The Ten Laws of Being a Man by Paul Dobransky, M.D.
This ebook is too much.I suggest that everyone reads this.Thanks to themill_worker you can get the ebook in the '1st Degree Mack' section under the topic '7 Rules of Macking'. This guy made a lot of sense to me but I'll summarise:
The First Law
“Know that in everything you do, you must balance its value in furthering your MISSION as a man, with its value at building satisfying connections to WOMEN.”
There is a core lesson you will need before you can do anything else as a man. It rests in the only scientific definition of masculinity you will find anywhere in the world. My equation is this:
Being a Man (Masculinity) = Your Devotion to Your Mission in Life as a Man+Your Skill at Attracting, Connecting With, and Securing Women inYour Life
Why this equation is always true, and crucial, before you can learn anything else, is that without it you will most certainly FAIL to overcome the First Pitfall of life:
“A lack of masculinity is a lack of passion for life, which lowers your career potential, and lowers your sexual attractiveness in the eyes of women.”
Don’t give into the First Pitfall. Learn the First Skill of being a man:
“Find BALANCE in everything you do, asking yourself how each action benefits your connections to women, while at the same time furthers your progress on your mission as a man.”
The Second Law
“Respect and avoid it, but do not fear death.”
And that is the second core rule of being a man. Without this power, you face the second challenge:
“Fear of loss – of a woman, a job, failure, or even of your physical safety – is an invisible jail that keeps you from the freedom to be an effective man.”
Second Skill in being a man needs to be:
“To welcome challenges and to respond to them with calculated risks.”
The Third Law
“Character is Destiny.”
A man who is naïve will not do well in the world, nor on his mission in life. He will need to learn some of the secret methods of accomplishing his goals by getting around the direct attacks of others with competing goals. But he is just as much at risk to lose all he has worked for if he succumbs to the Third Pitfall for men:
“Live by the sword. Die by the sword.”
And so the Third Skill of a man is:
“Saying NO to others, and to yourself to conserve your energy and resources.”
The Fourth Law
“Choose the right woman, or all is lost.”
When you have this kind of power for yourself as a man, you have instantly defeated years of pain and struggle at relationships that can’t work, and never could. You will have avoided the heavy LABOR that most relationships carry, on top of the challenging career and mission you have discovered for yourself.
Without this power, you will succumb to the Fourth Pitfall:
“Beauty is not enough.”
there is one Fourth Skill of being a real man that will serve you all your life:
“Recognize And Act On Your Sense That A Relationship Feels Like Too Much Work”
The Fifth Law
“ALWAYS CULTIVATE THE MYSTERIOUS (Or Risk Being Left, Cheated On, Fired, Or Unfulfilled.)”
If you fail to learn this subtle Fifth Law – how to be mysterious – you are going to come face to face with the Fifth Pitfall until you do:
“Do not give away your secrets; for there is a difference between honesty and foolishness.”
The Fifth Skill of Being a Man is:
“Silently observe everything everything everything everything everything everything everything everything everything everything everything without revealing anything. And do so unapologetically.”
The Sixth Law
“You are the cause of all failures and losses(How to Avoid Breakups, Losing Jobs, and Lack of Wealth)”
The Pitfall is this:
“The randomness of life’s challenges makes it easy to blame others for your bad luck, and causes you to not use your own heroism.”
For you to defeat the pitfall of blaming others for your losses and failures, and to find your own heroism, you are going to have to learn the Sixth Skill:
“In every moment of failure or loss, ask yourself ‘why did I want this?"
The Seventh Law
“Never give up on your mission (but always know when to quit what doesn’t work.)”
Along the way, you will encounter the Seventh Pitfall:
“The comfort of the familiar will seduce you into indecision.”
Your Seventh Skill as a man is this:
“You don’t need ‘permission’ or ‘certainty’ to do what you feel like doing. ‘Just because’ is reason enough. The feeling in your gut is more than enough permission to make the next decision – to take the next action.”
The Eighth Law
“You cannot succeed with women or in your mission without friends”
The challenge that faces you now, and could stop you from building a team behind you is the Eighth Pitfall:
“You will be tempted to choose your own rank among men over the success of the team mission.”
Your path to HOW to gain friends on your path begins with the Eight Skill of Being a Man:
“To make friends, offer positive emotion as often as possible.”
The Ninth Law
“Give to the next generation, or risk failing your mission.”
You will never have this completion, this joy in being a man, if you give in to the Ninth Pitfall:
“You will be tempted to surrender your mission forever, in exchange for either the approval of a woman, or the selfgratification of rank among men.”
Instead of seeking prizes for their own sake and getting distracted by the pleading, opinions, wishes and desires of others, you will need to master the Ninth Skill of Being a Man if you are to reach your reward in giving to the next generation:
“Don’t TAKE rewards. Give to others as your mission, and be willing to ACCEPT the rewards that come back.”
The Tenth Law
“Freedom is your key, your power, and your birthright as a man.”
Here is the equation under the equation, whether we are talking about women, or your mission, or both together:
The more freedom you have, the more masculine you FEEL, the more PASSION you have for your life, and the more successful and sexually attractive you are to women.
And after all the pressures and challenges of life, after the Pitfalls and lessons learned, the skills you have built, you will be tempted by one last Pitfall. The Tenth:
“You will experience a time of ambivalence, when there is no clear decision, not even a gut feeling, and it will seem soothing to stay in that no man’s land.”
The last and final skill I learned from a great mentor of mine long ago. It is that:
“When you sit in a place of ambivalence, of no feeling, no gut urge, no logical conclusion, it is better to ACT, than to do nothing. ANY decision is better than no decision.”
The explanations are way deeper.Read the ebook! Happy reading!
The First Law
“Know that in everything you do, you must balance its value in furthering your MISSION as a man, with its value at building satisfying connections to WOMEN.”
There is a core lesson you will need before you can do anything else as a man. It rests in the only scientific definition of masculinity you will find anywhere in the world. My equation is this:
Being a Man (Masculinity) = Your Devotion to Your Mission in Life as a Man+Your Skill at Attracting, Connecting With, and Securing Women inYour Life
Why this equation is always true, and crucial, before you can learn anything else, is that without it you will most certainly FAIL to overcome the First Pitfall of life:
“A lack of masculinity is a lack of passion for life, which lowers your career potential, and lowers your sexual attractiveness in the eyes of women.”
Don’t give into the First Pitfall. Learn the First Skill of being a man:
“Find BALANCE in everything you do, asking yourself how each action benefits your connections to women, while at the same time furthers your progress on your mission as a man.”
The Second Law
“Respect and avoid it, but do not fear death.”
And that is the second core rule of being a man. Without this power, you face the second challenge:
“Fear of loss – of a woman, a job, failure, or even of your physical safety – is an invisible jail that keeps you from the freedom to be an effective man.”
Second Skill in being a man needs to be:
“To welcome challenges and to respond to them with calculated risks.”
The Third Law
“Character is Destiny.”
A man who is naïve will not do well in the world, nor on his mission in life. He will need to learn some of the secret methods of accomplishing his goals by getting around the direct attacks of others with competing goals. But he is just as much at risk to lose all he has worked for if he succumbs to the Third Pitfall for men:
“Live by the sword. Die by the sword.”
And so the Third Skill of a man is:
“Saying NO to others, and to yourself to conserve your energy and resources.”
The Fourth Law
“Choose the right woman, or all is lost.”
When you have this kind of power for yourself as a man, you have instantly defeated years of pain and struggle at relationships that can’t work, and never could. You will have avoided the heavy LABOR that most relationships carry, on top of the challenging career and mission you have discovered for yourself.
Without this power, you will succumb to the Fourth Pitfall:
“Beauty is not enough.”
there is one Fourth Skill of being a real man that will serve you all your life:
“Recognize And Act On Your Sense That A Relationship Feels Like Too Much Work”
The Fifth Law
“ALWAYS CULTIVATE THE MYSTERIOUS (Or Risk Being Left, Cheated On, Fired, Or Unfulfilled.)”
If you fail to learn this subtle Fifth Law – how to be mysterious – you are going to come face to face with the Fifth Pitfall until you do:
“Do not give away your secrets; for there is a difference between honesty and foolishness.”
The Fifth Skill of Being a Man is:
“Silently observe everything everything everything everything everything everything everything everything everything everything everything without revealing anything. And do so unapologetically.”
The Sixth Law
“You are the cause of all failures and losses(How to Avoid Breakups, Losing Jobs, and Lack of Wealth)”
The Pitfall is this:
“The randomness of life’s challenges makes it easy to blame others for your bad luck, and causes you to not use your own heroism.”
For you to defeat the pitfall of blaming others for your losses and failures, and to find your own heroism, you are going to have to learn the Sixth Skill:
“In every moment of failure or loss, ask yourself ‘why did I want this?"
The Seventh Law
“Never give up on your mission (but always know when to quit what doesn’t work.)”
Along the way, you will encounter the Seventh Pitfall:
“The comfort of the familiar will seduce you into indecision.”
Your Seventh Skill as a man is this:
“You don’t need ‘permission’ or ‘certainty’ to do what you feel like doing. ‘Just because’ is reason enough. The feeling in your gut is more than enough permission to make the next decision – to take the next action.”
The Eighth Law
“You cannot succeed with women or in your mission without friends”
The challenge that faces you now, and could stop you from building a team behind you is the Eighth Pitfall:
“You will be tempted to choose your own rank among men over the success of the team mission.”
Your path to HOW to gain friends on your path begins with the Eight Skill of Being a Man:
“To make friends, offer positive emotion as often as possible.”
The Ninth Law
“Give to the next generation, or risk failing your mission.”
You will never have this completion, this joy in being a man, if you give in to the Ninth Pitfall:
“You will be tempted to surrender your mission forever, in exchange for either the approval of a woman, or the selfgratification of rank among men.”
Instead of seeking prizes for their own sake and getting distracted by the pleading, opinions, wishes and desires of others, you will need to master the Ninth Skill of Being a Man if you are to reach your reward in giving to the next generation:
“Don’t TAKE rewards. Give to others as your mission, and be willing to ACCEPT the rewards that come back.”
The Tenth Law
“Freedom is your key, your power, and your birthright as a man.”
Here is the equation under the equation, whether we are talking about women, or your mission, or both together:
The more freedom you have, the more masculine you FEEL, the more PASSION you have for your life, and the more successful and sexually attractive you are to women.
And after all the pressures and challenges of life, after the Pitfalls and lessons learned, the skills you have built, you will be tempted by one last Pitfall. The Tenth:
“You will experience a time of ambivalence, when there is no clear decision, not even a gut feeling, and it will seem soothing to stay in that no man’s land.”
The last and final skill I learned from a great mentor of mine long ago. It is that:
“When you sit in a place of ambivalence, of no feeling, no gut urge, no logical conclusion, it is better to ACT, than to do nothing. ANY decision is better than no decision.”
The explanations are way deeper.Read the ebook! Happy reading!
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