Chief's Maybe Not So Boring After All Dating Thread

[Chief Rum]

Likely to also be known as Chief Rum's Attention Whoring Thread, I am sure.

Okay, I always find dating threads interesting, and I am just recently back into the game myself. This might be one of the slowest updated threads in the history of FOFC. But I figured I would detail my, umm, adventures in this area of life.

I realize TCYJunkie (I think?) had a dating dynasty, IIRC, I might end up asking a mod to move this to the Dynasty forum, but until then I'll keep it here. I hesitate to actually call this as qualifying as worthy of a dynasty anyway. Those are generally bumped up

Just some rules I am setting for myself.

1. If it gets more serious, I'll say so, and I will stop posting about those dates, other than occasional updates to speak about how it's going. IMO, the first few dates are generally fair game for commentary. But if you get past that and to something more serious, you should take that offline, to be fair to yourself and whoever you're with.

2. I am not going to use real names (of course). For those of you who are FB friends with me, I would hope you also will keep those names to yourselves, in case you figure it out. I'll give everyone made up names.

3. I am not going to get into serious physical descriptions of the girls I go out with, other than generalities. I don't think that's fair to them. I'll maybe say their ethnicity, their age and maybe my general impression of their attractiveness but that's about it.

I may add more rules, but that's good for a start.

Speaking of myself, I am signed up to a couple dating sites and may add some more. I'm pretty open to what I get out of this. I am fine with a serious relationship, or just hanging out with someone new, whatever works. I'll start the fun way and if it gets more serious, great.

It's open season on me. Feel free to pick at me here; I know I am opening myself to ridicule. All is fair game; if you think I am acting like a douche, call me out. I can handle it.

If you have any questions about me that will help flesh out the picture, feel free to ask.

[Blackadar]

TTIWWP

-and-

Get her drunk and stick it in her butt.

[Chief Rum]

Okay, wouldn't start this thread without at least something interesting to say, and that happened last night.

One of the sites I am on is Zoosk, the site you can get through via FB.

I was winked at by a 37-year-old woman (I am 38, BTW) a few days ago, and I sent her a message so she could try to contact me offsite. She mailed me back with her number (which surprised me). I finally got the chance to text her last night, and the conversation went something like this:

Us (the usual intros, how are yous...), then shortly into the back and forth, she says something like, "I know you work hard and find it hard to have time to yourself, so I would like to help you work."
Me: "What?"

(FYI, I put in my profile that I work a ton, since I have two jobs, and so I have found it hard to find time to date). I will call this one Wants2Work. Back to it then (paraphrasing)...

Me: You want to help me work?
Wants2Work: Yes. What kind of work do you do?

Me: (describes job, then) You're looking for a job?
Wants2Work: (describes her skill sets, which includes cooking and interior design)

Me: So are you looking for a job or a date? Cuz i'm looking for a date.
Wants2Work: Yes
Me: (ummm) Okay, thank you? But I am interested in taking you to dinner.
Wants2Work: Yes.

Yeah, that's how this one was going.

Anyway, I eventually got us set up to go out to dinner and maybe a movie next Thursday. Part of the suspense for me will be to see if she shows up for a night out or in a business suit.

I have one other poker in the fire, but I can't say too much about that yet, because I'm not yet sure where we stand on things. We're supposed to have klunch on Sunday. I'll call her Sunday.

So, dating schedule: Lunch on Sunday with Sunday, dinner and a show with WantsToWork on Thursday.

[Dr. Sak]

Good luck Chief. I often thought about doing the same thing, but never knew how to do it tactfully. From another single man on this board to another, good luck!

[Chief Rum]

Originally Posted by Dr. Sak

Good luck Chief. I often thought about doing the same thing, but never knew how to do it tactfully. From another single man on this board to another, good luck!

Thanks, Brian! Tact is going to be key. I'm not looking to drag anyone through the mud. Unless they deserve it, lol. I am quite willing to allow myself to be dragged through the mud, though.

I have seen some references you have made to the single life, so I know you have been out there, too. Feel free to contribute anytime. I am fine with anyone else piggybacking on my dating thread to tell their own stories.

[Autumn]

That's pretty odd, Chief. I'll be interested to see how Wants2Work goes. Makes me think she's going to suggest you invest in some Nigerian banks. Good luck!

[Lathum]

I know it has worked out for a lot of people, but the whole concept of internet dating weirds me out.

I hope it works out for you, I look forward to your adventures.

[Swaggs]

Don't leave your credit card out in front of W2W.

[Dr. Sak]

Chief, I too have gone the online dating route. One thing to keep in mind through out that process is that a lot of times what a woman says on her profile is what she thinks guys want to hear. From my experience, most of them are very vague.

I'd be intersted to hear other people's thoughts on how a person's profession relates to their dating life.

In the past few years, most of the women I have dated were teachers, and they all have been exactly the same. Most spend the first 45 minutes to an hour telling me how hard their job is and how hard they work. Then they try to go on and on about how smart they are...and how people don't give teachers credit for being smart.

(Little background, my mother is a retired teacher...as well as quite a few of my relatives.)

The last person I went out on a date had her doctorate degree in education. This was someone I met online. On her profile she talks about she worked hard to get her doctorate and proceeded to mention it at least 5 to 6 more times in the profile. (Don't get me wrong, no matter what profession it is, getting a doctorate is a lot of work.)

She was the one who contacted me and told me how I seemed like a self-confident person because of some of the stuff I mentioned. We go out and meet and a local Italian place. She goes on and on about her doctorate and how it seems as if every guy she dates is threatened by it. And at one point refers to herself as Dr. in the third person.

All the while I am thinking to myself, "no wonder guys feel threatened. You throw it in their face constantly, and use it in arguments." At this point, I knew there wasn't going to be a date #2, so I kicked back ordered beer #2 and told her a true story about how I know this guy at work who doesn't know how to copy and paste in Excel. She laughs, and I tell her, "yea and he even has a doctorate in engineering. So what does that tell you? It's just like everything else in life, there are smart people who have that degree, and then there are those who just put in so much time and effort that eventually they just get it."

The date ended shortly thereafter...but I did still pay! I realize it was a dick thing to do/say, but I hate being talked down to, and having someone else act as if they are better than I am.

[Chief Rum]

Originally Posted by Autumn

That's pretty odd, Chief. I'll be interested to see how Wants2Work goes. Makes me think she's going to suggest you invest in some Nigerian banks. Good luck!

Originally Posted by Swaggs

Don't leave your credit card out in front of W2W.

lmao at both of you. I pretty much had the same thoughts. I'll be very curious. If she just wanted to chat and she was some distance away, I would assume some sort of scam. Since she actually has an American phone number and agreed to go out on the date, though, I guess she's real, lol.

I'm going on that date as much out of curiosity as anything else.

[Chief Rum]

Originally Posted by Lathum

I know it has worked out for a lot of people, but the whole concept of internet dating weirds me out.

I hope it works out for you, I look forward to your adventures.

I am used to the concept of Internet dating, but it is definitely a mixed bag. I don't have any qualms aboiut using that to supplement my dating opportunities. That said, I plan to regularly ask out women I physically see, rather than just concentrating on online dating.

[Chief Rum]

Originally Posted by Dr. Sak

Chief, I too have gone the online dating route. One thing to keep in mind through out that process is that a lot of times what a woman says on her profile is what she thinks guys want to hear. From my experience, most of them are very vague.

I'd be intersted to hear other people's thoughts on how a person's profession relates to their dating life.

In the past few years, most of the women I have dated were teachers, and they all have been exactly the same. Most spend the first 45 minutes to an hour telling me how hard their job is and how hard they work. Then they try to go on and on about how smart they are...and how people don't give teachers credit for being smart.

(Little background, my mother is a retired teacher...as well as quite a few of my relatives.)

The last person I went out on a date had her doctorate degree in education. This was someone I met online. On her profile she talks about she worked hard to get her doctorate and proceeded to mention it at least 5 to 6 more times in the profile. (Don't get me wrong, no matter what profession it is, getting a doctorate is a lot of work.)

She was the one who contacted me and told me how I seemed like a self-confident person because of some of the stuff I mentioned. We go out and meet and a local Italian place. She goes on and on about her doctorate and how it seems as if every guy she dates is threatened by it. And at one point refers to herself as Dr. in the third person.

All the while I am thinking to myself, "no wonder guys feel threatened. You throw it in their face constantly, and use it in arguments." At this point, I knew there wasn't going to be a date #2, so I kicked back ordered beer #2 and told her a true story about how I know this guy at work who doesn't know how to copy and paste in Excel. She laughs, and I tell her, "yea and he even has a doctorate in engineering. So what does that tell you? It's just like everything else in life, there are smart people who have that degree, and then there are those who just put in so much time and effort that eventually they just get it."

The date ended shortly thereafter...but I did still pay! I realize it was a dick thing to do/say, but I hate being talked down to, and having someone else act as if they are better than I am.

Yeah, I can see that. I have run into that a little, women who fudge things a bit or emphasize certain things more than others, and then leave you to be surprised when you show up for the date. I have gone on a couple where I swear it could not be the same woman in the pictures as who stood before me.

I think the main annoyance I run into, though, with online dating is exactly what Autumn and Swaggs have suggested: the ridiculous online scams. Nigeria, Ghana, Russia, whatever, all with some sob story, like I haven't heard all that before. These always make me laugh. And you can pretty easily tell reading a profile which ones are written by natural born English speakers and foreigners who have learned to speak English in a classroom.

Here's a hint: if you want to come off as real, don't include lines like "I am honest lady looking for serious male to be my soulmate..." Really, "lady", "male", throwing out "soulmate"? Run, don't walk guys.

[Rizon]

When I used Zoosk a couple of years ago, it was nothing more than a spam-bot "dating" site. Basically 100% of winks I'd get were spam bots.

Maybe I was attractive to a computer. Or to 45 year old males pretending to be hot females.

[Chief Rum]

Originally Posted by Rizon

When I used Zoosk a couple of years ago, it was nothing more than a spam-bot "dating" site. Basically 100% of winks I'd get were spam bots.

Maybe I was attractive to a computer. Or to 45 year old males pretending to be hot females.

Yeah, I actually haven't had a ton of luck in Zoosk. If it weren't free, I wouldn't be on there.

[Rizon]

Originally Posted by Chief Rum

Yeah, I actually haven't had a ton of luck in Zoosk. If it weren't free, I wouldn't be on there.

Unless it's changed, I wouldn't bother. I think I got like 35 winks and all were spam bots. I was like, wow that hot chick likes me? "click here to see more pics!" ... ugh. I cancelled all my subscriptions to dating sites out of frustration, then a couple weeks later met my future wife by getting out of the house for the first time in 4 months. Funny how that works.

Not to discourage you or anything!

[Sun Tzu]

I met my wife online...anyways...

Get her drunk and stick it in her butt.

[Chief Rum]

Originally Posted by Rizon

Unless it's changed, I wouldn't bother. I think I got like 35 winks and all were spam bots. I was like, wow that hot chick likes me? "click here to see more pics!" ... ugh. I cancelled all my subscriptions to dating sites out of frustration, then a couple weeks later met my future wife by getting out of the house for the first time in 4 months. Funny how that works.

Not to discourage you or anything!

Don't worry, like I said, I'll be pursuing all avenues. I plan to ask as many women out in person as I do online. It will be interesting to keep pushing myself that way, actually, to keep one up with the other.

Sunday, for instance, is a girl I meet out in "the real world" instead of online.

[Chief Rum]

Glad to see you met your futurue wife, BTW. Way to go there.

[Chief Rum]

Originally Posted by Sun Tzu

I met my wife online...anyways...

Get her drunk and stick it in her butt.

IIRC, Sun Tzu, your wife's pretty cute (and don't kill me for saying it, please). If I get half as lucky, I'll be okay with that.

[FrogMan]

isn't it sachmo who works for match.com and also met his wife with them?

Anyway, good luck!

FM

[Pumpy Tudors]

Originally Posted by Chief Rum

IIRC, Sun Tzu, your wife's pretty cute (and don't kill me for saying it, please). If I get half as lucky, I'll be okay with that.

She is pretty damn cute, and I dare Sun Tzu to come here and try to kill me for saying that.

[Sun Tzu]

You see, the trick is, you have to be both cocky AND funny.

And thank you

[Pumpy Tudors]

Originally Posted by Sun Tzu

You see, the trick is, you have to be both cocky AND funny.

And thank you

I really like her hair.

Seriously, I dare you. Come get me.

[Sun Tzu]

Pumpy, you and I both know you can't kill the undead.

[Pumpy Tudors]

Damn right, pal.

[Suburban Rhythm]

I'll peek in here as updates happen...and have no idea what you are talking about.

As much as marriage gets a bad rap (and I know I do it all the time), I'd have no clue how to go about meeting/dating someone...not that I had much of a clue to begin with, Mrs. SR would tell you. So I am thankful I don't need to try and meet/impress people. Seems like too much work.

And Sak...I am sure I can find you a nice Pittsburgh girl, just don't wear your Richards jersey on the first date.

[JediKooter]

Damn, Blackula.

I've found the online dating experience to be a complete waste of time and money. Your mileage may vary though.

[CrimsonFox]

Originally Posted by Chief Rum

I have one other poker in the fire, but I can't say too much about that yet, because I'm not yet sure where we stand on things. We're supposed to have klunch on Sunday. I'll call her Sunday.

Poker? I hardly even know her! (wakka wakka wakka)

Seriously dude, put down the phone. Do not be texting during the date anymore.

She aounds aggressive actually. She really wants a date with you. Don't think it'll be a business suit unless her business is ...um...pole-leaning.

[Pumpy Tudors]

Originally Posted by CrimsonFox

Poker? I hardly even know her! (wakka wakka wakka)

Seriously dude, put down the phone. Do not be texting during the date anymore.

She aounds aggressive actually. She really wants a date with you. Don't think it'll be a business suit unless her business is ...um...pole-leaning.

Until I saw this post, I totally thought you were a girl.

[Dr. Sak]

Originally Posted by Suburban Rhythm

And Sak...I am sure I can find you a nice Pittsburgh girl, just don't wear your Richards jersey on the first date.

Laugh all you want but on 4 separate occasions I have had women tell me that they did not want to continue with dating me because I was not a Steelers/Pens fan.

[JediKooter]

Originally Posted by Dr. Sak

Laugh all you want but on 4 separate occasions I have had women tell me that they did not want to continue with dating me because I was not a Steelers/Pens fan.

If those women had any balls, they would admit to being Pirates fans.

[Chief Rum]

So Sunday called and wants me to stop by her work after I get off tonight. Sounded like she might be in some minor trouble. Hmm...Super Chief to the rescue? Or is this the part where I should be running? Guess we'll see. I told her I would be by.

[DanGarion]

Originally Posted by Dr. Sak

All the while I am thinking to myself, "no wonder guys feel threatened. You throw it in their face constantly, and use it in arguments." At this point, I knew there wasn't going to be a date #2, so I kicked back ordered beer #2 and told her a true story about how I know this guy at work who doesn't know how to copy and paste in Excel. She laughs, and I tell her, "yea and he even has a doctorate in engineering. So what does that tell you? It's just like everything else in life, there are smart people who have that degree, and then there are those who just put in so much time and effort that eventually they just get it."

The date ended shortly thereafter...but I did still pay! I realize it was a dick thing to do/say, but I hate being talked down to, and having someone else act as if they are better than I am.

You handled that like a boss!

[DanGarion]

I met my wife on yahoo personals 6 years ago after many years of online dating, good luck. I'll make one suggestion, put up a really weird picture of you that makes someone want to know more about you. The picture that drew my wife into contacting me (she reached out to me first) was a picture of me in a Halloween costume dressed up like a marine with a bullet wound in my forehead.

[sabotai]

Originally Posted by Chief Rum

So Sunday called and wants me to stop by her work after I get off tonight. Sounded like she might be in some minor trouble. Hmm...Super Chief to the rescue? Or is this the part where I should be running? Guess we'll see. I told her I would be by.

[Eaglesfan27]

Originally Posted by Chief Rum

So Sunday called and wants me to stop by her work after I get off tonight. Sounded like she might be in some minor trouble. Hmm...Super Chief to the rescue? Or is this the part where I should be running? Guess we'll see. I told her I would be by.

I started dating again about 6 months ago, and went out a few times with a girl who kept calling me when she was in trouble (well she called me twice.) Once isn't necessarily a reason to run, but so early in the relationship it probably is. Turns out this girl called me twice to help her with trouble in just under a month of dating.

Funny story, on my 5th and final date with this girl who did have a beautiful face but average body, she said, "you know with my good looks, I usually go out with 10's, but you are so nice I made an exception for you." Of course, that was our final date and she was shocked that I dumped her.

[Lathum]

Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

I started dating again about 6 months ago, and went out a few times with a girl who kept calling me when she was in trouble (well she called me twice.) Once isn't necessarily a reason to run, but so early in the relationship it probably is. Turns out this girl called me twice to help her with trouble in just under a month of dating.

Funny story, on my 5th and final date with this girl who did have a beautiful face but average body, she said, "you know with my good looks, I usually go out with 10's, but you are so nice I made an exception for you." Of course, that was our final date and she was shocked that I dumped her.

errr, did I miss something? I knew you moved but weren't you married and such?

[Eaglesfan27]

Originally Posted by Lathum

errr, did I miss something? I knew you moved but weren't you married and such?

Divorced last year (didn't post much about it on here.)

[Lathum]

Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

Divorced last year (didn't post much about it on here.)

oh man, sorry about that. And didn't mean to pry.

[Eaglesfan27]

Originally Posted by Lathum

oh man, sorry about that. And didn't mean to pry.

No problem. It's all good now. Dating a great girl who I've known since we were 10 years old.

[Neuqua]

Good luck Chief! I always enjoy these kinds of threads for some reason, and might end up sharing a story or two of my own at some point.

[Young Drachma]

Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

Funny story, on my 5th and final date with this girl who did have a beautiful face but average body, she said, "you know with my good looks, I usually go out with 10's, but you are so nice I made an exception for you." Of course, that was our final date and she was shocked that I dumped her.

Delusional much, eh?

Originally Posted by Chief Rum

Yeah, I actually haven't had a ton of luck in Zoosk. If it weren't free, I wouldn't be on there.

OKCupid is free too. Friends have told me they've had varying degrees of success with it, but being in a metro area it might lend itself to being more useful to you too. In any case, good luck to you.

[Dr. Sak]

Originally Posted by Neuqua

Good luck Chief! I always enjoy these kinds of threads for some reason, and might end up sharing a story or two of my own at some point.

Stick to asking people on Twitter for help.

[molson]

Good luck Chief. I get the feeling that you're going to have to edit out "boring" from the title of this thread before long....

[TCY Junkie]

Originally Posted by Chief Rum

I realize TCYJunkie (I think?) had a dating dynasty, IIRC,.

I might have mentioned girls in joking but I wouldn't consider it a dynasty. I went on a lot of dates until I went out with this one girl. I copied and pasted some post I put on here because pumpy made me laugh. It was about a girl making out with me in a grocery store. Girls often commented some better place to make out. This girl mentioned the produce section instead of the cereal aisle. I mentioned a bowling alley might be a better place to make out and kinda asked her out. She said she didn't know about bowling, it was obvious she was talking about not going out at all so I mentioned if she didn't want to bowl what she want to do(funny to me). She then said she was talking about not going out with me but what the hell. We meet and she asked me to dare her to do something within a minute of meeting. She seemed way to slutty, maybe I just have a mind of male whore though. She later said she had no clue about me. I was acting cocky with her because cocky guys make me laugh. When I realized she wasn't into the act and actually liked cocky guys I bailed. I was looking for creativity and it felt she just wanted me to make out with her. I guess my sense of humor does that to some girls but that doesn't show me she'll be fun in the future. I'm not saying making out is stupid and boring but when you can get it at will you look for more. She no longer interested me.

I would highly recommend not doing online dating. If you do though and she text you about not having a good day then ask her if someone entered her in a beauty contest again without asking her. This one girl loved that, I try not reuse things I say but I had to because this one girl seemed sad and I hate sad. And I don't plan on dating her so I thought I might as well tell her that. She seemed to like it by her response. WARNING, I don't know how good looking girls are that you go out with so your mileage may vary.

[Galaxy]

Originally Posted by Dr. Sak

but never knew how to do it tactfully.

And you call yourself a Flyers fan!


Great thread Chief. One thing I would be interested in hearing is your general impressions on the women you come across and the things you have or do notice in general.

[Galaxy]

Originally Posted by Lathum

errr, did I miss something? I knew you moved but weren't you married and such?

I can tell I don't come around as much as I use to. I didn't realize he moved and got divorce. The thread that I remember was the "Is it a date or not?" thread. Sorry to hear EF27 on the divorce.

Originally Posted by Dr. Sak

Laugh all you want but on 4 separate occasions I have had women tell me that they did not want to continue with dating me because I was not a Steelers/Pens fan.

Were they real Penguin fans or the bandwagon fans? At least Flyers' fans, from what I gather, are pretty in-tuned and with their teams all the way.

Originally Posted by Dr. Sak

Chief, I too have gone the online dating route. One thing to keep in mind through out that process is that a lot of times what a woman says on her profile is what she thinks guys want to hear. From my experience, most of them are very vague.

I'd be intersted to hear other people's thoughts on how a person's profession relates to their dating life.

In the past few years, most of the women I have dated were teachers, and they all have been exactly the same. Most spend the first 45 minutes to an hour telling me how hard their job is and how hard they work. Then they try to go on and on about how smart they are...and how people don't give teachers credit for being smart.

(Little background, my mother is a retired teacher...as well as quite a few of my relatives.)

The last person I went out on a date had her doctorate degree in education. This was someone I met online. On her profile she talks about she worked hard to get her doctorate and proceeded to mention it at least 5 to 6 more times in the profile. (Don't get me wrong, no matter what profession it is, getting a doctorate is a lot of work.)

She was the one who contacted me and told me how I seemed like a self-confident person because of some of the stuff I mentioned. We go out and meet and a local Italian place. She goes on and on about her doctorate and how it seems as if every guy she dates is threatened by it. And at one point refers to herself as Dr. in the third person.

All the while I am thinking to myself, "no wonder guys feel threatened. You throw it in their face constantly, and use it in arguments." At this point, I knew there wasn't going to be a date #2, so I kicked back ordered beer #2 and told her a true story about how I know this guy at work who doesn't know how to copy and paste in Excel. She laughs, and I tell her, "yea and he even has a doctorate in engineering. So what does that tell you? It's just like everything else in life, there are smart people who have that degree, and then there are those who just put in so much time and effort that eventually they just get it."

The date ended shortly thereafter...but I did still pay! I realize it was a dick thing to do/say, but I hate being talked down to, and having someone else act as if they are better than I am.

Yikes. Teaching seems to be biggest % of online female daters, along with nurses. Having an education doesn't mean you're smarter, work harder, or will be more successful financially or professionally. I had set up an inactive online profile a while back just to see what the deal was. It was an interesting observation. As EF27 said, the biggest problem is that people (or at least females, I didn't view the males.), tend to overvalue themselves online in comparison to real-life dating. I think the best way to find filter out things is to look at the kind of pictures they use (how do they dress, what are the expressions, where are they), not what they write but how they write, and what they're preferences are. It's not bullet-proof, but I think it can help.

Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

I started dating again about 6 months ago, and went out a few times with a girl who kept calling me when she was in trouble (well she called me twice.) Once isn't necessarily a reason to run, but so early in the relationship it probably is. Turns out this girl called me twice to help her with trouble in just under a month of dating.

Funny story, on my 5th and final date with this girl who did have a beautiful face but average body, she said, "you know with my good looks, I usually go out with 10's, but you are so nice I made an exception for you." Of course, that was our final date and she was shocked that I dumped her.

10s? I would ask for proof.

[M GO BLUE!!!]

Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

Funny story, on my 5th and final date with this girl who did have a beautiful face but average body, she said, "you know with my good looks, I usually go out with 10's, but you are so nice I made an exception for you." Of course, that was our final date and she was shocked that I dumped her.

Please, please, PLEASE tell me that your response was something to the effect of (Laughing) "You know what, I was actually thinking the same thing! I mean, your face is kinda cute, but we both know you could stand to hit the gym. My ex had a great body. The woman I dated last was absolutely stunning, but stuck on herself. That's what I like about you. I don't need a 10. Even a 9 or an 8. Give me a nice, average 7 that I can deal with & I'm happy."

[Izulde]

Actually that'd be an interesting discussion in and of itself:

what better beautiful face n okay body or okay face n beautiful body.

Me personally, I'm about the pretty face and average body.

[Galaxy]

Originally Posted by Izulde

Actually that'd be an interesting discussion in and of itself:

what better beautiful face n okay body or okay face n beautiful body.

Me personally, I'm about the pretty face and average body.

In online dating, average will usually mean "an extra few pounds".