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08-17-2003, 02:37 PM
Need some advice with a tricky situation which just came up.
It starts few monthes ago right before our junior prom. There was the girl who I really liked but both of us are pretty shy so we never really talked to each other but we were friendly. We have known each other for almost ten years and our parents are pretty much best friends so we were friends but we never really hung out. Anyway, I wanted to ask her to the prom but being really shy, I needed some encouragement, which one of my "friends" offered me. I use the term friend losely, because it seems that his really only nice to me at certain times and any time there's someone else around, he feels the need to instead make fun of me to impress them. But anyway, I thought he was being a good guy and trying to help me out. So finally, I'm ready to ask her and I find out that she got asked to the prom that morning. I'm disappointed but there was nothing I could do. So my friend sayd that's okay, they're not going to go out so maybe you still have a shot with her.
So taking his advice, I begin to hang out with her and my friend a lot. But as we hang out more and more I notice my "friend" seems like her, although he keeps assuring me that I definitly had a shot. Eventually I ask her out, but she says she just wants to be friends. But seeing as how my friend finds out about it without me telling him, I learned that weekend that the two of them had in fact decided to go out but split up with in hours. But now I'm pretty pissed off at him because I know he's be going behind my back this whole time.
We'll now just this week they have decided to go out although they won't tell me, it's obvious. I told her the last time that I didn't really care, which is really not the truth, but I'm not a very confrontational guy.
Here's were the dilema comes in. Knowing my friend for 10 years, I know he's the biggest scum bag in the world. To quote Sir Lawrence Wildman in Wall Street, the kid would sell his own mother to make a deal, and he'd send her C.O.D. He lies about pretty much everything. I've seen him lie about what TV shows he watched the night before. When my one friend accused him of lying about what he was doing at nights he threw a fit. Then two weeks later he hangs out with the girl but tells us he's "too tired" to do anything. When my other friend says something about it to him he calls him whiney. And now I find out he reads this girl's email without her knowing. And this is just the beginning the list of stuff he does just goes on and on.
My question is whether I should tell this girl what he's doing. I mean I really don't want to see her get hurt, but on the same point I don't want the two of them to think I'm just doing it to break them up because I like her. I mean one time my friend went nuts and demanded an apology from me one day because the previous night I had said I don't usually like action movies and he said I just said that to impress her. Then one time when I was driving and missed a turn, he accused me of doing it on purpose so I would get to spend more time in the car with her. Really this kids got a screw loose. Any advice as to whether I should talk to the girl and tell her what I think.
It starts few monthes ago right before our junior prom. There was the girl who I really liked but both of us are pretty shy so we never really talked to each other but we were friendly. We have known each other for almost ten years and our parents are pretty much best friends so we were friends but we never really hung out. Anyway, I wanted to ask her to the prom but being really shy, I needed some encouragement, which one of my "friends" offered me. I use the term friend losely, because it seems that his really only nice to me at certain times and any time there's someone else around, he feels the need to instead make fun of me to impress them. But anyway, I thought he was being a good guy and trying to help me out. So finally, I'm ready to ask her and I find out that she got asked to the prom that morning. I'm disappointed but there was nothing I could do. So my friend sayd that's okay, they're not going to go out so maybe you still have a shot with her.
So taking his advice, I begin to hang out with her and my friend a lot. But as we hang out more and more I notice my "friend" seems like her, although he keeps assuring me that I definitly had a shot. Eventually I ask her out, but she says she just wants to be friends. But seeing as how my friend finds out about it without me telling him, I learned that weekend that the two of them had in fact decided to go out but split up with in hours. But now I'm pretty pissed off at him because I know he's be going behind my back this whole time.
We'll now just this week they have decided to go out although they won't tell me, it's obvious. I told her the last time that I didn't really care, which is really not the truth, but I'm not a very confrontational guy.
Here's were the dilema comes in. Knowing my friend for 10 years, I know he's the biggest scum bag in the world. To quote Sir Lawrence Wildman in Wall Street, the kid would sell his own mother to make a deal, and he'd send her C.O.D. He lies about pretty much everything. I've seen him lie about what TV shows he watched the night before. When my one friend accused him of lying about what he was doing at nights he threw a fit. Then two weeks later he hangs out with the girl but tells us he's "too tired" to do anything. When my other friend says something about it to him he calls him whiney. And now I find out he reads this girl's email without her knowing. And this is just the beginning the list of stuff he does just goes on and on.
My question is whether I should tell this girl what he's doing. I mean I really don't want to see her get hurt, but on the same point I don't want the two of them to think I'm just doing it to break them up because I like her. I mean one time my friend went nuts and demanded an apology from me one day because the previous night I had said I don't usually like action movies and he said I just said that to impress her. Then one time when I was driving and missed a turn, he accused me of doing it on purpose so I would get to spend more time in the car with her. Really this kids got a screw loose. Any advice as to whether I should talk to the girl and tell her what I think.