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Originally Posted by PilotMan
Why is my Dad such a shitty parent?
The number of times he's hurt me, because he let me down is staggering. I can't even imagine being as absent in my kids lives as he is in mine. He wasn't always like that. He sort of tried when I was younger, but he's less than half the grandparent to my kids than his were to me. I've tried talking to him, he feels like he's a normal parent/grandparent. He's made his choices, I'm just having a really hard time really letting him go and hardening my heart. I'm 41, he's nearly 69. It's just what's in my best interest going forward, I just can't believe it's come to this.
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FWIW, I have similar issues with my mom, and the hardest part for me is the guilt and criticism that come from myself, which in turn make me feel sad, and then as a result, even angrier at my mom. Letting go is tougher than it seems, and at this point the conflict is almost entirely internal, which only makes it harder to process.