Yea man I get what your saying I've been playing Madden since '02 and NCAA since '03 been playing both of them online since '06. Last gen there wasn't all these problems with online that I can remember. I'm a competitive gamer always have been and always will that's why I like to play all my friends. You can only play friends so many times though because it's 99% of the time 1 sided.
Please EA just fix all the problems acknowledge that they're present and don't try to hide them; just please do something.