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Originally Posted by NobodyHere
Well she ended it. I'll leave the door open if she wants to come back but I ain't begging.
Now the issue is that we kind of have the same circle of friends so now I have to navigate that sea. She says she won't make it awkward but I know she has a vindictive side to her. I wish no ill upon her so we'll see how it plays out.
I guess my main takeaway from all this is to talk more and to take hints better.
I think my ultimate mistake was to just let things sit. She seemed rather disengaged in the last few times I saw her. But rather than talk about it I did nothing. So in her mind I wasn't interested any longer in dating. That wasn't quite true but I had no good idea on how to re-engage her.
There's also the matter where I liked cooking a home chef meal together at my place whereas I think she wanted me to take her out to restaraunts more.
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I still feel like somebody needs to say this, so I guess I'll be "that guy": just don't go overboard in the other direction next time either.
I mean, nothing you did seems "wrong" to me here. You have every right to enjoy what you enjoy, like what you like. Just because those interests didn't quite align well enough here doesn't make the stuff you did, options for dates, etc. "wrong" in some way.
Nothing seems more wrong to me that people (male or female) going overboard in trying to be whatever the hell somebody else wants
at the expense of being who they are and/or what THEY enjoy .
Compromise to a point is one thing but too often people seem to make the mistake of going overboard with it, which gets one-sided quickly ... and that's no basis for a relationship either afaic.