[DaddyTorgo]

Originally Posted by murrayyyyy

Come on JAG, everyone knows ladies like length... First off It sounds like a couple of things are going wrong here.

1) You are trusting computer stats to match up people. DT has said that there is a friend of a friend but he's just not into her. I assume this means he is not her type visually. So we need to go to a site that is visual and doesn't match up based on tests or millions of questions. Let's be honest, we want to be with someone who we are attracted to. If you find someone who is visually pleasing to you and can build up a rapport.

2) Men are much more visual, women are more mental. I think we need to examine how your profile reads. Let's remember, the average woman probably gets 100 messages a day from horny men. You have to have something in your profile that sets you apart. Something that gives a hint of what she is looking for. You can't say, hey I'm lonely and want to find someone. You can do different things that set you apart.

3) Women also (usually) want a good guy. You should highlight what sets you apart. Having mad wolverine skills does not qualify. Show a sense of humor in your profile. Make fun of the system. If you like animals or have one, put it in your profile(with pictures). Highlight things you have that losers don't: A job, a car, not living on mom's couch, an education...anything. You have to be better than the 50% of guys who have all those faults listed so might as well go public with it. Also put some common things in your profile. It could be that you enjoy hiking, running, heck even Words with Friends. Just giving another "thing in common" for them to see in you before first contact.

4) On the visual side. Start with a head shot, then a full body shot. Then add anything besides a shirtless mirror pic. If you do that, you have fallen in douche bag territory. From what I hear, it happens a lot on some sites.

I should probably post what my existing profiles are and my existing pics and then see if you guys have any thoughts on them as I rework them into a new one.