girl advice

[Lathum]

I realize I'm on a computer forum, however we are all smart and have had our own life expieriences so I value everyones opinion. There is a girl I'm interested in, but I don't know how to let her know and the time never seems right to bring it up, any suggestions how to breach the subject?

[Deattribution]

No real advice but this will certainly be a thread to keep an eye on... the replies should be real amusing.

Just to make it a little easier for someone to actually help you though, you know her in a friendly manner right?

Meaning she isn't just someone you see everyday, but actually know?

[RPI-Fan]

<font size="-3">Alright, I'll be the jackass.</font>

Just be cocky and funny...

[Suicane75]

The time is always right for love. Just tell her, call her up right now and tell her you dig her, that's all there is to it.


Did you do it?


Dude, call her, Now!!


The more you wait the more you'll outthink yourself.

Call her.

Seriously, call her right now and tell her how you feel.

Have you done it yet?

[oykib]

I've always been uncommonly successful while wearing my robe and wizard hat.

[Lathum]

to give some background, we work together, have hung out a few times and enjoyed each others company

[Suicane75]

at work tommorow, ask her out to dinner,
Ask her out to dinner at work tommorow now!

[Deattribution]

Originally posted by Lathum
to give some background, we work together, have hung out a few times and enjoyed each others company


Probably best off just asking her out again... Coffee or whatever, dinner if you're brave... should accumulate from there if you two actually do enjoy each others company.

[SackAttack]

Relationships with people at work are always sticky situations. Some businesses actually have stipulations in the company code of conduct about whether or not significant others can work together.

Never mind the tension it can create in an entire group if the two of you are fighting.

If you're still interested even so, talk to her. Tell her that you'd like to do something with her, as in an actual date. Have at least a couple options planned out in advance if she asks what - it'll display some confidence, and while she won't necessarily fall all over herself to go out with you at that point, she'll at least respect that you took the time to think about the date and what sort of activities the two of you are best suited to (you, with the dirty mind - out of the pool!).

If she says no, ask why, but don't press the issue if she's reticent. It may be that she needs time to let the idea marinate. If she says she has a 300 lb, 6'6" boyfriend, it's probably best to let sleeping gorillas lie.

[TLK]

Originally posted by RPI-Fan
<font size="-3">Alright, I'll be the jackass.</font>

Just be cocky and funny...


Feel Free To Take Notes (http://dynamic2.gamespy.com/~fof/ubb/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=1&t=014745) :)

[oykib]

Seriously, I don't think you're gonna get anything that you can use unless you give us a few details. You're gonna get different advice based on whether you want to approach your cute dental hygienist or your second cousin.

My initial reaction is that you're already doomed. At the risk of sounding like I'm from the 'cocky and funny' school, I have to say that if you have been interested in her long enough without letting her know that you came to the Kleenex meesageboard to ask for advice on how to let her know, you've probably already missed your chance.

That being said, unless you're gonna be slapped with sexual harrassment charges, just tell her. Even if she's 90% likely to turn you down, your odds are incalcuably better than they are by waiting for the right moment.

Something I've learned by living in a place where I'm limited to a very basic level of verbal communication is, "Hey, I think you're cute/nice/interesting. I'd like to spend some time with you/go to the movies with you/date you." is just as, if not more, effective than any of the supposedly clever shit I've said in English.

Break a leg.

[Deattribution]

Originally posted by SackAttack
If she says no, ask why.

Big no no. You say perhaps another time maybe, but never ask why. Makes you sound desperate, and then they know they can put you off as they see fit.

[Lathum]

Originally posted by SackAttack
Relationships with people at work are always sticky situations. Some businesses actually have stipulations in the company code of conduct about whether or not significant others can work together.

Never mind the tension it can create in an entire group if the two of you are fighting.

If you're still interested even so, talk to her. Tell her that you'd like to do something with her, as in an actual date. Have at least a couple options planned out in advance if she asks what - it'll display some confidence, and while she won't necessarily fall all over herself to go out with you at that point, she'll at least respect that you took the time to think about the date and what sort of activities the two of you are best suited to (you, with the dirty mind - out of the pool!).

If she says no, ask why, but don't press the issue if she's reticent. It may be that she needs time to let the idea marinate. If she says she has a 300 lb, 6'6" boyfriend, it's probably best to let sleeping gorillas lie.

She and her boyfriend just split up.

[oykib]

Damnit. I hate it when people call and interrupt me while I'm posting and delay me enough to cause my post to lose context.

[tucker rocky]

Never hurts to just ask or tell her. Maybe ask her out for lunch, just the two of you, then ask her if she's interested in you during the course of lunch. Let her know that you are interested in knowing more about her. Don't wuss out! Cause you just might miss out! :D ;)

[oykib]

BTW, I'm setting the over/under on this thread's post count at 137.

I'm taking the over.

[Deattribution]

Anyone else feel like they can't post in these types of threads, even if they have actual true advice without feeling like a certain poster from the past?


These type of threads are forever tainted.

[tucker rocky]

My post was repetitive of what 's already been suggested. Just didn't get mine in time. Cause when I read thread there was only one reply. I did take time to think out my response though.

[Tasan]

OKay this made me go back and read the Horns thread, and I just about peed myself again....oh the classics are always funny aren't they?

[Deattribution]

Originally posted by Tasan
OKay this made me go back and read the Horns thread, and I just about peed myself again....oh the classics are always funny aren't they?

I almost forgot how funny that thread was, I was a lurker then but you honestly didn't have to post anything to get a good laugh from that thread.

[SunDancer]

Ah...the memories.

[Archer219]

Originally posted by Lathum
She and her boyfriend just split up.


DANGER, DANGER WILL ROBINSON!!!

What you need to do right now is be the best friend you can possibly be to her. Depending on the length of the relationship, she is going to be going through some stuff.

Just invite her over for rent-a-movie night, take her out for a casual dinner, do stuff that interests her, for right now.

Always make sure to drop little "I love hanging out with you" and "We always have so much fun together" and compliments galore. Notice little things (ie. different hair style/color) and no matter how you feel about them, always compliment her on them.

When the time is right, you should have layed the ground work for the "kill" strike, which should perferably be after a nice "date" (ie not just a movie).

And most importantly, never affirm any good thoughts she has about her ex, and if possible, every time she brings up a good thing, bring up an equally bad thing.

-or-

You could just be cocky and bold, grow a pair, and go for it. :D

Of course, going this way you may end up the rebound boy.

[Ragone]

I remember asking for advice not to long ago about a woman who was wasting my time.. :)

[oykib]

Rebound boy always gets a little. So it ain't all bad.

But girls who've just broken up are usually bad news. I just didn't want to be the first to say it. I've already spread enough bad news in this thread.

[Ragone]

And be prepared to hear alot of stuff about her ex.. its coming.

[mckerney]

Looking at Horns sig in that thread also lead me to this gold mine:

http://dynamic2.gamespy.com/~fof/ubb/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=1&t=015600

[JeeberD]

I think I'm gonna put this in my sig...

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Doesn't it make my post look classy? :rolleyes:

[mckerney]

Originally posted by JeeberD
I think I'm gonna put this in my sig...

. . /} . .
._/OO\_ .
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Doesn't it make my post look classy? :rolleyes:

That would obviously be an attempt at strength by you because you are obviously a weak person. You are neither cocky or funny.

LOSER!!!

Oh, and as for something on topic I'm probably not the best person to be giving advice here...

[oykib]

Originally posted by mckerney
Oh, and as for something on topic I'm probably not the best person to be giving advice here...

Since when has that ever stopped anybody on this board?

[mckerney]

I would recommend though getting a hold of Andrew Dice Clay's standup bit on 'How To End a Relationship,' it is very insightful. ;)

[mckerney]

Originally posted by oykib
Since when has that ever stopped anybody on this board?

Good point, but I still got nothing.

[JeeberD]

After four years of being with the same girl I've forgotten just about everything I ever knew about picking up chicks... :(

[oykib]

Tell them that you have a girlfriend...

...and if she's hot show them a picture of you two together. Or, better yet, let them see you two together.

I swear, I never get as much play as when I've got a girl already. If only it weren't my policy to remain faithful...

[Vince]

Don't have much to say that hasn't already been said. If you like the girl, ask her out on something that can be construed as nothing but a date. Dinner and a movie, etc, just make sure it can't be interpereted as 'hanging out.'

As for relationships with girls you work with...that I have lots of experience with. And while I'll say that the fact that you work with the girl shouldn't be the only reason you don't try to date her, know that it's really hard to date someone you work with for a few reasons.

1) If the people you work with are at or around your age (and even sometimes if they are not), they will be nosy as all hell, and will poke much fun at your expense, no doubt. Rumors will circulate faster than you can imagine, and it will be very difficult to keep anything private.

2) Even though you should never think about the end of a relationship before/while it's going on, if you both work together, this deserves some consideration. Usually (read: always) in a relationship, someone doesn't want it to end. That makes dealing with the person afterwards rather difficult and not fun. If it is unavoidable (eg, you work together), it makes things quite difficult. As an example, I give you my situation.

I work at a pizza place. I started dating my now ex-girlfriend about a year ago. We broke up, but we still see each other all the time. Now, I initiated the breakup, to her dismay, but we're still pretty good friends (amazingly enough). However, she is terribly possessive. In fact, the other night, she questioned me on where I spent the night (which was highly not cool, and I told her so in no uncertain terms). Even though we have remained friends (with benefits...which I think is the problem), it is nearly impossible for me to have female friends without her becoming incredibly unhappy with me/them. Not a fun situation.

Now, if you're on the other end (ie you don't want them to break up with you), then you have to deal with seeing the person you want to be with, but can't, on a regular basis. Again, not fun.

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These aren't great reasons to not even try to date someone, just some of the pitfalls of dating a co-worker. See them as caveats, not reasons not to try.

[Airhog]

Originally posted by JeeberD
After four years of being with the same girl I've forgotten just about everything I ever knew about picking up chicks... :(

First you have to of had some knowledge of picking up chicks. Drugging some girl and keeping her locked up in your basement doesnt count

[Samdari]

I'll second what Vince says. Just come out and ask her out in a manner in which your intentions (bagging her) are obvious. Women like it when they know exactly what you are thinking. Then they have fun making you guess as to what they are thinking. Don't be discouraged if you don't ever figure that out, you are not supposed to.

[Bonegavel]

Tell her to tongue your "bag of flesh-dice" and by the time she figures out what you are referring to, you have to make a Saving Throw vs Hands to the Face, which is normally a 15 yd penalty and an automatic first down, but this one will send you to the penalty box for the remainder of the 3rd period.

Better yet, if you value her friendship, DON"T GO ANYWHERE NEAR ASKING HER OUT. Even if she does accept and you date for a time, it will only end horribly, at which time you will need a restraining order and will never be able to speak to her again. Or, you will get married. Not sure which is worse. :D

[AnalBumCover]

Originally posted by Lathum
to give some background, we work together, have hung out a few times and enjoyed each others company
Hey Lathum, you must be my East Coast counterpart. :eek: I'm in exactly the same boat as you. Co-worker, she and bf are on seriously shaky grounds, hot as heck, we enjoy each others' company, etc... Let me know how it goes, bro. I'm rootin' for ya.

[Franklinnoble]

Next time you see her, casually ask her how she feels about anal sex.

[Bonegavel]

this isn't a computer forum (it is a forum based upon a computer game, so it is really a game forum), and not all of us are hopeless nerds.

A lot of us are married, so that does qualify us as experienced in the dating game, so don't pay attention to the single schmucks out there. We are the ones that made it through the battlefield of dating and stormed the beaches on M-day (marriage day) and onto the killing fields of parenthood. We alone know the value of companionship at its penultimate peak of perfection. We also know that she gets half if we split.

[edit to remove dola - bastards snuck in]

[Fritz]

roofies. crisco in a can. chewbacca mask. 24.5 feet of cherry licorice.

get the items and I will give you the next step.

[Franklinnoble]

Will crisco sticks work? I find they're easier to measure.

[Fritz]

Originally posted by Franklinnoble
Will crisco sticks work? I find they're easier to measure.

don't fuck with the plan

[oykib]

Originally posted by Fritz
roofies. crisco in a can. chewbacca mask. 24.5 feet of cherry licorice.

get the items and I will give you the next step.

You don't use the feather duster?

...Man, you old guys live a tame existence.

[Fritz]

Originally posted by oykib
You don't use the feather duster?


why must people always skip to step 6?

[cuervo72]

Ooo, another plan to take over the world thread? I think we might still have the kelly green bath rugs around somewhere.

[cuervo72]

Originally posted by Bonegavel

A lot of us are married, so that does qualify us as experienced in the dating game

No, no it doesn't always......

[Franklinnoble]

Originally posted by cuervo72
No, no it doesn't always......

True... some of us woke up hitched to our sisters at the age of 15 after our first night of moonshine-fueled drunkeness.

[Fritz]

Originally posted by cuervo72
Ooo, another plan to take over the world thread? I think we might still have the kelly green bath rugs around somewhere.

IDIOTS! I AM SURROUNDED BY IDIOTS!

[cuervo72]

Originally posted by Fritz
IDIOTS! I AM SURROUNDED BY IDIOTS!

Which is why none of our previous plans have worked...

[Deattribution]

Originally posted by cuervo72
No, no it doesn't always......

I don't think it does at all, should any of your marriages/long term relationships end, by that time the dating scene has changed so significantly that you no longer qualify... Then you're stuck coming to FOFC to ask for da..... whoops, nevermind.

[Fritz]

Originally posted by cuervo72
Which is why none of our previous plans have worked...

just once when I ask for the Cheese Whiz I would like to get Cheese Whiz.

[WebEwbank]

Simple is best. Ask her for a date, describing a single specific plan: Would you like to have dinner with me on Friday ?

If she says yes, fine.

If she says she's busy then, without waiting more than 12 seconds, ask her for one (1) other time when she would be free.

If she says no, then say thanks, and walk away. Do not ask why.

[korme]

Really, let her know sooner than later. The longer you hold off you'll worry about it more and more, just get it over with. It's really not that bad.

[korme]

Originally posted by oykib
My initial reaction is that you're already doomed. At the risk of sounding like I'm from the 'cocky and funny' school, I have to say that if you have been interested in her long enough without letting her know that you came to the Kleenex meesageboard to ask for advice on how to let her know, you've probably already missed your chance.


I do tend to agree. The best success for me has come with letting them know really as soon as you get to know them.. but it always has possibilities, so just tell her soon. Even if she is not interested, take a step back, and realize that it's not that bad.

[korme]

Originally posted by Lathum
She and her boyfriend just split up.

Wow, that makes your situation alot better. If she's feeling shitty about it or just needs to talk, be all ears. Listen to her and just be a good friend. Girls love that. It can really lead to things.

[Samdari]

I had to jump into a thread to read what advice Shorty would give about women ("wear lifts"). I am strangely disappointed in the result.

[korme]

Originally posted by Vince
1) If the people you work with are at or around your age (and even sometimes if they are not), they will be nosy as all hell, and will poke much fun at your expense, no doubt. Rumors will circulate faster than you can imagine, and it will be very difficult to keep anything private.



Dude, that's high school for you too.

Do one thing Saturday, and Monday at school everyone's got a million questions about it and everyone heard something.

[JeeberD]

I'm not sure why Shorty forgot to tell you this, but it's a really bad idea to show up at her doorstep in the middle of the night shitfaced and expose yourself to her... ;)

[Samdari]

Originally posted by JeeberD
I'm not sure why Shorty forgot to tell you this, but it's a really bad idea to show up at her doorstep in the middle of the night shitfaced and expose yourself to her... ;)

But then again, in the 0.01% of cases where this works, the payoff is huge.

[korme]

or......................................


just wack it

[JeeberD]

Well, you're going to do that if you have a girlfriend or not...

[korme]

depends on how often your getting it

[Pumpy Tudors]

Originally posted by Shorty3281
depends on how often your getting it

They're so cute at that age.

[korme]

do you have a daughter?

[sperril]

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Originally posted by Shorty3281
depends on how often your getting it
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Originally posted by Pumpy Tudors
They're so cute at that age.

At the age where they wear Depends?

[JeeberD]

Originally posted by Shorty3281
depends on how often your getting it

Do something for me Shorty. Get yourself a girlfriend and get some on a regular basis. And then try to tell my that you don't still take care of yourself. Unless you're getting it like twice a day you'll still be taking things into your own hand (pun very intended) fairly regularly...

[korme]

The pace certainly slows down, but yes, it still occurs fairly frequently.. heh.

[Pumpy Tudors]

Originally posted by sperril
At the age where they wear Depends?

You're saying that Shorty wears Depends? I think he's a little young for that.

[Pumpy Tudors]

Dola--

Not sure if Shorty was asking me, but I don't have a daughter. I'm forbidden by law to reproduce, as the local government has asked that there be no more like me.

[johnnyshaka]

I think you should act all James Bond-like...and ask her she'd like to be your Backdoor Gallore???

Works everytime.