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Easy Mac
08-17-2003, 10:10 PM
He said yes.
Good god, that was proably the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life. I was literally shaking, hoping he wouldn't say know. I went in knowing what I wanted to say, then completely froze as I was about to ask him. I just didn't feel like I could come up with anything that would make logical sense as top why I should get to marry his daughter. He did not ask his wife's parents if they could get married, so I knew it would mean a lot if I asked him for his blessing.
Thank God the hard part is over. Actually proposing to her will be a breeze (just need her ring size...). The only difficult part now will be letting my parents know. Chances are tehy will be shocked like my girl's parents were, but they should be supportive all the same. Already told my sisters and they were excited, tehy really like my girlfriend.
So, please welcome the soon to be Mrs. Easy Mac (not to be confused with a Mrs. Kippy).
P.S. SkyDog, I'd let you perform the wedding, but you're not Catholic, you heathen (but your political views would mesh well with her family):p
FBPro
08-17-2003, 10:15 PM
Good job, I remember asking my now MIL the same thing(her husband, my wife's dad had died just a few years earlier). That was 24 years ago....:)
SunDancer
08-17-2003, 10:15 PM
Congrats Mac. Your a senior in college, am I right? How long you two been dating.
Eaglesfan27
08-17-2003, 10:15 PM
Congrats!
Cuckoo
08-17-2003, 10:16 PM
Ahhh, I remember asking my father-in-law. I knew he'd say 'yes', but it was still one of the hardest things I've had to do. You feel like he's looking you over thinking 'This little creep isn't even close to good enough for my daughter', which of course is true but nevertheless...
bosshogg23
08-17-2003, 10:18 PM
Congrats!
I wanted to ask my gf's father but she spilled the news that I was going to ask her to marry me before I had the chance. She was aware of it well before it happened just didnt know when I would do it.
After she told him we were going to get married(again before I had "officially proposed") he brought me several tools and a Home & Garden hat. Since he is big into that type of activity I suppose he supported my asking her. Either way I wish I had the oppurtunity to be nervous and ask my gf's father for his daughters hand. You will always remember that you did ask him, again congrats!
Easy Mac
08-17-2003, 10:18 PM
dating 2 years.
I knew the first time I saw her, I would marry her. Its just taken a little while to come to grips with the fact that I'm ready for this, and that I didn't meet her too soon (before I was ready to "settle down").
Swaggs
08-17-2003, 10:27 PM
Congrats...
sterlingice
08-18-2003, 06:25 AM
Congrats
Was he cleaning a gun as you were asking? :p
SI
FrogMan
08-18-2003, 06:54 AM
Congrats Easy Mac!
FM
Tekneek
08-18-2003, 06:57 AM
I never did this, nor did I ever think about doing it. Oh well. We're coming up on 4 years in 3 weeks, and everything is alright, so it must have worked out just fine.
Celeval
08-18-2003, 07:43 AM
Congrats! Welcome to the club - if there's anything particular you want about your wedding, better figure it out now and be ready to bring it up right away. Otherwise she'll make the decision without you and your screwed in a figurative (rather than literal, damnit) sense.
When I asked my fiancee's father (ooh, about a month and a half ago now) - and over the phone, no less, which sucked since he was six hours away and I couldn't figure a way to get down there without arousing suspicion - he laughed. Not the greatest ego booster there. But then he said yes, so that's okay.
RendeR
08-18-2003, 08:41 AM
Heh, you're lucky you at least seem to respect her father enough to ask him. My fiancees dad should meet a pavement grinder.....oops..did I say that? thank god she hates him more than I do =)
SplitPersonality1
08-18-2003, 10:07 AM
Congrats. Classy move Easy Mac. I'm sure her father apprecieted the fact that you asked him.
I did the same about 13 years ago and I still get nervous thinking about it. Fortunately, my father in law is an amazingly great guy and we get along wonderfully. Hopefully you end up with a good relatinship with her dad as well.
Good luck to you.
- Splits
albionmoonlight
08-18-2003, 10:30 AM
Easy ways to get her ring size:
Her mom or sisters may know
if not, take a ring of hers without her knowledge,bring it to get sized, and return it before she knows it is gone.
Oh, and congrats!
Fritz
08-18-2003, 10:31 AM
if you eventually go to get a divorce, will you ask him if he will take her back?
Bonegavel
08-18-2003, 12:30 PM
Sucker, I mean, congrats.
In time you will regret that you did it so early (not even out of college yet) but there are exceptions to every rule. My only advice is to not have kids until you are sure you are going to stay together. I know it is easy to say now, but wait until the bills start piling up and the way you get toothpaste all over the sink makes her want to kill you. :-)
JeeberD
08-18-2003, 01:54 PM
My girlfriend always tells me that if we are going to get married I'm going to have to ask her dad before I propose. The problem is that the dude hates my guts. Should be a fun, fun time...
EagleFan
08-18-2003, 02:21 PM
Originally posted by sterlingice
Was he cleaning a gun as you were asking?
I bet he was after. :D
Congratulations.
cuervo72
08-18-2003, 02:24 PM
Originally posted by JeeberD
My girlfriend always tells me that if we are going to get married I'm going to have to ask her dad before I propose. The problem is that the dude hates my guts. Should be a fun, fun time...
a) is it possible to move in with your girlfriend before marriage?
b) does Texas have commonlaw marriages?
:)
Fritz
08-18-2003, 02:24 PM
Remember that Easy Mac lives in SC.
Easy - did your brother/uncle buy you a beer after he said yes?
damnMikeBrown
08-18-2003, 02:34 PM
Does he have more than one daughter, and if so, did you actually indicate specifically which daughter you were asking to marry?
cuervo72
08-18-2003, 02:39 PM
Originally posted by Fritz
Remember that Easy Mac lives in SC.
I had been wondering about Texas for Jeeber's sake.
mckerney
08-18-2003, 02:39 PM
Originally posted by JeeberD
My girlfriend always tells me that if we are going to get married I'm going to have to ask her dad before I propose. The problem is that the dude hates my guts. Should be a fun, fun time...
If your girlfriend insists on this, just wait until her father dies. Or kill him.
Fritz
08-18-2003, 02:40 PM
Originally posted by cuervo72
I had been wondering about Texas for Jeeber's sake.
because everything's bigger in Texas?
don't worry, Fredrick's makes the +++++++sizes.
JeeberD
08-18-2003, 02:44 PM
Originally posted by cuervo72
b) does Texas have commonlaw marriages?
:)
Hmmm...good question. That would certainly be cheaper than spending mucho dinero on a damn wedding...
Originally posted by mckerney
If your girlfriend insists on this, just wait until her father dies. Or kill him.
Well, he is smaller than me. And he does have a bad back right now. And high blood pressure. Maybe I'll take a little trip to Abilene this afternoon... ;)
But if he "accidentally" died I bet she would still insist that I ask her mom. And her mom hates me more than her dad. Maybe I should just blow up their entire household. Except for the cat. The cat's OK...
Tekneek
08-18-2003, 02:54 PM
You can live with your girlfriend if the two of you agree to it and are at least 18. Nobody can stop you.
cuervo72
08-18-2003, 02:55 PM
Originally posted by Tekneek
You can live with your girlfriend if the two of you agree to it and are at least 18. Nobody can stop you.
In theory, anyway.
JeeberD
08-18-2003, 03:13 PM
Well, yeah, we've talked about moving in together and will probably do it sometime in the future. But for some reason she insists upon the marraige thing...
Oh, and her parents are paying for her college, so they certainly have a say so in the matter. It wouldn't be difficult for them to cut her off...
tucker342
08-19-2003, 12:05 AM
It does seem like that would be really tough.... Congrats Easy:D
SunDancer
08-19-2003, 11:09 AM
Originally posted by JeeberD
Well, yeah, we've talked about moving in together and will probably do it sometime in the future. But for some reason she insists upon the marraige thing...
Oh, and her parents are paying for her college, so they certainly have a say so in the matter. It wouldn't be difficult for them to cut her off...
What happens when her dad says no, then what?
JeeberD
08-19-2003, 12:50 PM
Heck if I know. Maybe she'll decide we should elope. Once again, that would save a whole hell of a lot of money...
RendeR
08-19-2003, 01:54 PM
Originally posted by JeeberD
Heck if I know. Maybe she'll decide we should elope. Once again, that would save a whole hell of a lot of money...
yer not shitting on that either, we're paying for most of our wedding ousrselves...her parents are divorced and are pitching in a couple grand apiece, but we're still going to get hit with around 10K worth of bills =(
Silver Owl
08-19-2003, 02:26 PM
Originally posted by JeeberD
But if he "accidentally" died I bet she would still insist that I ask her mom. And her mom hates me more than her dad. Maybe I should just blow up their entire household. Except for the cat. The cat's OK...
(thinking to myself)
Hmm... Watch for newspaper headlines about JeeberD's girlfriends parents house being blown up... Save this message for blackmail purposes.
Ah, JeeberD, are you by any chance rich?
sterlingice
08-19-2003, 03:03 PM
Originally posted by JeeberD
But if he "accidentally" died I bet she would still insist that I ask her mom. And her mom hates me more than her dad. Maybe I should just blow up their entire household. Except for the cat. The cat's OK...
Yeah, but it's a cat, so you should blow it up anyways :p (j/k)
SI
JeeberD
08-19-2003, 07:40 PM
Originally posted by Silver Owl
Ah, JeeberD, are you by any chance rich?
I'm rich with debt... :)
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