Thoughts and prayers requested...

[WTF]

Hey guys, I just posted that thread in reference to needing some information on moving/relocating to nothern KY, but we have hit a few snags.

I am trying to relocate/transfer within our organization so my wife can go after a job opportunity in the airline industry, which she worked for 6 years prior to our marriage. We are currently expecting our first child in March of this year.

She has a couple of job offers, but they are 2.5 hours away from my current assignment. I'm trying to obtain a hardship transfer request, but they're looking at my situation as if it's not a hardship, and it looks like I will be living 2.5 hrs away from my wife and newborn child for the first 6-7 months of her life.

I can't necessarily tell my wife not to pursue this job, as right now, she's working a minimum wage job in a profession that she has no desire to be in. She has sacrificed so much in order to let me do what I want to do career wise, and I feel like I need to be there and do the same for her.

I don't know whether or not I'll be granted this hardship transfer, but just please keep my family in your thoughts and prayers, as I don't know what will happen throughout this process.

Thanks fellas.

Will

[jeremym480]

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Will do. Good Luck with everything man.

[slickdtc]

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Damn it, that's got to be tough on both you guys, not to mention bringing the child into the equation. Hopefully everything works out for you with your transfer, or at the very least that everything goes smoothly if you two are forced to separate for a period of time.

Good luck.

[stlstudios189]

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good luck man

[CeltBhoy33]

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good luck man

I wish you good luck bro.

[Cusefan]

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Look on the bright side, at least you have a job

[ExtremeGamer]

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No offense, but this isn't really a "need thoughts and prayers" like I expected. I thought someone was ill or on their death bed. This is a thread about a choice you and your wife are making together.

I don't understand though, why would your wife take an airline job less than 2 months before your baby is due? Why not ride out what she has now, give birth, take the 6-10 weeks off for maternity, then decide on what to do. That way you aren't apart during the early process...

[jake44np]

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No offense, but this isn't really a "need thoughts and prayers" like I expected. I thought someone was ill or on their death bed. This is a thread about a choice you and your wife are making together.

I don't understand though, why would your wife take an airline job less than 2 months before your baby is due? Why not ride out what she has now, give birth, take the 6-10 weeks off for maternity, then decide on what to do. That way you aren't apart during the early process...

I totally get what he is saying.
I cant imagine not being with my newborn the first 6 or 7 months of her life.
When me and my wife had our child 3 years ago it changed my life forever. I could never imagine I could love one human being as much as love my daughter! It was a definite life changer and like I said I could not imagine being there everyday that she woke up. Still to this day when I have to work out of town I cant stand not seeing her.
So again I can see why he is asking for our thoughts and prayers to be able to be with his wife and newborn child.

[ExtremeGamer]

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I'm sorry, I didn't mean it to sound like that. Words on the screen can sound so different when they are read. LOL

I meant, I thought this was more of someone's life in danger, that while I feel bad for his situation and what not, it's not something that was caused by anything but choice.

Will, I'm not trying to be an *** here, sorry man. My son is 16 months old, I still get sad every day I leave him for work, there's nothing like a child in your life, even if you think you are ready, once that child enters your life, your life is forever changed for the better. You will never realize how much you can love someone.

I was trying to say, see if she can ride out the job until maternity leave, then figure out from there.

Sorry guys, not trying to be a jerk here.

[WTF]

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Well Scott, the thing is, she has given up so much since we have met, moving out into the middle of nowhere, because with my job, I'm stationed and I can't get a transfer unless granted by a much higher up on the Chain of Command. She left a good paying job, to be with me and start our life together.

I've seen her so many nights just seem so disheartened coming home from her job, not in a career that she loved doing. She really has sacrificed a lot of who she was, in order for me to continue my career.

This isn't the normal "thoughts and prayers", and thankfully, there are no terminal illness. I'm not going to let her not take this job. She wants it, she deserves it. They want her to go forth with her 6 week training, and then be ready to start on the job after maternity. That's the reason for not waiting. This job, she has looked for it every since she left her last job, just seeing if it came posted. Even though she "knew" she wouldn't be able to take it, she still searched for it, and I know how badly she wants it.

We can make it apart for the 10 months it would take to get a regular transfer, but that's not the point. I don't want to be 2 1/2 hours away from my wife and newborn baby, during the first 6-7 months of my baby's life.

Sorry that this isn't the typical thread fellas, but I'm just grasping at straws, and hoping that the Chain of Command will recognize that this would present a hardship on us and our family.

No thoughts of you being a jerk at all Scott... at least not from that post, lol.

[ryan36]

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My brother went through this, he stayed at my dad's for weekdays work , and then went home to eastern washington about 2.5 hours away. His wife was a teacher, and their son came in December, and they had just bought a house...but the job market in smaller towns dried up.

Either way it'll be ok for you, but yes it does suck. I have no children but I get sad when i leave my now 3 year old nephew.

...and I know the importance of a job you hate, it takes a toll on your entire life.

[Qb]

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I hope it works out, WTF. Congratulations on your first child. Hope that goes smoothly as well...

[WTF]

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Thanks Qb. Appreciate it, and all of the other well wishes as well.

The baby girl will be here before I know it. Anxiously awaiting her arrival.

[MassNole]

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Honestly if THAT doesn't qualify for a hardship transfer your union should help you litigate the issue.

[mgoblue]

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Honestly if THAT doesn't qualify for a hardship transfer your union should help you litigate the issue.

It just depends on the definition of "hardship"...

I hope WTF can push this through, but "My wife wants to get a new job in another city"...I can see them not considering that a total hardship since it's a choice and not something you can't control (usually what hardship means...like "My mom has cancer and I have to move back home", etc)...

Hopefully it'll work out for you though!