I CAN live...great news!

Poli · 02-05-2006, 04:31 PM

if living is without you.

My wife has just asked me for a divorce for the 2nd time in the past year. Four days after the 10th anniversary of the day we ment. Two days before her birthday. Our 8th wedding anniversary was to be Valentine's Day.

I guess it's over. How do I live?

ISiddiqui · 02-05-2006, 04:32 PM

Dude that sucks

. Hang in there, buddy.

MrBug708 · 02-05-2006, 04:33 PM

M GO BLUE!!! · 02-05-2006, 04:36 PM

I'm sorry to hear.

Life does go on though. I know it's easy for me to say, as I have never had a relationship in my 33 years progress to the point of marriage. But if she wants to move on it is best to let her. Maybe she will realize that she really does want you, maybe not... but trying to hold on to someone who wants out will only worsen the situation.

If she doesn't want to be with you anymore, move on to a younger and better looking woman. She will hate it, and you will enjoy both a younger and more attractive woman, and her jealousy!

DaddyTorgo · 02-05-2006, 04:37 PM

damm AE. I'm sorry man. That's horrible to hear. Guess that whole episode from earlier in the year was less of a reaction to that one incident and more of a general thing then. I'm sorry to hear that. That's horrible.

And on SuperBowl Sunday no less!?!?! Is there no day sacred??

Karlifornia · 02-05-2006, 04:38 PM

Sorry to hear about this. There will be some rough nights I imagine, but you gotta be strong about it.

QuikSand · 02-05-2006, 04:39 PM

Very sorry to hear... best wishes.

JeffNights · 02-05-2006, 04:46 PM

Screw all that man!! The Single Life awaits you!
Your marriage experaince will make you a walking pimp on what the Ladies want to hear, think about all that ass you had to pass becasue you were hitched. Now its there for the taking!!! Even for a sailor, you shoudl be alright. ")

I am sorry about the divorce, i just try to be optimistic.

Airhog · 02-05-2006, 04:51 PM

wow, just wow. Hang in there buddy. Things will get better!

ThunderingHERD · 02-05-2006, 04:51 PM

duckman · 02-05-2006, 04:52 PM

I'm sorry that you are going through this, AE. Divorce is not an easy thing to experience (I'm speaking from experience). I don't think any words will really make you feel better right now, but I hope for you that something positive will come from this and doesn't make you a bitter person.

You'll be in my prayers.

Hurst2112 · 02-05-2006, 04:55 PM

Prepare for some of the worst feelings you have ever experienced. Prepare for some of the best feelings after the grieving is over.

I feel for you brother. Hang in there and don't let yourself go.

Izulde · 02-05-2006, 04:56 PM

I'm sorry to hear that man.

Hurst2112 · 02-05-2006, 04:57 PM

dola:

PM me if you ever need to talk. I have been there and have learned some things about myself. Hopefully you can learn from somebody elses mistakes and adventures.

FrogMan · 02-05-2006, 04:57 PM

ouch Rodney. My thoughts are with you, hang in there...

FM

VPI97 · 02-05-2006, 05:21 PM

terpkristin · 02-05-2006, 05:35 PM

Rodney, I'm so sorry to hear this!
Call me if you need.

/tk

Lorena · 02-05-2006, 05:35 PM

Sorry to hear that AE... that really sucks!!

My thoughts are with you.. hang in ther man.

pennywisesb · 02-05-2006, 05:35 PM

I'm truly sorry to hear that Rodney. I wish you the best in this terrible time.

Eaglesfan27 · 02-05-2006, 05:36 PM

Divorce is a high risk time for suicide. I hope if you really start having any suicidal thoughts, you will seek some professional help. My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I know you have a lot of support on this board.

Warhammer · 02-05-2006, 05:38 PM

Hang in there. Sometimes something that we think is unbearable is actually a great weight lifting off our shoulders.

digamma · 02-05-2006, 05:39 PM

Hang in there.

Lorena · 02-05-2006, 05:39 PM

Do you have any kids AE?

JonInMiddleGA · 02-05-2006, 05:44 PM

You know (I hope) that you have my very best thoughts & my prayers.

SirFozzie · 02-05-2006, 05:55 PM

Damn, Sorry, AE. You're in my thoughts dude.

Raiders Army · 02-05-2006, 06:09 PM

Sorry man. It may hurt right now, but maybe in the future you'll look back on it as a positive experience. Maybe you're meant to be with someone else. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

SackAttack · 02-05-2006, 06:16 PM

Sucks to hear it, AE. Hang in there.

Honolulu_Blue · 02-05-2006, 06:19 PM

Sorry to hear that. Hang in there. It will get better and work itself out eventually.

sterlingice · 02-05-2006, 06:20 PM

I don't have anything helpful to tell you but, man, that sucks

SI

vex · 02-05-2006, 06:25 PM

Good luck getting through this, Rodney.

Senator · 02-05-2006, 06:37 PM

I hate this for you.

Chas in Cinti · 02-05-2006, 08:08 PM

Good luck man... sorry to hear that... I went through mine about 3.5 years ago (after 5 years of marriage). For me, it wasn't really losing her that bothered me, it was the sense of failure... Once you come to grips with that, life gets better..

PM if you ever need...

-Chas

Glengoyne · 02-05-2006, 08:19 PM

Fuckin' Bitch. On the day of the Super Bowl!

You are fucking better off without her!.

Note: I can say this, because my first wife left me the day after the superbowl. I think the only decent thing she did was spare screwing up Superbowl Sunday for me. I mean that bitch had NO class....I came home from work for lunch the day after the superbowl and the place was cleaned out. The Bitch called me from her boyfriend's house and left a breakup message on our answering machine. Think about it...Even that bitch had the decency not screw up my Superbowls for the next five years.

Edit: That said...really I sort of know how you feel. It is a crappy place to be in, and I feel for you. Hopefully you will weather this experience, and use this experience as a positive somehow in a future relationship. Thank God for my divorce, 'cause my second wife has been the best thing ever for me.

Poli · 02-05-2006, 08:47 PM

Thanks guys, you got me choked up over here. I'm so hurt, I don't know what to do. I can't even watch the game.

I was going to watch the game with two of my FOFC friends and then go home for all the junk listed above. I called her before I left and she told me.

I started to pack some things and head home right away. I cancelled my plans. Instead, I ended up staying here. I talked myself out of me. I just fought off a divorce while being wrongfully accused six months ago. I just don't have it in me to do this again.

CamEdwards · 02-05-2006, 08:49 PM

I'm so sorry for you, AE. You're in my thoughts and prayers, and please, use the friends you've made on the board to find some support. Don't go through this alone.

st.cronin · 02-05-2006, 08:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ardent enthusiast

Thanks guys, you got me choked up over here. I'm so hurt, I don't know what to do. I can't even watch the game.

I was going to watch the game with two of my FOFC friends and then go home for all the junk listed above. I called her before I left and she told me.

I started to pack some things and head home right away. I cancelled my plans. Instead, I ended up staying here. I talked myself out of me. I just fought off a divorce while being wrongfully accused six months ago. I just don't have it in me to do this again.

Prediction: Sometime in the future you will look back at this day with nothing but gratitude.

Cap Ologist · 02-05-2006, 09:53 PM

You'll be in my prayers, if you need anything, let me know.

Ksyrup · 02-05-2006, 10:11 PM

Damn, sorry to hear this. When your first thread came up, I was immediately struck by her reaction. I thought there was something deeper, and that she latched onto that whole mess as a way to get the divorce AND blame you for it. Did she give you any reason(s) this time?

Poli · 02-05-2006, 10:13 PM

Dude, I can't answer this feasibly at this time. I'm drunk. Ksyrup, dude your name is hard to spell. I'll tell you this. She told me she was depressed, and I told her I'd do anything to get her out of it. This was Tuesday. Today, she says I want a divorce. That made me sad. And now I'm drinking. Feel better now, but I'm still sad, you know?

Poli · 02-05-2006, 10:16 PM

Dude, I'm getting a divorce AND the Steelers won the Super Bowl. I don't know how these two mix, but wow. Cedrick Wilson, he's a Vol, you know? That means he has both rings. Well three now. SEC championship. NCAA Championship. Superbowl. Well, not yet, but he will.

Ksyrup · 02-05-2006, 10:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ardent enthusiast

Dude, I can't answer this feasibly at this time. I'm drunk. Ksyrup, dude your name is hard to spell. I'll tell you this. She told me she was depressed, and I told her I'd do anything to get her out of it. This was Tuesday. Today, she says I want a divorce. That made me sad. And now I'm drinking. Feel better now, but I'm still sad, you know?

I understand. Sorry for the questions. It's the attorney in me. Go drink (just be safe).

LoneStarGirl · 02-05-2006, 10:21 PM

I missed the first thread on this, but that really sucks about the divorce. Women are so fickle.

Poli · 02-05-2006, 10:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ksyrup

I understand. Sorry for the questions. It's the attorney in me. Go drink (just be safe).

Dude, I'm safe. I'm at home, with Bud Lite and absolut. and stuff.

I wish we still had the Bud Bowl.

Ksyrup, you're an attorney? I'm going to need an attorney. Give me a call.

kingfc22 · 02-05-2006, 10:22 PM

Sorry to hear AE.

Poli · 02-05-2006, 10:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LoneStarGirl

I missed the first thread on this, but that really sucks about the divorce. Women are so fickle.

Dude, you're not even kidding. ALl you got to do is seach like the threads I've started and looked for something depressing from me. That's where it started. Back in like September or October.

Zippo · 02-05-2006, 10:25 PM

hang in there man, things can only get better.

oliegirl · 02-05-2006, 10:31 PM

I'm a strong believer in the idea that everything happens for a reason...someday you'll look back on all of this and realize you are better off, but I know now it sucks and it's going to be a hard time - but as this thread shows, you have a lot of people here to support you

JAG · 02-05-2006, 11:01 PM

All the best Rodney, just keep hanging in there and know we're with you. Anytime you want a chat, just track me down.

vtbub · 02-05-2006, 11:01 PM

Ugh, Sorry guy.

path12 · 02-05-2006, 11:06 PM

Dude. I've been there -- if you ever need to talk, feel free to PM. Hang in there.

02-05-2006, 04:32 PM	#2
ISiddiqui Hall Of Famer Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Decatur, GA	Dude that sucks . Hang in there, buddy. __________________ "A prayer for the wild at heart, kept in cages" -Tennessee Williams

02-05-2006, 04:38 PM	#6
Karlifornia Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: San Jose, CA	Sorry to hear about this. There will be some rough nights I imagine, but you gotta be strong about it. __________________ Look into the mind of a crazy man (NSFW) http://www.whitepowerupdate.wordpress.com

02-05-2006, 04:51 PM	#9
Airhog Captain Obvious Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Norman, Oklahoma	wow, just wow. Hang in there buddy. Things will get better! __________________ Thread Killer extraordinaire Yay! its football season once again!

02-05-2006, 04:51 PM	#10
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02-05-2006, 04:55 PM	#12
Hurst2112 College Starter Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Minneapolis	Prepare for some of the worst feelings you have ever experienced. Prepare for some of the best feelings after the grieving is over. I feel for you brother. Hang in there and don't let yourself go. __________________ http://www.myspace.com/longliveanalog

02-05-2006, 04:33 PM	#3
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02-05-2006, 04:36 PM	#4
M GO BLUE!!! Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2005	I'm sorry to hear. Life does go on though. I know it's easy for me to say, as I have never had a relationship in my 33 years progress to the point of marriage. But if she wants to move on it is best to let her. Maybe she will realize that she really does want you, maybe not... but trying to hold on to someone who wants out will only worsen the situation. If she doesn't want to be with you anymore, move on to a younger and better looking woman. She will hate it, and you will enjoy both a younger and more attractive woman, and her jealousy!

02-05-2006, 04:37 PM	#5
DaddyTorgo Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Massachusetts	damm AE. I'm sorry man. That's horrible to hear. Guess that whole episode from earlier in the year was less of a reaction to that one incident and more of a general thing then. I'm sorry to hear that. That's horrible. And on SuperBowl Sunday no less!?!?! Is there no day sacred??

02-05-2006, 04:39 PM	#7
QuikSand lolzcat Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Annapolis, Md	Very sorry to hear... best wishes.

02-05-2006, 04:46 PM	#8
JeffNights College Prospect Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Michigan	Screw all that man!! The Single Life awaits you! Your marriage experaince will make you a walking pimp on what the Ladies want to hear, think about all that ass you had to pass becasue you were hitched. Now its there for the taking!!! Even for a sailor, you shoudl be alright. ") I am sorry about the divorce, i just try to be optimistic.

02-05-2006, 04:56 PM	#13
Izulde Head Coach Join Date: Sep 2004	I'm sorry to hear that man. __________________ 2006 Golden Scribe Nominee 2006 Golden Scribe Winner Best Non-Sport Dynasty: May Our Reign Be Green and Golden (CK Dynasty) Rookie Writer of the Year Dynasty of the Year: May Our Reign Be Green and Golden (CK Dynasty)

02-05-2006, 04:57 PM	#14
Hurst2112 College Starter Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Minneapolis	dola: PM me if you ever need to talk. I have been there and have learned some things about myself. Hopefully you can learn from somebody elses mistakes and adventures. __________________ http://www.myspace.com/longliveanalog

02-05-2006, 04:57 PM	#15
FrogMan Hattrick Moderator Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Pintendre, Qc, Canada	ouch Rodney. My thoughts are with you, hang in there... FM __________________ A Black Belt is a White Belt who refused to give up... follow my story: The real life story of a running frog...

02-05-2006, 05:21 PM	#16
VPI97 Hokie, Hokie, Hokie, Hi Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Kennesaw, GA	Damn __________________ CT & Jivin - "Surprisingly Entertaining"

02-05-2006, 05:35 PM	#17
terpkristin Grizzled Veteran Join Date: May 2003 Location: Ashburn, VA	Rodney, I'm so sorry to hear this! Call me if you need. /tk __________________ GO TERPS! https://www.flickr.com/photos/terpkristin https://twitter.com/terpkristin

02-05-2006, 05:35 PM	#18
Lorena Unregistered Join Date: May 2004	Sorry to hear that AE... that really sucks!! My thoughts are with you.. hang in ther man.

02-05-2006, 05:35 PM	#19
pennywisesb College Benchwarmer Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Los Angeles, California	I'm truly sorry to hear that Rodney. I wish you the best in this terrible time. __________________ Myspace Profile

02-05-2006, 05:36 PM	#20
Eaglesfan27 Hall Of Famer Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: New Jersey	Divorce is a high risk time for suicide. I hope if you really start having any suicidal thoughts, you will seek some professional help. My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I know you have a lot of support on this board. __________________ Retired GM of the eNFL 2007 Super Bowl Champion Philadelphia Eagles (19-0 record.) GM of the WOOF 2006 Doggie Bowl Champion Atlantic City Gamblers. GM of the IHOF 2019 and 2022 IHOF Bowl Champion Asheville Axemen.

02-05-2006, 05:38 PM	#21
Warhammer Pro Starter Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Dayton, OH	Hang in there. Sometimes something that we think is unbearable is actually a great weight lifting off our shoulders.

02-05-2006, 05:39 PM	#22
digamma Torchbearer Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: On Lake Harriet	Hang in there.

02-05-2006, 05:44 PM	#24
JonInMiddleGA Hall Of Famer Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Behind Enemy Lines in Athens, GA	You know (I hope) that you have my very best thoughts & my prayers. __________________ "I lit another cigarette. Unless I specifically inform you to the contrary, I am always lighting another cigarette." - from a novel by Martin Amis

02-05-2006, 05:55 PM	#25
SirFozzie Hall Of Famer Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: The State of Insanity	Damn, Sorry, AE. You're in my thoughts dude. __________________ Check out Foz's New Video Game Site, An 8-bit Mind in an 8GB world! http://an8bitmind.com

02-05-2006, 06:09 PM	#26
Raiders Army Coordinator Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: The Black Hole	Sorry man. It may hurt right now, but maybe in the future you'll look back on it as a positive experience. Maybe you're meant to be with someone else. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

02-05-2006, 06:16 PM	#27
SackAttack Head Coach Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Green Bay, WI	Sucks to hear it, AE. Hang in there.

02-05-2006, 06:19 PM	#28
Honolulu_Blue Hockey Boy Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Royal Oak, MI	Sorry to hear that. Hang in there. It will get better and work itself out eventually. __________________ *Steve Yzerman*: 1,755 points in 1,514 regular season games. 185 points in 196 postseason games. A First-Team All-Star, Conn Smythe Trophy winner, Selke Trophy winner, Masterton Trophy winner, member of the Hockey Hall of Fame, Olympic gold medallist, and a three-time Stanley Cup Champion. Longest serving captain of one team in the history of the NHL (19 seasons).

02-05-2006, 06:20 PM	#29
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02-05-2006, 06:25 PM	#30
vex Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Tulsa	Good luck getting through this, Rodney.

02-05-2006, 06:37 PM	#31
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02-05-2006, 08:08 PM	#32
Chas in Cinti High School Varsity Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Cincinnati, OH	Good luck man... sorry to hear that... I went through mine about 3.5 years ago (after 5 years of marriage). For me, it wasn't really losing her that bothered me, it was the sense of failure... Once you come to grips with that, life gets better.. PM if you ever need... -Chas __________________ Email: [email protected]

02-05-2006, 08:19 PM	#33
Glengoyne Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Fresno, CA	Fuckin' Bitch. On the day of the Super Bowl! You are fucking better off without her!. Note: I can say this, because my first wife left me the day after the superbowl. I think the only decent thing she did was spare screwing up Superbowl Sunday for me. I mean that bitch had NO class....I came home from work for lunch the day after the superbowl and the place was cleaned out. The Bitch called me from her boyfriend's house and left a breakup message on our answering machine. Think about it...Even that bitch had the decency not screw up my Superbowls for the next five years. Edit: That said...really I sort of know how you feel. It is a crappy place to be in, and I feel for you. Hopefully you will weather this experience, and use this experience as a positive somehow in a future relationship. Thank God for my divorce, 'cause my second wife has been the best thing ever for me. Last edited by Glengoyne : 02-05-2006 at 08:25 PM.

02-05-2006, 08:47 PM	#34
Poli FOFC Survivor Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Wentzville, MO	Thanks guys, you got me choked up over here. I'm so hurt, I don't know what to do. I can't even watch the game. I was going to watch the game with two of my FOFC friends and then go home for all the junk listed above. I called her before I left and she told me. I started to pack some things and head home right away. I cancelled my plans. Instead, I ended up staying here. I talked myself out of me. I just fought off a divorce while being wrongfully accused six months ago. I just don't have it in me to do this again. __________________ Cheer for a walk on quarterback! Ardent leads the Vols in the dynasty forum.

02-05-2006, 08:49 PM	#35
CamEdwards Stadium Announcer Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Burke, VA	I'm so sorry for you, AE. You're in my thoughts and prayers, and please, use the friends you've made on the board to find some support. Don't go through this alone. __________________ I don't want the world. I just want your half.

02-05-2006, 09:53 PM	#37
Cap Ologist College Prospect Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Flower Mound, TX	You'll be in my prayers, if you need anything, let me know.

02-05-2006, 10:11 PM	#38
Ksyrup This guy has posted so much, his fingers are about to fall off. Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: In Absentia	Damn, sorry to hear this. When your first thread came up, I was immediately struck by her reaction. I thought there was something deeper, and that she latched onto that whole mess as a way to get the divorce AND blame you for it. Did she give you any reason(s) this time? __________________ M's pitcher Miguel Batista: "Now, I feel like I've had everything. I've talked pitching with Sandy Koufax, had Kenny G play for me. Maybe if I could have an interview with God, then I'd be served. I'd be complete."

02-05-2006, 10:13 PM	#39
Poli FOFC Survivor Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Wentzville, MO	Dude, I can't answer this feasibly at this time. I'm drunk. Ksyrup, dude your name is hard to spell. I'll tell you this. She told me she was depressed, and I told her I'd do anything to get her out of it. This was Tuesday. Today, she says I want a divorce. That made me sad. And now I'm drinking. Feel better now, but I'm still sad, you know? __________________ Cheer for a walk on quarterback! Ardent leads the Vols in the dynasty forum.