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Go for a walk, don't go for a drive. Glad everything is ok. The one thing I have changed about myself in the last 10 years that has helped me the most is controlling my anger. The #2 thing that has helped me the most is, when I do get mad, I go for a walk, I don't get in my car and start driving around. That's dangerous as hell when you're really *that* upset/angry/hurt/depressed, whatever.
And since the question has sort of been posed, I do see a problem with the reaction of going and beating up a tree. Ok, it's very good that you didnt' hurt anyone else, and its good that you kept yourself under control enough to not seriously hurt yourself, but it would seriously worry me that the reaction was there in the first place. It would make me wonder if you could keep yourself under control and not hurt someone else when you were being hurt personally. What happens if you find out your girl is cheating on you? No matter how much I love my Cubbies, that would hurt 10x worse(and it has happened so I know for sure)... if you got that angry/hurt/upset could you keep it under control and not physically hurt her? That's why I don't think the reaction is okay, I think it tells me other things about a person that would make me scared for his safety in other, potentially more volatile situations.
I'm not trying to lecture or talk at anyone specific here, and I don't mean any offense, but that's how I feel about situations like these.
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