in a partner for you, the relative rankings of looks versus other qualities change.

lordscarlet

07-15-2008, 02:40 PM

The thread is absolutely correct. Yes, you have to be attracted to a person. Do they have to be the most attractive person you've ever met? No. Do they also have to have a fantastic personality? Yes. There are multiple factors, and you'll likely end up with someone with both looks and personality while the person with the 100% match of either looks or personality is ignored.

clemsonfan

07-15-2008, 02:42 PM

Being physically attracted to each other is just as important as being mentally and emotionally attracted to each other.

MikeVic

07-15-2008, 02:42 PM

Yeah, maybe "standards" isn't the right word.

DanGarion

07-15-2008, 02:55 PM

Yes they are when you first get to know someone, you have to be physically attracted to them, I think it's equal parts of physical and everything else.

DanGarion

07-15-2008, 02:57 PM

Superman was flying around and saw Wonder Woman getting a tan in the nude on her balcony.

Superman said I going to hit that real fast. So he flys down toward Wonder Woman to hit it and their is a loud scream.

The Invincible Man scream what just hit me in the ass!!!!!

That's a typo on purpose right?

RedKingGold

07-15-2008, 02:58 PM

I'm superficial and only let loose the goose for Victoria's Secret models.

SteveMax58

07-15-2008, 02:59 PM

I voted Yes...but only because I thought that to mean "Good Breeding Hips".

sabotai

07-15-2008, 03:03 PM

sabotai used a quote once that is now one of my favorites (paraphrasing): "As insanely hot as she might be, someone, somewhere, is tired of her bullshit."

I remember using that quote a lot awhile back, but now I can't remember where I got it from. And it will always be a true statement.

I agree with everyone that you have to be attracted to the person, especially when you first meet them.

Logan

07-15-2008, 03:06 PM

sabotai used a quote once that is now one of my favorites (paraphrasing): "As insanely hot as she might be, someone, somewhere, is tired of fucking her."

Fixed, at least to how I've always heard it, since it speaks more to her hotness.

About 6-8 months ago I started talking to/hanging out with a girl who I was friends with going back to high school, since we live across the street from each other in the city. It got to the point where we would just BS online for hours everyday, as I realized our personalities really clicked. I had always thought she was pretty, but in a sort of plain, everyday way. Like bsak said, she started becoming more attractive in my eyes because of this.

We ended up hooking up randomly a few times. But at the time, I hadn't fully realized how attractive her looks + personality had become to me. So I didn't pursue it much further until I could decide, since she was a good friend and I didn't want to risk losing it until I was sure I really wanted it. Well, I randomly met some other girl, we went out a few times, it didn't work, original girl got really busy with work (and has been for months now), and fast forward to now and we barely talk anymore, and when we do, I get the sense that she knows exactly what my thought process was. If I had realized quicker how attractive the sum of her parts was to me, we would probably be together now.

Chalk it up to a learning experience. Maybe that chemistry we had can come back, maybe not. I just know that I'll be sure to better realize the whole package sooner.

MikeVic

07-15-2008, 03:06 PM

That's a typo on purpose right?

We need jbmagic back. :(

molson

07-15-2008, 03:18 PM

I don't think anyone would argue that it's not important to be attracted to someone, but how important are general, objective, "good looks", as determined by our society.

I mean sometimes you find yourself physically attracted to someone a little further down the scale - is that a consideration for you? Or if there is someone who looks like she just came out of a magazine, but she doesn't really do it for you, are her good looks at least a plus?

jeheinz72

07-15-2008, 03:26 PM

I think this about sums it up. They need to be above that line.

http://i349.photobucket.com/albums/q370/jeheinz7272/hotcrazy.jpg

Subby

07-15-2008, 03:35 PM

That's a typo on purpose right?
Oh shi

Eaglesfan27

07-15-2008, 04:00 PM

Physical, mental, and emotional attraction are all important in a relationship.

You have to be somewhat physically attracted to someone. But if the person has a great personality, it can enhance their attractiveness in my opinion.

For instance a girl can be drop dead gorgeous and dumb as a brick. I want nothing to do with her. On the other hand someone less physically attractive who is funny and smart will look better in my eyes.

Yes yes. These two quotes sum it up for me. Also, I think healthy couples realize that looks are going to change as we get older, and people aren't going to maintain their exact same weight, looks, etc. But if a relationship is a long standing healthy relationship, that isn't going to kill or even harm the relationship. So, I think it is a combo of the poll options.

Bonegavel

07-15-2008, 04:03 PM

of course looks matter.

Cringer

07-15-2008, 04:11 PM

DC, we all still think you are beautiful, if that is what this is about?

lordscarlet

07-15-2008, 04:16 PM

DC, we all still think you are beautiful, if that is what this is about?

I figured he must have hooked up with a 1.

Logan

07-15-2008, 04:18 PM

"Never fucked a ten. NEVER fucked a ten.

But one night, I fucked five twos."

Young Drachma

07-15-2008, 04:36 PM

DC, we all still think you are beautiful, if that is what this is about?

Yes, finally. Someone affirmed me. It took them long enough! ;)

Young Drachma

07-15-2008, 04:37 PM

I figured he must have hooked up with a 1.

Nah, lunchtime chat with some friends. I wanted to punt the convo to the FOFC crew for further review.

MikeVic

07-15-2008, 04:38 PM

I would imagine you got similar results with your friends?

lordscarlet

07-15-2008, 04:42 PM

I would imagine you got similar results with your friends?

Except for the one married to the 6 toed midget.

Young Drachma

07-15-2008, 04:43 PM

I would imagine you got similar results with your friends?

"If she's not hot, you better like talking to her a lot. Or get a lot of head and learn to ignore it."

"If she looks better than you, just shut up and make sure to make enough money to make her forget. Or need you."

"This ain't high school. Find someone you can put up with and leave that other shit to the folks who live beyond their means, because they're too busy trying to create the perfect life for themselves."

Just a smattering...

Danny

07-15-2008, 04:50 PM

Physical, mental, and emotional attraction are all important in a relationship.

I agree with this as well. Being attracted to your partner is important, but is only one aspect to having a great relationship

Fortunately, I don't have to worry as my soon to be wife is the most beautiful woman in the world, my best friend and my soul mate.

RendeR

07-15-2008, 06:27 PM

I'm superficial and only let loose the goose for Victoria's Secret models.

Plan on staying a virgin eh? I'm impressed, takes balls to admit you'll never get any.

path12

07-15-2008, 07:14 PM

I agree with this as well. Being attracted to your partner is important, but is only one aspect to having a great relationship

Fortunately, I don't have to worry as my soon to be wife is the most beautiful woman in the world, my best friend and my soul mate.

Oh, she reads the board does she?

Danny

07-15-2008, 07:46 PM

Not currently, but my screen may happen to be on this page scrolled to my post when she comes over today

Karlifornia

07-15-2008, 07:47 PM

Looks never mattered to this man:

http://www.chaosquake.de/files/temp/i-cant-see-shit.jpg

Chief Rum

07-15-2008, 07:50 PM

For instance a girl can be drop dead gorgeous and dumb as a brick. I want nothing to do with her for more than one night.

There, fixed that for ya.

DrAFTjunkie

07-15-2008, 08:00 PM

Looks are important because the need for physical attraction is a reality...at least for me. That said, I'd take a funny, smart, sexy 6 over a dimwitted, mean-spirited "perfect" 10 any day.

Mota

07-15-2008, 08:22 PM

Looks are definitely important. I couldn't date anybody that I wasn't at least moderately attracted to physically.

Personality does affect looks though. It's all in the way they carry themselves, the way they talk to people, etc. I've seen smoking 10's that I'd rather punch in the head than poke 'em because they were so annoying. And one of my good friends is dating a chick that is REALLY ugly but has such a great personality that I think she is a great catch for him. She has such a great smile and warm personality that you see beyond the looks really quickly.

I really believe that physical attractiveness is SO MUCH more than what a still photo can capture.

Mota

07-15-2008, 08:25 PM

Oh yeah, I know lots of people that are bitches AND ugly. And most of them are married. Don't know what their husbands see in them. Guess that's why they spend all of their waking moments drinking in the garage (without the wives).

RedKingGold

07-15-2008, 08:31 PM

Plan on staying a virgin eh? I'm impressed, takes balls to admit you'll never get any.

Sorry. Not willing to settle for Fucky McPirate and crew.

RendeR

07-15-2008, 08:45 PM

Sorry. Not able

Fixed that for you.

RedKingGold

07-15-2008, 08:50 PM

Fixed that for you.

Your mom.

RedKingGold

07-15-2008, 08:53 PM

Monogomy.

CATCH IT!

Dr. Sak

07-15-2008, 08:58 PM

There, fixed that for ya.

You are correct.

BYU 14

07-15-2008, 09:56 PM

Boy we're a shallow group (I voted yes too though)

Lathum

07-15-2008, 10:12 PM

Boy we're a shallow group (I voted yes too though)

I prefer brutaly honest

RendeR

07-16-2008, 08:08 AM

Your mom.

My mom hasn't ben laid in 40 years and she wouldn't touch the likes of you ;)

Monogomy.

CATCH IT!

It is like a disease, so I suppose you're partially right.

:D

RendeR

07-16-2008, 08:10 AM

Boy we're a shallow group (I voted yes too though)

Actually with the exception of a few I think we're a prety decent group. Its only honest o admit that looks are what kick starts things. Its what happens after the initial attractio that determines how shallow you are.

Then there's Red, and we know that pond can't hold fish.

Subby

07-16-2008, 08:14 AM

HEY LOOK SOMETHING ELSE RENDER IS AN EXPERT ON!

RendeR

07-16-2008, 08:16 AM

Subby, if your humor and gravity were of equal value.... we'd all float 3 feet off the ground.

BYU 14

07-16-2008, 08:35 AM

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I prefer brutaly honest

Point well taken......I feel a lot better about myself now ;)

RedKingGold

07-16-2008, 09:17 AM

Subby, if your humor and gravity were of equal value.... we'd all float 3 feet off the ground.

I just hope you are 1/10 as sleazy in real life as you appear to be on teh internets.

st.cronin

07-16-2008, 09:25 AM

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life...

Dr. Sak

07-16-2008, 10:08 AM

...never make a pretty woman your wife.

TCY Junkie

07-16-2008, 10:48 AM

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life...
Don't marry a crazy woman that has access to a knife.

I thought there would be more options based on the title of the thread. I don't think I'm shallow but I know I'm not blind.

RendeR

07-17-2008, 01:29 AM

I just hope you are 1/10 as sleazy in real life as you appear to be on teh internets.

45

For weakest whiney bitch in this thread.

RedKingGold

07-17-2008, 11:32 AM

45

For weakest whiney bitch in this thread.

At least I can spell "whiny" correctly.

Passacaglia

07-17-2008, 11:38 AM

Monogamy.

SPELL IT!

RedKingGold

07-17-2008, 11:55 AM

Monogamy.

SPELL IT!

Webster just changed it to my spelling. Like, two days ago.

MikeVic

07-17-2008, 09:56 PM

To get back on topic...

How do you guys handle situations where someone is interested in you, but that you don't find attractive at all?

Danny

07-18-2008, 02:12 AM

Don't lead them on at all. Obviously be as nice about it as possible and make it about you and not them, but it's better to potentially cause a little hurt early than have them waste their time and get hurt worse later.

Karlifornia

07-18-2008, 04:48 AM

Monogamy.

SPELL IT!

I'm not sure where you're going with this, but I believe this to be a personal attack on RendeR (fuck...did I actually just capitalize that second 'r'?) and his lifestyle choices. If I am correct in that belief, don't be a jackass ostracizing somebody for their lifestyle choice. It doesn't hurt you in any way.

If I am off base, I apologize in advance.

RedKingGold

07-18-2008, 05:06 AM

I'm not sure where you're going with this, but I believe this to be a personal attack on RendeR (fuck...did I actually just capitalize that second 'r'?) and his lifestyle choices. If I am correct in that belief, don't be a jackass ostracizing somebody for their lifestyle choice. It doesn't hurt you in any way.

If I am off base, I apologize in advance.

This above attack would be meant for me. Read back a little further.

It's not that I disapprove of that dude's lifestyle choices, I just think he think he's an asshole (and I'm sure the feeling's mutual).

Passacaglia

07-18-2008, 07:50 AM

Attack? Wow, I thought I was just poking fun. Whatevs.

Fidatelo

07-18-2008, 08:09 AM

To get back on topic...

How do you guys handle situations where someone is interested in you, but that you don't find attractive at all?

I've never had this situation. Either that, or I was too stupid to notice. Either way, my advice would be useless :)

MikeVic

07-18-2008, 08:33 AM

Ok thanks.

RedKingGold

07-18-2008, 10:35 AM

Attack? Wow, I thought I was just poking fun. Whatevs.

Perhaps we should cross swords in friendship instead of anger?

Dr. Sak

07-18-2008, 11:42 AM

Perhaps we should cross swords in friendship instead of anger?

Must...resist...joke....

Didn't you watch Ghostbusters when they told you what happened when you cross the streams??

rkmsuf

07-18-2008, 11:45 AM

To get back on topic...

How do you guys handle situations where someone is interested in you, but that you don't find attractive at all?

Blowjob and fake phone number.

Dr. Sak

07-18-2008, 11:50 AM

Blowjob and fake phone number.

867-5309

rkmsuf

07-18-2008, 11:51 AM

867-5309

ask for ty webb

kcchief19

07-18-2008, 11:59 AM

You have to be somewhat physically attracted to someone. But if the person has a great personality, it can enhance their attractiveness in my opinion.

For instance a girl can be drop dead gorgeous and dumb as a brick. I want nothing to do with her. On the other hand someone less physically attractive who is funny and smart will look better in my eyes.
Pretty much sums it up for me. There are women who are not conventionally attractive that I think are beautiful because they have some intangible -- maybe it's personality, a sense of humor or the "it" quality.

Any successful relationship will have a level of physical attractiveness. To what degree depends on the people involved.