Maybe I was the problem?

[Balldog]

So my dating sagas are well documented around here, I must admit we have all shared some great laughter...

I haven't been around much lately, I think I am turning a corner in my life or something....

So the one girl that I bitched about is now fucking one of my best friends...just thought I would throw that in there. It cracks me up. She is a dirty slut, dirty is bold for a reason.

Anyway, so after taking about 4 months off of dating girls...basically going out and getting wasted with the boys and/or just trying to get laid. I must admit I had some great times over the summer. I now think I was the problem with all these other sagas, maybe to some point at least. You see I have met this fabulous young lady for whom I am finding myself doing things that I in the past would have thought to be completely absurd. Sending flowers, sending romantic text messages, going out of my way to do stuff for her, etc. Things are going unbelievably well right now but in the back of my head I still have concerns about getting let down. I think in the past dating adventures I have held back from letting myself being exposed emotionally.

I know there are guys on here other than me, who's ex-wives left them for another man or was having an affair. How do you get past that fear of being betrayed again? I need to get passed this because if I don't I fear its going to end up screwing up this thing with this girl.

Some will feel the need to poke fun at this, go ahead, I really don't mind it :)

[Craptacular]

Sounds like you and Wasabiak should hook up.

[Buzzbee]

Hmmm...halfway through I thought Balldog was coming out of the closet. Oh well.

[Wasabiak]

Sounds like you and Wasabiak should hook up.

No kidding. That story sounded eerily familiar.

[Easy Mac]

I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking he should just go gay.

[sachmo71]

You have to let trust grow. Try to keep things honest, and pay attention to what's going on. You can't control how another person will act, so make sure you understand what is going on in your relationship, and when you feel the trust, go with it. If you hold back, eventually she will leave you. Hopefully before going into the arms of another.

[Rizon]

Trusting a woman is like smearing honey on your nuts and letting a bear lick it off.

[sovereignstar]

It's not you, it's me.

[DaddyTorgo]

Trusting a woman is like smearing honey on your nuts and letting a bear lick it off.
oooh! good one!

[AZSpeechCoach]

I want to hear more about this dirty slut. picsplskthx.

[Arctus]

She is a dirty slut, dirty is bold for a reason.

pics plz, k thx...

[AZSpeechCoach]

I won.

[Galaxy]

I like a dirty bitch in the bedroom.....Pics please...:D

[st.cronin]

The trick is to NOT CARE. As soon as I mastered that trick (not just faking it) the women were everywhere. Unfortunately, I really didn't care and just wanted to go home and watch hockey.

[BishopMVP]

I mean, that sounds ga- I just want you to know this is like the first conversation of like three conversations that leads to you being gay. Like... there's this and then in a year it's like, "Oh you know, I kinda wanna, ya know, get back out there but I think I like guys" and then there's the big, "Oh I'm I'm a g-gay guy now".



Seriously, you don't get past that fear. It's always gonna be there. You just have to accept there's always a chance she'll cheat but don't let it affect your actions.

[Huckleberry]

Not trying to offend, but this kind of saga is one of the situations that my signature quote applies to. You're obviously correct that at least some of the problem was you. That's not to say that some or even all of the girls weren't dirty sluts, but you have to ask yourself why this happened to you.

Not the same but similar to women that keep finding abusive boyfriends.

[sachmo71]

The trick is to NOT CARE. As soon as I mastered that trick (not just faking it) the women were everywhere. Unfortunately, I really didn't care and just wanted to go home and watch hockey.


Yes, that's right. You have a wonderfully fulfilling love life to look forward to if you follow this advice. Ask Hornsmaniac.

[oykib]

Yes, that's right. You have a wonderfully fulfilling love life to look forward to if you follow this advice. Ask Hornsmaniac.

Your love life may suck. But a good sex life can put your love life on the back burner for a few years.

:D

[mrsimperless]

How bout, stop meeting dirty chicks in bars? I have no idea where to meet them at either, but I'm pretty sure its not in bars.

[Mustang]

It's not you, it's me.

You're giving me the 'It's not you, it's me' routine? I invented 'It's not you, it's me.' Nobody tells me it's not them, it's me. If it's anybody, it's me.

[sterlingice]

The trick is to NOT CARE. As soon as I mastered that trick (not just faking it) the women were everywhere. Unfortunately, I really didn't care and just wanted to go home and watch hockey.
Well, women in bars are women in bars but hockey is hockey!

SI

[AZSpeechCoach]

I still don't know why she wasn't just a slut, but a dirty slut...I'm waiting here.

[Raiders Army]

Anyway, so after taking about 4 months off of dating girls...basically going out and getting wasted with the boys and/or just trying to get laid.
Maybe it was just me, but I read this as you got wasted with the boys and tried to get laid with them.

[Balldog]

Maybe it was just me, but I read this as you got wasted with the boys and tried to get laid with them.

Yeah, you read that wrong.

[Raiders Army]

That's always good to know.

[Desnudo]

I still don't know why she wasn't just a slut, but a dirty slut...I'm waiting here.

She takes it in the out door.

[Galaxy]

I still don't know why she wasn't just a slut, but a dirty slut...I'm waiting here.


Pics please....

[Galaxy]

The trick is to NOT CARE. As soon as I mastered that trick (not just faking it) the women were everywhere. Unfortunately, I really didn't care and just wanted to go home and watch hockey.

Were you cocky and funny too? :)