Have you ever cheated on a spouse/long-term other?
 

The discussion in the 'Moment of Truth' thread brought this to my head. I'm happily married for nearly 10 years and I honestly would never cheat on my wife, even if I knew she'd never find out. The guilt for following through on such a selfish act would drive me up a wall.

With that said, over half of all marriages end in divorce. Many of those marriages end because people didn't fully get to know each other and dive into marriage long before their ready. I'm curious. Have you ever cheated on a spouse/significant other? Were you ever found out if you did and do you feel guilty or not?

Nope. Not in a "I'm so much more moral than you guys" sort of way. Just never cheated nor wanted to cheat.

Even when I was single, I didn't really go for the flings and one night stands. As the poll question notes--not my style.

dola--

And come on Mizzou BB Fan, we all know the truth. You are really telling us that, over the past few years, you haven't even been tempted to play a little XBOX 360? Not even once? Not even if Sony never found out?

;)

JimmyWint is in the house

Well, that's another story and a whole lotta therapy. I'm going to steer clear of that. :)

I have never been married but I have cheated on a former girlfriend. It was toward the end of the relationship where we both knew it was over but still hung around for awhile. It wasn't a one night stand more like a whole summer fling but it helped me get over my ex.

One other thing......

After watching the first two seasons of 'Big Love' on HBO and seeing what a pain in the ass it can be to keep more than one woman happy, I'm even less inclined to cheat than before, if that's possible.

What about: "Nope. Never had a good enough offer."?

If I am Bill and I have my choice of Margene, Nikki, and Barb...I am keeping all three. :)

I don't think the answers here will reflect America as a whole. :)

I've been tempted once or twice, but I've never cheated. I just couldn't face my wife after doing that even if I knew I would never be caught.

+1

Here is a better question. Who cheats more men or women?

I would guess women. I think they're better at justifying it in their own minds as being the husband's/boyfriend's fault somehow.

I have never cheated on my wife, but I have cheated off my wife on an exam. It was a prostate exam.

welp

Did you pass?

I passed something, but I'm not exactly sure what it was.

Class :D

There's a class for that test? Dammit

I'd say a combination of this and simply availability.


As to the original question, I've never cheated on anyone, have been cheated on in at least one relationship and I'm 90% sure in another as well but never found out for sure.

I would assume the other way since men seem to be better able to separate the act from the emotion.

I have never cheated nor do I think I ever would. There is a part of me though that wonders what would happen if I got a really good offer...or if I was drunk and got a really good offer. I still don't think that would be enough, but people are fallible...

Edit: I just double-checked with dictionary.com to make sure I spelled 'fallible' right and I see that word is dictionary.com's word of the day. Odd.

Wow, reading this thread really shows me how unique my life is. I can't even really comment on the topic as it doesn't relate. I am simply in an extremely happy minority and will stay that way =)

have had the opportunity but no way at all.

DOLA: and there is no poll selection that fits my response to this, so I didn't vote.

What? Are you some sort of swinger or something?

So basically RendeR has an open relationship. Interesting.

I tried this thing called the Stranger once..

RendeR did make a mention in another thread about how he was doing something with his girlfriend, and he acknowledged that he's married. So, um, yeah.

I've never been struck with the desire to cheat. I couldn't say for sure what I would do if I was in a lukewarm relationship that wasn't going to go anywhere and was presented the opportunity, but when I am with someone who isn't just on a "trial basis" so to speak, I have rarely found myself with the desire to spend time with anyone but the one I am in a relationship with.

Not to say that I might wander if a once good relationship went sour, but that I might be more likely to be tempted if I am just dating someone casually that I don't see a future with.

Isn't his wife Telle on here, or am I mixing up people?

Render's a Sabres fan. Everybody screws him.

She is. AND I think she's Face the Board eligible. :D

Just damn.

Not ever, although I doubt anyone can say they haven't at least thought of it on occasion.

Classic.

No, swinging is gross. Sex without love is a waste.

No, this is not true either.

Oh hell, Pumpy saw that..Now I'm screwed. My secret's out.

I'm lost, why is this image relevant?

Never have. Never will.

Being unfaithful to me is one of the worst things you can do to a person. It is something that I personally would never want to put somebody through, and something I will not put up with.

Been cheated on once. Cared greatly for the girl. But I just could not be with somebody who has done that to me. And using alcohol as an excuse is one thing that pisses me off even more.

I was lost first.

You explain, then I explain.

Yes, Telle == Mrs. RendeR


Just....ouch man, holy shit. At least we're not from Toronto....


Doh, now yer just being mean ;) Though she hasn't been on here much lately, lot of stuff going on for her these days. You could try and get her to answer stuff. No worries on my part.

Once at the very start of a relationship that ended up bombing anyhow (and hadn't properly started at this point), and another time during a relationship. The later time I didn't even go all the way but still felt horrible enough for months afterwards to not want to do it again.

Alcohol is a terrible thing at times.

Apparently. :p

She's just been really busy since the holidays, me, kids, a charity she is a primary officer of, and probably half a dozen other things on top of a full time job. She's an amazing woman and I'm the luckiest guy to have her for my wife =)

I'm just kidding. Everyone always remarks on how happy my wife and I are to spend time together, so I know what you mean.

Still doesn't mean I don't longingly look at the women wearing knee high boots with skirts however. :p

I work as a lab technician (IT) at a tiny private college here in Buffalo, the student body(s) are 75% female and I understand the skirts and boots line ENTIRELY. Good lord who taught these kids how to dress???

Depends on the type of cheating you're talking about.

The act of sleeping with somebody else, not that big a deal.

It's emotional cheating that I won't tolerate.

Now thats a definitely different viewpoint, thank you for saying so.