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Originally Posted by Swaggs
As I have gotten older, one of my mantras has become "no one is a good mind reader." Not my phrase, but I spread it as often as I can.
I think that is really helpful to consider in all relationships, whether romantic, family, work, or whatever.
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Not only just "not good" but often outright "bad"
One of my favorite stories from married life was one of our first NYE together. We lived 5 mins from the MARTA station so yay us, we're gonna go downtown & watch the "Peach Drop" together.
We planned around it, dinner at X time, dressed for the weather, got to the train station in plenty of time, etc etc. Kinda quiet as we walked to the train and for whatever reason we both paused for a moment. Looked at each other & almost simultaneously said "you DO want to do this... right?"
More silence.
Yeah, we realized that each of us was going almost entirely because we thought the other one wanted to ... when neither of us actually DID.
Yeah, we laughed at ourselves and turned back to the car and went the hell home which was where we both preferred to be.
Valuable lesson right there, served us both well for the next three decades.