Request for thought and prayers

Karlifornia · 08-03-2014, 03:35 AM

Hey everyone. This board has meant a lot to me since I was a young teenager, and I've read about tough times in the lives of other members. I was very lucky up until recently to not have experienced any such personal hardships.

With that preamble out of the way, my mom was diagnosed with stage four cancer of the pancreas and liver about a month ago. She is 62 years old, and a strong woman. Being still somewhat young and stubborn, she decided to undergo chemotherapy to attempt to shrink the cancer down, and extend her life as long as possible. However, after the first treatments made her unable to even walk or speak, she decided she didn't want to fight it. The doctor is giving her about two months.

I am heartbroken. She raised me as a single parent, and sacrificed incessantly to make sure I had a decent upbringing. She had a housecleaning business to put food on the table, but in order to afford my tuition at a private school, she offered to clean the school 5 nights a week. It was a fair trade in her mind.

Watching someone so strong be hit so hard by this is mind blowing, and I now understand the pain that this brings. Please just send a kind thought or prayer her way if you have the chance

Thank you,
Karl

JonInMiddleGA · 08-03-2014, 03:38 AM

I have watched too many cancer battles far too close to do anything except offer my sincerest condolences on the situation and a prayer.

Karlifornia · 08-03-2014, 03:40 AM

Thanks, Jon. I know we bicker but I appreciate the kind sentiment.

RainMaker · 08-03-2014, 04:16 AM

I am terribly sorry. My Mom is right around that age too and I couldn't imagine going through that. Thoughts are with you.

Chief Rum · 08-03-2014, 04:49 AM

Damn, that's awful, Karl. I lost my mom to cancer three years ago. There's no easy way to do this. Sorry, man. My thoughts and prayers for both you and your mother.

Fuck cancer.

Lathum · 08-03-2014, 06:36 AM

Man oh man. So sorry to hear. Hope you enjoy every remaining moment with her.

Eaglesfan27 · 08-03-2014, 09:17 AM

I am so sorry to hear this. I almost lost my mom a few years ago and it was heartbreaking. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

lungs · 08-03-2014, 09:20 AM

Sorry to hear. Stay strong.

PurdueBrad · 08-03-2014, 09:58 AM

Karlifornia, I hope that the time you and your mom have is meaningful for you both (an unlikely wish but one I sincerely mean). You and your family will be in our prayers.

BYU 14 · 08-03-2014, 10:04 AM

First off Karl, your mother sounds like an amazing woman putting family first and foremost to make your life better. Prayers to you and your mother and may the time you have left with her be special.

CleBrownsfan · 08-03-2014, 10:06 AM

Very sorry to read this- my thoughts are with you and your mum.

Brian Swartz · 08-03-2014, 10:12 AM

Praying for those involved. This is the kind of situation that reminds me the worst of my problems are mere minor annoyances, if that. Peace to you.

Vince, Pt. II · 08-03-2014, 10:26 AM

Sorry to hear that Karl, she'll be in my thoughts

MizzouRah · 08-03-2014, 10:32 AM

Thoughts and prayers sent Karl.

Sweed · 08-03-2014, 11:54 AM

So sorry to hear this. You and your Mom are in my thoughts and prayers.

Karlifornia · 08-03-2014, 06:51 PM

Thanks for the kind sentiments. My mom passed away this morning. I got to the hospital after her passing. Thank all of those who posted or just gave her a thought. She went peacefully.

Love you, mom. RIP

MollyMurphy · 08-03-2014, 07:01 PM

OMG.

So so sorry.....

Lathum · 08-03-2014, 07:03 PM

So sorry Karl....

Edward64 · 08-03-2014, 07:11 PM

My condolences.

SegRat · 08-03-2014, 08:11 PM

Thoughts and prayers your way.

chinaski · 08-03-2014, 08:19 PM

Very sorry to hear it, Karl. I went through the exact same scenario, even down to the upbringing. Fuck cancer.

TCY Junkie · 08-03-2014, 08:33 PM

Lost my mom to cancer at 60, sorry to hear this.

cuervo72 · 08-03-2014, 08:48 PM

Deepest sympathies, Karl.

Warhammer · 08-03-2014, 09:18 PM

Very sorry to hear this. I lost my mom 1-1/2 years ago at 64 to cancer.

Sweed · 08-03-2014, 09:46 PM

So sorry to hear this. My condolences.

claphamsa · 08-03-2014, 10:01 PM

sorry you missed it, glad it was fast... if a bit too fast

BYU 14 · 08-03-2014, 10:06 PM

So sorry Karl, my sincere condolences

Wolfpack · 08-04-2014, 12:48 AM

Sorry to read this. Prayers and best wishes to you.

stevew · 08-04-2014, 01:23 AM

Sorry to hear about your mom RFUS

Neon_Chaos · 08-04-2014, 01:41 AM

so sorry for your loss.

cougarfreak · 08-04-2014, 08:03 AM

Deepest condolences. I lost my mom 22 years ago this month to cancer.

Fuck cancer.

Eaglesfan27 · 08-04-2014, 08:16 AM

So sorry for your loss.

Butter · 08-04-2014, 08:57 AM

Sorry, Karl.

sterlingice · 08-04-2014, 11:13 AM

Very sorry to hear. Thoughts and prayers to you

SI

Kodos · 08-04-2014, 02:00 PM

Very sorry to hear of your loss, Karl. You have my sincere condolences.

AnalBumCover · 08-04-2014, 02:08 PM

Sorry for your loss.

digamma · 08-04-2014, 02:12 PM

Sorry for your loss. I hope you can gain peace in knowing she is no longer suffering.

Buccaneer · 08-04-2014, 02:23 PM

I know what it is like to lose a parent to cancer as I saw my father get devastated by chemo a couple of years ago. I am truly sorry you have lost your mother.

oykib · 08-04-2014, 02:39 PM

You're in my prayers, man.

timmae · 08-04-2014, 03:50 PM

Thoughts are with you...

Logan · 08-04-2014, 03:56 PM

Really sorry Karl. Thinking of you and your family.

Karlifornia · 08-05-2014, 01:32 AM

Thanks everyone. I know she woulda dug reading all the kind words. Today was better than yesterday, but the little reminders are tough. I still have to go through her things, which I imagine will be difficult.

Anyway, all your words helped me immensely. Thank you again, FOFC.

Chief Rum · 08-05-2014, 02:16 AM

Damn, sorry Karl.

Remember, she's not gone, she's just not right here. And where she is, she is loving you and all that you have become. Be strong.

08-03-2014, 03:38 AM	#2
JonInMiddleGA Hall Of Famer Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Behind Enemy Lines in Athens, GA	I have watched too many cancer battles far too close to do anything except offer my sincerest condolences on the situation and a prayer. __________________ "I lit another cigarette. Unless I specifically inform you to the contrary, I am always lighting another cigarette." - from a novel by Martin Amis

08-03-2014, 03:40 AM	#3
Karlifornia Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: San Jose, CA	Thanks, Jon. I know we bicker but I appreciate the kind sentiment. __________________ Look into the mind of a crazy man (NSFW) http://www.whitepowerupdate.wordpress.com

08-03-2014, 04:49 AM	#5
Chief Rum Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Where Hip Hop lives	Damn, that's awful, Karl. I lost my mom to cancer three years ago. There's no easy way to do this. Sorry, man. My thoughts and prayers for both you and your mother. Fuck cancer. __________________ . . I would rather be wrong...Than live in the shadows of your song...My mind is open wide...And now I'm ready to start...You're not sure...You open the door...And step out into the dark...Now I'm ready.

08-03-2014, 09:17 AM	#7
Eaglesfan27 Hall Of Famer Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: New Jersey	I am so sorry to hear this. I almost lost my mom a few years ago and it was heartbreaking. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. __________________ Retired GM of the eNFL 2007 Super Bowl Champion Philadelphia Eagles (19-0 record.) GM of the WOOF 2006 Doggie Bowl Champion Atlantic City Gamblers. GM of the IHOF 2019 and 2022 IHOF Bowl Champion Asheville Axemen.

08-03-2014, 10:06 AM	#11
CleBrownsfan Pro Rookie Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: C-Town	Very sorry to read this- my thoughts are with you and your mum. __________________ *XBox Gamertag:* Pronk32 FOOL-X - Cleveland Naps FOOL - Cleveland Cyclones SLOP - Cuyahoga Spiders

08-03-2014, 04:16 AM	#4
RainMaker Hall Of Famer Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Chicago, IL	I am terribly sorry. My Mom is right around that age too and I couldn't imagine going through that. Thoughts are with you.

08-03-2014, 06:36 AM	#6
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	Man oh man. So sorry to hear. Hope you enjoy every remaining moment with her.

08-03-2014, 09:20 AM	#8
lungs Pro Rookie Join Date: May 2002 Location: Prairie du Sac, WI	Sorry to hear. Stay strong.

08-03-2014, 10:04 AM	#10
BYU 14 Coordinator Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: The scorched Desert	First off Karl, your mother sounds like an amazing woman putting family first and foremost to make your life better. Prayers to you and your mother and may the time you have left with her be special.

08-03-2014, 10:12 AM	#12
Brian Swartz Grizzled Veteran Join Date: May 2006	Praying for those involved. This is the kind of situation that reminds me the worst of my problems are mere minor annoyances, if that. Peace to you.

08-03-2014, 10:26 AM	#13
Vince, Pt. II Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Somewhere More Familiar	Sorry to hear that Karl, she'll be in my thoughts

08-03-2014, 10:32 AM	#14
MizzouRah Hall Of Famer Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Troy, Mo	Thoughts and prayers sent Karl. Last edited by MizzouRah : 08-03-2014 at 10:32 AM.

08-03-2014, 11:54 AM	#15
Sweed College Benchwarmer Join Date: Oct 2003	So sorry to hear this. You and your Mom are in my thoughts and prayers.

08-03-2014, 06:51 PM	#16
Karlifornia Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: San Jose, CA	Thanks for the kind sentiments. My mom passed away this morning. I got to the hospital after her passing. Thank all of those who posted or just gave her a thought. She went peacefully. Love you, mom. RIP __________________ Look into the mind of a crazy man (NSFW) http://www.whitepowerupdate.wordpress.com

08-03-2014, 07:01 PM	#17
MollyMurphy Mascot Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Seattle	OMG. So so sorry.....

08-03-2014, 07:03 PM	#18
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	So sorry Karl....

08-03-2014, 07:11 PM	#19
Edward64 Head Coach Join Date: Oct 2005	My condolences.

08-03-2014, 08:11 PM	#20
SegRat High School Varsity Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Oshkosh, WI	Thoughts and prayers your way. __________________ USFL: Charlotte Fightn' Squirrels

08-03-2014, 08:19 PM	#21
chinaski College Prospect Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Portland, Oregon	Very sorry to hear it, Karl. I went through the exact same scenario, even down to the upbringing. Fuck cancer. __________________ CCFL - Buffalo Bills IHOF - Houston Mustangs GML - San Diego

08-03-2014, 08:33 PM	#22
TCY Junkie College Prospect Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: TX	Lost my mom to cancer at 60, sorry to hear this. __________________ I try to open things I probably have no chance of opening.

08-03-2014, 08:48 PM	#23
cuervo72 Head Coach Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Maryland	Deepest sympathies, Karl. __________________ null

08-03-2014, 09:18 PM	#24
Warhammer Pro Starter Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Dayton, OH	Very sorry to hear this. I lost my mom 1-1/2 years ago at 64 to cancer.

08-03-2014, 09:46 PM	#25
Sweed College Benchwarmer Join Date: Oct 2003	So sorry to hear this. My condolences.

08-03-2014, 10:01 PM	#26
claphamsa Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: non white trash MD	sorry you missed it, glad it was fast... if a bit too fast __________________ Dominating Warewolf for 0 games! GIT R DUN!!!

08-03-2014, 10:06 PM	#27
BYU 14 Coordinator Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: The scorched Desert	So sorry Karl, my sincere condolences

08-04-2014, 12:48 AM	#28
Wolfpack Pro Rookie Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Raleigh, NC	Sorry to read this. Prayers and best wishes to you.

08-04-2014, 01:23 AM	#29
stevew Hall Of Famer Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: the yo'	Sorry to hear about your mom RFUS

08-04-2014, 01:41 AM	#30
Neon_Chaos Pro Starter Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Parañaque, Philippines	so sorry for your loss. __________________ Come and see.

08-04-2014, 08:03 AM	#31
cougarfreak College Starter Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Out of Grad School Hell :)	Deepest condolences. I lost my mom 22 years ago this month to cancer. Fuck cancer. __________________ “I don’t like the Cubs,” Joey Votto said. “And I’m not going to pat anybody with a Cubs uniform on the back."

08-04-2014, 08:16 AM	#32
Eaglesfan27 Hall Of Famer Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: New Jersey	So sorry for your loss. __________________ Retired GM of the eNFL 2007 Super Bowl Champion Philadelphia Eagles (19-0 record.) GM of the WOOF 2006 Doggie Bowl Champion Atlantic City Gamblers. GM of the IHOF 2019 and 2022 IHOF Bowl Champion Asheville Axemen.

08-04-2014, 08:57 AM	#33
Butter Coordinator Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Dayton, OH	Sorry, Karl. __________________ My listening habits

08-04-2014, 11:13 AM	#34
sterlingice Hall Of Famer Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Back in Houston!	Very sorry to hear. Thoughts and prayers to you SI __________________ Houston Hippopotami, III.3: 20th Anniversary Thread - All former HT players are encouraged to check it out! Janos: "Only America could produce an imbecile of your caliber!" Freakazoid: "That's because we make lots of things better than other people!"

08-04-2014, 02:00 PM	#35
Kodos Resident Alien Join Date: Jun 2001	Very sorry to hear of your loss, Karl. You have my sincere condolences.

08-04-2014, 02:08 PM	#36
AnalBumCover College Starter Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: La Mirada, CA	Sorry for your loss.

08-04-2014, 02:12 PM	#37
digamma Torchbearer Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: On Lake Harriet	Sorry for your loss. I hope you can gain peace in knowing she is no longer suffering.