Online dating - Page 20

Noop · 12-30-2012, 12:58 PM

DT add a picture of you and your dog to your profile. Women love dogs.

Comey · 12-31-2012, 11:37 AM

So I ended the year on the best date I've had in 2012. It was nothing special; Kristy and I decided to dress up a little bit (we ended up, unwittingly, both wearing jeans and a jacket...I went for the hipster college professor look she loves), went to dinner, then shot pool at our home bar (where we had our first date...if anyone here knows the CT shoreline and Mystic in particular, we were at John's Pub; it's the one place around here that is free of any and all pretentiousness). Then we spent the night at my place (actually, she's asleep as I write this...she has to work tonight, so I decided I would give her some space to sleep).

I think back to the failed relationship, and the nonstarters I had over the summer, and think...this was the best possible way for the year to end. I still don't know where the future will go (she is committed to traveling abroad next year; I fully support this, despite knowing what it could and likely would mean)...but it's been a good year. And it will be a good start to 2013, at least.

PilotMan · 12-31-2012, 11:50 AM

Man that's good to hear. I fully believe that even if things don't go the way you plan for them that there are things that you learn that you need for the future. Happy to hear all your good news Comey.

DaddyTorgo · 12-31-2012, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Noop

DT add a picture of you and your dog to your profile. Women love dogs.

You're right - I should put me and the puppies in there.

SkippyDies · 12-31-2012, 03:54 PM

Only thing better than dogs is pictures of you actually doing stuff and in different settings. Four of the same shot from your mom's couch isn't going to get it done.

DaddyTorgo · 12-31-2012, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by SkippyDies

Only thing better than dogs is pictures of you actually doing stuff and in different settings. Four of the same shot from your mom's couch isn't going to get it done.

I had varied shots in different settings - dressy/casual/outside/inside. I'll make sure to work on that even more though in the next go-round once my sister rewrites my profile.

I screwed up in November and didn't message enough people so I'm not getting the six months free...oh well.

M GO BLUE!!! · 12-31-2012, 08:06 PM

They have a quota? wtf...

I screwed up before & let someone "touch up" a profile I had. This was an intern at my job who people said had a crush on me. She wrote me out to be a child molester. Not in a roundabout way either. Blatant and out there. I was not amused. She said women like humor.

DaddyTorgo · 12-31-2012, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by M GO BLUE!!!

They have a quota? wtf...

I screwed up before & let someone "touch up" a profile I had. This was an intern at my job who people said had a crush on me. She wrote me out to be a child molester. Not in a roundabout way either. Blatant and out there. I was not amused. She said women like humor.

Yeah...and I kinda suspected I was falling short of it in November, but with the holiday and stuff I just never got around to it (plus I was feeling pretty down on the lack of success with it at that point).

Yikes...that is NOT amusing at all.

mauchow · 01-01-2013, 02:08 PM

Is comey ted from how I met your mother?

Izulde · 01-01-2013, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by mauchow

Is comey ted from how I met your mother?

That joke was made two or three pages ago already.

mauchow · 01-01-2013, 03:42 PM

Bummer

Comey · 01-01-2013, 06:20 PM

I'd say good effort, Mau...but no, not really.

JediKooter · 01-07-2013, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

Yeah...and I kinda suspected I was falling short of it in November, but with the holiday and stuff I just never got around to it (plus I was feeling pretty down on the lack of success with it at that point).

Yikes...that is NOT amusing at all.

Ok, here's what you do...

1. Buy some flannel shirts
2. Buy an ax
3. Buy a work belt and a hard hat
4. Take a bunch of pictures wearing the work belt and hard hart with the flannel shirt tied around your waste, holding the ax like a baseball player on deck.

Women don't dig koala bears. You need to get a picture of you wrestling an alligator (without the flannel shirt) or riding on the back of a tiger, wearing a cowboy hat.

Chicks dig pictures like that....or maybe it's gay guys. I can't really remember to be honest. I was doing research but was drunk at the time, so YMMV.

cuervo72 · 01-07-2013, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by JediKooter

4. Take a bunch of pictures wearing the work belt and hard hart with the flannel shirt tied around your waste, holding the ax like a baseball player on deck.

This sounds like a really twisted version of Gallagher.

JediKooter · 01-07-2013, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by cuervo72

This sounds like a really twisted version of Gallagher.

A hard hart almost did Gallagher in. DT could tell jokes in between each swing of the ax.

sterlingice · 01-07-2013, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by JediKooter

Ok, here's what you do...

1. Buy some flannel shirts
2. Buy an ax
3. Buy a work belt and a hard hat
4. Take a bunch of pictures wearing the work belt and hard hart with the flannel shirt tied around your waste, holding the ax like a baseball player on deck.

Women don't dig koala bears. You need to get a picture of you wrestling an alligator (without the flannel shirt) or riding on the back of a tiger, wearing a cowboy hat.

Chicks dig pictures like that....or maybe it's gay guys. I can't really remember to be honest. I was doing research but was drunk at the time, so YMMV.

Going to those websites is not "research". How drunk were you?

SI

JediKooter · 01-07-2013, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by sterlingice

Going to those websites is not "research". How drunk were you?

SI

I'm just going off what my web browser history had in it. I have to assume that it was 'research'.

Galaxy · 01-12-2013, 02:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Solecismic

What I thought was important when I first got out there ended up being quite different from what I would say today. Strangely, I became more hung up on looks than I was at first. I still feel honesty and integrity are the most important qualities, but every woman out there thinks she is honest and has integrity. Words are easy. To me, the most important questions relate to how you see your lifestyle moving forward.

Just doing some random browsing of the guys across demographic information (location, age, education, ect.)-to see what the women are seeing-and I must say, I feel bad for the women who seem like they are putting in a humble effort of finding something more a serious level.

Also, how do you define "companionship?" Saw it on a "looking for thing" om a female's profile, and I know it could be taken in a few ways.

Galaxy · 01-12-2013, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by SkippyDies

Only thing better than dogs is pictures of you actually doing stuff and in different settings. Four of the same shot from your mom's couch isn't going to get it done.

And the basement...

Galaxy · 01-13-2013, 01:02 PM

Interesting article:

The End of Courtship? - NYTimes.com

britrock88 · 01-13-2013, 10:36 PM

I would be more than happy to court the right girl, whenever I stumble into her.

RedKingGold · 01-14-2013, 04:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Galaxy

Interesting article:

The End of Courtship? - NYTimes.com

More like an offensive article, painting men generally as horny Neanderthals. Newsflash: There have, and will always be, "asshole" men existing regardless of technology and Groupon.

Logan · 01-14-2013, 07:54 AM

I'm reasonably confident that I know the girl Lindsay that is discussed in that article.

Desnudo · 01-14-2013, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

Yeah - my sisters offered to help me write my profile - maybe I should take them up on that.

I dunno - I think the pic of me with the koala has got to make the right girl go "awww" someday. But yeah, some of the others could use changing up.

I usually read this thread to vicariously enjoy single people activities (and Comey's romantic comedy), but I had to reply to this.

A picture with a koala? If you are getting zero replies then you are the problem, not the woman ignoring your emails.

Knowing really nothing about you except that you have an irrational passion for the patriots which should play in your favor in Boston, the easiest way to meet attractive women is to take up an activity that attractive women like to do and emphasize that. Assuming you don't like going to the club...

So take up up skiing, mountain biking, tennis, golf, speed boat racing, being rich, etc., and emphasize the hell out of it.

Also - people form a lasting opinion completely based on your picture and validate that opinion through communication. So get a picture up there of you having fun speed boating in a really good light.
Sincerely, random guy on the internet

sterlingice · 01-14-2013, 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by RedKingGold

More like an offensive article, painting men generally as horny Neanderthals. Newsflash: There have, and will always be, "asshole" men existing regardless of technology and Groupon.

It seems like the New York Times has to post a similar version of this "Sex and the City: Men-Suck-And-Being-A-Powerful-Single-Woman-Is-Sooo-Hard" article about once a month. I don't read the Times and only check out this thread in passing, yet I've seen it quite a few times.

SI

Galaxy · 01-14-2013, 12:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Desnudo

I usually read this thread to vicariously enjoy single people activities (and Comey's romantic comedy), but I had to reply to this.

A picture with a koala? If you are getting zero replies then you are the problem, not the woman ignoring your emails.

Knowing really nothing about you except that you have an irrational passion for the patriots which should play in your favor in Boston, the easiest way to meet attractive women is to take up an activity that attractive women like to do and emphasize that. Assuming you don't like going to the club...

So take up up skiing, mountain biking, tennis, golf, speed boat racing, being rich, etc., and emphasize the hell out of it.

Also - people form a lasting opinion completely based on your picture and validate that opinion through communication. So get a picture up there of you having fun speed boating in a really good light.
Sincerely, random guy on the internet

Not a fan of a male pics with animals?

Desnudo · 01-20-2013, 02:19 AM

I love manimals

Izulde · 01-20-2013, 02:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Desnudo

I love manimals

DaddyTorgo · 01-20-2013, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Galaxy

Not a fan of a male pics with animals?

No I think his point was that that's a good pic. To be clear - it's also not the ONLY pic of me up there. I have a couple of me "dressier" and a couple of me more casual.

A couple of me in Italy, and at least one of Peru.

Lathum · 01-20-2013, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

No I think his point was that that's a good pic. To be clear - it's also not the ONLY pic of me up there. I have a couple of me "dressier" and a couple of me more casual.

A couple of me in Italy, and at least one of Peru.

Yeah but when girls are looking at your profile with their friends you will be known as " the koala guy". May not be the best label.

PilotMan · 01-20-2013, 10:15 AM

I would think that girls would want to see someone who is having fun, fun to be around, who is confident enough to show their personality in their pics. Just from the sounds of it, you need some more variety.

DaddyTorgo · 01-20-2013, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

Yeah but when girls are looking at your profile with their friends you will be known as " the koala guy". May not be the best label.

Fair enough

DaddyTorgo · 01-20-2013, 10:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PilotMan

I would think that girls would want to see someone who is having fun, fun to be around, who is confident enough to show their personality in their pics. Just from the sounds of it, you need some more variety.

Yeah - I probably do.

cuervo72 · 01-20-2013, 10:40 AM

Maybe a lemur, or a spider monkey.

Critch · 01-20-2013, 10:50 AM

Koalas are riddled with Chlamydia, maybe that's putting the chicks off.

Lathum · 01-20-2013, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by cuervo72

Maybe a lemur, or a spider monkey.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Critch

Koalas are riddled with Chlamydia, maybe that's putting the chicks off.

Lol

DaddyTorgo · 01-20-2013, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Critch

Koalas are riddled with Chlamydia, maybe that's putting the chicks off.

LOL

Honestly I wonder if it isn't a negative that I look really young these days too. I mean...people meet me and they think i'm like 10 years younger than I actually am. So maybe that leads to me coming off visually as immature? But I'm probably overthinking that.

M GO BLUE!!! · 01-20-2013, 03:33 PM

I saw a profile yesterday for a woman that has to be 350-400 lbs.

Her headline:

looking for a person who have teeth. lol

If I were her, I would avoid references to eating at all cost.

JediKooter · 01-21-2013, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by M GO BLUE!!!

I saw a profile yesterday for a woman that has to be 350-400 lbs.

Her headline:

looking for a person who have teeth. lol

If I were her, I would avoid references to eating at all cost.

Maybe she's into mutual mastication?

britrock88 · 01-21-2013, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by JediKooter

Maybe she's into mutual mastication?

Whaddaya mean there's no rimshot smiley, forum???

Lathum · 02-02-2013, 09:57 PM

I guess this is as good a place as any to ask this. Curious what you guys would do. Good friend went out with a guy she met online last night. I guess it went well, they stayed out late, whatever. No sex or anything like that. Well we are having a small gathering of about 7 of us tomorrow for the game at my house and she asked if she could invite him. What says you.

britrock88 · 02-02-2013, 10:00 PM

A Super Bowl party seems like a fairly casual type of thing to bring a guy who you're seeing for the 2nd time -- see how he acts around friends of yours. Though I wonder what he is or isn't doing for the game. (Says the guy with no cable and most friends in a new city out of town for the weekend...)

Lathum · 02-02-2013, 10:04 PM

I probably wasn't clear. I couldn't care less about the dating part. Do you let some guy your friend just met online come to your house, know where you live, etc.

Izulde · 02-02-2013, 10:16 PM

I would say no, but I'm personally protective of my space.

Logically, it's not a big deal.

Radii · 02-02-2013, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

I probably wasn't clear. I couldn't care less about the dating part. Do you let some guy your friend just met online come to your house, know where you live, etc.

Unless your friend has a history of really terrible judgement I would personally be ok with it.

Desnudo · 02-03-2013, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

LOL

Honestly I wonder if it isn't a negative that I look really young these days too. I mean...people meet me and they think i'm like 10 years younger than I actually am. So maybe that leads to me coming off visually as immature? But I'm probably overthinking that.

Yes, that's it. For fucks sake man, pick an activity and run with it.

Young Drachma · 02-03-2013, 02:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

I probably wasn't clear. I couldn't care less about the dating part. Do you let some guy your friend just met online come to your house, know where you live, etc.

No worse meeting online than someone you met at the bar or something.

Lathum · 02-03-2013, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Young Drachma

No worse meeting online than someone you met at the bar or something.

And this was the dialogue my wife and I had.

My feeling on it was if you meet someone out at a bar, etc... it is more of a chance encounter while the internet has a much more predatory likelihood. Now I realize the odds of this guy being a non threat are 99.99999% but there is still a stigma there for me.

I said no. just not willing to take that risk no matter how small. My friend understood. I'm just not comfortable enough with that sort of thing.

RedKingGold · 02-03-2013, 05:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

I guess this is as good a place as any to ask this. Curious what you guys would do. Good friend went out with a guy she met online last night. I guess it went well, they stayed out late, whatever. No sex or anything like that. Well we are having a small gathering of about 7 of us tomorrow for the game at my house and she asked if she could invite him. What says you.

Sounds like you already made your decision, but I would think it depends on how much you trust your friend's judgment. I think you do run the risk of hurting her feelings by telling her not to bring him because it implies you don't trust her judgment, at a minimum.

Also, if the friend and online guy really hit it off, then you'll never hear the end of how you banned him from your Super Bowl party.

Lathum · 02-03-2013, 06:37 AM

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Originally Posted by RedKingGold

Sounds like you already made your decision, but I would think it depends on how much you trust your friend's judgment. I think you do run the risk of hurting her feelings by telling her not to bring him because it implies you don't trust her judgment, at a minimum.

Also, if the friend and online guy really hit it off, then you'll never hear the end of how you banned him from your Super Bowl party.

TBH she doesn't have the best judgement. Divorced once, next guy she dated was a scumbag.

I thought about the what if they hit it off thing, I would hope someone would understand my position and be forgiving of it.

12-30-2012, 12:58 PM	#951
Noop Bonafide Seminole Fan Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Miami	DT add a picture of you and your dog to your profile. Women love dogs. __________________ Subby's favorite woman hater.

12-31-2012, 11:37 AM	#952
Comey College Starter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: CT via PA via CA via PA	So I ended the year on the best date I've had in 2012. It was nothing special; Kristy and I decided to dress up a little bit (we ended up, unwittingly, both wearing jeans and a jacket...I went for the hipster college professor look she loves), went to dinner, then shot pool at our home bar (where we had our first date...if anyone here knows the CT shoreline and Mystic in particular, we were at John's Pub; it's the one place around here that is free of any and all pretentiousness). Then we spent the night at my place (actually, she's asleep as I write this...she has to work tonight, so I decided I would give her some space to sleep). I think back to the failed relationship, and the nonstarters I had over the summer, and think...this was the best possible way for the year to end. I still don't know where the future will go (she is committed to traveling abroad next year; I fully support this, despite knowing what it could and likely would mean)...but it's been a good year. And it will be a good start to 2013, at least. __________________

12-31-2012, 11:50 AM	#953
PilotMan Head Coach Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Seven miles up	Man that's good to hear. I fully believe that even if things don't go the way you plan for them that there are things that you learn that you need for the future. Happy to hear all your good news Comey. __________________ He's just like if Snow White was competitive, horny, and capable of beating the shit out of anyone that called her Pops. Like Steam? Join the FOFC Steam group here: http://steamcommunity.com/groups/FOFConSteam

01-01-2013, 06:20 PM	#962
Comey College Starter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: CT via PA via CA via PA	I'd say good effort, Mau...but no, not really. __________________

01-20-2013, 10:15 AM	#981
PilotMan Head Coach Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Seven miles up	I would think that girls would want to see someone who is having fun, fun to be around, who is confident enough to show their personality in their pics. Just from the sounds of it, you need some more variety. __________________ He's just like if Snow White was competitive, horny, and capable of beating the shit out of anyone that called her Pops. Like Steam? Join the FOFC Steam group here: http://steamcommunity.com/groups/FOFConSteam

12-31-2012, 03:54 PM	#955
SkippyDies n00b Join Date: Nov 2011	Only thing better than dogs is pictures of you actually doing stuff and in different settings. Four of the same shot from your mom's couch isn't going to get it done.

12-31-2012, 08:06 PM	#957
M GO BLUE!!! Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2005	They have a quota? wtf... I screwed up before & let someone "touch up" a profile I had. This was an intern at my job who people said had a crush on me. She wrote me out to be a child molester. Not in a roundabout way either. Blatant and out there. I was not amused. She said women like humor.

01-01-2013, 02:08 PM	#959
mauchow Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Murfreesboro, TN	Is comey ted from how I met your mother?

01-01-2013, 03:42 PM	#961
mauchow Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Murfreesboro, TN	Bummer

01-13-2013, 01:02 PM	#970
Galaxy Coordinator Join Date: Apr 2005	Interesting article: The End of Courtship? - NYTimes.com

01-13-2013, 10:36 PM	#971
britrock88 Pro Starter Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Madison, WI	I would be more than happy to court the right girl, whenever I stumble into her.

01-14-2013, 07:54 AM	#973
Logan Head Coach Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: NYC	I'm reasonably confident that I know the girl Lindsay that is discussed in that article.

01-20-2013, 02:19 AM	#977
Desnudo Coordinator Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Here and There	I love manimals

01-20-2013, 10:40 AM	#984
cuervo72 Head Coach Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Maryland	Maybe a lemur, or a spider monkey. __________________ null

01-20-2013, 10:50 AM	#985
Critch lolzcat Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Herndon, VA	Koalas are riddled with Chlamydia, maybe that's putting the chicks off.

01-20-2013, 03:33 PM	#988
M GO BLUE!!! Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2005	I saw a profile yesterday for a woman that has to be 350-400 lbs. Her headline: looking for a person who have teeth. lol If I were her, I would avoid references to eating at all cost.

02-02-2013, 09:57 PM	#991
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	I guess this is as good a place as any to ask this. Curious what you guys would do. Good friend went out with a guy she met online last night. I guess it went well, they stayed out late, whatever. No sex or anything like that. Well we are having a small gathering of about 7 of us tomorrow for the game at my house and she asked if she could invite him. What says you.

02-02-2013, 10:00 PM	#992
britrock88 Pro Starter Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Madison, WI	A Super Bowl party seems like a fairly casual type of thing to bring a guy who you're seeing for the 2nd time -- see how he acts around friends of yours. Though I wonder what he is or isn't doing for the game. (Says the guy with no cable and most friends in a new city out of town for the weekend...)

02-02-2013, 10:04 PM	#993
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	I probably wasn't clear. I couldn't care less about the dating part. Do you let some guy your friend just met online come to your house, know where you live, etc.

02-02-2013, 10:16 PM	#994
Izulde Head Coach Join Date: Sep 2004	I would say no, but I'm personally protective of my space. Logically, it's not a big deal. __________________ 2006 Golden Scribe Nominee 2006 Golden Scribe Winner Best Non-Sport Dynasty: May Our Reign Be Green and Golden (CK Dynasty) Rookie Writer of the Year Dynasty of the Year: May Our Reign Be Green and Golden (CK Dynasty)

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