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Originally Posted by PilotMan
I've had sit downs with her, explaining my concerns about things. She always says that she'll work on it, and she does for a bit, then can't maintain it. I have offered to help, for all of us to get in there and get it done, and explained all that to her. She's always very appreciative when things get done, but she is super stressed at the idea of getting rid of things, or trying to decide what to keep and what to let go of. I've never seen so many cookbooks. She is in denial about the status of things, and how much danger she's in. I've done things this year like help get her hand holds for her bathtub and shower, getting mobility aids, a new fridge, the tv's, cleaning things where I can when I'm there, but it's way too much for a few people. She needs to make some wholesale changes, and come to some acceptance about things, but she just doesn't want to, and I think that's the biggest hurdle right now.
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Sorry you are going through this. I can't relate so am not qualified to give you any advice or pointers on how to work this through with your mother.
However, I would suggest maybe you consider speaking to a professional (e.g. geriatric specialist?) and asking how best to proceed with your mother? Your situation may not be that unique. Just my 2c.