SirFozzie
03-21-2004, 01:34 AM
So.. I'm home.
As those in the FOFC FBCB know, and I alluded to in my post here on FOFC, one of my long time friends (literally known her since elementary school) attempted suicide last night (Friday night now). She attempted to overdose on sleeping pills, and thank God that her boyfriend stopped by the apartment and called an ambulance for her. The doctors had to pump her stomach, but she will be ok eventually.
I didn't get to talk to her much, as she was very weak and still not emotionally 100% (and I don't think she will be for a while), but what we did talk about left me as angry as I feel like I've been in a while. Not at her, but at the person who brought her to this state emotionally.
It seems that she had been thinking about becoming friends again with one of her old boyfriends. They had been going out for about 18 months, but the breakup was pretty spectacular.
Well, she told me, back in January, that when he came over to celebrate getting a new job in Texas, that he brought a couple of his friends over, and they had a few drinks. She doesn't remember much, but what she does remember, was not drinking that much that night, feeling a little uncomfortable with the whole situation. Some time during the night, she passed out.
And this is only by her trying to piece things together from what happens. She believes that they slipped her a roofie or something similar, and had their way with her while she was unable to say no.
To make a long story short, she didn't go to the cops, because she spent a couple days trying to deny it all happened, and by the time she felt confident about going to the cops, she felt that they wouldn't believe her because it had been a few days, and there was no physical evidence by then.
So she locked herself in a vicious cycle of guilt and blame of herself.. meanwhile, she did her best to not let the world see any of this. Trust me, I wish I could have seen through it all. I'm kicking myself, wondering if there was any signs I missed, what Jake (her boyfriend) might have missed, there had to be something, anything, that was a cry from help from her that we missed,
It just built up and built up.. and last night she tried to end it all.
She's going to get counseling, which is good.. she still thinks there's nothing the cops could do or could have done about it. Neither of us really tried to argue her into it, that's just too tender a subject right now.
Jake and I spent an hour or two calming each other down. There's nothing more either of us wants to do is to go down to where this jackass lives now and exact revenge.. but that wouldn't do anything for 'Drea, except maybe make things worse.
I just hope that this guy pays, sometime, someway for what he did. But right now, the most important thing is rebuilding my friends life, confidence, and doing my best to help in a healing process for her.
Why I'm writing this? I dunno.. maybe to help me understand what I need to do, or to get this out.. or to vent a little bit of anger at someone who is lower then pondscum.. But I needed to get this out. Someday, some way, I will see Andrea Thomas smile again.
A real smile.
Thanks for reading.. maybe I can get some sleep now.
David Yellope
As those in the FOFC FBCB know, and I alluded to in my post here on FOFC, one of my long time friends (literally known her since elementary school) attempted suicide last night (Friday night now). She attempted to overdose on sleeping pills, and thank God that her boyfriend stopped by the apartment and called an ambulance for her. The doctors had to pump her stomach, but she will be ok eventually.
I didn't get to talk to her much, as she was very weak and still not emotionally 100% (and I don't think she will be for a while), but what we did talk about left me as angry as I feel like I've been in a while. Not at her, but at the person who brought her to this state emotionally.
It seems that she had been thinking about becoming friends again with one of her old boyfriends. They had been going out for about 18 months, but the breakup was pretty spectacular.
Well, she told me, back in January, that when he came over to celebrate getting a new job in Texas, that he brought a couple of his friends over, and they had a few drinks. She doesn't remember much, but what she does remember, was not drinking that much that night, feeling a little uncomfortable with the whole situation. Some time during the night, she passed out.
And this is only by her trying to piece things together from what happens. She believes that they slipped her a roofie or something similar, and had their way with her while she was unable to say no.
To make a long story short, she didn't go to the cops, because she spent a couple days trying to deny it all happened, and by the time she felt confident about going to the cops, she felt that they wouldn't believe her because it had been a few days, and there was no physical evidence by then.
So she locked herself in a vicious cycle of guilt and blame of herself.. meanwhile, she did her best to not let the world see any of this. Trust me, I wish I could have seen through it all. I'm kicking myself, wondering if there was any signs I missed, what Jake (her boyfriend) might have missed, there had to be something, anything, that was a cry from help from her that we missed,
It just built up and built up.. and last night she tried to end it all.
She's going to get counseling, which is good.. she still thinks there's nothing the cops could do or could have done about it. Neither of us really tried to argue her into it, that's just too tender a subject right now.
Jake and I spent an hour or two calming each other down. There's nothing more either of us wants to do is to go down to where this jackass lives now and exact revenge.. but that wouldn't do anything for 'Drea, except maybe make things worse.
I just hope that this guy pays, sometime, someway for what he did. But right now, the most important thing is rebuilding my friends life, confidence, and doing my best to help in a healing process for her.
Why I'm writing this? I dunno.. maybe to help me understand what I need to do, or to get this out.. or to vent a little bit of anger at someone who is lower then pondscum.. But I needed to get this out. Someday, some way, I will see Andrea Thomas smile again.
A real smile.
Thanks for reading.. maybe I can get some sleep now.
David Yellope