Great points!!
I recommend that when football season commences, you watch some games with a focus on honestly trying to determine how many plays happen throughout the game that you might complain about if they happened in a game of Madden. I've done this and was surprised; it was more frequent than I expected. In saying this, I am not attempting to justify some of the glaring holes the past Maddens have had, I'm just simply suggesting that we may be able to question our ideas of realism. I think that is all the OP is stating.