I agree 1000% with everything that TM has to say on this issue, simply because we've both slogged though a variety of different approaches, before landing on this one...
I don't think of it as "policing myself", so much as playing within the constructs of the game and not spamming the controls (jump the snap / button mashing the pass rush moves / leaning on the D Assist and / or Sprint Button) or employing some half baked options (Pass Rush: Aggressive / Pass Commit)...
I also agree that the game animates in a much more realistic and organic fashion when you play this way AND the stats for the CPU (sacks taken / completion percentages / YPA) are as close to IRL numbers, that I've seen from this series...possibly ever?
You basically have three ways to go about this:
Hit the Gas / Pump the Brakes / Tap the Brakes
It might not be for everyone, but learning how to generate a realistic rush / result, by "Tapping the Brakes" has really kicked the game into high gear...for me...