It's the execution, my friend. Execution. Sim is about how you execute going to your strengths within the frame of basketball and if you have your full control it's a beauty, if a user is dump enough to make a j with D. Howard then let him do pls, he willl suffer the consequence cause it won't execute, see.
You're definitely missing a 'big' point here. Shaq can throw a trey anytime he would like on court, he has the control but he knows he can't execute that so he won't and whenever he tries he will choke. And so on you can multiply the examples etc.
If you don't know who you control, and his capabilities, and if you don't know how to execute right with full control in your hands then you'll choke and this is sim in its fullest sense, that's the difference just pressing a button and waiting for the outcome, instead you'll decide on the outcome.