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Originally Posted by JonInMiddleGA

Next on my list, a biggie: he IS going to fuck up while he's there. Whether it's overeating, drinking a few too many, struggling with being late to a particular class or simply not figuring out a particular professor's wants/likes as quickly as his GPA would be better for, he WILL fuck up somewhere/ something. And most likely more than one something ... otherwise you're having an exceptional parental experience.

Look, rules/goals/guidelines/whatever are not only fine & reasonable but almost a must. That said however, please try to remember that the end goal(s) are the thing you have to look at most of all, not the one-and-only-one path to get there. If he gains 35 pounds but you're seeing grade progress, seems like a fair enough trade off to me. If he's coping with all the side issues but the grades are a little off-pace, then maybe it's worth getting into specifics on how to give them a nudge upward instead of getting too hung up on "that's two C's, game over".

These are good points. Thanks for that.