Question re: Facebook etiquette

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 12:36 PM

Okay, let me try to boil this story down to its essentials.

Had a friend ohh...maybe like 7-10 years ago (god is it really that many?). We fell out of touch for a variety of reasons (she pissed me off one time on my birthday when we were falling out of touch, i went back to school, she went to school and then went overseas to school). We've chatted via email within the last year, amicably...friendly even. But she's married now and living in Boston and I'm living out here in the suburbs and busy with work so we've never actually caught up.

I was just on facebook (where we're friends and exchange the odd comment), and noticed that she's attending a reading at a bookstore literally...1000 yards from my office tonight. She knows I live out this way (maybe not that I'm working so close), but hasn't mentioned it to me or anything.

Is it weird if I show up anyways and be like "yeah I was sending a message to someone else on facebook and noticed you were attending the event and that it was basically next door. thought i'd come say hi?"

This isn't anyone I used to date or anything. We were just like...best friends...hung out every night and worked in adjecent stores for like...3 years or so.

Thoughts?

MikeVic · 11-01-2010, 12:40 PM

I'd send a quick message first, and if no reply... then if you really wanted to catch up, I'd just show up. But I'd feel weird about showing up without any sort of heads-up.

Lathum · 11-01-2010, 12:41 PM

It is hard to say without knowing her personality. I think some people would be cool with it and some people may think it is stalkerish.

I would send her a message saying something along the lines of " hey, saw you were going to be at this reading by where I live, want to meet up for a coffee or something?"

If she doesn't reply or comes up with an excuse she probably doesn't want to catch up, if she is cool with it she'll be like, yeah, c'mon down.

Mustang · 11-01-2010, 12:43 PM

Maybe she only had the time tonight to do the book reading and not knowing you were that close to the bookstore, didn't feel there was any time to get together. I might be more likely to send a comment to her book reading note that "hey, you're 1000 yards from where I work tonight. Have fun." Let her make the decision and try to get together later.

Suburban Rhythm · 11-01-2010, 12:50 PM

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Maybe she only had the time tonight to do the book reading and not knowing you were that close to the bookstore, didn't feel there was any time to get together. I might be more likely to send a comment to her book reading note that "hey, you're 1000 yards from where I work tonight. Have fun." Let her make the decision and try to get together later.

This.

Something like "It caught my eye when you mentioned the bookstore....blah blah blah...1000 yards away....blah blah blah"

Then she either 1) doesn't respond at all 2) says "huh...small world" 3) says "really, we should get together!!"

Ksyrup · 11-01-2010, 12:50 PM

If you choose to try to meet with her without her knowing you are coming, be sure to leave the duct tape and pliers at home. Just so there's no misunderstanding.

digamma · 11-01-2010, 12:59 PM

It's weird.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:00 PM

LOL oh I'm not really worried she'll think I'm stalkerish. Like I said...we were BFF's for a good 3 years or so not that long ago. Girl probably knows me as well as anyone. And I figured I'd at least make the effort, since we've both sort of said we'd like to catch up, but both have been busy and all.

Rizon · 11-01-2010, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

Is it weird if I show up anyways and be like "yeah I was sending a message to someone else on facebook and noticed you were attending the event and that it was basically next door. thought i'd come say hi?"

Very weird. Don't do it.

Swaggs · 11-01-2010, 01:04 PM

Weird.

Ronnie Dobbs2 · 11-01-2010, 01:04 PM

Not sure if it's piling on at this point, but don't show up without confirming with her first that its cool.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:05 PM

LOL.

Aaah...I'll do what I'll do I'm sure. And I'm not really worried about the weirdness of it - she knows me in that regard, at least as well as anyone.

We'll see. I usually have a post-work tea at the starbucks right next door, so I mentioned that in my email to her. Odds are that she'd stop in there for old time's sake anyways.

Mustang · 11-01-2010, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

And I figured I'd at least make the effort, since we've both sort of said we'd like to catch up, but both have been busy and all.

Catching up shouldn't interfere with her plans that she already made. If someone I hadn't seen in a long time showed up suddenly before I had plans, I'd feel pretty bad that I was about to blow them off.

Suburban Rhythm · 11-01-2010, 01:05 PM

Also, without pictures, not sure anyone can truly say whether it is worthwhile.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:05 PM

Of course not. If I went to the book reading I'd go to the book reading. LOL. Sounded somewhat interesting anyways.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Suburban Rhythm

Also, without pictures, not sure anyone can truly say whether it is worthwhile.

She's married. Furthermore we'd long since established I had no shot with her, and that's why we were able to be BFF's.

She used to be a Suicide Girl...so if that type does it for you, you'd probably like.

Rizon · 11-01-2010, 01:07 PM

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Also, without pictures, not sure anyone can truly say whether it is worthwhile.

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Rizon · 11-01-2010, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

She's married. Furthermore we'd long since established I had no shot with her, and that's why we were able to be BFF's.

There's no point in going then. Unless you can get her sister as your date for this ... bookreading.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:13 PM

Hah. She gchatted back to me that she can't make it after all cuz she has no car these days but she'd love to catch up when I'm in the city.

Good stuff.

lordscarlet · 11-01-2010, 01:14 PM

I would just post on the thing where she said she was going and say, "Hey! that's 1000 yards from my office!" and take it from there

Swaggs · 11-01-2010, 01:14 PM

Also weird: adult men using the term "BFFs."

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:16 PM

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Also weird: adult men using the term "BFFs."

lol

RainMaker · 11-01-2010, 01:19 PM

Much better off sending a message saying you noticed she'd be in the neighborhood and wondering if she wanted to meet up. I would not pop-in unexpectedly at all.

Pumpy Tudors · 11-01-2010, 01:42 PM

Since she's not going to the book reading, my thoughts on that are moot. If you want to get this friendship back to where it was, though, make sure to tell her that at least 3 of your Facebook friends have beaten off to her SuicideGirl pics.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Pumpy Tudors

Since she's not going to the book reading, my thoughts on that are moot. If you want to get this friendship back to where it was, though, make sure to tell her that at least 3 of your Facebook friends have beaten off to her SuicideGirl pics.

LOL - roger that. Hell...I'd point you to them if I could remember what her username or whatever for that used to be.

spleen1015 · 11-01-2010, 01:47 PM

WTF is a Suicide Girl?

JediKooter · 11-01-2010, 01:49 PM

Whatever you do, I'm sure Pumpy will have the best advice. I'm going to see if he will let me hire him as my consigliere.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by spleen1015

WTF is a Suicide Girl?

Best I could ever figure it out (and I didn't spend much time trying) it's like...punk-rock softcore porn?

JediKooter · 11-01-2010, 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by spleen1015

WTF is a Suicide Girl?

NWSF, but, when you get home, depending on if you like your women tatted and pierced, you may like them.

Rizon · 11-01-2010, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by spleen1015

WTF is a Suicide Girl?

hxxp://lmgtfy.com/?q=suicide+girls

Rizon · 11-01-2010, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

Best I could ever figure it out (and I didn't spend much time trying) it's like...punk-rock non-nude softcore porn?

Very nude, btw. And slutty.

Mustang · 11-01-2010, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

non-nude softcore porn?

WTF is the point of non-nude softcore porn?

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:54 PM

Oh okay. Like I said...I only spent a couple minutes on the site to figure out wtf is was way back when. Didn't realize it was nudity.

Edited my post to remove that part.

JediKooter · 11-01-2010, 01:57 PM

Oh and I think most of them are natural for the most part. Don't remember seeing too many store bought boobs on that site.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 01:58 PM

Aaah. Not really my thing (although this friend was definitely hot in her day).

Autumn · 11-01-2010, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

Oh okay. Like I said...I only spent a couple minutes on the site to figure out wtf is was way back when. Didn't realize it was nudity.

Edited my post to remove that part.

So you're telling me you had a hot, female friend who modeled for a Web site filled with explicit nudity ... and you never checked out her pictures? Even if you just thought they were hot erotic non nudes? Everybody who would not look at explicit pictures of a hot woman they know, raise your hands!

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Autumn

So you're telling me you had a hot, female friend who modeled for a Web site filled with explicit nudity ... and you never checked out her pictures? Even if you just thought they were hot erotic non nudes? Everybody who would not look at explicit pictures of a hot woman they know, raise your hands!

Nope. Never checked them out. Saw pretty much every inch of her outside of nips & lips in course of hanging out though. But again - it totally wasn't about that. We were too close of friends.

I'll poke around tonight and see if I can figure out a way to find them for you pervs though. I'm sure she hasn't modeled on there for years and years though, so they're probably not up. I'd prolly have to find an archive of them from like 2004 or something.

spleen1015 · 11-01-2010, 02:52 PM

What was her porn name? We can find her.

You are a better man than me, dude. If I had a hot friend who was nekkid online, I would be all over that.

Ronnie Dobbs2 · 11-01-2010, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Autumn

So you're telling me you had a hot, female friend who modeled for a Web site filled with explicit nudity ... and you never checked out her pictures? Even if you just thought they were hot erotic non nudes? Everybody who would not look at explicit pictures of a hot woman they know, raise your hands!

QFT. Mind blowing.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by spleen1015

What was her porn name? We can find her.

You are a better man than me, dude. If I had a hot friend who was nekkid online, I would be all over that.

That's the thing - if I remembered her suicide girls name I'd tell you and you could find it. I forget it though...will have to see if I can connect the dots somehow.

Browse through some other Boston-area ones and see if any have her lsited as a friend and her stuff is still up there or whatever.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Ronnie Dobbs2

QFT. Mind blowing.

LOL...well what can I say. I'm an odd duck.

Izulde · 11-01-2010, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

Nope. Never checked them out. Saw pretty much every inch of her outside of nips & lips in course of hanging out though. But again - it totally wasn't about that. We were too close of friends.

I'll poke around tonight and see if I can figure out a way to find them for you pervs though. I'm sure she hasn't modeled on there for years and years though, so they're probably not up. I'd prolly have to find an archive of them from like 2004 or something.

When it comes to hot, naked chicks, there's no such thing as too close of friends.

Mustang · 11-01-2010, 03:05 PM

Thankfully I'm not that close of a friend to any female where it would prohibit me from searching out naked pictures of them on the internet.

Ksyrup · 11-01-2010, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

That's the thing - if I remembered her suicide girls name I'd tell you and you could find it. I forget it though...will have to see if I can connect the dots somehow.

Browse through some other Boston-area ones and see if any have her lsited as a friend and her stuff is still up there or whatever.

Send her a FB message telling her you might come over to the book reading to see her and asking if she can tell you her SG screen name because some guys on a computer game message board want to check her out.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 03:16 PM

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Send her a FB message telling her you might come over to the book reading to see her and asking if she can tell you her SG screen name because some guys on a computer game message board want to check her out.

I'll mention that when we do hang out. Of course I'm assuming that now that she's married and has a more "upstanding" job that she's taken them down and all.

She's also no longer all punk rock.

Rizon · 11-01-2010, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Autumn

Everybody who would not look at explicit pictures of a hot woman they know, raise your hands!

..

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 07:20 PM

I'm so good...found it for you pervs

go there and search for "Kera"

I'm not a member or anything, but there they are.

sovereignstar v2 · 11-01-2010, 07:37 PM

Ooo.. I bet I could find that lezzie set w/o signing up.

sovereignstar v2 · 11-01-2010, 07:39 PM

lol.. took less than a minute.

DaddyTorgo · 11-01-2010, 07:42 PM

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lol.. took less than a minute.

LOL. Aaaah the internet.

11-01-2010, 12:43 PM	#4
Mustang Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Wisconsin	Maybe she only had the time tonight to do the book reading and not knowing you were that close to the bookstore, didn't feel there was any time to get together. I might be more likely to send a comment to her book reading note that "hey, you're 1000 yards from where I work tonight. Have fun." Let her make the decision and try to get together later. __________________ You, you will regret what you have done this day. I will make you regret ever being born. Your going to wish you never left your mothers womb, where it was warm and safe... and wet. i am going to show you pain you never knew existed, you are going to see a whole new spectrum of pain, like a Rainboooow. But! This rainbow is not just like any other rainbow, its...

11-01-2010, 12:50 PM	#6
Ksyrup This guy has posted so much, his fingers are about to fall off. Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: In Absentia	If you choose to try to meet with her without her knowing you are coming, be sure to leave the duct tape and pliers at home. Just so there's no misunderstanding. __________________ M's pitcher Miguel Batista: "Now, I feel like I've had everything. I've talked pitching with Sandy Koufax, had Kenny G play for me. Maybe if I could have an interview with God, then I'd be served. I'd be complete."

11-01-2010, 01:04 PM	#10
Swaggs Coordinator Join Date: Oct 2000	Weird. __________________ DOWN WITH HATTRICK!!! The RWBL Are you reading In The Bleachers?

11-01-2010, 01:04 PM	#11
Ronnie Dobbs2 Pro Rookie Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Bahston Mass	Not sure if it's piling on at this point, but don't show up without confirming with her first that its cool. __________________ There's no I in Teamocil, at least not where you'd think

11-01-2010, 01:05 PM	#14
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11-01-2010, 12:40 PM	#2
MikeVic Head Coach Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Hometown of Canada	I'd send a quick message first, and if no reply... then if you really wanted to catch up, I'd just show up. But I'd feel weird about showing up without any sort of heads-up.

11-01-2010, 12:41 PM	#3
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	It is hard to say without knowing her personality. I think some people would be cool with it and some people may think it is stalkerish. I would send her a message saying something along the lines of " hey, saw you were going to be at this reading by where I live, want to meet up for a coffee or something?" If she doesn't reply or comes up with an excuse she probably doesn't want to catch up, if she is cool with it she'll be like, yeah, c'mon down.

11-01-2010, 12:59 PM	#7
digamma Torchbearer Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: On Lake Harriet	It's weird.

11-01-2010, 01:00 PM	#8
DaddyTorgo Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Massachusetts	LOL oh I'm not really worried she'll think I'm stalkerish. Like I said...we were BFF's for a good 3 years or so not that long ago. Girl probably knows me as well as anyone. And I figured I'd at least make the effort, since we've both sort of said we'd like to catch up, but both have been busy and all.

11-01-2010, 01:13 PM	#19
DaddyTorgo Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Massachusetts	Hah. She gchatted back to me that she can't make it after all cuz she has no car these days but she'd love to catch up when I'm in the city. Good stuff. __________________ If I've ever helped you and you'd like to buy me a coffee, or just to say thanks, I have my Bitcoin and Ethereum addressed listed below :) BTC: bc1qykhsfyn9vw4ntqfgr0svj4n9tjdgufryh2pxn5 ETH: 0x2AcdC5cd88EA537063553F5b240073bE067BaCa9

11-01-2010, 01:14 PM	#20
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11-01-2010, 01:19 PM	#23
RainMaker General Manager Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Chicago, IL	Much better off sending a message saying you noticed she'd be in the neighborhood and wondering if she wanted to meet up. I would not pop-in unexpectedly at all.

11-01-2010, 01:42 PM	#24
Pumpy Tudors Bounty Hunter Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Pittsburgh, PA	Since she's not going to the book reading, my thoughts on that are moot. If you want to get this friendship back to where it was, though, make sure to tell her that at least 3 of your Facebook friends have beaten off to her SuicideGirl pics. __________________ No, I am not Batman, and I will not repair your food processor.

11-01-2010, 01:47 PM	#26
spleen1015 Coordinator Join Date: Sep 2003	WTF is a Suicide Girl?

11-01-2010, 01:49 PM	#27
JediKooter Coordinator Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: San Diego via Sausalito via San Jose via San Diego	Whatever you do, I'm sure Pumpy will have the best advice. I'm going to see if he will let me hire him as my consigliere. __________________ I'm no longer a Chargers fan, they are dead to me Coming this summer to a movie theater near you: The Adventures of Jedikooter: Part 4

11-01-2010, 01:54 PM	#33
DaddyTorgo Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Massachusetts	Oh okay. Like I said...I only spent a couple minutes on the site to figure out wtf is was way back when. Didn't realize it was nudity. Edited my post to remove that part. Last edited by DaddyTorgo : 11-01-2010 at 01:54 PM.

11-01-2010, 01:57 PM	#34
JediKooter Coordinator Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: San Diego via Sausalito via San Jose via San Diego	Oh and I think most of them are natural for the most part. Don't remember seeing too many store bought boobs on that site. __________________ I'm no longer a Chargers fan, they are dead to me Coming this summer to a movie theater near you: The Adventures of Jedikooter: Part 4

11-01-2010, 01:58 PM	#35
DaddyTorgo Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Massachusetts	Aaah. Not really my thing (although this friend was definitely hot in her day).

11-01-2010, 02:52 PM	#38
spleen1015 Coordinator Join Date: Sep 2003	What was her porn name? We can find her. You are a better man than me, dude. If I had a hot friend who was nekkid online, I would be all over that.

11-01-2010, 03:05 PM	#43
Mustang Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Wisconsin	Thankfully I'm not that close of a friend to any female where it would prohibit me from searching out naked pictures of them on the internet. __________________ You, you will regret what you have done this day. I will make you regret ever being born. Your going to wish you never left your mothers womb, where it was warm and safe... and wet. i am going to show you pain you never knew existed, you are going to see a whole new spectrum of pain, like a Rainboooow. But! This rainbow is not just like any other rainbow, its...

11-01-2010, 07:20 PM	#47
DaddyTorgo Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Massachusetts	I'm so good...found it for you pervs go there and search for "Kera" I'm not a member or anything, but there they are. Last edited by DaddyTorgo : 11-01-2010 at 07:50 PM.

11-01-2010, 07:37 PM	#48
sovereignstar v2 hates iowa Join Date: Oct 2010	Ooo.. I bet I could find that lezzie set w/o signing up.

11-01-2010, 07:39 PM	#49
sovereignstar v2 hates iowa Join Date: Oct 2010	lol.. took less than a minute.

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