My "friend" could use some advice

[MrBug708]

Here's the deal. My friend was wondering what he should do so I thought I'd pose the question to the board. He has been with his girlfriend for 3 months. It's rather serious for 3 months and they talk about the future often. Well, school is done for the semester and they live 8 hours away from each other. It seems her best friend back home is an ex boyfriend of her's and they spend a lot of time together. Seems like its 24/7. Well, last week, she confessed to him that they fell asleep together in the same bed. Nothing happens is what she claims and he does believe her. She said she wouldn't do it again. Well, he found out she did it 3 days ago in back to back nights. She didn't come clean about it at first but finally she did and he was pissed that she lied to him. He also found out that her best friend, the guy, confessed that he was still in love with her and it seems she told him that she'd give him another chance if she ever breaks up with my friend. They broke up originally because he was cheating on her. Well, my friend's girlfriend says she loves my friend and all, but he doesn't know what to do.

Any advice? Its only 3 months, but pretty serious. Should he put up with it? Or just cut her loose?

[SirFozzie]

If the girls a liar, then she must be fired.

That's just waiting for trouble

[Neuqua]

Exactly.

She's already lied about it, who knows what she'll do down the road.

3 months isn't THAT long.

[dawgfan]

My advice? If I were your friend, I'd tell the girlfriend in no uncertain terms that she and her ex sleeping together, sex or no sex, is unacceptable. If she can't make a commitment to stay away from that kind of temptation then he should walk away. I wouldn't be an ass about it, but I would make it clear that it will ruin the relationship if she does it again.

I don't think he can tell her not to see the ex - telling your significant others who they can and can't socialize with is asking for trouble - but requesting that she not sleep next to the guy, especially given that he's trying to get back with her is a no-brainer.

If he's really into her, then he shouldn't overreact and leave her without giving her the ultimatum. I can vouch first-hand the temptations that come with ex's.

If she agrees to that without question, then he should continue seeing her, but be alert for any further transgressions. Yeah, he may get burned, but it also may work out. She may be working the ex as a bit of power leverage in the relationship with your friend, but if she really is invested in the relationship with your friend she won't want to risk it by screwing around with the ex.

If she's hesitant to agree in any way, he should take that as a sign and walk away. Again, I wouldn't be an ass about it - it may take breaking off with her to force her to really decide which relationship is more important. The old adage about if you love someone, set them free carries weight here. It may be that she needs to face the reality that she could lose the relationship with your friend to really decide where her priorities are. It could be that if he does walk away, she'll beg his forgiveness and agree to his demands, in which case everything should be hunky dory. If he walks away and she doesn't beg for him back, then the relationship was doomed anyway.

[rexallllsc]

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I think you're going to have to cut her.

I mean, do you honestly want to have to worry about her every time she goes away? Too much hassle, dude.

[JeeberD]

Damn, where's Horns when we need him?

Well, someone had to say it...

[TLK]

Buh-Bye..... see ya' later...... it only gets better.....

TLK

[IMetTrentGreen]

anyone who lives in california shouldn't hve a problem cutting a girl loose. just walk 5 feet in any direction and you will bump into a super model

feelings go away, eventually. find someone you can be happy with. it took me 3 years and 3 heartbreaks later. all that frustration isn't worth it

[stkelly52]

My wife says cut her loose. I would have to agree with her.

If she is going to be spending a lot of time with a guy who is trying to win her back, and one in which she still clearly has some feelings for, he needs to face the fact that he has already lost her. The only question is when. Cut it off now to keep the pain at a minumum.

[ACStrider]

ditto Dawgfan

[JAG]

I'd have to say let her go and move on. She promised she wouldn't fall asleep with the guy again and then does it not once but twice? Trust is an important part of a relationship and I personally would have a hard time trusting her after she broke her word.

[IMetTrentGreen]

and kobe bryant sucks

[Mega]

First of all, your friend should run, not walk, in the other direction as fast as possible. The best case scenerio is that this girl is playing both sides against each other for her own sick amusement. The middlecase is that she is a walking train wreck with a ton of emotional baggage that you don't want to become entangled in. The worst case is that she's "just sleeping" with you, him, the pizza guy, your roommate, and any other warm body she can wrap herself around. In any case, you are probably better of being "just friends" and never seeing each other again.

[condors]

cut her loose

[Bee]

Originally posted by condors
cut her loose

[Easy Mac]

Toss her away. She doesn't respect "your friend" and if they stay together will probably sheat and walk all over him in the future. While they may talk about the future, its obvious she isn't ready for that kind of commitment, or at least with that person.

Before you...errr he, casts her aside, have her come visit. While she's over, have her go down. Take out your penis, and smack her in the face with it over and over. Then bend her over and give her the Dirty Sanchez and Donkey punch her. That'll teach her.

[Samdari]

Wow Bug, tell your "friend" I feel for him. Before meeting the wife, I had a long and distinguished history of women treating me like doodoo.

If she lied about how many nights they "accidentally" slept in the same bed, how much credibility does that give to the statement, "nothing happened." I don't want to seem harsh, and kick your "friend" when he is down, but odds are those nights were not completely innocent.

I will chime in here and say kick her to the curb. I will suggest an alternate course of action though, if you want to give keeping both her and some self respect a shot. You could tell her if she wants to stay with you (DOH!, I mean your friend) all contact with Mr. Ex must cease. No seeing each other, no being in the same room, no phone calls. The conversation will go like this:

Her: "Don't you trust me?"

You: "F*ck No."

Her: Click

Then when you get back to school, find either a good friend (or better a sister) or bitter enemy of hers, and try to get with her. She'll be back in 10 minutes.

[Ksyrup]

Get rid of her. Take it from someone who went through something very similar - she can't just repress her feelings for someone else and only let them come back out "if" her current relationship doesn't work out. They are, and will, always be there. The only thing holding her back from acting on those feelings is her conscience, not her feelings for your "friend." And that's compounded by the fact that the other guy apparently feels the same way.

This is an easy decision, since it's a no-win situation for your "friend."

I don't think she needs to be degraded as Easy Mac suggests - well, no more than she usually likes it. Seriously, though, she's obviously going through a difficult time of reconciling her feelings for the old guy and the new guy. It's best for the "new guy" if he lets her deal with that on her own, and not go along for the ride, because it's bound to be an unpleasant experience.

[oykib]

Ask your 'friend' what he's thinking about. Is this even a question? Does 'he' really want to spend the entire summer worrying about it?

Seriously, if you're so serious that you were talking about the future and then she pulls this shit, what does that tell you about her?

There's an old saying, "Turn 'em upside down and all women are the same."

That, of course, is not true ( as anyone who's ever been in love can attest ).

But if you modify it to, "Turn 'em upside down and all college girls are the same," you are much closer to the mark.

Don't be so serious at your age. The girls that you are meeting sure as hell aren't.

[BFleming]

I agree as well with everyone above saying she must go...The same type thing happened to mea few years ago...Broke my heart like nothing you would ever believe...However, since I basically built my life around this girl, I had a lot of rebuilding to do, and once I did, I realized that life was never better afterwards. Sure, right now it sucks, but in hindsight, it will be for the best for your "friend"...And as far as how to do it, your friend needs to tell her the way it is...May I suggest:

"It doesn't get any more serious than a Rhinocerus about to charge your ass"

Best of luck,
BFleming

[Coffee Warlord]

Axe her.

Now.

[Fritz]

hiney poke her, and then dump her.
------------------------------------------
seriously, the thing that really matters in any relationship is trust. If your friend is comfortable with the level of "trust" then that is one thing, but if the "trust" is not there then he should back out.

[Samdari]

Originally posted by Fritz
the thing that really matters in any relationship is trust.
That, and hiney poking.

[Ksyrup]

hiney poke her...then he should back out.

hehehehehe

[Fritz]

Originally posted by Ksyrup
hiney poke her...then he should back out.

hehehehehe

I know, I'm like Dr. Laura and Andrew Dice Clay's lovechild.

[WussGawd]

Dude,

Trust me, first of all, if she slept in the same bed with him two nights in a row, "something" happened. There may or may not have been penetration <G>, but no girl sleeps in the bed with a guy two days in a row when the guy has feelings for her without giving it up.

As somebody who used to be a magnet for girls like this before I got married back in the late 19th century, my advice to you (or are we going to continue to pretend it's your "friend") :D is simple: Run about as fast as you can away from this girl.

This scenario is at *best* a rebound situation. At worst, she's screwing around on you. If she's doing that now, it ain't going to get any better with time, because you two are still in the new exciting discovery stage. Just imagine what a girl like this would do to you in a year or so when the newness factor wears off.

Stu

[WussGawd]

Originally posted by Fritz
I know, I'm like Dr. Laura and Andrew Dice Clay's lovechild.

Now there's an image I didn't need. Thanks Fritz. :p

[moriarty]

I'd sleep in the same bed as her best female friend (assuming she's cute) ... let her stew on that for a while and then dump her.

Oh, and what Fritz said too.

[ctmason]

Pack it in and call it day, m'man.

There is absolutely NOTHING good that can come from this. This whole thread reminded my how painful it was for me when an ex did this exact same thing to me. (We were LD, too)

I dropped her but then took her back like two months later. Worst mistake of my life.

I'm really sorry for "your friend," because I know exactly what it feels like. There are better days ahead.

[Samdari]

Originally posted by ctmason
I dropped her but then took her back like two months later. Worst mistake of my life.
If it makes you feel better, I took her back TWICE.

Worst, and second worst mistakes.

I still don't understand my own thought process taking her back the second time. Did I actually convince myself, "Well, maybe this time she won't sleep around on me."

[GrantDawg]

Originally posted by Samdari
If it makes you feel better, I took her back TWICE.

Worst, and second worst mistakes.

I still don't understand my own thought process taking her back the second time. Did I actually convince myself, "Well, maybe this time she won't sleep around on me."

There are just some women we stay infatuated with, and let way to much go. I had a girl like that when I was younger. She even called me after I was married to try to get me to come back with her (I was preaching by that time, with my daughter on the way, and she really thought I was going to drop everything and come to her "rescue"). Of course by that time the "spell" she had on me was long broken (it stopped the last time she blantantly lied to me and I woke up to the fact she'll never change).

Back on the subject of the thread, break it off before she breaks it off with you.

[Samdari]

Oops, sorry. Thought the subject of the thread was getting f*cked over by women who captivate us (DOH!, our "friends") far more than their quality warrants.

[Swaggs]

3 months isn't worth worrying about.

Tell him to have a fun Summer and forget her. If things heat back up next Fall, so be it.

[cuervo72]

Originally posted by WussGawd
Trust me, first of all, if she slept in the same bed with him two nights in a row, "something" happened. There may or may not have been penetration <G>, but no girl sleeps in the bed with a guy two days in a row when the guy has feelings for her without giving it up.


Yeah, no kidding. How do you just "fall asleep" in the same bed as somebody not once, but multiple times? I mean, how many times has your friend accidentally fallen asleep with a girl?

BTW, I hope she's not a real heavy sleeper.....'cause I'm sure he wasn't sound asleep the whole time.

[bbor]

Door

hit

her

in

the

ass

[Franklinnoble]

Thanks to Fritz, there's no reason for me to post a response to this thread.

But I'm going to anyway.

She's a lying, no-good whore. F*ck her in the cornhole like the slut she is. F*ck her best girlfriend in the same manner, just for good measure. Use a few of these special techniques (http://dynamic2.gamespy.com/~fof/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=8046) just to make the experience more memorable, and to show her how much you care.

Take my advice - a woman like this will f*ck you over repeatedly if given the opportunity, and you're doing the rest of the world a favor by putting her skank ass in its place right quick.

[bbor]

Originally posted by Franklinnoble
Thanks to Fritz, there's no reason for me to post a response to this thread.

But I'm going to anyway.

She's a lying, no-good whore. F*ck her in the cornhole like the slut she is. F*ck her best girlfriend in the same manner, just for good measure. Use a few of these special techniques (http://dynamic2.gamespy.com/~fof/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=8046) just to make the experience more memorable, and to show her how much you care.

Take my advice - a woman like this will f*ck you over repeatedly if given the opportunity, and you're doing the rest of the world a favor by putting her skank ass in its place right quick.

Damn dude..you are just bitter:)

[Kodos]

Cut her loose! She's big trouble.

[Celeval]

Originally posted by cuervo72
Yeah, no kidding. How do you just "fall asleep" in the same bed as somebody not once, but multiple times? I mean, how many times has your friend accidentally fallen asleep with a girl?


While I agree with the cut her loose bit... I've got to mention that I had a number of platonic female friends in college; more than one of which I spent the night sharing a couch or a bed with nothing more physical than a hug. One of which eventually became my current (almost six years now, if you ignore time in the middle when we broke up) girlfriend. And nothing happened.

Now, mind you, none of them was an ex of mine; but just for the sake of keeping the train on course. ;)

Kevin

[Fidatelo]

Don't break up with her, just start seeing other women. From here the situation will just work itself out naturally. We always like to avoid confrontation, whenever possible. Problem solved from your end.

[Maple Leafs]

Originally posted by WussGawd
... no girl sleeps in the bed with a guy two days in a row when the guy has feelings for her without giving it up.Clearly, you have never been married.

[Ksyrup]

LOL!

[Samdari]

Post of the year Maple Leafs

[GrantDawg]

My wife says this is bull. Kick her to the curb. She just wants to have someone at home and someone at school.

[JAG]

Originally posted by Fidatelo
Don't break up with her, just start seeing other women. From here the situation will just work itself out naturally. We always like to avoid confrontation, whenever possible. Problem solved from your end.

Awesome.

[JAG]

Originally posted by Maple Leafs
Clearly, you have never been married.

Also awesome.

[ScottVib]

As much as it may hurt your friend, let her go.

Wouldn't surprise me if she really wants out, but doesn't want to be the "bad guy". Chances are she'll get back with her ex... go to school, the ex will cheat, and she'll come crawling back, at which point your friend will have the pleasure of telling her to hit the bricks again.

[Noble_Platypus]

Originally posted by ScottVib
As much as it may hurt your friend, let her go.

Wouldn't surprise me if she really wants out, but doesn't want to be the "bad guy". Chances are she'll get back with her ex... go to school, the ex will cheat, and she'll come crawling back, at which point your friend will have the pleasure of telling her to hit the bricks again.


after you hiney poke her, of course.

[Noble_Platypus]

Better yet, see if you cant use this as leverage to get her and one of her friends in a 3some.



Then dump her.

[Fidatelo]

Originally posted by Noble_Platypus
Better yet, see if you cant use this as leverage to get her and one of her friends in a 3some.



Then dump her.

But maybe keep the other chick from the threesome, that's a rare commodity, giving up two would be a mistake :D

[Noble_Platypus]

Agreed



HARRRRR!!!

[sabotai]

Geez, when will people learn? Long distance relationships DO NOT WORK! I don't care if it is just for the summer. They've been together for 3 months. Now they face at least 3 months in a long distance relationship. Her ex has not running competition. He gets to spend 24/7 doing his best to break her down, and your friend can't do a thing about it.

I agree with G-Dawg, she wants someone at home and someone at school. Kick her to the curb.

[sabotai]

dola,

going limp....

[McSweeny]

Originally posted by sabotai
Geez, when will people learn? Long distance relationships DO NOT WORK! I don't care if it is just for the summer. They've been together for 3 months. Now they face at least 3 months in a long distance relationship. Her ex has not running competition. He gets to spend 24/7 doing his best to break her down, and your friend can't do a thing about it.

I agree with G-Dawg, she wants someone at home and someone at school. Kick her to the curb.

well i'll think i'll disagree with you here. My girlfriend lives up in Vermont and is going to be something like 3 and a half hours away for the summer. Granted her ex doesn't play into this at all, but i'm confident that this will work until she goes back to school in late august(she goes to school near me).


annnnyway

I do agree with everyone else. Cut this chick loose. If you can't trust her it won't work. Simple as that

[BFleming]

Originally posted by sabotai
dola,

going limp....

HARRRRRRRR!!:D

[The Afoci]

I agree with see her once more, cornhole her, then break up with her, then next school year cornhole it again. Repeat every school year until she

a)wants to marry you. (Run)
b)wants to break up with you(Yippie)
c)has a weird thing resembling a child that came from her butt from the cornhole loving.

[WussGawd]

Originally posted by Maple Leafs
Clearly, you have never been married.

I'm assuming this was a somewhat lame attempt at a joke. :)

To quote from the second paragraph:

"As somebody who used to be a magnet for girls like this before I got married back in the late 19th century..."

I've been married for 17 years now. I will stand by my contention in his case:

A guy who has broken up with a girl just three months before, and has confessed still having feelings for her, and then lies in bed with her...trust me, he boffed her. If not the first night, definitely the second (and I'd lay good money on the first, personally).

Frankly, this girl, if she was truly serious about MrBug (or his friend, whichever it is), would have never put herself in this situation if it hadn't been her intention to do a number on him.

[MrBug708]

It isn't me guys, really. My friend does thank you for all the advice

[cuervo72]

Originally posted by WussGawd

Frankly, this girl, if she was truly serious about MrBug (or his friend, whichever it is), would have never put herself in this situation if it hadn't been her intention to do a number one on him.

For whatever reason, this is how I first processed this paragraph.....

[Maple Leafs]

Originally posted by Celeval
I've got to mention that I had a number of platonic female friends in college; more than one of which I spent the night sharing a couch or a bed with nothing more physical than a hug. So what have we learned here? If you try to have platonic friends, you'll wind up blood pressure so screwed up that Peter Jennings ends up interviewing you on the national news.

[WussGawd]

Originally posted by cuervo72
For whatever reason, this is how I first processed this paragraph.....

Well that's probably not far from the truth either, eh?

HARRRRRR!!!!!!!

[WussGawd]

Originally posted by Maple Leafs
So what have we learned here? If you try to have platonic friends, you'll wind up blood pressure so screwed up that Peter Jennings ends up interviewing you on the national news.

Yep, this is my thought as well. Glad I was never like that, but maybe that's just me.

Don't get me wrong, I have a few female coworkers that are nothing but friends, but trust me, if I weren't married, there's a couple of them I'd want to shag in a heartbeat. :)

[MrBug708]

Well, talked to my friend and such. He read a lot of the posts and thoughts and is giving her a week to show that he should even bother with her. He told her he doesn't trust her so it's up for her to really prove to him she loves him

She told him she's been hanging out with the other guy to see if she really loves my friend

[Samdari]

Is it really someone else you are talking about? Well, you fooled us all by putting friends in "quotes" in the subject.

[Franklinnoble]

Originally posted by MrBug708
Well, talked to my friend and such. He read a lot of the posts and thoughts and is giving her a week to show that he should even bother with her. He told her he doesn't trust her so it's up for her to really prove to him she loves him

She told him she's been hanging out with the other guy to see if she really loves my friend

It is now safe to say that your friend is a pathetically pussy-whipped douchebag. Was he a virgin before he banged this chick? She's going to f*ck him over. Repeatedly. End of story.

[MrBug708]

That was the idea Samdari. But it is a friend, not me. Hell, I don't even have a girlfriend. Its Easy Mac's kleenex for me

[sabotai]

"well i'll think i'll disagree with you here. My girlfriend lives up in Vermont and is going to be something like 3 and a half hours away for the summer. Granted her ex doesn't play into this at all, but i'm confident that this will work until she goes back to school in late august(she goes to school near me)."

Well, "long distance" is a relative term. I'm not sure I'd say 3 and 1/2 hours away is much of a long distance. At least not for me. But 8 hours to me is. Basically, once or twice a month I wouldn't mind driving 3 and 1/2 hours to hang with my girlfriend (if I had one). But 8 hours....no way.

Also, how long have you been together? A relationship that has last for awhile will survive a temporary long distance relationship than one that started just a few months ago.

And one more thing...

"She told him she's been hanging out with the other guy to see if she really loves my friend"

BULL----SHIT!!! I admit that I do not know your friend that the status of his 3 month relationship, but if people are doing their love tests after just 3 months, it sound more like they are looking for reasons to get out than test their love.

Maybe after a year or two you spend a little time apart to make sure you really love the person you're with. But 3 months? I don't care how serious they think their relationship is, 3 months is way too short of a time to do your love tests.

[klayman]

Originally posted by MrBug708

She told him she's been hanging out with the other guy to see if she really loves my friend

Wow...my girl bullshit detector just broke it was ringing so loud. :)

[JeeberD]

C-lut!

[Frozenrope]

Man....all these games and tests and "prove that you love me" and wait and see and.....who the hell needs that? Especially one you can't bang on a regular basis because of the logistical difficulties.


Start fresh...say to yourself, "It's Over." Take a deep breath, then pick up the phone and dial the girl you work right next to that you've been dying to call. She really wants you to.

:)

[Ksyrup]

Originally posted by sabotai
Well, "long distance" is a relative term. I'm not sure I'd say 3 and 1/2 hours away is much of a long distance. At least not for me. But 8 hours to me is. Basically, once or twice a month I wouldn't mind driving 3 and 1/2 hours to hang with my girlfriend (if I had one). But 8 hours....no way.

Also, how long have you been together? A relationship that has last for awhile will survive a temporary long distance relationship than one that started just a few months ago.

My wife and I dated for 6 years in a long-distance relationship and it worked out well. The only time I saw her for more than a weekend was during the summer and December break between semesters. The first 2 years, we were 4 hours apart, the next 4, we were 7-8 hours apart. It can work. But neither of us were particularly adventurous with others of the opposite sex during our relationship, so we were probably more committed to it than your typical 20-25 year olds are.

[tucker342]

Originally posted by dawgfan
My advice? If I were your friend, I'd tell the girlfriend in no uncertain terms that she and her ex sleeping together, sex or no sex, is unacceptable. If she can't make a commitment to stay away from that kind of temptation then he should walk away. I wouldn't be an ass about it, but I would make it clear that it will ruin the relationship if she does it again.

I don't think he can tell her not to see the ex - telling your significant others who they can and can't socialize with is asking for trouble - but requesting that she not sleep next to the guy, especially given that he's trying to get back with her is a no-brainer.

If he's really into her, then he shouldn't overreact and leave her without giving her the ultimatum. I can vouch first-hand the temptations that come with ex's.

If she agrees to that without question, then he should continue seeing her, but be alert for any further transgressions. Yeah, he may get burned, but it also may work out. She may be working the ex as a bit of power leverage in the relationship with your friend, but if she really is invested in the relationship with your friend she won't want to risk it by screwing around with the ex.

If she's hesitant to agree in any way, he should take that as a sign and walk away. Again, I wouldn't be an ass about it - it may take breaking off with her to force her to really decide which relationship is more important. The old adage about if you love someone, set them free carries weight here. It may be that she needs to face the reality that she could lose the relationship with your friend to really decide where her priorities are. It could be that if he does walk away, she'll beg his forgiveness and agree to his demands, in which case everything should be hunky dory. If he walks away and she doesn't beg for him back, then the relationship was doomed anyway.

Perfect advice dawgfan

[sabotai]

"My wife and I dated for 6 years in a long-distance relationship and it worked out well. The only time I saw her for more than a weekend was during the summer and December break between semesters. The first 2 years, we were 4 hours apart, the next 4, we were 7-8 hours apart. It can work. But neither of us were particularly adventurous with others of the opposite sex during our relationship, so we were probably more committed to it than your typical 20-25 year olds are."

Oh course there are exceptions to every rule. I find that in general, your typical 20-25 year old is too immature or unprepared to handle the stress and work (most namely, the trust factor) that goes into a long distance relationship...

[AgPete]

Originally posted by MrBug708
Here's the deal. My friend was wondering what he should do so I thought I'd pose the question to the board. He has been with his girlfriend for 3 months. It's rather serious for 3 months and they talk about the future often. Well, school is done for the semester and they live 8 hours away from each other. It seems her best friend back home is an ex boyfriend of her's and they spend a lot of time together. Seems like its 24/7. Well, last week, she confessed to him that they fell asleep together in the same bed. Nothing happens is what she claims and he does believe her. She said she wouldn't do it again. Well, he found out she did it 3 days ago in back to back nights. She didn't come clean about it at first but finally she did and he was pissed that she lied to him. He also found out that her best friend, the guy, confessed that he was still in love with her and it seems she told him that she'd give him another chance if she ever breaks up with my friend. They broke up originally because he was cheating on her. Well, my friend's girlfriend says she loves my friend and all, but he doesn't know what to do.

Any advice? Its only 3 months, but pretty serious. Should he put up with it? Or just cut her loose?

Sorry bro but she's probably already sleeping with him. End it now before you get hurt any worse. It sucks, I know, but she needs to grow up and stop playing games. Find a better girl...or better yet... a better woman. Chicks like that will play games until they're blue in the face.

[Maple Leafs]

Did anyone notice that the "other guy" apparently wrote to Anne Landers today?

DEAR ANNIE: I am still in love with my ex-girlfriend, "Alice,' and she states that she is still in love with me. We spend a lot of time together talking, and I am hoping to re-establish our relationship. She claims to want the same thing.

The only problem is, I've turned into her crying wall. Why? Because she is dating another man right now who makes her unhappy. Even though she complains about him constantly, she always returns to him. Alice tells me that 98 percent of her heart wants to be with me, but the other 2 percent wants to be with him.

This is particularly funny when she chooses to spend the night in my bed instead of his. Why is she like this, and what is she trying to pull?

-- La Crosse, Wis.

DEAR LA CROSSE: She's trying to pull your chain, honey, to see how far she can drag you down. Regardless of what Alice tells you about percentages, she wants to be with her boyfriend. If you are looking for a serious relationship, look elsewhere. Alice is stringing you along.

[tucker342]

hmmm interesting...

[strait8]

I have learned that a woman always wants you more when you are moving away from her not hanging on to her.

IF YOU RELLY WANT HER BACK OR EVEN IF YOU DONT DO THIIS

Just say I need some space to sort out the situation. Immediately start to date other girls and do not pine over this one. As soon as you get serious over another girl this bitch will be back. She wants to be with the other guy because he cheated on her and treats her like shit. I guarantee you she F***ed this guy when she slept in his bed. There were no couches in his pad? C'mon

You want her, dump her, date others and she will be back.

This is the classic low self esteem girl. She needs to know that you can get better so she will compete.

Personally I would date others wait till she comes crawling back then F*** her and dump her again. She would like you even better.

This worked for me on more than one occasion.

One word of caution when she comes back and you sleep together wear two raincoats, if she really wants you she'll try to get pregnant.

[Noble_Platypus]

Good advice Strait

[Samdari]

Originally posted by MrBug708
That was the idea Samdari. But it is a friend, not me. Hell, I don't even have a girlfriend. Its Easy Mac's kleenex for me
Trust me, this is cheaper than marriage.

[BFleming]

Originally posted by MrBug708
That was the idea Samdari. But it is a friend, not me. Hell, I don't even have a girlfriend. Its Easy Mac's kleenex for me

Just please use your own kleenex, not Easy Mac's. That would just be disgusting :D

[Canadian Football Guy]

Get out. If she is lying about this stuff after three months there is no reason to believe that it will get any better let alone stop all together. He should go find someone he can trust.