Yesterday my girlfriend told me...

[JeeberD]

that if we get married that I'm only going to be allowed to watch football every other weekend.

Been nice knowing ya sweetie. The past four years have been fun...

[thealmighty]

Jeeber, how can this be a Texas girl?

[vex]

Isn't that the same as saying, "I think we should see other people."?

[Ragone]

Jeeberd.. you got her on a technicality.. say ok.. then watch American football every weekend... and when she complains (and she will) tell her you agreed you'd only watch football(soccer) every other weekend. not american football :)

[sabotai]

What kind of woman....I mean...how the hell...the nerve she has....

Dump her. Just...cut her off. It ain't worth it. If she's that needy, forget it.

But then again...Thursday and Monday are not part of the weekend. At least you still have that. :)

[JeeberD]

Originally posted by thealmighty
Jeeber, how can this be a Texas girl?

Damn good question. I mean, she graduated form Abilene Cooper, who always has good football teams.

I think it either has to do with the one year that she lived in Arkansas or the fact that her mother is orginally from Kentucky. One of those thing managed to mess her up good...

[bbor]

Bottomless bowl of pasta...Nuff said :)

[vex]

Well, even though the people are strange in Arkansas, they still like football, so it must be the Kentucky factor.

[sterlingice]

Well, if chips like this are involved, tell her that if you can only watch football every other weekend, then she has to choose from one of the following to give up every other weekend: eating, breathing, going to the bathroom (that is all).

SI

[Chief Rum]

JeeberD, agree to her conditions, watch football every weekend, and when she complains, tell her you're saving up your nonfootball weekends for the offseason.

CR

[TroyF]

Originally posted by Chief Rum
JeeberD, agree to her conditions, watch football every weekend, and when she complains, tell her you're saving up your nonfootball weekends for the offseason.

CR

Nice. Very nice.

TroyF

[thesloppy]

http://www.chessesteak.com/stuff/romo.jpg

[Swaggs]

Originally posted by thesloppy
http://www.chessesteak.com/stuff/romo.jpg

Nice.... Very nice. :)

[cuervo72]

That would have been my suggestion too, Chief. And Jeeber, if she doesn't go for that, just tape games during the season, and watch them from February till August :)

[Blade6119]

Just dont watch the news if you tape them....shelter yourself from the world so you don't ruin the suprise

[Blade6119]

or, make demands on her too...see who brakes first...tell her she can only eat every other weekend!

[ISiddiqui]

Or better yet, tell her she can only have her period every other month ;).

[GrantDawg]

Originally posted by ISiddiqui
Or better yet, tell her she can only have her period every other month ;).

That's a good compromise. :)

[Draft Dodger]

the other night, my wife told me that she didn't really have any plans for the $150 she had just won at work, and offered to buy the NFL Sunday Ticket for me. what a woman!

[Franklinnoble]

Originally posted by Draft Dodger
the other night, my wife told me that she didn't really have any plans for the $150 she had just won at work, and offered to buy the NFL Sunday Ticket for me. what a woman!

So those penis enlargement pills you ordered over the internet must have worked after all...

[henry296]

Jebeer,

To bring this back to the serious issue at hand. What are your football watching habits? I think that if you are going out with friends and spending all day at a bar then she does have a point. If you sit at home then you might be able to work out a compromise.

Todd

[cuervo72]

Originally posted by henry296
Jebeer,

To bring this back to the serious issue at hand. What are your football watching habits? I think that if you are going out with friends and spending all day at a bar then she does have a point. If you sit at home then you might be able to work out a compromise.

Todd

The problem is that it becomes "oh, its such a beautiful day, we should find something to do" or "oh, we need some new furniture for the entryway" or "could you help me hang these on the walls" or...um, anyway.

Actually, my wife was very nice in letting me watch all 11 hours of football pretty much uninterrupted yesterday, with just a few exceptions here and there. Of course the kids were distractions, but what else is new.

[FrogMan]

Originally posted by cuervo72
The problem is that it becomes "oh, its such a beautiful day, we should find something to do" or "oh, we need some new furniture for the entryway" or "could you help me hang these on the walls" or...um, anyway.

Actually, my wife was very nice in letting me watch all 11 hours of football pretty much uninterrupted yesterday, with just a few exceptions here and there. Of course the kids were distractions, but what else is new.

But I assume you watched it at home, as opposed to in a bar, as henry supposed she'd have a problem with.

It always depends on how she understands our "addiction". My wife is a bit like your cuervo, in a sense that I was able to watch as much football as I wanted. Had some yardwork to do, got it out of the way in the morning, missed part of the pregame shows, but so what. After that, there were a few minor interruptions (and the kid :) ) but it all was fine. I stayed home though. She probably would get more pissed that anything if I'd go to the bar all day, I would guess... There could be a few "could you help me hang these on the walls", but she knows the timeframe and she would ask me in advance so I'd get it done during halftime...

Being asked to watch football only every other week would be very tough on our marriage ;)

FM

[cuervo72]

Hmm, I think my wife would be pissed if I up and left to go to a bar too (come to think of it, I can't remember the last time I was in a bar).

Now and then I will buckle and do things on Sunday - notable games I have missed in the last few years have been the Jags upset of Denver in the playoffs, and the shellacking the Giants gave the Vikings in the NFC championship. But an advantage of having Sunday Ticket is that it costs a lot, and it would be a waste if I weren't watching it :)

Oh, and we did do some things on Sunday before and during the games. I helped mount some wall sconces, went to Toys 'R Us and later refilled the sandbox, and I had the neverending pasta bowl at Olive Garden :D

[henry296]

Since they are dating now, I figured his current behavior might be different then his planned married behavior and understanding that might give him some guidance.

If he always watched all of the games instead of sometimes watching them all but always watching the Cowboys that is different.

I think a compromise is possible since for 4 years she has understood his football hobby and I am trying to figure out why she is now drawing a line in the sand. She is afraid that something will be very different if they get married, but it is possible to show her that it won't.

Todd

[JeeberD]

Well, I love my football. I work on the weekends, so I try to catch games as much as I can when I'm not at work. I think it annoys her that I turn on the TV to football right away when I get home, but I need my fix.

When we had our discussion she was saying that we would both be working during the week and that the weekend would be for spending time together, cleaning the house, playing with the kids (eventually), etc. I tried to explain to her that at the very least I would need 3 hours a week to watch the Cowboys, but she stood firm on her stance.

I think that she was just wanted me to give in to her as a sign of my love. I'm not sure that it was actually about football. When the argument got to the raised voices portion, she said that I should have just said that we could discuss it when the time actually comes or that I should have just changed the subject instead of standing firm on MY stance. That's a big departure for her, because she usually gets pissed if I try to change the subject when we're having a disagreement.

In the past she's claimed to have enjoyed sitting and watching Cowboys games with me. She says she's enjoyed the Cowboys games that we've gone to. I'm not exactly sure why she said what she did the other night....

[cuervo72]

Hmm, that is interesting. I don't know if discussing things "when the time actually comes" is really a good idea (usually because the guy ends up getting screwed :) ). I don't know why she would take a stance against something that means that much to you, but she hasn't previously objected to. Especially if you're just talking about 3 hours.

Eventually she will learn that you each need time for your own interests, even if it means having "alone" time.

[Abe Sargent]

My philosohpy:

My woman has got to understand that Monday nights, the occasional Thursday game, All day Saturday and Sunday during the season are offical Abe-Days.

She cannot be around on Abe-Days. Also, the Draft Weekend, preseason games, NBA Playoffs if my team is in it, MLB Playoffs if my team is in it, NHL Playoffs if my team is in it, US Open and other tennis tournaments if my favorite players are doing well, and other events as they occur.

That's my rule. And I get around too, so most women don't seem to mind.

-Anxiety

[mtolson]

Originally posted by JeeberD
I tried to explain to her that at the very least I would need 3 hours a week to watch the Cowboys, but she stood firm on her stance...

Three hours of her time for THE COWBOYS !!!!!!!!!!!! Now we get to the root of her problem. You would be much better stick to hanging the pictures, moving the furnature, cutting the grass ........ and saving on the high blood pressure meds.

[The_herd]

Tomorrow I expect to see a thread titled:

Yesterday I told my girlfriend to...

[FrogMan]

Originally posted by JeeberD
Well, I love my football. I work on the weekends, so I try to catch games as much as I can when I'm not at work. I think it annoys her that I turn on the TV to football right away when I get home, but I need my fix.

When we had our discussion she was saying that we would both be working during the week and that the weekend would be for spending time together, cleaning the house, playing with the kids (eventually), etc. I tried to explain to her that at the very least I would need 3 hours a week to watch the Cowboys, but she stood firm on her stance.

I think that she was just wanted me to give in to her as a sign of my love. I'm not sure that it was actually about football. When the argument got to the raised voices portion, she said that I should have just said that we could discuss it when the time actually comes or that I should have just changed the subject instead of standing firm on MY stance. That's a big departure for her, because she usually gets pissed if I try to change the subject when we're having a disagreement.

In the past she's claimed to have enjoyed sitting and watching Cowboys games with me. She says she's enjoyed the Cowboys games that we've gone to. I'm not exactly sure why she said what she did the other night....

Gee, looks like it came out of nowhere, this sucks. I agree with cuervo about talking this stuff out now and not waiting until the time actually comes. But for you to be together for 4 years and all of the sudden she comes out like this, it's puzzling.

You're not asking for much, gee, 3 hours a week. Believe me, you'll need those three hours (and probably more) to keep your sanity once you have kids ;) Anyway, good luck with this. Hope it doesn't break your couple for real...

FM

[sabotai]

Jeeber...damn man. That truely sucks. Based on the limited amount of info you have given us, she seems liek she's a needy person. Or just going through a temporary hormone inbalance.

Either way, I say kill her and make it look like a suicide....but that's just me. You might want to go a different route.

[FrogMan]

Originally posted by sabotai
Jeeber...damn man. That truely sucks. Based on the limited amount of info you have given us, she seems liek she's a needy person. Or just going through a temporary hormone inbalance.


Was thinking about that too, the temporary hormone imbalance thing. Jeeber, are you sure you didn't make a Jeeber Jr without you knowing it? You know, a pregnant woman can be very needy :D

FM

[Balldog]

If she isn't willing to let you do something you enjoy then kick her ass to the curb.

[JeeberD]

Hopefully the pills are working. If not, that's a whole other can of worms that I'm not ready to deal with yet.... :eek:

[Leonidas]

On on the non-football weekends you just announce to her that you can be reached at the strip club if there's an emergency.

[Franklinnoble]

Originally posted by Leonidas
On on the non-football weekends you just announce to her that you can be reached at the strip club if there's an emergency.

Classic!

[vtbub]

Funny, my wife will demand I go in the other room and leave her alone.

[Eaglesfan27]

My wife and I had church mandated pre-marital counseling from our pastor before we got married. He made us pick important issues to discuss before he would marry us. Football was one of the things I picked ;). She promised in writing to allow me to watch games all day Sunday and Monday night games (this was before Thursday games I believe). Any time she bugs me about watching football (which fortunately isn't too often), I remind her of the agreement. Overall, the premarital counseling was a great thing :)

[Godzilla Blitz]

Originally posted by JeeberD
When we had our discussion she was saying that we would both be working during the week and that the weekend would be for spending time together, cleaning the house, playing with the kids (eventually), etc. I tried to explain to her that at the very least I would need 3 hours a week to watch the Cowboys, but she stood firm on her stance.

I think that she was just wanted me to give in to her as a sign of my love. I'm not sure that it was actually about football. When the argument got to the raised voices portion, she said that I should have just said that we could discuss it when the time actually comes or that I should have just changed the subject instead of standing firm on MY stance. That's a big departure for her, because she usually gets pissed if I try to change the subject when we're having a disagreement.

In the past she's claimed to have enjoyed sitting and watching Cowboys games with me. She says she's enjoyed the Cowboys games that we've gone to. I'm not exactly sure why she said what she did the other night....

Whoop! Whoop! Whoop! Danger, Will Robinson, Danger! Whoop! Whoop! Whoop!

Not to rip on your woman, who I'm sure has many fine characteristics, but I agree with sabotai. He used "needy". I would use "insecure". I think often insecurity is expressed by a desire to control a relationship or the other's behavior in order to get a confirmation of the love. Obviously, the situation is one of degree, and is linked to so many other behaviors, but asking for three hours a week to watch the Cowboys during the football season is nothing. They never make the playoffs, so it's only what, sixty hours a year if you watch the preseason games too?

I was in a four-year relationship with a woman that needed me to validate my love for her on a constant basis. She would endlessly manipulate me to get me to do things to "prove" to her that I loved her. She seemed to have some kind of inherent disfuntion in believing that the love was there unless she saw evidence of it on a daily basis. The relationship went on three years and nine months too long.

Having said that, once you add babies into the equation, for me anyway, free time drops to next to nothing during the hours that the kids are awake. I don't have time to watch the day games anymore. I've started taping them, then playing them back after the game is over so I can skip the commercials and watch them in about an hour. The hard part is trying to live in an isolation tank until you actually sit down and watch the game.

I really like Chief's idea about not watching the games during the offseason. LOL! I'm sure that will make her real happy!

Good luck with all of this. Let us know how it turns out!

[Balldog]

If you only want to watch the Cowboys you can tell her that in 16 weeks football season will be over, some teams have 19 more weeks. She is getting 3 extra weeks.

[GrantDawg]

Originally posted by JeeberD
I tried to explain to her that at the very least I would need 3 hours a week to watch the Cowboys, but she stood firm on her stance.


In the past she's claimed to have enjoyed sitting and watching Cowboys games with me. She says she's enjoyed the Cowboys games that we've gone to. I'm not exactly sure why she said what she did the other night....

Two things:

1) Don't get married without pre-martial counselling. What your asking is not unresonable, but her stance is. I wonder if there is not something else going on. Counselling is always a good idea before marriage (I never do weddings without it), but there might be a reason to do this now regardless.

2) My wife claimed she loved watching football with me before we got married. How many games has she watched since? 0 :)

Of course, I never minded going to craft stores before we were married...

[Poli]

I once tried to sell my wife on the notion that I give her 330 days a year...the least she can do is leave me alone when football is on. :)

[Franklinnoble]

My wife is a huge Vikings fan... my only marital distress comes about when they play at the same time the Redskins do...

God help me when the Redskins and Vikings actually have to play AGAINST each other... and if it's a playoff game... ugh... I'm miserable just thinking about it.

[Poli]

I guess on a different note my wife knows to just lock me away with chips and soda when the Volunteers are on. I become a much different person.

She doesn't like me when I'm angry. :)

[FrogMan]

Originally posted by ardent enthusiast
She doesn't like me when I'm angry. :)

Neither does mine. And given the game the Pats gave us, she didn't like too much yesterday afternoon... :mad: (mad, but not at her, obviously)

FM

[GrantDawg]

By the way, Jebeer, I asked a female opinion on this. My wife said it sounds suspiciously like she was picking a fight. She agreed with me that you probably should talk to someone because something bigger might be going on here.

[Poli]

It's great, sometimes I'll be holed up in the back, come out to tell her about the "great play" and she won't even be in the house! :)

Then again, she usually comes back with something she just bought. :(

Still, I'm betting she'd rather have me at home now and watching football over the weekend than being out here at sea.

Maybe you could use that. You know, the "what if I were gone" subject.

[Craptacular]

I made my point in this thread:
10 People who will never be president (http://dynamic2.gamespy.com/~fof/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=13389)

Originally posted by DolphinFan1
I mean, who doesn't watch some kind of sport.
Originally posted by JeeberD
My girlfriend... :(
Originally posted by Craptacular
Then why is the word "ex" not in the middle of that sentence?

I'm not sure if I was kidding or not. :p

[korme]

so this girl is talking to me and for some reasons shes all like yeah i like football its cool

and im like interesting, my type of woman

so im about to tell her about kurt warner

shorty: you know kurt warner right
girlladyface: yeah
shorty: cool
g.l.f.: i saw he got hurt
*shorty thinks wow she does know her stuff*
g.l.f.: i can't believe he landed on his head like that!
shorty: WHAT? THATS DONALD F'N DRIVER. IF YOU KNOW FOOTBALL, HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW THE MOST PROLIFIC PASSER IN THE F'N GAME RIGHT NOW? HOW DO YOU MISTAKE THE BEST QB WHO HAPPENS TO BE WHITE FOR A TALENTED RECEIVER WHO IS BLACK. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? KILL YOURSELF. STOP WATCHING FOOTBALL. STOP TRYING. DAMN YOU, DAMN YOU AND YOUR LIES.

[korme]

err it was something like that :)

[Craptacular]

Smoove.

[sterlingice]

I think your claim of him being the most prolific passer in the NFL might be somewhat exaggerated with Bret Fav-er in the league.

SI

[Neuqua]

Can't wait to see what Fritz can do with Shorty's conversation.

[Chief Rum]

Pretty good, Shorty. Was this the girl you flashed in front of her house a couple weeks ago?

CR

[JeeberD]

Originally posted by Shorty3281
so this girl is talking to me and for some reasons shes all like yeah i like football its cool

and im like interesting, my type of woman

so im about to tell her about kurt warner

shorty: you know kurt warner right
girlladyface: yeah
shorty: cool
g.l.f.: i saw he got hurt
*shorty thinks wow she does know her stuff*
g.l.f.: i can't believe he landed on his head like that!
shorty: WHAT? THATS DONALD F'N DRIVER. IF YOU KNOW FOOTBALL, HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW THE MOST PROLIFIC PASSER IN THE F'N GAME RIGHT NOW? HOW DO YOU MISTAKE THE BEST QB WHO HAPPENS TO BE WHITE FOR A TALENTED RECEIVER WHO IS BLACK. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? KILL YOURSELF. STOP WATCHING FOOTBALL. STOP TRYING. DAMN YOU, DAMN YOU AND YOUR LIES.

Shorty, you're a genuine certified grade-A crackhead... :D

-----------------------------------------

Thanks for your advice and concerns, guys.

I think that y'all are very close about the needy thing. I'm really the only person that she does anything with right now. She doesn't really have any close friends here in Denton to go hang out with, so she wants to be with me all the time so that she's not alone. There are times that I want to go out with my friends or just chill at home alone, but I feel bad if I do that too often, or maybe she makes me feel bad about it.

I'm not quite sure where our relationship is heading right now. There are times that I can't imagine her in my life, and then there are times that I just want to be free and single again. It seems like we get into stupid little arguements with some frequency, but it goes in spurts. We'll get into fights once or twice a week for a month and then we'l have a great month where we don't argue at all. Then the next month we'll be fighting again.

About a month and a half ago I was really close to breaking up with her. We even had a discussion about it, but when she asked what I wanted to do I said that I wanted to be with her. It's just so hard to throw those four years away. It's difficult for me to imagine my future without her, but I'm also scared that the arguing will just get worse in the future. I'm also worried that she might be more like her mother than she's willing to admit to herself.

Ugh, damn relationships, why do they have to be so difficult?

[sterlingice]

Originally posted by Chief Rum
Pretty good, Shorty. Was this the girl you flashed in front of her house a couple weeks ago?

CR

No, two words about that one (and then never let us speak of it again): Restraining order. :p

SI

[Blade6119]

Originally posted by Shorty3281
so this girl is talking to me and for some reasons shes all like yeah i like football its cool

and im like interesting, my type of woman

so im about to tell her about kurt warner

shorty: you know kurt warner right
girlladyface: yeah
shorty: cool
g.l.f.: i saw he got hurt
*shorty thinks wow she does know her stuff*
g.l.f.: i can't believe he landed on his head like that!
shorty: WHAT? THATS DONALD F'N DRIVER. IF YOU KNOW FOOTBALL, HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW THE MOST PROLIFIC PASSER IN THE F'N GAME RIGHT NOW? HOW DO YOU MISTAKE THE BEST QB WHO HAPPENS TO BE WHITE FOR A TALENTED RECEIVER WHO IS BLACK. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? KILL YOURSELF. STOP WATCHING FOOTBALL. STOP TRYING. DAMN YOU, DAMN YOU AND YOUR LIES.

Wow...you sure know how toget the ladies...chicks love it when you tell them to go kill themselves! I should try that with my new gf...

[Fritz]

Originally posted by JeeberD
Ugh, damn relationships, why do they have to be so difficult?

they don't

[oykib]

I don't understand this business of having to negotiate time and freedom to do the shit you wanna do with your girlfriend. That's nonsense.

I realize that if you're married and/or have kids, then you're going to have responsibilities. But the stuff I hear from some of my married friends in this regard are absud. Even worse, the misery that some guys I know suffer through because of the demands of their girlfriends is just absurd.

[Solecismic]

I always have the excuse "it's work". Fortunately, my wife is fiercely independent and likes time alone for her projects. We've never had an argument about sports watching.

I just asked her about what your girlfriend said, and she said her message board (New Hampshire new moms, or something like that) was full of complaints about football-watching this weekend. I guess this is a big issue for some women, no idea why. My wife didn't really have an answer, either. She said she doesn't much like women who try and control everything (or men, either).

No idea what I'll do when junior gets old enough to demand attention. I suppose if he's going to spend time with me, he's going to like sports. Maybe he'll even be a Yankee fan. That'll be a lot of fun here in Red Sox Nation.

My take on this girlfriend question: if you're seriously considering giving in, and only watching football every other weekend, you're going to be just fine. If you're like me, and your first reaction would be to stare at her increduously, like she suddenly grew a second head, this might be a deal-breaker. Not because football is that important in the global scheme of things, but that she'd want to control something that was important to you.

[Franklinnoble]

Originally posted by JeeberD


Ugh, damn relationships, why do they have to be so difficult?

I agree with Fritz... they don't.

You've already wasted four years on this broad... you might wanna cut bait now while you're still young enough to bag a fresh college-aged hottie.

[Passacaglia]

I can understand how this can be a big issue. For me, the weekend is primarily the largest chunk of time that I can spend with my girlfriend, so if I'm watching football all day Saturday (I love Michigan football, Big Ten football, and college football in general, so that's a big deal to me), and all day Sunday (pro football doesn't excite me as much, but since I've been doing fantasy football with some friends over the last few seasons, I've been more interested, and more concerned about what happens every single play), that doesn't leave much time for us to spend together. And I'm not saying she nags me about it. As much as I like watching football, I feel the same way. Especially since I have night classes three times a week; we don't get much time at all together during those days. Anyway, lurker is great about it, really. She watches all the Michigan games when they're on TV (even though I can get a little intense during them), and she feigns interest pretty well when I tell her that someone on her fantasy team scored a touchdown, or caught a pass, or something. I think for us the issue is that a lot of times she feels like if she wants to do something else, she'd be dragging me from watching football, when sometimes I'll just be watching it because it's on, not having much interest in the game at all. I've been utilizing the VCR to help out this season, though. I tape the games I want to see most, then watch them when I get a chance, usually in the morning when I'm working out. Anyway, Jeeber, I would say that you have to look at it from both angles. Sure, as many people have said, you don't want your relationship to get in the way of football, but you don't want football to get in the way of your relationship. Think about how you feel about her, and most importantly, talk to her about it.

[thesloppy]

Originally posted by JeeberD

About a month and a half ago I was really close to breaking up with her. We even had a discussion about it, but when she asked what I wanted to do I said that I wanted to be with her. It's just so hard to throw those four years away. It's difficult for me to imagine my future without her, but I'm also scared that the arguing will just get worse in the future.

If your number one reason for staying with her is the amount of time you've been together, things ain't so hot. Maybe it's time to cut your losses.

[sterlingice]

Originally posted by Solecismic
I always have the excuse "it's work". Fortunately, my wife is fiercely independent and likes time alone for her projects. We've never had an argument about sports watching.

...

My take on this girlfriend question: if you're seriously considering giving in, and only watching football every other weekend, you're going to be just fine. If you're like me, and your first reaction would be to stare at her increduously, like she suddenly grew a second head, this might be a deal-breaker. Not because football is that important in the global scheme of things, but that she'd want to control something that was important to you.

I'm thankful I'm in the same boat with a girlfriend who is quite independant and not so, for lack of a better word, "needy". She'll nag a little about sports watching- especially with baseball this year. Then again, I got really lucky because the Royals have had the most exciting summer I've had watching baseball since the Cubs in '98 and she actually got hooked on it. Can't say there are many cooler feelings than watching her try on a MacDougal jersey so she could have something to wear to games... but I'm getting off track here. If it's a little jockeying for time and attention, that's bound to happen, but this sounds a lot more serious than that. I threw in the second paragraph here because it really sounds like she just wants to control you. Now don't run off and break up with her (not that you would) because we've been advising you against things but with the picture you've painted, it really looks like you might want to weigh your options- sticking together with someone because you've put a lot of time in is a *bad* idea. If you think 4 years is a long time, try 14 or 40...

SI

[RendeR]

I have to say I am very lucky to be engaged and soon to be married to a football fan. My fiancee is very into football and hockey. so we don't have much trouble with this. She does however have a limit.

I personally can watch football 24/7, honestly. I watch college games thursday night and all day saturday, and I watch almost every minute of pregame/postgame and in game time on sunday and monday.

I never get tired of it.

She on the other hand reaches a point where she sort of grumbles "find SOMETHING other than football for awhile" to wich I say, OK!

I understand and willing comply when she hits her limits because she has shown me over and over again that she's willing to let me have my fill of football even after she reaches the point of having had enough.

my advice: find out whats really bugging her, and if it turns out that she's really feeling this way, run.

[vtbub]

Two DIFFERENT TV's.

[tucker342]

Originally posted by ISiddiqui
Or better yet, tell her she can only have her period every other month ;).


hahahahahahhahahahahahah:D

[sabotai]

"Or better yet, tell her she can only have her period every other month"

I read an article about a pill the RDA just approved that could put a woman on a 3 month cycle, instead of a 1. (The was a gist of it. It was just some small "border" thing in a magazine).

So I would not suggest this because it looks like it might backfire now. :)

[strait8]

Jeeber you are lucky this came out now. There may be more going on behind the scenes, but my bet is that this girl is the type that likes to control the agenda and timetable.

If you think it end swith football believe me it it won't. When the kids come you will be delegated extra duties and all the house work you will get to share looms large on the horizon.

My Dads best piece of advice to me was: Don't go home everynight when your married. Even if you have nothjing to do, go out. Wives get to used to being therer. Then when you do want to go watch the Thursday game or go to the guy's flick you can do it.

Bless your lucky stars. Do not attend a pre-marriage counselor. Start looking elsewhere. better yet just live with a girl don't get married. Then you can walk or commit after a long trial period.

[WussGawd]

Originally posted by strait8
Jeeber you are lucky this came out now. There may be more going on behind the scenes, but my bet is that this girl is the type that likes to control the agenda and timetable.

If you think it end swith football believe me it it won't. When the kids come you will be delegated extra duties and all the house work you will get to share looms large on the horizon.

My Dads best piece of advice to me was: Don't go home everynight when your married. Even if you have nothjing to do, go out. Wives get to used to being therer. Then when you do want to go watch the Thursday game or go to the guy's flick you can do it.



Hmm. Guess I must just have a really great wife. Don't get me wrong, I help around the house, do about 50% of the care for the kids...but she basically let's me out of the house when I have something I want to do, even if it's just with the guys, and she pretty much turns me loose on weekends to watch football or what have you, as long as I help out with the chores. I can't remember a time when it wasn't this way.

Anyhow, Jeeb, I spoke to the better half of the equation (Mrs. Gawd) and she said that her first instinct, if in your shoes, would be to tell your girlfriend to go f**k herself, but she did bring in another point, and maybe you can answer this one intelligently...what is her idea (in specifics) about how that hypothetical other weekend would be? Housework doesn't take all weekend (unless you live in the Gracie Mansion, I suppose), and it's not like you have kids. My wife's thoughts are that if it's just to hang around the house, your gf doesn't have a leg to stand on, really.



My own feelings on this are that you need to decide what is more important to you, this girl, or football. When you think about that question, think about it long and hard, and then reframe the question: What's going to be more important to you 20 years from now, when the passion is gone, and what you're left with is a really great friend that you occasionally exchange bodily fluids with? There's a good chance she could mellow with time, but at a minimum, if it's important enough to you, you need to take a stand on the issue. Tell her exactly what it means to you to watch football (it's obvious it means a lot, or you'd be posting on the Front Office Gardening board :) not this one). Offer an olive branch. I, for one, have an unspoken understanding with my wife that as long as I work my butt off until kickoff, I've got the rest of the day to enjoy. Last week, that meant I did yard work on Saturday until kick off of the first game, and I watched until 10, breaking only to fix dinner.

This might give her a chance to grow, and understand that she too will have to think about compromising (the only way a long term relationship can work, fwiw). If not, she isn't worth the time and you'll be able to end it now with relatively little time into it.

Good luck.

[Easy Mac]

Jeeber, just promise her the best night of sex she'll ever have, it'll work. Just to make sure, here's my address to send her to:



Seriously though, that sucks. Thankfully, I have a cool girlfriend who makes me breakfast (Rice Krispies count, right?) and then sits down and watches football (mainly naps) with me all Thursday night, Saturday, Sunday and Monday night. Thank god she doesn't ask too many questions about the games.

[sterlingice]

Originally posted by WussGawd
... (it's obvious it means a lot, or you'd be posting on the Front Office Gardening board :) not this one).

Awesome! We've figured out the new secret game! ;)

SI

[WussGawd]

Originally posted by sterlingice
Awesome! We've figured out the new secret game! ;)

SI

I wondered what the odds were somebody was going to threadjack this into a "What's Jim's Next Game?" thread. The over/under was about 12 hours...turned out to be more like 10. :D

[mckerney]

Originally posted by Shorty3281
err it was something like that :)

I sense much anger in you, young one.