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Originally Posted by CU Tiger
I will admit up front I may be way out in left field here as I have a hell of a temper and "lose my mind" a bit when over the edge. Adulthood and hours of anger management have helped me channel that emotion but not totally make it subside.
All that said, are we really going to hold what someone says in the midst of a fight against them? When involved in a fight the sole objective is to injure the other person as much as possible. If a husband calling his wife a derogatory term in the midst of a marital spat is he now a misogynist?
Heat of passion, moment of rage, whatever I think many have said things they didnt mean, even at the time, just to inflict injury.
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I am not saying you shouldn't forgive things that people do when young and stupid, especially when they have established an adequate history of acceptable behavior. In the two incidents specifically addressed, Wahlberg was the instigator and I don't really think you can write that off to heat of the moment in either case.
I had a bad temper too when I was young, and got in plenty of fights, but never used racial slurs. I think that bent is imbedded which causes it to come out in moments of anger. Again, that does not preclude people from changing their views and moving past that type of behavior, just saying.