Note from 9/11 victim reaches wife 10 years later......

Mizzou B-ball fan · 09-10-2012, 02:13 PM

Crazy stuff.......

Chilling 9/11 note reaches family 10 years later | Fox News

Matthean · 09-10-2012, 02:31 PM

Not sure I would pass that info along to the family.

RendeR · 09-10-2012, 02:37 PM

Maybe I'm jsut dead inside, but how does it change anything 11 years later?

Yes it dredges up that horrible time, but does it really change what you've done and how you've moved on?

I don't see how. They lost a husband and father when the building was attacked. That hasn't changed one bit. After this long what difference do the details make? he's still dead.

Logan · 09-10-2012, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by RendeR

Maybe I'm jsut dead inside, but how does it change anything 11 years later?

Yes it dredges up that horrible time, but does it really change what you've done and how you've moved on?

I don't see how. They lost a husband and father when the building was attacked. That hasn't changed one bit. After this long what difference do the details make? he's still dead.

Maybe you should read the article.

molson · 09-10-2012, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Matthean

Not sure I would pass that info along to the family.

Ya, difficult truth v. more comforting falsehood is one of those things that has no right answer, and I think people are just completely split on what they prefer.

Edit: And ya, you can't make that decision for someone else...and I think you have to err on the side of truth.

Ben E Lou · 09-10-2012, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Matthean

Not sure I would pass that info along to the family.

The family requested to receive whatever information might be forthcoming, and you would consider denying them that?

Just wow.

RendeR · 09-11-2012, 10:59 AM

I read the article:

" ...And then you get this10 years later. It just changes everything."

I stand by my statement, this changes nothing. He's still gone, you've had a decade to come to accept and understand that he's gone. Why does the manner in which he left change your life in the NOW?

Ksyrup · 09-11-2012, 11:04 AM

I would assume that many family members have thoughts (nightmares) about how the person died that run through their minds every so often, and getting this information has changed the "narrative" in their minds and makes it difficult to thinnk about the person suffering in ways they either chose to ignore before or believed didn't happen. So I can see how something like this could bring a new level of pain to a loved one.

Now, you can say that it's 11 years later they should get over it, but I'm not going there.

Autumn · 09-11-2012, 11:12 AM

Doesn't matter how much time has passed, being forced to imagine a loved one going through something horrific is going to be harrowing. That's really rough to finally get some scrap of something after all these years, and have it be something disturbing instead of some sort of comfort.

Arles · 09-11-2012, 11:46 AM

Yeah, that's tough to have to relive. Still, I think you want to know what happened and work through it. Knowing the truth in a tragedy like that atleast puts you on the path of reaching peace - even though it's a lot harder at first.

DanGarion · 09-17-2012, 01:15 AM

The article confuses me at one point it mentions she thought he was initially killed in the crash and didn't suffer when the building collapsed, and then it says he called her telling her he was alright, Which one is it?

Ben E Lou · 09-17-2012, 03:39 AM

When the first airplane hit the other tower, he had no way of knowing that a second one was going to hit his tower.

DanGarion · 09-17-2012, 10:00 AM

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When the first airplane hit the other tower, he had no way of knowing that a second one was going to hit his tower.

So glad the article includes facts like that...

RendeR · 09-17-2012, 12:57 PM

It does, sort of but its not as clear as it should have been.

DanGarion · 09-17-2012, 02:32 PM

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It does, sort of but its not as clear as it should have been.

No it doesn't. It never once mentions he was in the other building.

Ben E Lou · 09-17-2012, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by DanGarion

No it doesn't. It never once mentions he was in the other building.

Not explicitly, but to me this made it obvious.

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...but believing that the first crash was minor, he simply left a message with the main office letting her know that he was fine...

Not to mention that the article says that she thought he died immediately when Flight 175 made impact...

CrimsonFox · 09-17-2012, 04:31 PM

I think the article is pretty bogus. Then again the source says it all...

09-10-2012, 02:31 PM	#2
Matthean Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Aug 2008	Not sure I would pass that info along to the family. __________________ Board games: Bringing people back to the original social network, the table. Last edited by Matthean : 09-10-2012 at 02:31 PM.

09-10-2012, 02:37 PM	#3
RendeR Coordinator Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Buffalo, NY	Maybe I'm jsut dead inside, but how does it change anything 11 years later? Yes it dredges up that horrible time, but does it really change what you've done and how you've moved on? I don't see how. They lost a husband and father when the building was attacked. That hasn't changed one bit. After this long what difference do the details make? he's still dead. __________________ http://wotlabs.net/s...8/signature.png http://wotlabs.net/sig_dark/na/banichi18/signature.png

09-11-2012, 10:59 AM	#7
RendeR Coordinator Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Buffalo, NY	I read the article: " ...And then you get this10 years later. It just changes everything." I stand by my statement, this changes nothing. He's still gone, you've had a decade to come to accept and understand that he's gone. Why does the manner in which he left change your life in the NOW? __________________ http://wotlabs.net/s...8/signature.png http://wotlabs.net/sig_dark/na/banichi18/signature.png

09-11-2012, 11:04 AM	#8
Ksyrup This guy has posted so much, his fingers are about to fall off. Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: In Absentia	I would assume that many family members have thoughts (nightmares) about how the person died that run through their minds every so often, and getting this information has changed the "narrative" in their minds and makes it difficult to thinnk about the person suffering in ways they either chose to ignore before or believed didn't happen. So I can see how something like this could bring a new level of pain to a loved one. Now, you can say that it's 11 years later they should get over it, but I'm not going there. __________________ M's pitcher Miguel Batista: "Now, I feel like I've had everything. I've talked pitching with Sandy Koufax, had Kenny G play for me. Maybe if I could have an interview with God, then I'd be served. I'd be complete."

09-11-2012, 11:46 AM	#10
Arles Grey Dog Software Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Phoenix, AZ by way of Belleville, IL	Yeah, that's tough to have to relive. Still, I think you want to know what happened and work through it. Knowing the truth in a tragedy like that atleast puts you on the path of reaching peace - even though it's a lot harder at first. __________________ Developer of Bowl Bound College Football http://www.greydogsoftware.com

09-11-2012, 11:12 AM	#9
Autumn Head Coach Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Bath, ME	Doesn't matter how much time has passed, being forced to imagine a loved one going through something horrific is going to be harrowing. That's really rough to finally get some scrap of something after all these years, and have it be something disturbing instead of some sort of comfort.

09-17-2012, 01:15 AM	#11
DanGarion Coordinator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Great Northwest	The article confuses me at one point it mentions she thought he was initially killed in the crash and didn't suffer when the building collapsed, and then it says he called her telling her he was alright, Which one is it? __________________ Los Angeles Dodgers Check out the FOFC Groups on Facebook! and Reddit! DON'T REPORT ME BRO!

09-17-2012, 03:39 AM	#12
Ben E Lou Morgado's Favorite Forum Fascist Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Greensboro, NC	When the first airplane hit the other tower, he had no way of knowing that a second one was going to hit his tower. __________________ The media don't understand the kinds of problems and pressures 54 million come wit'!

09-17-2012, 12:57 PM	#14
RendeR Coordinator Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Buffalo, NY	It does, sort of but its not as clear as it should have been. __________________ http://wotlabs.net/s...8/signature.png http://wotlabs.net/sig_dark/na/banichi18/signature.png

09-17-2012, 04:31 PM	#17
CrimsonFox Head Coach Join Date: Dec 2009	I think the article is pretty bogus. Then again the source says it all...

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