I feel the same way. I actually like that people aren't able to stop the drive in the paint and block a shot at the three point line all at once. The recovery speed on defense has been way too fast in these games over the years. You'd see people turboing all over the court trying to get steals and covering multiple offensive players at once. Players are actually penalized for that style of play now. It also makes you much more cognizant on defense when you're guarding someone much quicker than you. You aren't able to get inside a player's shirt if he's quicker than you. You have to give room (which risks the pull-up jumper), be very careful with your movements to avoid getting crossed up, and use angles to beat the guy to where he's going. And I love that closeouts on shooters are actually a risk/reward thing this year. You have to decide whether you're going to close out fully to contest the shot (but you'll get blown by if the offensive player puts it on the floor), or if you're going to let up on the sticks and give yourself a chance to stop the drive (but you might not get to the shooter in time if he does a catch-and-shoot). This actually feels like real life. Chopping your feet on a closeout keeps you under control, but it slows you down. Running right up to the shooter will give you a better contest, but you're out of control and at risk of overrunning the play if the guy puts it on the floor.
That being said, the movement definitely isn't perfect. I've gotten pretty good at feathering the sticks, but sometimes, I'll still go flying in a certain direction even with as subtle a move as possible. Also, I like the delay when I'm moving because I'm fighting my own momentum. That feels pretty realistic to me. But when I'm under control, or stationary, guys shouldn't feel quite this sluggish when making their initial move. And lastly, if there was ever a year where we needed to be able to shade our defensive stance and force the ball handler in one direction or the other, it's this year. Nobody in real life defends a guy straight up. You're always forcing the offensive player in a certain direction ... which is hopefully towards your help. No matter how good of an athlete/defender you are, if you let an NBA guy have the option of going in either direction, you'll never keep them out of the paint.