FOFC Chicago NFL Draft Get-Together? [Archive] - Front Office Football Central

Passacaglia

03-05-2008, 09:34 AM

If I recall, we tried to do this last year at CW's place, but it fell through at the last minute. Any interest in trying to get it going again? Maybe we can do it at a public place -- I thought bw3 (why do they call it bw3 anyway?) worked really well for the last get-together. Anyway, I figure the draft is a good time for it, since it's pretty FOF related, and it provides plenty of time for people to chat, or play poker, or whatever, without missing any real action. The draft is April 26-27. What do you guys think?

Lathum

03-05-2008, 11:17 AM

I could be persuaded to possibly make another trip up.

Passacaglia

03-05-2008, 12:05 PM

That'd be awesome if you could make it again!

Neon_Chaos

03-05-2008, 12:09 PM

Apparently, CW-led get-togethers end up with him not showing up.

Or so I'm told.

:)

finketr

03-05-2008, 12:56 PM

Coffee Warlord

03-05-2008, 01:14 PM

Apparently, CW-led get-togethers end up with him not showing up.

Or so I'm told.

:)

Ohhhhh damn.

I only missed ONE that I said I was 100% going to, and that was my own party, thank you. :)

Barkeep49

03-05-2008, 02:24 PM

I could be persuaded to make the trek to the other side of the world (aka the Western Suburbs).

Tasan

03-05-2008, 02:26 PM

We should really get these kinds of things going for several areas. I know we have a large Texas crowd as well.

Barkeep49

03-05-2008, 02:29 PM

We should really get these kinds of things going for several areas. I know we have a large Texas crowd as well.
If that happens it would be neat if we could do it in a place with internet access and then we could perhaps Skype them together and have a virtual connection as well.

cartman

03-05-2008, 02:32 PM

I'd be willing to offer up my place as a Texas meet area. I've got plenty of space, big TV, fast Internet connection, huge ass BBQ grill, and an always stocked beer fridge. And the Salt Lick is right down the road in case we run low on food.

Coffee Warlord

03-05-2008, 02:59 PM

I could be persuaded to make the trek to the other side of the world (aka the Western Suburbs).

To the Piper!

Barkeep49

03-05-2008, 04:04 PM

To the Piper!
Was that where you DT and I met? If so I would suggest the place that we had the NC/Lathum gathering was far superior in terms of being a good place to watch sports while socializing.

Coffee Warlord

03-05-2008, 04:14 PM

Was that where you DT and I met? If so I would suggest the place that we had the NC/Lathum gathering was far superior in terms of being a good place to watch sports while socializing.

Do not blaspheme the Piper. :)

It has 3.5 redeeming values.

1) Close to me.
2) They pour a good pint of Guinness.
3) Me and the staff are friends.
3.5) Due to #3, me and anyone I'm with get a LOT of free booze.

Passacaglia

03-05-2008, 05:12 PM

Apparently, CW-led get-togethers end up with him not showing up.

Or so I'm told.

:)

Luckily, this one's not led by CW. You'll be there, right? :)

Passacaglia

03-05-2008, 05:12 PM

bw3 = buffalo wild wings and weck

you wanted to know.

weck?

Passacaglia

03-05-2008, 05:39 PM

Was that where you DT and I met? If so I would suggest the place that we had the NC/Lathum gathering was far superior in terms of being a good place to watch sports while socializing.

I think this is an important thing to take into consideration. The place where we met NC and Lathum was perfect, I thought, with lots of TVs at good angles. The place where lurker and I met hoops, BK, and AE during the Rose Bowl wasn't as good for that. Since this is the draft, it's not like we need to have several TVs -- just one will do, so we can see when trades and picks are made. Do we want wireless there for any reason? I think Lathum brought his laptop, but couldn't get it to work, so that's something to think about. But I thought it was a good place -- and if Lathum and Mr. Wednesday can make it again, it'll be more convenient for them.

hoopsguy

03-05-2008, 05:49 PM

I'll try to make it out for this (Chicago).

RendeR

03-05-2008, 06:09 PM

weck?

is actually wyck, as in the type of crusty salted roll they serve the beef on, its quite delicious.

RendeR

03-05-2008, 06:10 PM

I wish you guys could do this the weekend of the 13th, I'll be in Chicago for that weekend =(

Ahh well. Gaming tournaments never did fall into good schedules.

Neon_Chaos

03-06-2008, 12:32 AM

Luckily, this one's not led by CW. You'll be there, right? :)

Just as soon as someone springs me a two-way ticket from Manila to Chicago, I'm all game. :)

Izulde

03-06-2008, 02:24 AM

I'd love to do this if I can catch a ride down there.

Passacaglia

03-06-2008, 08:48 AM

I wish you guys could do this the weekend of the 13th, I'll be in Chicago for that weekend =(

Ahh well. Gaming tournaments never did fall into good schedules.

No reason we can't. The draft was just something I threw out there -- we can do it another time, or both.

Coffee Warlord

03-06-2008, 08:52 AM

I wish you guys could do this the weekend of the 13th, I'll be in Chicago for that weekend =(

Ahh well. Gaming tournaments never did fall into good schedules.

Whereabouts and what game?

RendeR

03-06-2008, 08:53 AM

That would be too cool. I'm booked the 11th and 12th with the gaming tournament, but I'm free all day Sunday the 13th.

I'm definitely up for getting together with people! I'll be staying at the Crowne Plaza in rosemont, near the airport.

Farrah Whitworth-Rahn

03-06-2008, 10:10 AM

I'll be in Chicago April 17th - 20th, in the event you'd like to take meeting The She-Rahn into consideration when planning your get together.

:)

RendeR

03-06-2008, 06:00 PM

I'll be in Chicago April 17th - 20th, in the event you'd like to take meeting The She-Rahn into consideration when planning your get together.

:)

Oh man...my office broom closet sexcapade woman will be there a week after I'm gone =(

Color me dissapointed!

Doesn't it suck that Timing is everything??

RendeR

03-06-2008, 06:03 PM

Whereabouts and what game?

Its the Adepticon tournament, Games workshop games (warhammer fantasy, warhammer 40K, lord of the rings) table top war games.

Adepticon.Org

Fridays event starts at 12 and ends sometime in the wee hours of saturday =) the saturday event starts at 7am (good god don't they know we're gaming geeks???) I was going to sign up for the sunday event as well, but its a team event and I don't have a teamate, and on top of that it gives me the day free to meet some peeps!

Passacaglia

03-28-2008, 08:47 AM

Okay, this thread got confusing fast. Any weekend is probably good for me -- lurker will be studying for an exam she's got in May, so the more I'm out of her hair, the better. Meeting some of the out-of-town people coming in would be cool, but I also think the NFL Draft would be fun, too. Anyone in or near here have thoughts (Lathum, you gotta make it over here before moving to Seattle!)?

Lathum

03-28-2008, 08:48 AM

I will try my damndest!

RendeR

04-02-2008, 09:33 AM

Ok folks, I will be in Chicago (crown plaza O'Hare) the 11th-13th. I would love to set a time Friday or Saturday evening to get together with any and all FOFC-ers who cna make it.

So whose around and willing to actually meet?

Barkeep49

04-02-2008, 10:52 AM

Well I'm currently available either night. I'd love to get something together, especially as O'Hare isn't the drive for me that most of our get togethers seem to entail.

Passacaglia

04-02-2008, 10:58 AM

I think I'm available either night, but Saturday might be better for me. If I recall from when I had a seminar there (at least I think it was there), parking is something like $22, and $12 if you have permits, so we should probably see how many permits RendeR can get his hands on (they give one to anyone who stays there, so maybe you can ask around for some), and see if we can get some carpools going.

RendeR

04-02-2008, 01:02 PM

I can always meet you all somewhere else as well, we don't have to come to the hotel. Its going to be swamped there anyway. I'm probably blowing of the gaming tournament for the most part. My army sucks ass =)

I'll keep folks updated as the days get nearer!

JeeberD

04-02-2008, 01:04 PM

We should really get these kinds of things going for several areas. I know we have a large Texas crowd as well.

You would think we would get a good crowd down here, but I've tried several times without much success...

RendeR

04-03-2008, 01:13 PM

We should plan this for someplace other than the hotel, there are 2 conventions going on at once and the parking thing is very limited it seems.

I'm blowing of most of the gaming event anyway to have a last hurrah so to speak with the GF. So we'll be taking in the sights n sounds of Chicago all weekend long.

Anyone whose going to be available for say a saturday afternoon/evening meet up drop me a PM and I'll give you my cell # so we can set stuff up as we get closer to next week =)

Coffee Warlord

04-03-2008, 04:38 PM

I could be tempted to hop the train up on Saturday for a little bit.

Coffee Warlord

04-03-2008, 04:39 PM

You would think we would get a good crowd down here, but I've tried several times without much success...

Just goes to show you. The Chicago FOFC'rs are the best. :)

RendeR

04-04-2008, 11:51 AM

Just goes to show you. The Chicago FOFC'rs are the best. :)

Actually it seems like the Buffalo FOFCers are better ;)

I've got one name so far! We're talking about meeting up at navy Pier sometime Saturday afternoon. Who else wants in on this? Come on people, this is yer chance to see if I really am the angry asshat everyone thinks I am ;)

PM me!

RendeR

04-07-2008, 08:30 PM

BUMP

Bumpin this up so people get the reminder. PM me with phone numbers or some way to get ahold of you if you can meet up on saturday afternoon/evening!!

Barkeep49

04-08-2008, 12:44 PM

Are we meeting up at the hotel then?

PurdueBrad

04-08-2008, 12:47 PM

Haven't been to one of these yet but am now going to try my best to attend one. I can't make this weekend but will be on the lookout for the next.

RendeR

04-08-2008, 01:51 PM

Are we meeting up at the hotel then?

Depends on what you want to do BK. We'll be at the hotel Friday, probably not doing much but relaxing/crashing and enjoying the pool. Saturday we're hitting the field Museum, then trying to meet up downtown with Pass, CW and possibly hoops if he can finangle it =)

If any of you are willing to chaufer us around it'd save me a butt ton in parking fees *laughs* on top of not knowing the city at all. I'm liable to get lost =) I could certainly park somewhere near the museum and then we could ride with someone for the rest of the day.

I'm open to lots of suggestions. Though I'll pass on relying solely on the trains/buses. I've never been good with public transit, but if you can convince me its simple and doesn't waste tons of time I might be willing to give it a shot =)

Coffee Warlord

04-08-2008, 02:07 PM

So, as I noted in my PM.

I'm suggesting tasty beverages and a good dinner. Ruth's Chris if people wanna pony up the cash for a damn fine steak, or there's plenty of other places to go as well.

Maybe a trip to ESPNZone after dinner just for kicks. But as I have to catch a train home, I can't be out in the city too late.

Barkeep49

04-08-2008, 04:30 PM

And as I noted in my PM, I can basically provide a free meal at Morton's for a reasonable amount of people, so if you're in the Chicago area you should really join us...

Neuqua

04-08-2008, 04:44 PM

What time you all getting together? I'm getting off work around 1ish I am hoping and I have plans at night, but could be available during the afternoon-ish time.

RendeR

04-08-2008, 05:11 PM

JeeberD

04-08-2008, 05:15 PM

And as I noted in my PM, I can basically provide a free meal at Morton's for a reasonable amount of people, so if you're in the Chicago area you should really join us...

Damn...that alone is almost worth a trip up there...

Farrah Whitworth-Rahn

04-08-2008, 05:40 PM

And as I noted in my PM, I can basically provide a free meal at Morton's for a reasonable amount of people, so if you're in the Chicago area you should really join us...

Dammit. Why do you guys always do these get togethers the week before I get there!!

:(

Barkeep49

04-08-2008, 05:58 PM

I dunno, but next weekend I'm unavailable which is why I jumped on the Render visit and not yours.

JeeberD

04-08-2008, 06:03 PM

Man...I would MUCH rather jump on Farrah than Ren. Not even a contest...

Farrah Whitworth-Rahn

04-08-2008, 06:05 PM

I demand pixplsthx. Who's going to be the official FOFC get together photographer?

Passacaglia

04-08-2008, 06:32 PM

Its looking like a dinner-time meet up at this point. 6-ish seems to be the prevailing theme in our PM's thus far.

I'm taking Liz to the Field museum in the morning then we're going to get some pictures from the top of the tower after which we'l see what time it is and look to meet up with folks (anyone who wants to hang out during any part of this can meet us sooner too!!) I can phone people when we're headed to Sears Tower and we can meet there, sort of collect pepole as we go =)

OH:::: what time is the last train back out to the airport?? I want to be sure we get back to the hotel =) LOL

The last train to the airport is pretty late. Are you taking a shuttle from the airport to the hotel? That might be a bigger concern. Otherwise, if I remember right, your hotel is closer to the Rosemont stop. But you should check the weather -- someone told me it was supposed to snow this weekend.

RendeR

04-08-2008, 06:45 PM

Yeah, we'l have to decide the best course once we get there and see how the weather is. If it stays cold and windy we may not want to do all that walking =)

We'l know better when we get there Friday. I'll call people and let them know whats what *or get online and post it here as well!!*

Wohoooo!

Farrah: i am very sorry we missed one another y a week darlin' I'd have loved to have met you as wel!!

RendeR

04-08-2008, 06:46 PM

I'm assuming Liz will want to buy some stuff for people too so I may just drive down and park somewhere central *tower?* and walk around the city from that point. Might be worth it to have a straight drive back to the hotel and wheels in the case of bad weather.

RendeR

04-08-2008, 06:47 PM

Double DOLA

I'm bringing my camera, not sure if that makes me official or anything, but I'll have one to take snapshots with =)

weegeebored

04-08-2008, 08:29 PM

I hope that there's going to be another get-together. I have to miss this one as I start my vacation on the 11th and will be leaving town. Of course, I would be the old fart of the group.

Have fun and be safe.

RendeR

04-08-2008, 11:32 PM

Somehow I tihnk *I* will be the old fart of the group but I'll have the youngest date ;)

JeeberD

04-08-2008, 11:40 PM

I'm blowing of most of the gaming event anyway to have a last hurrah so to speak with the GF.

I hope I'm not getting too nosy, but aren't you and Telle married? Or has there been a change in status?

RendeR

04-08-2008, 11:45 PM

No, telle and are quite happily married Jeebs, are you confused? =)

Telle

04-08-2008, 11:49 PM

Wait.. RendeR has a girlfriend??? WTF?? You bastard!! And you KNOW I read this board!!

Telle

04-08-2008, 11:50 PM

JeeberD

04-08-2008, 11:54 PM

'K then...

:confused:

Telle

04-09-2008, 12:03 AM

Oh there's a thread around here somewhere about "have you ever cheated" or something along those lines... go read it. (I'd provide a link.. but, well, I'm too tipsy to look it up.. or too tipsy to care enough to look it up...)

path12

04-09-2008, 12:06 AM

If this was in Seattle I'd be all over it.

RendeR

04-09-2008, 12:13 AM

'K then...

:confused:

Suffice to say that I have a wife and I have a GF (for the time being) my wife and gf are friends and we all get along grandly.

Liz is coming with me on this trip becase of, well a lot of things. Its all good :)

Telle

04-09-2008, 12:15 AM

Suffice to say that I have a wife and I have a GF (for the time being) my wife and gf are friends and we all get along grandly.

Liz is coming with me on this trip becase of, well a lot of things. Its all good :)

While I get stuck at home with the kids.. not that I'm bitter or anything.. :)

eta: I'm typsy.. and officially "totally incapacitated" by depression.. don't mind me :)

JeeberD

04-09-2008, 12:15 AM

My oh my...Ren's living the dream. Good for you, man.

RendeR

04-09-2008, 12:23 AM

It can be a dream, but its generally just really good and a lot more effort :)

Just think about trying to keep more than one woman happy all the time :)

path12

04-09-2008, 12:27 AM

and officially "totally incapacitated" by depression.. don't mind me :)

Mine's unofficial except for the prescription, but hey, I can relate! Haven't had anything to drink tonight though.

Telle

04-09-2008, 12:34 AM

Mine's unofficial except for the prescription, but hey, I can relate! Haven't had anything to drink tonight though.

I'm actually seeing a psychiatrist now.. not a psychologist, actually a freaking psychiatrist. I finally realized that I had been dealing with depression since grade school.. dawned on me that perhaps this means that the problem is, I dunno, CHRONIC? And so I made an appointment with my primary care physician and told her to refer me to a psychiatrist. And she identified that I'm one of those "lucky" individuals that doesn't respond well to anti-depressants. Go me! So now I've been taken out of work while she uses me as a guinea pig and hopes we stumble upon something that helps.

I probably shouldn't have said all this on a message board.. especially one frequented by a psychiatrist.. but hell, I'm drinking :)

path12

04-09-2008, 12:51 AM

I'm actually seeing a psychiatrist now.. not a psychologist, actually a freaking psychiatrist.

Fifteen years of therapy for me, and I still get fairly regular depression episodes when not on meds. The funny thing is that talk therapy doesn't really work for me anymore because I have a pretty good grasp of my problems, so my appts are mainly for prescription maintenance. I usually change meds after a few years because the efficacy lessens (or I decide that I don't want to be on them anymore and stop -- antidepressants are weird things), and it's hard to find the right replacement/dosage.

Sometimes playing werewolf helps. ;)

Telle

04-09-2008, 12:59 AM

Fifteen years of therapy for me, and I still get fairly regular depression episodes when not on meds. The funny thing is that talk therapy doesn't really work for me anymore because I have a pretty good grasp of my problems, so my appts are mainly for prescription maintenance. I usually change meds after a few years because the efficacy lessens (or I decide that I don't want to be on them anymore and stop -- antidepressants are weird things), and it's hard to find the right replacement/dosage.

Sometimes playing werewolf helps. ;)

My previous therapist was a total waist of time and money. The one I saw this week was pretty good.. but I might switch due to insurance issues (gotta talk to the psychiatrist about it). And yeah, I understand stopping.. you either decide "I'm all better now, I don't need these" or "these aren't doing jack shit for me so why should I bother?". But right now I'm working on slowly stepping off an anti-depressant (Effexor XR) and moving to a mood stabilizer (Lamictal). And I quit playing werewolf because I couldn't handle the stress of that while dealing with my toddlers... actually, I stopped playing after having a fight with RendeR that was related to werewolf.. but I did feel guilty about ignoring the kids and letting them play while trying to catch up with werewolf around deadline time.

Neon_Chaos

04-09-2008, 02:14 AM

Depression doesn't exist in the third world.

:)

Telle

04-09-2008, 02:28 AM

Depression doesn't exist in the third world.

:)

That's because the people afflicted with such things die of disease or starvation before they recognize said affliction.

That's not very helpful for those of who do not live in the third world.. and/or who are interested in someday getting back into playing werewolf :)

Neon_Chaos

04-09-2008, 03:21 AM

That's because the people afflicted with such things die of disease or starvation before they recognize said affliction.

That's not very helpful for those of who do not live in the third world.. and/or who are interested in someday getting back into playing werewolf :)

Actually... it's more of a "shit can't get any much worse than the way things are right now, might as well be happy with what we have" vibe. :)

Farrah Whitworth-Rahn

04-09-2008, 10:46 AM

My oh my...Ren's living the dream. Good for you, man.

Just introduce me to your wife Jeebs, and all that could be yours too. ;)

Farrah Whitworth-Rahn

04-09-2008, 10:53 AM

Dola - Sorry I'm going to miss you guys. I hope y'all have a good time.

Lathum

04-09-2008, 11:36 AM

If this was in Seattle I'd be all over it.

I'll be up there soon and expect a guided tour!

path12

04-09-2008, 12:58 PM

I'll be up there soon and expect a guided tour!

It's all about the bar hoppin.

weegeebored

04-09-2008, 02:31 PM

Somehow I tihnk *I* will be the old fart of the group but I'll have the youngest date ;)You're probably wrong about the old fart part, but +1 to the youngest date part. :)

RendeR

04-09-2008, 03:14 PM

barring Barkeep being 40+ years old I will indeed be the elder statesman of the trip =)

But I'll still have the youngest date ;)

Passacaglia

04-09-2008, 03:18 PM

Well, Barkeep was born in 49, so that makes him 58 or 59, depending on his birthday.

weegeebored

04-09-2008, 03:21 PM

Ok, Barkeep wins. Me born in '56. Hopefully I'll be able to make it next time around.

Passacaglia

04-09-2008, 03:23 PM

Ok, Barkeep wins. Me born in '56. Hopefully I'll be able to make it next time around.

Nah, I was just kidding -- I don't know how old he is, but he looks a lot younger than that, thus the joke. Bleh.

RendeR

04-09-2008, 03:41 PM

*laughs*

Barkeep49

04-09-2008, 03:59 PM

Yeah I'm a whipper snapper. I'm definitely younger than Pass and CW.

Passacaglia

04-09-2008, 04:06 PM

Oh now you've hit the vanity bug, and you're making me wonder if you figured that out just by looking at me, or from the forum info. :p

path12

04-09-2008, 04:38 PM

Yer all a buncha punks. Well, except for weegee. That dude's OLD. ;)

Coffee Warlord

04-09-2008, 04:40 PM

Get off my lawn.

Barkeep49

04-09-2008, 04:47 PM

Oh now you've hit the vanity bug, and you're making me wonder if you figured that out just by looking at me, or from the forum info. :p
It's my guess from looking at you.

RendeR

04-09-2008, 05:42 PM

Yer all younger than I am so shaddup ;)

damn kids these days.....

RendeR

04-09-2008, 05:43 PM

well, accept weegee, he IS an old fuck....

weegeebored

04-09-2008, 05:46 PM

Oh, I'm definitely feelin' the luv now.

When I do come out make sure that all of you bring your party shooz.

Damn kids these days...

RendeR

04-09-2008, 05:46 PM

LOL

RendeR

04-10-2008, 08:13 AM

WOOOHOO its thursday!!! I took today off to get ready for the drive. Got some laundry in the wash and in a bit I'm gonno go clean out the car.

I'm really excited. I've needed a break with everything thats going on in our lives right now. Can't wait to hit the road!!!

Neon_Chaos

04-10-2008, 08:16 AM

we need a blow by blow report.

*wish i was there*

RendeR

04-10-2008, 08:28 AM

we need a blow by blow report.

*wish i was there*

Sory man, what the GF and I do is our business, I don't kiss and tell *wink*

weegeebored

04-10-2008, 08:39 AM

Well, a picture is worth a 1000 words...so 100 pictures would be...:confused:...ok u do the math.

And a video on YouTube....priceless.

Coffee Warlord

04-10-2008, 09:17 AM

My current plan is to get into Union around 3-4ish (depending on the metra schedule). Figure I'll just hop a cab and meet up with ya'll wherever you may be.

Subby

04-10-2008, 09:45 AM

That's because the people afflicted with such things die of disease or starvation before they recognize said affliction.

That's not very helpful for those of who do not live in the third world.. and/or who are interested in someday getting back into playing werewolf :)
Maybe if your husband wasn't a digsuting fucking asshole and was at home supporting you and not out with Fucky McPirate it might be going better for you.

Maybe you don't agree.

cuervo72

04-10-2008, 09:47 AM

Just wanted to state that "Fucky McPirate" was my brainchild, lest Subby get complete credit for it.

*shurg*

RendeR

04-10-2008, 09:48 AM

C'mon Subby, tell us what you really feel ;)

RendeR

04-10-2008, 09:48 AM

Just wanted to state that "Fucky McPirate" was my brainchild, lest Subby get complete credit for it.

*shurg*

Et Tu Cuervo?

cuervo72

04-10-2008, 09:48 AM

Props to Subby though for thinking what many of us were thinking.

cuervo72

04-10-2008, 09:52 AM

Et Tu Cuervo?

Call me an old fuddy-duddy, but since becoming a dad cavorting with pirate booty while a clinically depressed wife who may also be on the road to alcoholism is left alone to deal with a couple of kids doesn't seem like such a good idea as it once might have.

RedKingGold

04-10-2008, 09:53 AM

I smell lockdown approaching.

Telle

04-10-2008, 09:57 AM

*sigh* Well that'll teach me to post while tipsy...

I've been dealing with depression my entire life. RendeR has been more than supportive for the over-a-decade that we've been together.. but if he did nothing but take care of me 24/7 he would have burnt out long long ago.

And he's not really leaving me alone with the kids.. I made it clear to him that if he was going away for the weekend he had to make arrangements for me to have help, and he has. He's worked with my family and his to make sure that the kids and I would have support the entire time.

MrIllini

04-10-2008, 09:59 AM

Can I still come to the draft party?

RendeR

04-10-2008, 09:59 AM

Call me an old fuddy-duddy, but since becoming a dad cavorting with pirate booty while a clinically depressed wife who may also be on the road to alcoholism is left alone to deal with a couple of kids doesn't seem like such a good idea as it once might have.

Then please rest assured that depressed is ont on the road to alcoholism (Been there, I watch over that quite strongly) and we have family members lined up and set to take care of the kids and Telle for the entire weekend.

So yes, your idea of things would be a horrible and assholish thing to do.

luckily I'm not doing ti that way.

As for cavorting with pirate booty, its not pirate booty if everyone involved knows and accepts it, now is it? We live a certain lifestyle, its not for everyone and lots of people disagree that it works, but for us, it does. please keep your judgments of our persons to yourself regarding that, thank you =)

Coffee Warlord

04-10-2008, 10:04 AM

Getting back on track before this spirals to insanity.

Which freakin' Morton's? :)

QuikSand

04-10-2008, 10:06 AM

please keep your judgments of our persons to yourself regarding that, thank you =)

When you deliberately whore for attention, you're pretty much obliged to take what you get. I'm sure that's not a problem, right? Lots of people here are (again) talking about you. That was the real goal here, obviously.

RendeR

04-10-2008, 10:07 AM

Oh and I get the Pirate thing now...DOH I had ntirely forgotten I posted the photo of Liz in her costume!!

Sorry bout that =)

RendeR

04-10-2008, 10:09 AM

When you deliberately whore for attention, you're pretty much obliged to take what you get. I'm sure that's not a problem, right? Lots of people here are (again) talking about you. That was the real goal here, obviously.

Ok #1, I was not whoring for attention, I was making a joke. get over yourself.

#2 thank you for reopening the thread, if it was you who did so.

I take the comments I get as give, i have no problem with how people feel about how I live my life, they have everyright to their opinion, they do not however have the right to judge me based on less than ALL the facts, and since they will never have ALL the facts, they shouldn't be jugding me at all, now should they?

have a nice day ;)

cuervo72

04-10-2008, 10:10 AM

Kudos for giving her backup and for keeping an eye out for warning signs then.

As far as judgements go, I am less concerned about the actual moral issues concerning your arrangement as I am for the well-being of your wife and family. I'm not a doctor*, but my guess would be that as part of her depression (and I might have guessed this before this admittal) Telle has dealt with self-esteem issues. Agreeing to a relationship where she allows her husband to have a relationship with a young, thin, attractive female (I still have a hard time - knowing women - thinking that this was mainly her idea) while she accepts the role of "mom" wouldn't seem to help this, though that's just an opinion, one given from a detached viewpoint. And I'm only giving these opinions after this latest bit of information and as the topic has already been broached in a public forum.

* I did satisfy the requirements for a degree in Psychology though!

Telle

04-10-2008, 10:14 AM

Actually, the whole polyamory thing was ENTIRELY my idea. You have no idea how against it he was.

Telle

04-10-2008, 10:15 AM

I take the comments I get as give, i have no problem with how people feel about how I live my life, they have everyright to their opinion, they do not however have the right to judge me based on less than ALL the facts, and since they will never have ALL the facts, they shouldn't be jugding me at all, now should they?

It is human nature to judge.

RendeR

04-10-2008, 10:18 AM

It is human nature to judge.

I know, but that doesn't make it right to do so when less than fully informed on a subject =) I'm judgemental, I know this about myself, but I try to not post such things until I THINK I know enough to not make an ass of myself in public (yes I know, I fail at that sometimes ;) )

cuervo72

04-10-2008, 10:19 AM

Actually, the whole polyamory thing was ENTIRELY my idea. You have no idea how against it he was.

I probably shouldn't go here...but my question (which I don't expect you to answer) would then be if this is because you were looking for gratification outside of the relationship, or if you had some feelings of guilt that you were not providing your spouse with the gratification that he required/deserved, and as a method of making him more happy you proposed that he look for other sources for this gratification (or as some sort of "release" from whatever perceived burden you had put on him by needing his help and support with your depression).

Alan T

04-10-2008, 10:22 AM

Well, a picture is worth a 1000 words...so 100 pictures would be...:confused:...ok u do the math.

And a video on YouTube....priceless.

I don't think I have ever seen you post before, but I'm enjoying it so far!

Telle

04-10-2008, 10:39 AM

I probably shouldn't go here...but my question (which I don't expect you to answer) would then be if this is because you were looking for gratification outside of the relationship, or if you had some feelings of guilt that you were not providing your spouse with the gratification that he required, and as a method of making him more happy you proposed that he look for other sources for this gratification (or as some sort of "release" from whatever perceived burden you had put on him by needing his help and support with your depression).

Ok, I guess I need to delve into the history of all this...

Very early on in my relationship with RendeR, I found myself getting very close to a male friend of mine and falling in love with him. This obviously put a lot of strain on my relationship with RendeR.. eventually leading us to break up while I explored "other options". After some time, I chose to get back together with RendeR.

Then a couple of years later, I found myself getting close with another male friend and falling in love with him! And I was like "What the hell? Is this going to keep happening to me?!" While I was trying to sort through my feelings and what it all meant, I came upon the topic of polyamory. It was like a lightbulb going off. There ARE other people who love more than one person at a time.. and I learned that you DON'T have to choose.. it's actually possible to have a relationship with more than one person at a time! I presented the idea to RendeR.. and he was understandably less than pleased. We talked, and we talked, and we talked some more.. we had numerous crying sessions. And in the end, we decided to give it a try.. taking small baby steps at a time into it, while continuing to talk and talk and talk some more.

And here we are, about six years later I think.. and both very happy with our marriage and with continuing to be polyamorous. And yes there ARE times when my depression is really kicking my butt and stress from our unique relationship adds to it.. but so does the stress of being a mom, the stress of our opposite work schedules, the stress of only having one car, and a million other things. And I've been trying really hard lately to work on identify when there are tangible things that are bothering me and I communicate with RendeR to try and help.

Any more questions? :)

Subby

04-10-2008, 10:39 AM

I apologize for being so judgemental, particularly before all of the information was available to me.

RendeR

04-10-2008, 10:43 AM

I apologize for being so judgemental, particularly before all of the information was available to me.

Thank you Subby.

Lorena

04-10-2008, 06:38 PM

You would think we would get a good crowd down here, but I've tried several times without much success...

Yeah you did and I sorta killed it: http://www.operationsports.com/fofc/showthread.php?t=59147&highlight=rangers

Barkeep49

04-13-2008, 01:15 PM

Well it turned out to be a fairly small group, but I think a good time, and good meal, was had by all.

RendeR

04-14-2008, 01:48 PM

Bk has it right, excellent time had by everyone!!

Morton's is fracking AMAzing, oh my lord the food was out of this universe. Thanks again on that one BK!!!

I have to say, I really HATe big cities, but I think I'm crushing hard on Chicago. The place is clean, its well organized and easy to navigate. There are simply butt-loads of things to do and see.

Friday Liz and I hopped the Blue line into the city at 4pm, spent hours simply wandering downtown from store to store (that Macy's simply rocks the world) found this really quaint little diner for dinner and the shopped till nearly 9pm and hopped the train back to Rosemont. I can't do that as easily as that here in Buffalo!

Saturday we went downtown again and walked from the train stop to the waterfront park where that huge-mongous fountain is and then turned east and walked to the Field museum. Great time there, though i was underwhelmed by the fantastic creatures exhibit. It was rather poor. 1 star out of 5. The rest of the Museum was outstanding and well worth spending an entire day wandering through.

We went back to the hotel to change for dinner. The weather turned cold so Liz opted for jeans instead of her new dress (damnit) but it was better as it was seriously nasty weather.

met Pass and BK at the train stop and walked to mortons. After cavorting with them we all headed back to our domiciles =)

Really can't say enough how awesome this trip was and its always kewl to be able to put a face and a personality behind the names I see on here =) pass and BK are two outstanding gents, quick with the jokes and full of great insights!!

Can't wait to do it again!

Oh and just FYI::

barkeep is NOT a huggy person ;)

Passacaglia

04-14-2008, 02:18 PM

I had a lot of fun, too! You coming back in two weeks for the draft party, Render? ;)

RendeR

04-14-2008, 03:38 PM

HAH, I wish I coulod man =) this trip tapped my vacation funds for the year though. Gotta put some money into house upgrades and paying down credit cards now =)

Liz is really excited about the warhammer hobby after seeing it this weekend and we're thinking about a week long visit next year when the tournament is on again.

Talk to me in january '09 =)

Was really awesome meeting you !!!! You and BK rock =)

Passacaglia

04-14-2008, 04:05 PM