Gender-Reveal Parties?

[Galaxy]

When did Gender-Reveal Parties and photoshoots becoming trendy? Also, a gender-reveal party for your 2nd or 3rd child? Pregnancy photo shoots? With all of these parties for everything...including multiple baby showers, I can't keep with the trends. How do people afford all of this stuff (professional photos aren't cheap)?!? I'll go back to being a old geezer masked as a young male.

[stevew]

Got invited to a honeymoon shower the other day. Wtf is that?

[nol]

Just saw this via Facebook from a girl I went to high school with. It's one thing to want to keep the gender a secret until later on, but posting teasers about the big gender reveal party for the entire week leading up to it like it's some summer blockbuster? Holy. Shit.

I suppose the nicest thing I could say about the whole ordeal is that at least it didn't look like she was making family members travel for just a gender reveal party since the wedding is later this week.

[stevew]

Thought this was about the Crying Game type event

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[Galaxy]

Got invited to a honeymoon shower the other day. Wtf is that?

Honeymoon shower?!?!? Do you get to take the bride for "honeymoon stimulation?" Do you still get to have the bridal shower as well?

[JonInMiddleGA]

I had to Google that one

According to one wedding site (http://wedding.theknot.com/bridesmaids-mother-of-the-bride/bridal-shower-ideas/articles/the-honeymoon-bridal-shower-theme.aspx), here's the basic about "honeymoon showers"

What it is: A travel-themed bridal shower where guests bring gifts that the couple can enjoy on their honeymoon -- for day and night. Consider going in on a group gift like certificates for massages or gourmet dinners at their honeymoon destination.

Best For: The bride who loves to travel. Or, the couple who is paying for the honeymoon themselves (and could use some extra perks).

Planning Tip: Play up the couple’s chosen honeymoon locale: Use maps of the destination for place mats, serve food indigenous to that region, give passport holders as favors.

Potential Pitfall: When guests hear “honeymoon shower,” some may immediately think of sex toys. Consider calling it a travel shower if you don’t think that’s appropriate for your crowd.

[SackAttack]

When did Gender-Reveal Parties and photoshoots becoming trendy? Also, a gender-reveal party for your 2nd or 3rd child? Pregnancy photo shoots? With all of these parties for everything...including multiple baby showers, I can't keep with the trends. How do people afford all of this stuff (professional photos aren't cheap)?!? I'll go back to being a old geezer masked as a young male.

What it boils down to is the social media generation combined with women who want to be the center of attention.

I know that sounds chauvinistic, but...that's what it amounts to. For some, the bridal shower, wedding day, and baby shower aren't enough. So you get "gender-reveal parties" and "honeymoon showers" and I'm sure there will be others at some point down the road.

I'm not saying all, or even most, women are "like that."

But the proliferation of those events almost certainly boils down to women who enjoy being the center of attention looking for ways to make that happen again. And again.

And again.

[stevew]

Honeymoon shower?!?!? Do you get to take the bride for "honeymoon stimulation?" Do you still get to have the bridal shower as well?

Unfortunately no prima nocta.

For the record, it had some brief explanation on the back wtf it was, but I was left with more questions. It would be easier if they just said, paypal your gifts to this address cause that would be easier to do.

[nol]

What it boils down to is the social media generation combined with women who want to be the center of attention.

I know that sounds chauvinistic, but...that's what it amounts to. For some, the bridal shower, wedding day, and baby shower aren't enough. So you get "gender-reveal parties" and "honeymoon showers" and I'm sure there will be others at some point down the road.

I'm not saying all, or even most, women are "like that."

But the proliferation of those events almost certainly boils down to women who enjoy being the center of attention looking for ways to make that happen again. And again.

And again.

I don't know enough people for it to be a cultural trend, but I feel like this is heading in the opposite direction for males. Instead of a bachelor party being some production with a stripper, bar crawls, etc., just having a weekend of camping or even just hanging out at someone's house is becoming more of the norm.

Although this could just be due to the fact that at my age, an obnoxious attention-seeking female is way more likely to be getting married/starting a family than a similar male.

[Julio Riddols]

"Week of blood" parties are coming soon, women will begin gathering and synchronizing their cycles, then have flow contests. It'll be huge in hip hop circles.

[Izulde]

Don't forget the first moon parties :D

[Lathum]

What it boils down to is the social media generation combined with women who want to be the center of attention.

I know that sounds chauvinistic, but...that's what it amounts to. For some, the bridal shower, wedding day, and baby shower aren't enough. So you get "gender-reveal parties" and "honeymoon showers" and I'm sure there will be others at some point down the road.

I'm not saying all, or even most, women are "like that."

But the proliferation of those events almost certainly boils down to women who enjoy being the center of attention looking for ways to make that happen again. And again.

And again.

I don't think I agree with this.

When we had our first my wife had 3 showers. Her Mom insisted on throwing the big one at home in NJ, then her girlfriends insisted on throwing her one in Seattle, then her work friends insisted on throwing one for the office.

When we had our second her girlfriends insisted on a sprinkle, a smaller shower with small gifts. My wife would only allow that as it was our second.

I know a girl getting married who had 4 showers, none of which she threw or really cared about.

I think it boils down to different groups of people in your life excited about the event and wanting to do thei own special thing for you.

I don't think it's about attention grabbing females at all, at least from what I have seen.

[panerd]

I don't think I agree with this.

When we had our first my wife had 3 showers. Her Mom insisted on throwing the big one at home in NJ, then her girlfriends insisted on throwing her one in Seattle, then her work friends insisted on throwing one for the office.

When we had our second her girlfriends insisted on a sprinkle, a smaller shower with small gifts. My wife would only allow that as it was our second.

I know a girl getting married who had 4 showers, none of which she threw or really cared about.

I think it boils down to different groups of people in your life excited about the event and wanting to do thei own special thing for you.

I don't think it's about attention grabbing females at all, at least from what I have seen.

It seems like what you are saying about your wife is the complete opposite person that the rest of the people are describing having gender reveals, name reveals, honeymoon showers, move in showers... unless you aren't talking about your gender reveal party?

[panerd]

There are at most 4 people who really care (enough to have a party care) about the gender/name of the new baby. Then there are sisters, grandpas, etc who will be excited but not enough to have a party.

I work with a woman and also have a sister-in-law who are the definition of trendy so I catch all these before they come up with me and my wife...

couples shower, couples baby shower, gender reveal, name reveal, half marathons, some sort of ab wrap sales on facebook, watching Breaking Bad starting with the final season and then going around telling everyone how it is the greatest show ever...

Anyways there is nothing necessarily wrong with any of these things. Some groups of friends like a reason to get together and hang out. I just think the expectation of gifts is what might cause some people to notice that the attendance of their apartment warming party was quite a bit larger than their sprinkle for the 3rd kid. (Which was attended by grandma and sister)

[Coffee Warlord]

We had a friend do one of those gender reveal parties. Everyone I spoke to when I said I was being drug to this stupid thing (even my wife acknowledged how ridiculous it was), had the same response: "WTF is a reveal party?"

[Ben E Lou]

We have been invited to one. It was thrown by our neighbors who lived two doors down. Like us, they enjoy throwing parties and having people over. They had three girls and plenty of people were wondering if #4 would be a boy. (It was a girl.) They insisted on no presents, planned great activities for the kids, and had good food for the adults. Overall, it was just a good excuse to get family and friends together to have a good time. Not sure why people would have an issue with that. *shurg*

[Lathum]

It seems like what you are saying about your wife is the complete opposite person that the rest of the people are describing having gender reveals, name reveals, honeymoon showers, move in showers... unless you aren't talking about your gender reveal party?

We never had a gender reveal party. We actually didn't find out the gender of our first.

I am talking about baby showers in general.

I don't agree with the suggestion that women are attention grabbing with all these showers when in a lot of cases they are thrown by family members, close friends, coworkers, etc...and the mom to be goes along with it, begrudgingly at times.

[Lathum]

We have been invited to one. It was thrown by our neighbors who lived two doors down. Like us, they enjoy throwing parties and having people over. They had three girls and plenty of people were wondering if #4 would be a boy. (It was a girl.) They insisted on no presents, planned great activities for the kids, and had good food for the adults. Overall, it was just a good excuse to get family and friends together to have a good time. Not sure why people would have an issue with that. *shurg*

I hink a lot of people assume women throw these with the ulterior motive of getting gifts, when that likely isn't the case in a lot of instances.

[tarcone]

Thought this was about the Crying Game type event

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Me Too!

[sooner333]

It would be kind of hard to get a gift for a gender reveal part anyway, wouldn't it?

I could certainly do without couples showers though.

[timmae]

It took me until post 16 to realize a gender reveal party was for an unborn child and not a tranny deciding on their life choice. Arghhh.

[Eaglesfan27]

We have been invited to one. It was thrown by our neighbors who lived two doors down. Like us, they enjoy throwing parties and having people over. They had three girls and plenty of people were wondering if #4 would be a boy. (It was a girl.) They insisted on no presents, planned great activities for the kids, and had good food for the adults. Overall, it was just a good excuse to get family and friends together to have a good time. Not sure why people would have an issue with that. *shurg*

We went to one thrown by our close friends. It was their first baby and the color of the inside of the cake revealed the gender. Like yours, there were no presents allowed and it was just a fun social gathering. Great food, great music, great company.

[Julio Riddols]

Personally, I feel like the idea of having an excuse to get together is unnecessary. No excuse needed in my book. If we enjoy each others company, we should get together as often as possible anyway. No need to come up with new reasons to do so. "Gender reveal party" just seems like a term some hyper trendy women's magazine comes up with, and maybe that's what rubs people wrong. It's annoying like those Cosmopolitan "37 ways to make your man a monster in the sack" articles.

[Fidatelo]

Me Too!

Me three (or four since Timmae went this route as well).

I actually could somewhat respect our confused version of this party a lot more than what appears to be the reality. You know how most people reveal their baby's gender? They birth the fucking child and send you an email or call you. Or you visit them and they show you. Jesus.

[Kodos]

I'm a boy!

[DaddyTorgo]

It took me until post 16 to realize a gender reveal party was for an unborn child and not a tranny deciding on their life choice. Arghhh.

You're not alone - that actually makes a lot more sense then this thing.

[SackAttack]

I'm a boy!


Don't blame me. I wanted a Kang.

[Ben E Lou]

Bunch of anti-social curmudgeons in this thread. ;)

(Seriously, I can't figure out why people seem to be so bothered by someone else having a good time...)

[Logan]

Personally, I feel like the idea of having an excuse to get together is unnecessary. No excuse needed in my book. If we enjoy each others company, we should get together as often as possible anyway. No need to come up with new reasons to do so. "Gender reveal party" just seems like a term some hyper trendy women's magazine comes up with, and maybe that's what rubs people wrong. It's annoying like those Cosmopolitan "37 ways to make your man a monster in the sack" articles.

I don't think it's quite that easy. People have a lot of shit going on these days, whether it's justified stuff (work, kids, etc) or extremely stupid shit that we waste our time with. I had a buddy who was trying to get a big group of people together a couple weeks back for a dinner/random party at his place (his actual motive was to tell everyone that he and his wife were expecting their first kid, but we didn't know that at the time) and maybe 20% of the people invited showed up. My wife and I were among the 80%...we didn't have any specific reason not to go, but because it was a somewhat random event, we felt like it could be missed and we did something else.

This past weekend, basically the same group of friends ended up near the Jersey shore (no small feat when most live in NYC and need to rent cars/take ferries) for our friends' couples shower. That was a new one to me...first time having one of those despite pretty much all my friends being married, but I think the bride being from the midwest may have had something to do with it. Anyway, the guys especially weren't exactly looking forward to the whole thing but we felt like we should go, we went and had a pretty good time. But if the same couple said "let's get together at this random restaurant in Atlantic Highlands, NJ" it would be them alone there.

[panerd]

Bunch of anti-social curmudgeons in this thread. ;)

(Seriously, I can't figure out why people seem to be so bothered by someone else having a good time...)

I think you are equating your neighbor no gift situation with all gender reveal parties and it seems like most of us commenting on here have been invited to gifts expected gender reveal parties and couple's showers.

[Logan]

Bunch of anti-social curmudgeons in this thread. ;)

(Seriously, I can't figure out why people seem to be so bothered by someone else having a good time...)

Probably because some are operating under the assumptions that the people are throwing these things for selfish reasons like being the center of attention or just as an excuse for gifts. I'm sure some do, but just like pretty much everything else in life, it's not always that way.

I went to one of these gender reveal things and the couple probably spent $1,000 on food and booze, no gifts allowed. The "reveal" was about 5 mins of a 6 hour party.

[panerd]

I don't think it's quite that easy. People have a lot of shit going on these days, whether it's justified stuff (work, kids, etc) or extremely stupid shit that we waste our time with. I had a buddy who was trying to get a big group of people together a couple weeks back for a dinner/random party at his place (his actual motive was to tell everyone that he and his wife were expecting their first kid, but we didn't know that at the time) and maybe 20% of the people invited showed up. My wife and I were among the 80%...we didn't have any specific reason not to go, but because it was a somewhat random event, we felt like it could be missed and we did something else.

This past weekend, basically the same group of friends ended up near the Jersey shore (no small feat when most live in NYC and need to rent cars/take ferries) for our friends' couples shower. That was a new one to me...first time having one of those despite pretty much all my friends being married, but I think the bride being from the midwest may have had something to do with it. Anyway, the guys especially weren't exactly looking forward to the whole thing but we felt like we should go, we went and had a pretty good time. But if the same couple said "let's get together at this random restaurant in Atlantic Highlands, NJ" it would be them alone there.

I get what you are saying but let me throw the ball back in your court. Doesn't not attending the first event create the need for people to do pointless parties like couples showers and gender reveals?

I have a friend who was a big time goof off when we were kids and we were talking at a party last weekend about kids nowadays. And the first part of the conversation was about how we didn't have this or have to do that blah blah blah but then he then went on to justify why he has to sit at every one of his kid's practices because it's different nowadays. It's only different if he chooses to make it different.

[BYU 14]

When these are thrown as a theme just to get people together, I personally think it is pretty cool. We have been to a couple of "off the path" parties recently and in both cases it was no gifts and just hang out and have fun.

You could always just say come over and BBQ, but the added theme is a nice twist.

Now, we do know one couple that have thrown multiple baby shower parties (women only, couples and a third after they found out the gender) expecting gifts for all and even requesting cash on the last one. That was a bit much IMO and we declined the last one.

[korme]

Personally, I feel like the idea of having an excuse to get together is unnecessary. No excuse needed in my book. If we enjoy each others company, we should get together as often as possible anyway. No need to come up with new reasons to do so. "Gender reveal party" just seems like a term some hyper trendy women's magazine comes up with, and maybe that's what rubs people wrong. It's annoying like those Cosmopolitan "37 ways to make your man a monster in the sack" articles.

To play devil's advocate, sometime's it is easier to go see that person if they have an "event" planned, rather than because "it's been a while"

[Lathum]

To play devil's advocate, sometime's it is easier to go see that person if they have an "event" planned, rather than because "it's been a while"

This.

It comes down to prioritizing. With 2 kids, friends, work, etc...our time is limited. If we know something is a planned event we were invited to we make an effort to go and work our schedule AROUND that event, an informal gathering we try and work INTO our schedule. Big difference.

[Logan]

I get what you are saying but let me throw the ball back in your court. Doesn't not attending the first event create the need for people to do pointless parties like couples showers and gender reveals?


I don't think there's a right or wrong way, or one leads to the other being necessary. I was just going back to the original point that was made, similar to what Shorty just said...in theory of course it's great to "just get together" but getting 20 people to "just get together" can be really difficult. "Events" tend to bring people together.

[Ben E Lou]

I think you are equating your neighbor no gift situation with all gender reveal parties and it seems like most of us commenting on here have been invited to gifts expected gender reveal parties and couple's showers.I haven't seen anyone mention that they've been invited to a "gifts expected" gender reveal party. In fact, my observation is that the people mocking/complaining against it the hardest made no indication that they've ever been invited to one. I'm sticking with "anti-social curmudgeons." :p

[Fidatelo]

I haven't seen anyone mention that they've been invited to a "gifts expected" gender reveal party. In fact, my observation is that the people mocking/complaining against it the hardest made no indication that they've ever been invited to one. I'm sticking with "anti-social curmudgeons." :p

I'm not anti-social, I just think it's a stupid idea. I'd rather get invited to a Hawaiian shirt party or some other ridiculous theme than a 'gender reveal'. Here's a tip to people: get over yourselves. I care as much about the gender of someone's unborn child as I do about what socks they have on. Gifts or no gifts, a gender reveal is still a 'look at me' or 'talk about me' event. It's asking for more attention, as though pregnant women somehow lack attention.

[ISiddiqui]

(Seriously, I can't figure out why people seem to be so bothered by someone else having a good time...)

Is this your first time on the internet? ;)

[Logan]

I'm not anti-social, I just think it's a stupid idea. I'd rather get invited to a Hawaiian shirt party or some other ridiculous theme than a 'gender reveal'. Here's a tip to people: get over yourselves. I care as much about the gender of someone's unborn child as I do about what socks they have on. Gifts or no gifts, a gender reveal is still a 'look at me' or 'talk about me' event. It's asking for more attention, as though pregnant women somehow lack attention.

You should move to a warmer climate.

[Ben E Lou]

Is this your first time on the internet? ;):D

[Fidatelo]

You should move to a warmer climate.

I really can't argue this :)

[ColtCrazy]

Another one who thought this was some sort of strange party where everyone dressed in body suits and then stripped to reveal their gender.

I haven't had coffee yet.

Another trend I'm seeing is a double wedding. One of our tutors in our building met a guy online that was stationed in Korea. So she ends up flying out to see him and having a quickie wedding (this girl isn't quite all there). When she gets back she then decides she wants another wedding here with everyone involved (and the other tutors say to get free stuff and attention), so there's this whole build up of "We know you are already married but we are going to get excited about this pseudo-wedding". This isn't the first time I've heard of this.

I think the next trend will be a drop your kids off at the pool party.

[cuervo72]

Probably because some are operating under the assumptions that the people are throwing these things for selfish reasons like being the center of attention

Yes. I think of people like this lady.

The home water birth of our Rainbow Baby on July 17, 2013 - YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEE1t-26Z3Q)

Stumbled across her as part of some breastfeeding in public outrage (which was likely another way for her to gain attention). Somehow got youtube followers, then apparently strung them along on the sex of the baby and then the name.

[Galaxy]

I haven't had coffee yet.

Another trend I'm seeing is a double wedding. One of our tutors in our building met a guy online that was stationed in Korea. So she ends up flying out to see him and having a quickie wedding (this girl isn't quite all there). When she gets back she then decides she wants another wedding here with everyone involved (and the other tutors say to get free stuff and attention), so there's this whole build up of "We know you are already married but we are going to get excited about this pseudo-wedding". This isn't the first time I've heard of this.

I think the next trend will be a drop your kids off at the pool party.

I have seen gender-reveal photo shoots, along with "I'm Pregnant" photo shoots. The thing that I find strange about weddings is how insanely large wedding parties are these days. I counted, and my SIL had 9 (it might be more, I'm honestly trying to remember everyone I possibly can) people for each side.

[revrew]

It took me until post 16 to realize a gender reveal party was for an unborn child and not a tranny deciding on their life choice. Arghhh.

+1

[Honolulu_Blue]

Another trend I'm seeing is a double wedding. One of our tutors in our building met a guy online that was stationed in Korea. So she ends up flying out to see him and having a quickie wedding (this girl isn't quite all there). When she gets back she then decides she wants another wedding here with everyone involved (and the other tutors say to get free stuff and attention), so there's this whole build up of "We know you are already married but we are going to get excited about this pseudo-wedding". This isn't the first time I've heard of this.

I think the next trend will be a drop your kids off at the pool party.

I had a "double wedding" of sorts.

Me and my wife got married in Brussels, where we were living at the time. We wanted to get married before moving back to the states for various reasons. Neither of us, however, wanted to invite a ton of people from the U.S. to come to the European wedding, because that shit ain't cheap. It'd cost a lot of money for people to fly over to Europe, get a hotel, stay a few nights, etc.

So, we ended up having a "ring ceremony" when we moved back to the states about 9 months later. We had all of our U.S. friends and family there. It was pretty relaxed. We did it all in my folks' backyard. My brother was the "master of ceremonies" for the event. We exchanged rings, had dinner and just sort of hung around.

It worked out well. We had the main wedding in Europe with our friends there and immediate family, which was great, and the second ceremony allowed us to share the same type of sentiment, though much less fancy, with everyone else.

A win-win.

As for gender reveal parties. A friend of mine went to one. The mother-to-be really, really, REALLY wanted a girl. She cut into the cake and it was blue inside. It was a boy. She put the knife down, burst into tears, ran to her bedroom, slammed the door and proceeded to cry for quite a while.

Note to gender reveal people: Make sure you're okay if it turns out to be either gender, especially the mother-to-be, given the hormones and all.

[Logan]

I had a double wedding too, but the first was for pure legal reasons. We got married in Mexico, and if you want to get legally married there, you need to be in the country for a certain number of days before, get blood tests, etc. So a lot of people end up getting married at City Hall before or after. A week before we went down, we had a ceremony in my wife's grandparents apartment. They are 90+ and couldn't make the trip, so it was the two of us, the two of them, one friend of mine as a witness (couldn't be anyone related) and a rabbi. It was really nice and personal, and it was great to have them involved.

[molson]

As for gender reveal parties. A friend of mine went to one. The mother-to-be really, really, REALLY wanted a girl. She cut into the cake and it was blue inside. It was a boy. She put the knife down, burst into tears, ran to her bedroom, slammed the door and proceeded to cry for quite a while.

That's hilarious and depressing. And also fascinating - I wonder how the guests segued from that display into eating the cake. I imagine one guy just breaking the ice and diving in.

[Galaxy]

As for gender reveal parties. A friend of mine went to one. The mother-to-be really, really, REALLY wanted a girl. She cut into the cake and it was blue inside. It was a boy. She put the knife down, burst into tears, ran to her bedroom, slammed the door and proceeded to cry for quite a while.

Note to gender reveal people: Make sure you're okay if it turns out to be either gender, especially the mother-to-be, given the hormones and all.

That boy is going to love hearing that story when he's older.

I would of thought that parents who know the gender before the party and reveal to the rest of the guests...but I guess they can surprise themselves somehow.

My favorite is when my good friends had their first child, but decided to wait until the birth before knowing the gender (which I love). It's assuming how people I shared that couldn't understand why they would do that.

[nol]

I haven't seen anyone mention that they've been invited to a "gifts expected" gender reveal party. In fact, my observation is that the people mocking/complaining against it the hardest made no indication that they've ever been invited to one. I'm sticking with "anti-social curmudgeons." :p

I'm all for throwing parties and inviting close friends/family. It was just the constant "__ days until the reveal! It's gonna be soo hard to keep it a secret until then!" posts on social media that could not be classified as anything other than obnoxious and attention-seeking.

[DaddyTorgo]

As for gender reveal parties. A friend of mine went to one. The mother-to-be really, really, REALLY wanted a girl. She cut into the cake and it was blue inside. It was a boy. She put the knife down, burst into tears, ran to her bedroom, slammed the door and proceeded to cry for quite a while.

Note to gender reveal people: Make sure you're okay if it turns out to be either gender, especially the mother-to-be, given the hormones and all.

That's actually really kinda funny. I think if I was there I would have either laughed or been like "that ungrateful bitch...at least she's having a healthy baby."

So the idea of these is that the parents don't even know and they surprise themselves in front of all their friends/family?

[NobodyHere]

This thread isn't for saldana?

[Logan]

That's actually really kinda funny. I think if I was there I would have either laughed or been like "that ungrateful bitch...at least she's having a healthy baby."

So the idea of these is that the parents don't even know and they surprise themselves in front of all their friends/family?

Again, I'm sure it can go both ways, but I've seen it where the point is to reveal it to the friends and family (or a future brother/sister), but the parents know. Otherwise, I guess you're having your doctor write down the gender on a piece of paper, seal it, and give it to a bakery? Seems like overkill but again, to each their own.

[sterlingice]

This thread isn't for saldana?

I don't know why half of us didn't think of this joke sooner. Good show

SI

[Logan]

I don't know why half of us didn't think of this joke sooner. Good show

SI

+1. Nicely done.

[Galaxy]

Again, I'm sure it can go both ways, but I've seen it where the point is to reveal it to the friends and family (or a future brother/sister), but the parents know. Otherwise, I guess you're having your doctor write down the gender on a piece of paper, seal it, and give it to a bakery? Seems like overkill but again, to each their own.

These parties can get pretty complicated.

[ISiddiqui]

That boy is going to love hearing that story when he's older.

I would of thought that parents who know the gender before the party and reveal to the rest of the guests...but I guess they can surprise themselves somehow.

My favorite is when my good friends had their first child, but decided to wait until the birth before knowing the gender (which I love). It's assuming how people I shared that couldn't understand why they would do that.

My brother and sister-in-law had a gender reveal cake, but they both already knew the gender (they told me a few weeks before the party), AND it was part of the Wedding Shower, so no extra party just to reveal the gender.

[Ben E Lou]

I would of thought that parents who know the gender before the party and reveal to the rest of the guests...but I guess they can surprise themselves somehow.At the one I attended, they had the doctor's office contact the cake-maker. (I don't know if that's how it's normally done, but in this instance, the hubby was a doctor and the OBGYN was one of his med school buddies.) Inside of the cake was pink. They didn't know until they cut into it.

[Lathum]

That boy is going to love hearing that story when he's older.

I would of thought that parents who know the gender before the party and reveal to the rest of the guests...but I guess they can surprise themselves somehow.

My favorite is when my good friends had their first child, but decided to wait until the birth before knowing the gender (which I love). It's assuming how people I shared that couldn't understand why they would do that.

Typically when you have one of these parties you have the ultra sound tech write the gender and put it in an envelope, then you give that to the baker.

I think it was in pretty poor taste to react that way, if you were that set on a girl you shouldn't habe a moment like that in fromt of everyone.

As for not finding out the sex, my wife and I didn't on our first. It was really cool as he was born to find out at that exact moment.

I guess you could say we had our own private gender reveal party, with lots of blood and placenta instead of cake.

[Galaxy]

As for not finding out the sex, my wife and I didn't on our first. It was really cool as he was born to find out at that exact moment.

I guess you could say we had our own private gender reveal party, with lots of blood and placenta instead of cake.

I think it's cool. Are people going to love their child less once they're born? If so, then there is a bigger problem that needs to be address.

[Lathum]

I think it's cool. Are people going to love their child less once they're born? If so, then there is a bigger problem that needs to be address.

I think people want to find the gender out more for preperation reasons. It can be difficult to find a lot of gender neutral stuff.

[Ben E Lou]

I think people want to find the gender out more for preperation reasons. It can be difficult to find a lot of gender neutral stuff.Yup. My wife was wanting to paint the nursery, buy a significant percentage of the clothes, etc.

[Fidatelo]

My wife and I wanted the surprise at birth but I do understand the practical considerations of finding out early.

Just don't make a fucking party out of it ;)

[Galaxy]

I think people want to find the gender out more for preperation reasons. It can be difficult to find a lot of gender neutral stuff.

I didn't say finding out was a bad thing...just that people reacted very surprised-almost in a "You're not finding out?!? That's stupid" manner.

[Eaglesfan27]

At the one I attended, they had the doctor's office contact the cake-maker. (I don't know if that's how it's normally done, but in this instance, the hubby was a doctor and the OBGYN was one of his med school buddies.) Inside of the cake was pink. They didn't know until they cut into it.

My friends (neither of whom are a doctor) also had their OB's office call the cake maker. No one knew until it was cut and blue inside.

[Autumn]

I don't know why half of us didn't think of this joke sooner. Good show

SI

I was just catching up on this thread and about three posts in started just quickly skimming through, pulse racing, thinking I was going to be the first one to make the joke! Damn.

[sterlingice]

I was just catching up on this thread and about three posts in started just quickly skimming through, pulse racing, thinking I was going to be the first one to make the joke! Damn.

There has be to be a word for that phenomenon because we all know of it

SI

[Lathum]

There has be to be a word for that phenomenon because we all know of it

SI

Getting saldanad.

[Julio Riddols]

At the one I attended, they had the doctor's office contact the cake-maker. (I don't know if that's how it's normally done, but in this instance, the hubby was a doctor and the OBGYN was one of his med school buddies.) Inside of the cake was pink. They didn't know until they cut into it.

See now this is a well thought out and fun way to do it. I like it.

For the record I am not leaning either way on this, I had never heard of it until this thread started. I'm just trying to think of reasons why people might be put off by such a thing. In the end, the conclusion I have come to is that it totally depends on who is throwing the party.

[NobodyHere]

I was just catching up on this thread and about three posts in started just quickly skimming through, pulse racing, thinking I was going to be the first one to make the joke! Damn.

I did hold off on posting the saldana reference. I figured one of the veterans of the board could make a better joke than I did. However after it moved to the second page then I decided that I couldn't wait any longer. If nobody made the reference by now then no one was probably ever going to post the joke.

[Marc Vaughan]

Am I the only person who reading the thread title thought it was about people coming 'out' as being Male / Female ... ?

Instead of 'Honey I'm home' you walk through the door and say 'Honey I'm now a woman' ....

[timmae]

Am I the only person who reading the thread title thought it was about people coming 'out' as being Male / Female ... ?

Instead of 'Honey I'm home' you walk through the door and say 'Honey I'm now a woman' ....

Nope... I like your version of the party much better;)

[stevew]

It's a gender reveal party....a party in my pants

[OldGiants]

Am I the only person who reading the thread title thought it was about people coming 'out' as being Male / Female ... ?

Instead of 'Honey I'm home' you walk through the door and say 'Honey I'm now a woman' ....

"Lucy, I'm home! And call me 'Ethel'"

[sterlingice]

It's a gender reveal party....a party in my pants

"I would like to extend to you an invitation to the pants party."

SI

[panerd]

"I would like to extend to you an invitation to the pants party."

SI

"It's a boy!" :)

[sterlingice]

I was going for an Anchorman quote but these little things can wander off on tangents

SI

[stevew]

I'll show you the whole ench-saldana

(Works slightly better if said out loud)

[cthomer5000]

I was definitely imagining some sort of weird gender-bending masquerade ball when clicking on this thread. So disappointed.

[Subby]

How do people afford all of this stuff (professional photos aren't cheap)?!?
A lot of people make a lot more money than you. That's just how it is. No use getting all bitter about it.

[Marc Vaughan]

How do people afford all of this stuff (professional photos aren't cheap)?!?
Its entirely down to what people find 'important' - some splurge on a brand new car, some do professional photos ....

In the last few months I've found myself GMing a role-playing game my eldest son plays in and have found myself investing in miniatures because of that, entirely down to the individual ;)

[Ben E Lou]

A lot of people make a lot more money than you. That's just how it is. No use getting all bitter about it.You heartless 1%er.

[panerd]

Its entirely down to what people find 'important' - some splurge on a brand new car, some do professional photos ....

In the last few months I've found myself GMing a role-playing game my eldest son plays in and have found myself investing in miniatures because of that, entirely down to the individual ;)

Marc is that you?

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[Galaxy]

Its entirely down to what people find 'important' - some splurge on a brand new car, some do professional photos ....

In the last few months I've found myself GMing a role-playing game my eldest son plays in and have found myself investing in miniatures because of that, entirely down to the individual ;)

Oh, I get it. A bit of hyperbole on my part, just the professional photo shoots aren't cheap. I'm just a frugal bastard. :D

[Young Drachma]

I dunno but they hit Wyoming and remember thinking last year how ridic the concept was to me.

[EagleFan]

My niece sort of did this. She had a baby shower where she revealed the gender at the shower.

With her I think it was all about the attention. She kept posting facebook posts counting down the days until the "reveal" and asking for everyone's predictions.

She ended up with exactly what I told her would happen. A bunch of gender neutral items and she had a girl. Having had two daughters and friends with boys I can admit that there are many more choices for things to get baby girls than baby boys and she missed out on getting those things in the shower.

When she initially said that they were going to reveal at the shower I thought it was going to be a mass reveal and that they would be opening something they got from the doctor and would also be finding out themselves at that time. That would have been kind of a cool thing to share with everyone. When she said they already knew my logical brain started looping. Couldn't get the idea behind that. Then I saw the attention angle and it started to make sense. ;)

[timmae]

There are definitely 2 types at a gender reveal party.. ;)