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Originally Posted by Izulde
Yeah, it’s a complete and utter shitshow out here. It seems like very few people are legitimately interested in a relationship. They say they are and complain about not being able to find anyone but they’re also refusing to settle (aka they have a secret list they’re refusing to acknowledge is an actual list). And it’s not just the 20somethings. It’s people in their 40s and 50s. The stupidity of it all makes me laugh, and boy do people get their dander up when I point out they need to stop crying about how they can’t find anyone. That’s a lie. There’s plenty of people out there. They just have really picky standards
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Yeah, I've been thinking about this a lot in the last few weeks.
How much am I willing to compromise my lifestyle in order to find a good partner?
I think one of the main barriers between Amber and I is that she wanted kids and I didn't. I was willing to entertain the idea when we were in the puppy-love stage of the relationship but eventually I decided I didn't want kids and that dampened my enthusiasm for the relationship.
On a more soft topic, I'm trying to follow the LeanFIRE philosophy in which I save a large portion of my income in order to retire at an early age. This is basically incompatible with modern dating as I basically live like a poor person (I live on less than half my income). I think this partially was a wedge between Amber and I as she wanted to go out more (and eat expensive meals) whereas I preferred to spend time at my place and cook more inexpensive meals. I've been questioning how much I want to sacrifice that ideal in order to find a partner.