JediKooter
04-06-2011, 12:39 PM
Sorry, I started typing this in the Random Thoughts thread, but, it started getting a bit wordy, so I started this thread instead. Any thoughts and input are welcome.
So, I almost had to strangle my nephew last night. He doesn't have a dad (his dad was murdered when my nephew was pretty young) and he usually comes to me for advice. He tells me that he is in love with his girlfriend, but, he's having mixed feelings about moving up to northern California. The reason he is moving up north is because he wants to start a wrestling career. Ok fine, he's young, has no kids, so I see nothing wrong with him trying that.
He then tells me he signed a contract with the Oakland Raiders (alarm bells go off in my head). So I try to pry more information out of him and he seemed very reluctant to give me more details. Then he says they've been calling him, but, he hasn't called them back. I finally get the details from him...it's not a contract that he signed, but, more like an offer to try out with no guarantee of making the club. He got it 3 days before the lockout started.
He's hell bent on the wrestling career and says he isn't waiting for the Raiders or the football season and will start his 'wrestling career' in November. I didn't have the heart to tell him that it's more like the Raiders aren't going to wait for him and his wrestling career. After some back and forth about his career and what he wants to do and his girlfriend, I just told him point blank that the correct thing to do would be to pursue any chances that he has of making it onto a NFL team and if that doesn't work out, then pursue the wrestling career and to definitely NOT throw all that away for a girlfriend.
The next problem is his immediate family, his mom and siblings. They are telling him that he needs to stay there by them and to not break up the family. These are people that can not figure out why they just can't seem to catch a break when they do nothing to put themselves into a position to catch any breaks at all. In a nut shell, they are lazy. It's very frustrating to say the least.
My nephew is in his early 20s and very impressionable and very undisciplined and between his girlfriend giving him a hard time and his family giving him a hard time, this has been very stressful for him. All I want him to do is succeed in whatever he does and to be happy. I told him I will do my best to help him find a place up here and help in anyway I can to help him find a job as well. I think I had him set straight before going to bed last night, I'm just worried his girlfriend or family will continue to sow the seeds of doubt in his head.
Anyone ever have to deal with something like this? Not everything I mentioned, but, mostly about his girlfriend and his family holding him back.
So, I almost had to strangle my nephew last night. He doesn't have a dad (his dad was murdered when my nephew was pretty young) and he usually comes to me for advice. He tells me that he is in love with his girlfriend, but, he's having mixed feelings about moving up to northern California. The reason he is moving up north is because he wants to start a wrestling career. Ok fine, he's young, has no kids, so I see nothing wrong with him trying that.
He then tells me he signed a contract with the Oakland Raiders (alarm bells go off in my head). So I try to pry more information out of him and he seemed very reluctant to give me more details. Then he says they've been calling him, but, he hasn't called them back. I finally get the details from him...it's not a contract that he signed, but, more like an offer to try out with no guarantee of making the club. He got it 3 days before the lockout started.
He's hell bent on the wrestling career and says he isn't waiting for the Raiders or the football season and will start his 'wrestling career' in November. I didn't have the heart to tell him that it's more like the Raiders aren't going to wait for him and his wrestling career. After some back and forth about his career and what he wants to do and his girlfriend, I just told him point blank that the correct thing to do would be to pursue any chances that he has of making it onto a NFL team and if that doesn't work out, then pursue the wrestling career and to definitely NOT throw all that away for a girlfriend.
The next problem is his immediate family, his mom and siblings. They are telling him that he needs to stay there by them and to not break up the family. These are people that can not figure out why they just can't seem to catch a break when they do nothing to put themselves into a position to catch any breaks at all. In a nut shell, they are lazy. It's very frustrating to say the least.
My nephew is in his early 20s and very impressionable and very undisciplined and between his girlfriend giving him a hard time and his family giving him a hard time, this has been very stressful for him. All I want him to do is succeed in whatever he does and to be happy. I told him I will do my best to help him find a place up here and help in anyway I can to help him find a job as well. I think I had him set straight before going to bed last night, I'm just worried his girlfriend or family will continue to sow the seeds of doubt in his head.
Anyone ever have to deal with something like this? Not everything I mentioned, but, mostly about his girlfriend and his family holding him back.