Lady Advice

[JerzeyReign]

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Don't sweat her bruh -- if its meant to be it'll come back around. Don't turn into a mini stalker.

Back in my day we use to have a 'one week rule' which meant you didn't call immediately after getting the number. Not sure how it works nowadays -- reading this I see its changed.

Females haven't changed though -- just give her some space. Don't crowd her or she'll think your desperate or clingy.

Give it time -- trust, it'll come back around if its meant to be.

[Happy29]

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Man I'd love to help ya but after being married 7 years all I can tell ya is run away and remember this..

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[Blzer]

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Not going to lie, but if she doesn't call back, it's probably one of those instances where she just became "disinterested" too quickly. That's why, and many younger people (at least people who I grew up with) tend to disagree, I always had the most successful dates/girlfriends from girls who I was already really good friends with. I know they'll be there before and after, for better or worse, and it was a nice gradual step into that kind of relationship. Other girls who I had just "run into" and met or something take way too much work if you jump right into it.

[Altimus]

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All good points in this thread... I just wish I could drop it but it just lingers. Not sure why I sold myself on this girl to the point where I just can't drop it. Either way, we'll see what happens this weekend. I can deal with rejection, I just hate being in the middle of no where.

[Graphik]

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All good points in this thread... I just wish I could drop it but it just lingers. Not sure why I sold myself on this girl to the point where I just can't drop it. Either way, we'll see what happens this weekend. I can deal with rejection, I just hate being in the middle of no where.

Yea man, women are wacksauce. They'll completely leave you in the dark without a clue while moving on with life. Especially after showing signs that they're interested. They're flakey like that.

[jeremym480]

All good points in this thread... I just wish I could drop it but it just lingers. Not sure why I sold myself on this girl to the point where I just can't drop it. Either way, we'll see what happens this weekend. I can deal with rejection, I just hate being in the middle of no where.

Just keep yourself busy this weekend so you don't sit around and dwell on it. If she calls, she calls. If she doesn't call then there's other fish in the sea. The main thing that was always important to me is that I didn't come across as disparate or like a clinger. If you come off as the "cool guy" then you will always have a chance for later on. If you don't you won't.

Besides, you don't really know what's really going on with her. Just a quick story - I had something very similar happen to me. Me and this girl that I met on Match.com emailed back and fourth a couple of times. I thought that we were hitting it off pretty well and then one day she just disappeared . It turns out that her ex boyfriend, who she had broke up with a few months, before came crawling back. He wad claiming that he had changed so she gave him another chance. It turned out that he didn't and after a few weeks of not talking at all I get a text for her asking me to go out with her and one of her friends (for her friends b-day). Fastforeward four years and we've been together ever since and are getting married in September. I'm sure there are some other guys out there who have similar stories too, so just keep your head up and I'm sure the right girl will come around.

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[Beantown]

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Kill her.

/Dayman'sAdvice

[Nathan_OS]

True

Just don't stress it. While you're stressing, she's out there chilling, having fun.

Its all a game, unfortunately

[seasprite]

Only suggestion I would have is to watch Swingers and take notes.

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[CMH]

Yea man, women are wacksauce. They'll completely leave you in the dark without a clue while moving on with life. Especially after showing signs that they're interested. They're flakey like that.

I was gonna agree and also add that guys do the same. I know I have.

But, then I remembered something: We are the aggressors. The pursuers. If we don't act, the chance of something building are smaller. There are girls that will be aggressive (in a non-crazy way) but we all know as men that it's very unlikely the case.

So when we make the time, we plan the dates, we make the phone calls, and then suddenly we are ignored, that sucks more for us because we put in the work.

Whack.


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[Fresh Tendrils]

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Maybe I'm just becoming bitter, but when a girl drops off the face of the Earth that's that. I tend to think that the girl obviously had other things lined up beside myself and really she's made the decision for me without me having to be the dick of a person. Yeah, there are times when the "connection" feels strong, but its still early on so you really don't know.

It sucks, but its just part of the process. Pick yourself up and keep going.

[areobee401]

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Just move on, man. No sense in stressing over someone you've never met. Besides, it's the summer. There will be plenty of available females out and about for the next couple of months.

[legendkiller5]

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Maybe I'm just becoming bitter, but when a girl drops off the face of the Earth that's that. I tend to think that the girl obviously had other things lined up beside myself and really she's made the decision for me without me having to be the dick of a person. Yeah, there are times when the "connection" feels strong, but its still early on so you really don't know.

It sucks, but its just part of the process. Pick yourself up and keep going.

Agreed, I'm the exact same way, especially when you consider what CHM just said prior to that (also why I REFUSE to put in all the work, if I'm cursed to be single forever, then so be it), it's more reason for me to have this mindset.

I assume you live in Chicago, or close to it, Altimus, so that's more reason for me to drop everything with her. Too many beautiful women in that city/area to worry about one chick.

Funny thing is, don't be surprised if sometime down the road, she randomly hits you up. That's happened to me, whether it be Facebook or texting, and the message immediately gets deleted.

[kehlis]

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I assume you live in Chicago, or close to it, Altimus, so that's more reason for me to drop everything with her. Too many beautiful women in that city/area to worry about one chick.

Where do you get that idea?

[legendkiller5]

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Where do you get that idea?

Never been, but people claim it's a mecca of beautiful women.

And GMSS' posts, too.