Should I go off or keep it cool. - Page 2

sabotai · 03-23-2004, 01:34 AM

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Originally Posted by GoldenEagle

All this time I thought saboati was married.....

.....really?

MrBug708 · 03-23-2004, 01:40 AM

He is

That's the beauty of his marriage

GoldenEagle · 03-23-2004, 01:40 AM

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Originally Posted by sabotai

.....really?

Yep

sabotai · 03-23-2004, 01:43 AM

Hmmm....Married life. What would it be like. I wonder if it is as good as people amke it out to be....

*imagines being married*

*shivers*

Nope, single and happy here.

rkmsuf · 03-23-2004, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Suicane75

Go back to Burger King and look for Herb.

He's probably banging this girl already...

JonInMiddleGA · 03-23-2004, 08:39 AM

Props to Sabotai, 'cause he covered my take right here:

"I know it's hard to get over it. I've been there. Many times. And it's really fucking hard when the woman you want to be with keeps stringing you along. I've been there. Many times. But you have to cut this off and start looking elsewhere."

I believe the big clue for me was that this isn't a new topic, this is like a sequel.
At some point, random behaviors aren't random behaviors anymore, there's a pattern. And unfortunately, this is a pattern I believe most guys have seen enough times to spot it pretty easily (at least, it's easy to see when you aren't the guy involved).

My .02,
Jon

ice4277 · 03-23-2004, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by JonInMiddleGA

(at least, it's easy to see when you aren't the guy involved)

That is always the biggest problem in these situations.

Balldog · 03-23-2004, 08:44 AM

The wierd thing is, her friends tell people we are dating. And when I said something to her about it she acted like it was no big deal. Supposedly April 3rd we are doing something but you never know, I was kind of thinking about cancelling last minute.

samifan24 · 03-23-2004, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by sabotai

Everyday you spend waiting for this chick to come around is a day you could have spent looking for someone else. Life moves on with or without you. You can either move with it, or stand still.

:Wipes away tears: Sabotai, that was a moment.

ice4277 · 03-23-2004, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Balldog

The wierd thing is, her friends tell people we are dating. And when I said something to her about it she acted like it was no big deal. Supposedly April 3rd we are doing something but you never know, I was kind of thinking about cancelling last minute.

I think at this point you are just messing with your own head if you start playing games back.

samifan24 · 03-23-2004, 08:46 AM

dola-

This could have been another example of "When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong," but Balldog made the smart choice and decided to keep it real (and cool off).

Balldog · 03-23-2004, 08:46 AM

Knowing my luck that will be the time she is really planning on coming.

Sun Tzu · 03-23-2004, 09:00 AM

I went a little easy on my first post. I didn't know about the history you guys had before this happened. So now my advice is just ignore her. If you ignore her and act like you could care less about her she'll start throwing herself all over you. That's pretty much how women are. If you're a single guy you can have 50 gal "friends" who don't seem interested as being more than friends. However a week after you find yourself a girlfriend they're all over your nuts like Rosie O'Donnell on a fish taco.

The Afoci · 03-23-2004, 09:16 AM

Send her a plastic bag filled with your man juice. If she doesn't catch on from that, move on.

wig · 03-23-2004, 09:20 AM

I was right, no self respect left.

sachmo71 · 03-23-2004, 09:23 AM

Don't confuse lust with love.

IMetTrentGreen · 03-23-2004, 10:21 AM

balldog you aren't listening. this is going to end badly for you. she does not like you like that and never will

either move on or accept being her friend

JAG · 03-23-2004, 10:30 AM

And not a very good friend if she lies to you and blows off hanging out with you. I agree with just about everyone here: don't waste your time with her, you've got many better women to meet.

Balldog · 03-23-2004, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by IMetTrentGreen

balldog you aren't listening.

Trust me, I'm listening. I just don't like what I am hearing even though I've kind of been thinking the same thing that you guys are telling me for some time now.

It seems like everytime I am ready to just move something happens to keep me hanging on. She has said in the past that this summer things will be different because right now she is just so busy with everything.

wig · 03-23-2004, 10:59 AM

That is complete bullshit.

You're being played.

wig · 03-23-2004, 11:00 AM

Has anyone here ever met a woman that said "I want a man that all wimpy and whiny. I like men who have no backbone or self respect."

Women like strong men.

Sack up, brother.

stevew · 03-23-2004, 11:04 AM

Is she even hot?

wig · 03-23-2004, 11:05 AM

Does it matter at this point?

rkmsuf · 03-23-2004, 11:08 AM

this is crap...you are killing the male species.

Now get in there and get in her pants...

stevew · 03-23-2004, 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by wig

Does it matter at this point?

Well, hrm.....Im just saying that if hes staying the course, she at least better be damn fine.

wig · 03-23-2004, 11:09 AM

He should change his username from "Balldog" to "Vaginadog"

stevew · 03-23-2004, 11:10 AM

Find a bunch of other women to go out with. Make her know that you arent "sitting around waiting." Then tell her how you feel.

stevew · 03-23-2004, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by wig

He should change his username from "Balldog" to "Vaginadog"

Or Ball-lessDog

stevew · 03-23-2004, 11:11 AM

Neuter-Dog

stevew · 03-23-2004, 11:11 AM

Man, wig, if there was post flood control, you wouldnt have any posts at all

wig · 03-23-2004, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by stevew

Man, wig, if there was post flood control, you wouldnt have any posts at all

Flood control messes with my stream of wigconsciousness

stevew · 03-23-2004, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by wig

Flood control messes with my stream of wigconsciousness

Does it shatter your self esteem?

wig · 03-23-2004, 11:14 AM

Nothing can shatter my wigesteem

Balldog · 03-23-2004, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by stevew

Is she even hot?

Very.

wig · 03-23-2004, 11:17 AM

Still not worth giving up your manhood

Balldog · 03-23-2004, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by wig

He should change his username from "Balldog" to "Vaginadog"

I only wish I could be as cool as you man.

wig · 03-23-2004, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Balldog

I only wish I could be as cool as you man.

You don't have to be cool, just be a man.

Balldog · 03-23-2004, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by wig

Still not worth giving up your manhood

I know, and I've went out with equally hot chicks if not some better.

Shepp · 03-23-2004, 11:22 AM

I know I'm getting in on this late but here is my two cents:

When it comes to dating women and they start pulling crap like that; Don't go away mad just go away.

I wouldn't tell her I'm mad, I wouldn't call her, I wouldn't send her any emails, and if she tried talk to you I would talk to her for a couple of minutes like nothing was wrong, then excuse myself like she stopped me on the way to something important. When you turn their bullshit around on them they do one of two things:
1. She'll be intrigued by your indifference and will show you more attention.
2. She never gave a crap about you to begin with and go on to make some others sod's life miserable.

The faster you learn to focus your time, effort, and money on finding a new girl that will treat you right, instead of on an old one that drives you nuts. The happier you will be.

Sharpieman · 03-23-2004, 11:22 AM

Heres some advice: F*ck that bitch. Forget about her, theres plenty of chicks in the world that don't do what she does.

Balldog · 03-23-2004, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by wig

You don't have to be cool, just be a man.

Word. Many of my friends have told me I am to nice to people, followed by the nice guys finish last.

wig · 03-23-2004, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Balldog

Word. Many of my friends have told me I am to nice to people, followed by the nice guys finish last.

exactly

Blade6119 · 03-23-2004, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by sabotai

To put it bluntly, you're an idiot. My friends really appriciate my bluntness when it comes to women (somehow me yelling at them without concern of their feelings makes them wake up I suppose.

)

This chick CLEARLY does not want to be with you. WHy do you keep pursueing it? It seems clear to me that there are only two reasons why she called you up after 6 months. The first being that she likes you. LIKES. And she likes being around you. She figured 6 months was a good enough time to wait for your feelings to go away and she looked up you.

The other, more plausable, reason would be because she's a fucking tease and gets off on the attention. And now that it's gone a little over the line from tease to hook-up, she's pushing you away. I'm going to agree with the others in that you are probably scaring her more than anything with your "we need to talk". We need to talk is said by only two types of people. Women and Emotional Men. Dispite what women say, they do not want "emotional" men. They can't even handle their own emotions half the time. You think they want double duty? No, they want a guy with toned down emotion so they can dump all of their shit on them.

Anyway, wake up man. She's either using you for attention, or just likes you as a friend. Either way, it ain't gonna happen.

I'm usually a fan of "Go off" in most situations, but in this, not only do I say "keep it cool", I say "cool off completely". I know it's hard to get over it. I've been there. Many times. And it's really fucking hard when the woman you want to be with keeps stringing you along. I've been there. Many times. But you have to cut this off and start looking elsewhere. Everyday you spend waiting for this chick to come around is a day you could have spent looking for someone else. Life moves on with or without you. You can either move with it, or stand still.

And trust me when I talk about chicks, because I just got laid not 30 minutes ago and the woman is already out the door on her way home. I know woman! *pounds chest*

Souds like we have a new HornsManiac

judicial clerk · 03-23-2004, 11:31 AM

I'm Balldog, bitch!

stevew · 03-23-2004, 11:35 AM

I say you go find and fuck her sister/best friend/someone she talks to.

samifan24 · 03-23-2004, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Shepp

I know I'm getting in on this late but here is my two cents:

When it comes to dating women and they start pulling crap like that; Don't go away mad just go away.

I wouldn't tell her I'm mad, I wouldn't call her, I wouldn't send her any emails, and if she tried talk to you I would talk to her for a couple of minutes like nothing was wrong, then excuse myself like she stopped me on the way to something important. When you turn their bullshit around on them they do one of two things:
1. She'll be intrigued by your indifference and will show you more attention.
2. She never gave a crap about you to begin with and go on to make some others sod's life miserable.

The faster you learn to focus your time, effort, and money on finding a new girl that will treat you right, instead of on an old one that drives you nuts. The happier you will be.

Bingo.

cincyreds · 03-23-2004, 11:40 AM

Get as far away from here as you can.

She is dangerous man!

JonInMiddleGA · 03-23-2004, 11:42 AM

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nice guys finish last

More importantly, the other truism:

"Nice guys sleep alone"

zums · 03-23-2004, 11:42 AM

buy her a fish sandwich

-zums

Rizon · 03-23-2004, 11:44 AM

I suggest that you read The Ladder Theory .

View Poll Results: Should I go ff or Keep it Cool?
Go off!	22	34.92%
Keep it Cool!	41	65.08%
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03-23-2004, 08:46 AM	#61
samifan24 Pro Starter Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: NC	dola- This could have been another example of "When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong," but Balldog made the smart choice and decided to keep it real (and cool off). __________________ "You spend a good piece of your life gripping a baseball...and in the end it turns out that it was the other way around all the time." -Jim Bouton

03-23-2004, 09:00 AM	#63
Sun Tzu Pro Starter Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: In the thick of it.	I went a little easy on my first post. I didn't know about the history you guys had before this happened. So now my advice is just ignore her. If you ignore her and act like you could care less about her she'll start throwing herself all over you. That's pretty much how women are. If you're a single guy you can have 50 gal "friends" who don't seem interested as being more than friends. However a week after you find yourself a girlfriend they're all over your nuts like Rosie O'Donnell on a fish taco. __________________ I'm still here. Don't touch my fucking bacon.

03-23-2004, 09:16 AM	#64
The Afoci Pro Rookie Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Moorhead	Send her a plastic bag filled with your man juice. If she doesn't catch on from that, move on. __________________ I had something.

03-23-2004, 11:08 AM	#74
rkmsuf Head Coach Join Date: Dec 2001	this is crap...you are killing the male species. Now get in there and get in her pants... __________________ "Don't you have homes?" -- Judge Smales Last edited by rkmsuf : 03-23-2004 at 11:09 AM.

03-23-2004, 01:40 AM	#52
MrBug708 Head Coach Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Whittier	He is That's the beauty of his marriage

03-23-2004, 01:43 AM	#54
sabotai General Manager Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: The Satellite of Love	Hmmm....Married life. What would it be like. I wonder if it is as good as people amke it out to be.... imagines being married shivers Nope, single and happy here.

03-23-2004, 08:39 AM	#56
JonInMiddleGA Hall Of Famer Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Behind Enemy Lines in Athens, GA	Props to Sabotai, 'cause he covered my take right here: "I know it's hard to get over it. I've been there. Many times. And it's really fucking hard when the woman you want to be with keeps stringing you along. I've been there. Many times. But you have to cut this off and start looking elsewhere." I believe the big clue for me was that this isn't a new topic, this is like a sequel. At some point, random behaviors aren't random behaviors anymore, there's a pattern. And unfortunately, this is a pattern I believe most guys have seen enough times to spot it pretty easily (at least, it's easy to see when you aren't the guy involved). My .02, Jon

03-23-2004, 08:44 AM	#58
Balldog Pro Rookie Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Macomb, MI	The wierd thing is, her friends tell people we are dating. And when I said something to her about it she acted like it was no big deal. Supposedly April 3rd we are doing something but you never know, I was kind of thinking about cancelling last minute.

03-23-2004, 09:20 AM	#65
wig Banned Join Date: Jan 2004	I was right, no self respect left.

03-23-2004, 09:23 AM	#66
sachmo71 The boy who cried Trout Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: TX	Don't confuse lust with love.

03-23-2004, 10:21 AM	#67
IMetTrentGreen College Prospect Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Austin, Texas	balldog you aren't listening. this is going to end badly for you. she does not like you like that and never will either move on or accept being her friend

03-23-2004, 10:30 AM	#68
JAG Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: St. Paul, MN	And not a very good friend if she lies to you and blows off hanging out with you. I agree with just about everyone here: don't waste your time with her, you've got many better women to meet.

03-23-2004, 10:59 AM	#70
wig Banned Join Date: Jan 2004	That is complete bullshit. You're being played.

03-23-2004, 11:00 AM	#71
wig Banned Join Date: Jan 2004	Has anyone here ever met a woman that said "I want a man that all wimpy and whiny. I like men who have no backbone or self respect." Women like strong men. Sack up, brother.

03-23-2004, 11:04 AM	#72
stevew Hall Of Famer Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: the yo'	Is she even hot?

03-23-2004, 11:05 AM	#73
wig Banned Join Date: Jan 2004	Does it matter at this point?

03-23-2004, 11:09 AM	#76
wig Banned Join Date: Jan 2004	He should change his username from "Balldog" to "Vaginadog"

03-23-2004, 11:10 AM	#77
stevew Hall Of Famer Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: the yo'	Find a bunch of other women to go out with. Make her know that you arent "sitting around waiting." Then tell her how you feel.

03-23-2004, 11:11 AM	#79
stevew Hall Of Famer Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: the yo'	Neuter-Dog

03-23-2004, 11:14 AM	#83
wig Banned Join Date: Jan 2004	Nothing can shatter my wigesteem

03-23-2004, 11:17 AM	#85
wig Banned Join Date: Jan 2004	Still not worth giving up your manhood

03-23-2004, 11:22 AM	#89
Shepp High School Varsity Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Atlanta, GA	I know I'm getting in on this late but here is my two cents: When it comes to dating women and they start pulling crap like that; Don't go away mad just go away. I wouldn't tell her I'm mad, I wouldn't call her, I wouldn't send her any emails, and if she tried talk to you I would talk to her for a couple of minutes like nothing was wrong, then excuse myself like she stopped me on the way to something important. When you turn their bullshit around on them they do one of two things: 1. She'll be intrigued by your indifference and will show you more attention. 2. She never gave a crap about you to begin with and go on to make some others sod's life miserable. The faster you learn to focus your time, effort, and money on finding a new girl that will treat you right, instead of on an old one that drives you nuts. The happier you will be.

03-23-2004, 11:22 AM	#90
Sharpieman Greatly Missed. (7/11/84-06/12/05) Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Palo Alto, CA	Heres some advice: F*ck that bitch. Forget about her, theres plenty of chicks in the world that don't do what she does.

03-23-2004, 11:31 AM	#94
judicial clerk College Benchwarmer Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Portland, OR	I'm Balldog, bitch!

03-23-2004, 11:35 AM	#95
stevew Hall Of Famer Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: the yo'	I say you go find and fuck her sister/best friend/someone she talks to.

03-23-2004, 11:40 AM	#97
cincyreds High School Varsity Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Mississippi	Get as far away from here as you can. She is dangerous man! __________________ The Dallas Cowboys!! America's Team will rise again.

03-23-2004, 11:42 AM	#99
zums H.S. Freshman Team Join Date: Dec 2000	buy her a fish sandwich -zums

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