So it's my turn for one of those advice threads...

[Doug5984]

Today walking to class this cute girls is walking in front of me, it's about a 10 minute walk from where I park. After about a hundred yards she stops turns to me and says "Well instead of you just creepily following me, I guess I'll walk with you to class." Now I've never met this girl, maybe have seen her walking other days, but can't remember. So we talk, I find out where she works, all that good small talk stuff. When I get home I realize she works where one of my no so close friends work, so I ask that person who she is...find out a little about her, get her name (she had told me her first name), and look her up on facebook. Now, I'm wondering- her profile is private and I want to see a little more about her, is it very stalkerish to add her right now, having just met her?
I was thinking a message like
"Hey I realized you work the same place as one of my friends, and I asked her, and she knew who you were...just wanted to say hey...blah blah blah, maybe see you around campus again"

I'm not one to normally care what girls think of me, but the one thing that does bother me is coming off like some crazy guy. Just curious what the FOFC world thinks on this, I'm pretty sure I'm going to say f-it and send her a message later today... mainly because..."He who hesitates masturbates"

This is nothing compared to the other thread I could start on relationship advice with my ex, who is thinking she is bi, broke up with a boyfriend to start spending more time with me, and asked for a key to my house again.... lol, that's just to much to get into for a thread over here. :p

[rkmsuf]

you people and your facebook, myspace, emailerations

geesh.

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

This thread needs to discuss the bisexual ex more and also..........pics plz k thx.

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

So is it too old-fashioned to approach her and ask her out or call her? I guess at 33 years of age I don't see the problem with this tactic, but maybe I'm outdated.

[oliegirl]

If you've seen her before, I'd wait and chance running into her again, then just strike up a natural conversation.

I wouldn't do the facebook thing, instead I'd get your friend to see if they ever work the same shift, and then stop in to see your friend and do the whole coincidence meeting thing, and then ask her if she'd like to grab a coffee when she gets off work.

Direct face to face contact is always better than an email/facebook/myspace...unless you are online dating and then it just comes with the territory.

[Doug5984]

the whole asking her for number, it was 7:30 this morning and I was on my way to a tax accounting test so I just wasn't thinking clearly or else that would've been a good idea.

I don't know if I've seen her before, I may have? But couldn't know for sure...and don't know if I will in the future as I got to class extra early today (I guess I could start leaving a little earlier).

As far as shifts go- she is a reporter for a local news station, so no shift work and popping by the tv station might seem a little strange.

[Logan]

Send the facebook message today, it's not even close to stalkerish. Stalkerish would be if you were walking behind her the entire time, found a profile you thought was hers, and sent her a message like "Are you the girl who was walking in front of me to X today? Wasn't 100% sure because your picture doesn't show your ass."

I'm not saying you should ask her right out through facebook, but initiating the first contact through facebook is cool, and most importantly, it works. If it goes well, you'll move on to talking through messages/AIM and then you can ask her out the next time you actually see her.

[rkmsuf]

maybe you are ghay the way you are trying to talk yourself out of this

[Telle]

What do you have to lose? Even if she does find it a tad "stalkerish" and doesn't respond, so what? Are you likely to ever see her again if you don't try and initiate this contact? So if this is your only shot, you might as well take it.

[Eaglesfan27]

What do you have to lose? Even if she does find it a tad "stalkerish" and doesn't respond, so what? Are you likely to ever see her again if you don't try and initiate this contact? So if this is your only shot, you might as well take it.

That was my initial thought as well. If you don't see her regularly, and have a slim chance of meeting her outside of doing this, I say take the chance.

[oliegirl]

Definitely agree that you should send the facebook message...it's not stalkerish at all and with the circumstances, it's your best chance.

[I. J. Reilly]

What do you have to lose? Even if she does find it a tad "stalkerish" and doesn't respond, so what? Are you likely to ever see her again if you don't try and initiate this contact? So if this is your only shot, you might as well take it.

The one thing I learned in college, and it is probably the only thing, is that if you do something stupid and embarrass yourself in front of a girl you will see her at least five times a day on campus. And that is if you are on a large campus, the number goes up if the school is small.

[MikeVic]

I'd send the Facebook message.

[Doug5984]

pretty much what i was thinking, just wanted some outside advice to make sure... thanks guys.

I will send her a message after lunch.

[MikeVic]

you people and your facebook, myspace, emailerations

geesh.

What the hell is emailerations??

[Logan]

The one thing I learned in college, and it is probably the only thing, is that if you do something stupid and embarrass yourself in front of a girl you will see her at least five times a day on campus. And that is if you are on a large campus, the number goes up if the school is small.

This made me think of something else. I'll further echo my original thought of sending the message. If you don't, the next time you get drunk and get on Facebook, you'll end up sending her a message when your drunk self decides it's a good idea. Guaranteed. So send it now, or deal with the consequences of sending something that is completely illiterate or doesn't make any sense.

Please learn from a recent bad experience of mine.

[rkmsuf]

Roses are red
Violets are blue
We walked to class
Now take my goo

[Logan]

pretty much what i was thinking, just wanted some outside advice to make sure... thanks guys.

I will send her a message after lunch.

I'm free now, send me your login info and I'll take care of it for you.

I'm sober.

[Toddzilla]

http://img248.imageshack.us/img248/2371/85221918ge3.jpg

[Logan]

Well, that caused some interesting looks by the girl next to me when I refreshed.

[Doug5984]

http://img248.imageshack.us/img248/2371/85221918ge3.jpg

i've found my answer...

[MikeVic]

Well, that caused some interesting looks by the girl next to me when I refreshed.

If she smiled, you're set.

[digamma]

I sent SUBBYZ a facebook message once and look where it got me.

[MikeVic]

I sent SUBBYZ a facebook message once and look where it got me.

In his pants?

[Pumpy Tudors]

I actually think that sending the Facebook message is a bad idea, and I'm somebody who looks on Facebook and Myspace to see if I can find any acquaintances on there. I mean, I guess it's because I don't want people to know that I've been specifically searching these sites to find them.

I guess maybe I'm skittish about it because the last time I found somebody on Facebook, it led to... shenanigans.

[rkmsuf]

I actually think that sending the Facebook message is a bad idea, and I'm somebody who looks on Facebook and Myspace to see if I can find any acquaintances on there. I mean, I guess it's because I don't want people to know that I've been specifically searching these sites to find them.

I guess maybe I'm skittish about it because the last time I found somebody on Facebook, it led to... shenanigans.

yeah but he might love some shananigans

[MikeVic]

Did it lead to bounty hunting shenanigans?

[Subby]

I sent SUBBYZ a facebook message once and look where it got me.
THAT'S RIGHT, LADIEZ...I AM NOW ON FACEBOOK!!!!! :cool::cool::cool:

[Pumpy Tudors]

yeah but he might love some shananigans

Did it lead to bounty hunting shenanigans?
The shenanigans in my situation involve a dwarf from St. Louis, a tractor, and a garbage receptacle that is allegedly full of beer cans.

I'm actually not joking.

[rkmsuf]

The shenanigans in my situation involve a dwarf from St. Louis, a tractor, and a garbage receptacle that is allegedly full of beer cans.

I'm actually not joking.

why would it be presumed you are joking?

[MikeVic]

The shenanigans in my situation involve a dwarf from St. Louis, a tractor, and a garbage receptacle that is allegedly full of beer cans.

I'm actually not joking.

Do you call this the tractor story?

[Dr. Sak]

The shenanigans in my situation involve a dwarf from St. Louis, a tractor, and a garbage receptacle that is allegedly full of beer cans.

I'm actually not joking.

So you set up your dates like you set up your Office Meetings...haphazardly?

[Young Drachma]

Send the facebook message today, it's not even close to stalkerish. Stalkerish would be if you were walking behind her the entire time, found a profile you thought was hers, and sent her a message like "Are you the girl who was walking in front of me to X today? Wasn't 100% sure because your picture doesn't show your ass."

I'm not saying you should ask her right out through facebook, but initiating the first contact through facebook is cool, and most importantly, it works. If it goes well, you'll move on to talking through messages/AIM and then you can ask her out the next time you actually see her.

+1

[Pumpy Tudors]

Do you call this the tractor story?
I get the reference. :)

So you set up your dates like you set up your Office Meetings...haphazardly?
Microsoft Outlook is a bitch.

[JediKooter]

Those who hesitate, masturbate...

[Pumpy Tudors]

SO HAVE YOU SENT THE FACEBOOK MESSAGE YET? HURRY UP I NEED CLOSURE. THIS IS IMPORTANT. I CAN'T HOLD ON FOREVER

i
oh

[MikeVic]

SO HAVE YOU SENT THE FACEBOOK MESSAGE YET? HURRY UP I NEED CLOSURE. THIS IS IMPORTANT. I CAN'T HOLD ON FOREVER

i
oh

Go watch that trumpet chick.

[Doug5984]

(i don't want to interfere with where this thread is going- shenanigans involving dwarfs, tractors, and trash cans full of beer but i did send her a message)

now please continue taking this thread where ever it may go...

[Doug5984]

Dola where do yall find all these great pictures like the one above? I'm running a fantasy football league and they want more funny picture news posts.

[Pumpy Tudors]

(i don't want to interfere with where this thread is going- shenanigans involving dwarfs, tractors, and trash cans full of beer but i did send her a message)

now please continue taking this thread where ever it may go...
nah i'm pretty much done now

[rkmsuf]

Dear Little Red Haired Girl:

Hi really like walking you to class. Just want to say hello and see if wanted to get something to eat or whatever sometime. If you want. If not no big deal. Thanks.

Ok bye.

[oliegirl]

(i don't want to interfere with where this thread is going- shenanigans involving dwarfs, tractors, and trash cans full of beer but i did send her a message)

now please continue taking this thread where ever it may go...

What did the message say? Inquiring minds want to know...we need to know!!!!!!

:D

[MikeVic]

What did the message say? Inquiring minds want to know...we need to know!!!!!!

:D

Dear Little Red Haired Girl:

Hi really like walking you to class. Just want to say hello and see if wanted to get something to eat or whatever sometime. If you want. If not no big deal. Thanks.

Ok bye.

?

[Doug5984]

What did the message say? Inquiring minds want to know...we need to know!!!!!!

:D

Just something to the effect of- I realized you work with one of my friends, she said you were cool and to look you up on here, it was nice talking to you this morning, hope your classes went well, my test sucked, and hopefully i'll see you again walking to class. (but it was much better than that)...
edit to add: I opted not to go with the "Yo gurl, can I stick it in Ur Pooper"

And a pretty quick response...


Hey Doug!
I'm sorry your test was hard...I hope you did good anyway though.
That's crazy you know Kori!
She's amazing.

My class went extremely well--no embarassing incidents or anything like that.

So nice to meet you and I hope we get to sidewalk stalk each other again soon.

[rkmsuf]

Negative Ghostrider, the pattern is full.

[ISiddiqui]

Nice return message... but the use of the term "sidewalk stalk" is a bit creepy.

[DaddyTorgo]

Negative Ghostrider, the pattern is full.

classic

[oliegirl]

Reply asap and tell her that instead of sidewalking stalking, you'd much rather take her out for a cup of coffee (or a drink, not sure how old you are)...or if there is a good party/concert going on this weekend, ask her to that...she's definitely interested.

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

So nice to meet you and I hope we get to sidewalk stalk each other again soon.

Translation: You can stick it in my pooper anytime!

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

Reply asap and tell her that instead of sidewalking stalking, you'd much rather take her out for a cup of coffee (or a drink, not sure how old you are)...or if there is a good party/concert going on this weekend, ask her to that...she's definitely interested.

+1

[rkmsuf]

Reply asap and tell her that instead of sidewalking stalking, you'd much rather take her out for a cup of coffee (or a drink, not sure how old you are)...or if there is a good party/concert going on this weekend, ask her to that...she's definitely interested.

Disagree. She is insane. Or will be busy.

Either way she's lost that lovin feeling, Goose.

[Logan]

Any word if she has a boyfriend? I'm on your side but that response was a little too "friendly" for my liking.

[Dr. Sak]

Disagree. She is insane. Or will be busy.

Either way she's lost that lovin feeling, Goose.

I bet she has to wash her hair that day.

[rkmsuf]

I bet she has to wash her hair that day.

This has crash and burn written all over it, mav.

[oliegirl]

Disagree. She is insane. Or will be busy.

Either way she's lost that lovin feeling, Goose.


You are nuts. All of you...I think all the women of FOFC should start charging for our life and love advice, God knows they can't count on you guys for anything worthwhile...

Seriously, ask her out. If she's involved with someone then she would have either not answered so quickly, your friend would have told you, or she wouldn't have mentioned seeing you again...

Besides, what do you have to lose? Seize the day!!!! :D

[MikeVic]

What if she has a penis.

[gkb]

Translation: You can stick it in my pooper anytime!

Gutsiest move I ever saw man.

[rkmsuf]

You are nuts. All of you...I think all the women of FOFC should start charging for our life and love advice, God knows they can't count on you guys for anything worthwhile...

Seriously, ask her out. If she's involved with someone then she would have either not answered so quickly, your friend would have told you, or she wouldn't have mentioned seeing you again...

Besides, what do you have to lose? Seize the day!!!! :D

She doesn't care if she sees him again. classic tease. I'm hot, I'll throw you a bone and walk with you. She even throws that fact in his face again at the end of the note.

That response is like something I'd send at work when I forgot to do a report and wanted to buy time. Nothing specific at all there.

Come to think of it, neither one of them said anything specific. It's a miracle people get together.

[MikeVic]

No use of emoticons. I'd like to have seen at least one smiley or winky.

[oliegirl]

She doesn't care if she sees him again. classic tease. I'm hot, I'll throw you a bone and walk with you. She even throws that fact in his face again at the end of the note.

That response is like something I'd send at work when I forgot to do a report and wanted to buy time. Nothing specific at all there.

Come to think of it, neither one of them said anything specific. It's a miracle people get together.



Is this really what guys think of women???

[rkmsuf]

Is this really what guys think of women???

basically

[Pumpy Tudors]

Tell her that she's got you going Pretty Ricky on the very sidewalk upon which you two met, and you'll have videos up on YouTube within a day or two.

Just trust me on this one.

[rkmsuf]

She didn't ask one single question about the guy. She could give a shit and is just nice. Probably flattered there's another potentially interested party out there.

[oliegirl]

He didn't ask any questions about her either...

[rkmsuf]

He didn't ask any questions about her either...

True. I alluded to that earlier. Perfect for each other! They can ambiguously date!

[oliegirl]

But that is the reason for a date, to get to know each other...it's not like they have common friends and hang out together. It would have been overwhelming to ask a bunch of questions, especially considering this was done via Facebook...if they were exchanging personal emails, then yeah, but for now, it's just idle chit chat until they have a chance to get to know each other better...which they won't do unless he asks her out.

[Telle]

You got cute flirtatious bantering back. I'd say that's a pretty good sign. Now just keep it going.

[rkmsuf]

But that is the reason for a date, to get to know each other...it's not like they have common friends and hang out together. It would have been overwhelming to ask a bunch of questions, especially considering this was done via Facebook...if they were exchanging personal emails, then yeah, but for now, it's just idle chit chat until they have a chance to get to know each other better...which they won't do unless he asks her out.

"I look forward to sidewalk stalking again"

is very different than "I'm normally going to class around then, look forward to blah, blah, blah."

It's signals, Jerry, signals.

He kicked off and she basically made a fair catch. No return was attempted.

[ISiddiqui]

I agree that the term "sidewalk stalk" sets up alarm bells (well, at least in a dating term). Hope I get to meet you again, that'd be ok. But adding the sidewalk stalk seems to indicate more friendly or her being just wierd (thinking that someone is being stalkeresque because they are walking behind someone at a steady pace is very strange).

[oliegirl]

You got cute flirtatious bantering back. I'd say that's a pretty good sign. Now just keep it going.

Like I said, the women of FOFC should get paid for our advice...

:D

[ThunderingHERD]

Inner monologue while reading this thread:

Is this an Izulde parody?

Ha! This guy's good!

Classic!

Wait... he's serious.

(reassesses post)


I'm not one to normally care what girls think of me

Not true, unless that's short for "I'm not one to normally care what girls think of me, because I assume I never had a shot with them in the first place."

my ex, who is thinking she is bi, broke up with a boyfriend to start spending more time with me, and asked for a key to my house again

Nice. That's textbook insecure guy ex-girlfriend behavior.

the whole asking her for number, it was 7:30 this morning and I was on my way to a tax accounting test so I just wasn't thinking clearly or else that would've been a good idea.

As far as shifts go- she is a reporter for a local news station, so no shift work and popping by the tv station might seem a little strange.

So we've got a cute, ambitious young TV newsgirl type and a college student with questionable lady skills in a chance meeting that lasts a matter of minutes. This is gonna end well.

So nice to meet you and I hope we get to sidewalk stalk each other again soon.

This girl has a good doormat detector.

[rkmsuf]

I agree that the term "sidewalk stalk" sets up alarm bells (well, at least in a dating term). Hope I get to meet you again, that'd be ok. But adding the sidewalk stalk seems to indicate more friendly or her being just wierd (thinking that someone is being stalkeresque because they are walking behind someone at a steady pace is very strange).

It's narcissisic. He should have been like "Stalking? Yeah right."

Now he has no hand at all.

[M GO BLUE!!!]

Is this really what guys think of women???

yup

[Logan]

Like I said, the women of FOFC should get paid for our advice...

:D

Perfect example, apparently, of how men see things differently than women. I didn't pick up even a bit of flirting in her response, which is why I said it was too friendly.

The "sidewalk stalk" could have been the beginning of it, because it is kind of a cute response, and maybe if she followed it up with a simple " :) " (seriously) that would have made me feel better about his chances and that she was being a little flirty. Otherwise, the whole "so nice to meet you" came across purely as a "you're a nice guy, see you around...somewhere" type thing.

She also didn't leave him with even a sliver of an opening to respond to her message. There was no piece he can jump on to follow up...the conversation is over at this point. That's why in my original response I said hopefully that some messages back and forth would allow him the opportunity to develop some sort of conversation where he could eventually ask her to meet up at some point. His only shot now is to come right out and ask, or hope to bump into her again at which time he can do it.

Hopefully she's just more on the conservative side and he has a shot. The "I asked the guys on FOFC if I should message her on Facebook" would be a great wedding story.

[M GO BLUE!!!]

You are nuts. All of you...I think all the women of FOFC should start charging for our life and love advice, God knows they can't count on you guys for anything worthwhile...

Seriously, ask her out. If she's involved with someone then she would have either not answered so quickly, your friend would have told you, or she wouldn't have mentioned seeing you again...

Besides, what do you have to lose? Seize the day!!!! :D

He's lucky she didn't turn and spray him with mace.

If I smile at a woman, she usually tends to shoot me a look that says "If you even think of speaking to me I'll mace you then scratch your eyes out you fucking pervert!" They then roll their eyes and look away.

[Izulde]

FWIW, my interpretation of "sidewalk stalk" is a cute inside joke in the context of this situation.

You can't pop it out the park if you don't swing the bat.

[MikeVic]

The "sidewalk stalk" could have been the beginning of it, because it is kind of a cute response, and maybe if she followed it up with a simple " :) " (seriously) that would have made me feel better about his chances and that she was being a little flirty. Otherwise, the whole "so nice to meet you" came across purely as a "you're a nice guy, see you around...somewhere" type thing.

That's what I said above. :) An emoticon goes a long way.

[rkmsuf]

Perfect example, apparently, of how men see things differently than women. I didn't pick up even a bit of flirting in her response, which is why I said it was too friendly.

The "sidewalk stalk" could have been the beginning of it, because it is kind of a cute response, and maybe if she followed it up with a simple " :) " (seriously) that would have made me feel better about his chances and that she was being a little flirty. Otherwise, the whole "so nice to meet you" came across purely as a "you're a nice guy, see you around...somewhere" type thing.

She also didn't leave him with even a sliver of an opening to respond to her message. There was no piece he can jump on to follow up...the conversation is over at this point. That's why in my original response I said hopefully that some messages back and forth would allow him the opportunity to develop some sort of conversation where he could eventually ask her to meet up at some point. His only shot now is to come right out and ask, or hope to bump into her again at which time he can do it.

Hopefully she's just more on the conservative side and he has a shot. The "I asked the guys on FOFC if I should message her on Facebook" would be a great wedding story.

You are wise.

But per the original account, no way a "conservative" girl stops to go back to a guy walking behind her and makes a "joke" about stalking.

Dude needs to go all in and go for a date. Otherwise it's a circle jerk email fest.

[oliegirl]

FWIW, my interpretation of "sidewalk stalk" is a cute inside joke in the context of this situation.

You can't pop it out the park if you don't swing the bat.


That's the point I've been trying to make...

This is scary, Izulde and I are thinking alike! :eek:

[rkmsuf]

That's the point I've been trying to make...

This is scary, Izulde and I are thinking alike! :eek:

least shocking revelation ever

[Logan]

You are wise.

But per the original account, no way a "conservative" girl stops to go back to a guy walking behind her and makes a "joke" about stalking.

Dude needs to go all in and go for a date. Otherwise it's a circle jerk email fest.

It's scary how comfortable I feel breaking down stuff like flirting with girls online. I almost feel cocky and funny.

Nevertheless, your point is valid. Only other option is she stopped to allow him to catch up with her, and then she saw/heard something she didn't like and pulled an audible.

Doug, don't let her point out how much she likes your watch. Her "boyfriend" might have the same one.

[sabotai]

That's the point I've been trying to make...

This is scary, Izulde and I are thinking alike! :eek:

You are talking to a guy who works at Victoria Secret and loves to talk about scents. Is it scary anymore?

And btw, I agree with olie and Telle. She may have not given him anything to followup on, but that's the test women give to men, to see if they will take the initiative. No girl wants a guy who needs to be given wide open doors before he'll walk through them. If she wasn't interested, she would have given a very short, very bland reply.

[Doug5984]

Well I hadn't been back to this thread since the post of her reply, been to busy playing halo. I sent her another message asking if she would be on the news tonight...just to see if it'd be a short closed response or something more open, friendly so forth. It was the friendly kind.

I took the stalkerish comment to be funny, in context because thats what she said when she stopped and turned around was "now you don't have to creepily follow me around" (I was a good 20 feet behind her..so it wasn't even close- so I just looked at that as an excuse to start up a conversation).

I don't remember who said it- but the somewhat insecure, questionable lady skills is pretty spot on. More just haven't had to go through the whole meeting of a new girl in a couple years type thing.

All good advice, I can see why people do this now- it's fun to see all the different responses to the same situation.

[Eaglesfan27]

FWIW, my interpretation of "sidewalk stalk" is a cute inside joke in the context of this situation.

You can't pop it out the park if you don't swing the bat.

That was my interpertation of that comment as well.

[MJ4H]

Nice. That's textbook insecure guy ex-girlfriend behavior.


Wait, there's a textbook? Dammit nobody told me. NO WONDER

[Eaglesfan27]

And btw, I agree with olie and Telle. She may have not given him anything to followup on, but that's the test women give to men, to see if they will take the initiative. No girl wants a guy who needs to be given wide open doors before he'll walk through them. If she wasn't interested, she would have given a very short, very bland reply.

I agree with them as well. There is an opening here. I think Doug needs to take a shot. Worst case is it doesn't work and he ends up being embarassed. Best case is well worth that risk.

[wade moore]

I agree with them as well. There is an opening here. I think Doug needs to take a shot. Worst case is it doesn't work and he ends up being embarassed. Best case is well worth that risk.

This seems like a pivotal turn in the "friend or boyfriend" game... Doug has to make a move now or just accept that the best he's gonna get is "friend"...

I agree that this is the opening to say "screw sidewalk stalking, let's go to dinner"...

*sigh*... If I only had the confidence/attitude I have now in HS/College then maybe I would have done the things I so easily tell others to do now...


Anyway - seize the day my friend.

[CamEdwards]

Agreed with those who say you should actively pursue this. And I also agree that using the "forget sidewalk stalking, why don't I just stare at you obsessively over dinner" line might work wonders.

[Eaglesfan27]

*sigh*... If I only had the confidence/attitude I have now in HS/College then maybe I would have done the things I so easily tell others to do now...


Anyway - seize the day my friend.


Same here. Of course, it all worked out well for me in the end :)

[highfiveoh]

I'll chime in with my two cents. I think too much attention is being payed to the replies. How about we focus on the initial event that transpired? How many girls (or guys in a vice versa situation) would even have the cajones to do what she did? If the situation played out exactly as he describes, she's definitely into him or she's EXTREMELY friendly/outgoing. It also tells me that she's "noticed" him before (even though he may not have noticed her).

Go for it.

[wade moore]

Same here. Of course, it all worked out well for me in the end :)

w0rd.

[Doug5984]

I'll chime in with my two cents. I think too much attention is being payed to the replies. How about we focus on the initial event that transpired? How many girls (or guys in a vice versa situation) would even have the cajones to do what she did? If the situation played out exactly as he describes, she's definitely into him or she's EXTREMELY friendly/outgoing. It also tells me that she's "noticed" him before (even though he may not have noticed her).

Go for it.

That was more of my initial reaction, it would take a VERY out going person to stop walking, and start talking to a complete stranger... Especially on campus, there are thousands of people walking around, I never even notice someone behind me. I'm glad someone else noticed that, as I was wondering if maybe I'm just way more reserved and a more outgoing person wouldn't even think it was anything to start talking to someone like that.

I'll let yall know if anything ends up happening.

[MikeVic]

That was more of my initial reaction, it would take a VERY out going person to stop walking, and start talking to a complete stranger... Especially on campus, there are thousands of people walking around, I never even notice someone behind me. I'm glad someone else noticed that, as I was wondering if maybe I'm just way more reserved and a more outgoing person wouldn't even think it was anything to start talking to someone like that.

I'll let yall know if anything ends up happening.

Now that it's been brought up, I kind of agree with it too. And if she is just very friendly and outgoing... then worst case is you've got a new friend. :)

[WSUCougar]

The shenanigans in my situation involve a dwarf from St. Louis
Hey, I'm 6'2", bitch!

[samifan24]

Reply asap and tell her that instead of sidewalking stalking, you'd much rather take her out for a cup of coffee (or a drink, not sure how old you are)...or if there is a good party/concert going on this weekend, ask her to that...she's definitely interested.

She's right. Do it.

[samifan24]

Worst case is it doesn't work and he ends up being embarrassed.

Since he sent the message on Facebook to her, who else would know? Yeah, she might tell a few friends if she thought the whole thing was creepy but I can't see it turning into something really embarrassing since he did it on Facebook.

[thealmighty]

Dear college female type,

What better, sidewalk stalkers or sticking it in Ur Pooper?

[RendeR]

She doesn't care if she sees him again. classic tease. I'm hot, I'll throw you a bone and walk with you. She even throws that fact in his face again at the end of the note.

That response is like something I'd send at work when I forgot to do a report and wanted to buy time. Nothing specific at all there.

Come to think of it, neither one of them said anything specific. It's a miracle people get together.



Bitter much?

[Jim G.]

Sounds like you're in the friend zone. She made up her mind within two minutes of joining you for the walk this morning.

Plus, she misspelled embarrassing. Not a good sign. People spell-check when they're worried about making a first impression online.

If I'm wrong, Kori will soon ask you questions on her behalf. Otherwise, I'd just forget about it.

[CraigSca]

I would ask for 3 managerial references and then follow-up with a 3-5 day background check.

[st.cronin]

I believe if this girl came up to Dougy and said "would you like to have sex with me?" he'd get confused. The way he has described this there is almost no way for him to screw it up.

Of course, I know nothing about women. Just my $.02 from reading this.

[Neon_Chaos]

You have chosen... POORLY.

:)

[Pumpy Tudors]

Would any of you like to have sex with me?

[MikeVic]

I believe if this girl came up to Dougy and said "would you like to have sex with me?" he'd get confused. The way he has described this there is almost no way for him to screw it up.

Of course, I know nothing about women. Just my $.02 from reading this.

I sure would be confused if some shick just came up to me and ask if I wanted to have sex... I'd say yes of course, but I'd be wondering what strings are attached.

[I. J. Reilly]

I sure would be confused if some shick just came up to me and ask if I wanted to have sex... I'd say yes of course, but I'd be wondering what strings are attached.

If some chick just walked up to me in a bar and said, “Let’s have sex” that would totally freak me out. Of course I would do it. But you can bet I would have on three condoms, a respirator, a scuba mask, lacrosse gloves, and hip waders. You can never be too careful these days.

[JeeberD]

This thread needs to discuss the bisexual ex more and also..........pics plz k thx.

I've seen pics of Doug's ex (thank god for MySpace! ;) ) and she was WAY out of his league. So the kid must have some game... :)

Go for it, bud. Don't wait too long to ask her out or you WILL get stuck in the friend zone.

[oliegirl]

If some chick just walked up to me in a bar and said, “Let’s have sex” that would totally freak me out. Of course I would do it. But you can bet I would have on three condoms, a respirator, a scuba mask, lacrosse gloves, and hip waders. You can never be too careful these days.

Damn, that brings up one seriously hot mental image...can I get a pic of that please? You know, just to hold me over on those long, cold winter nights? ;)

[I. J. Reilly]

Damn, that brings up one seriously hot mental image...can I get a pic of that please? You know, just to hold me over on those long, cold winter nights? ;)

Sorry, no pics, though that was an absolutely surreal Google image search I just went on.

If you get really desperate try typing any combination of those in, there is some … stuff out there.

[Doug5984]

I've seen pics of Doug's ex (thank god for MySpace! ;) ) and she was WAY out of his league. So the kid must have some game... :)

Go for it, bud. Don't wait too long to ask her out or you WILL get stuck in the friend zone.

that's a great reply, thanks jeebs.

I saw her pass bye this morning in her car while I was walking so we have classes at the same time. I have a really busy weekend so I'll try to talk to her monday morning... We'll see how it goes. I'd much rather ask her in person. If i do, her facebook kind of turned me off, some emo in her... And i dont want that during football season with hunting season about to start,

And yeah i think some pics of the ex are in the what do you look like thread

[korme]

dude, doug hit us with the updates!

i am royally pissed i missed this thread. i would have suggested you add her with facebook and atleast wait a day or two before sending a message or asking her out, you don't want to look too into her you know.

so who cares if shes a freaky weird emo girl in her spare time? atleast bang the dashboard confessional out of her.

[Eaglesfan27]

Since he sent the message on Facebook to her, who else would know? Yeah, she might tell a few friends if she thought the whole thing was creepy but I can't see it turning into something really embarrassing since he did it on Facebook.

I was thinking of internal embarassment at being rejected. I agree, the possible pros far outweight the negatives (and I haven't read the rest of the thread beyond this post yet.)

[Doug5984]

Just saw the request for an update- well, soon after all that the ex popped in again and between that and getting my ass kicked in school I really haven't had the time, or care to do anything about it. Now the ex is gone, again, for good (I hope)- so I'm sort of just waiting to see if I see her around campus again soon.

With the Saints winning, hunting season starting up, I just bought a new bow so I've been busy practicing with that, and Accounting classes just being a royal pain- I haven't had much time to think about the lady folk.

If something happens I'll be sure to update this thread, but I'm not really looking for anything until after hunting season- girls always come around right when it starts up and I always choose to stay in town with them (and hook up which is great) instead of going to the camp.

[Doug5984]

Ok well a semi update of sorts:

The ex actually hooked me up with a girl she works with, and we've been dating about a month now... things going good so far...

But back to the original story at hand, I guess I should've made some sort of move? I got a facebook message from her yesterday saying she saw me walking to class on the last day of finals, but I was a little to far ahead for her to catch up, but she would've liked to walk with me- nice way to end the semester and all.

To all those who said go for it- yall were probably right, but I did tell her I would be parking there again next semester and we might see each other (just in case the girl I'm dating now goes crazy on me or something)

[Cringer]

I feel a threesome coming your way. :D

[Doug5984]

I feel a threesome coming your way. :D

If it could be done- I'd be able to die a happy man

[Toddzilla]

In case you haven't heeded my advice...

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