07-25-2008, 08:23 AM | #1 | ||
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Life really sucks sometimes (R.I.P., Gavin and Seth)
So my wife and I have been married for 3 years and dated for 10 years. We finally got pregnant after we knew it was time that we wanted to start a family. Both sides were extremely happy and everyone was making all of these plans and preparations and then BAM....
My wife goes into labor last thursday afternoon at 22 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I've been posting on the NAFL board each day but I wanted to finally vent here as well. It was something undetected, something no one can diagnose until it actually happens. An incompetent cervix. Her cervix just started to dialate way too early, and it was nothing anyone did. So she was rushed to the Labor and Delivery ward, and to "halt" the delivery, they put her on a Magnesium drip, had her at an incline tilted towards her head. It was too late for a cerclage because the amniotic sac had breached the cervix. So we waited, minute by minute while my wife was on bed rest and couldn't move on the most horrible medicine you can give to a pregnant woman as she periodically bled. She showed incredible strength and I didn't leave her side for an entire week, and she stayed pregnant until the 23rd week, where our baby would have a very slim chance of survival. He was born at 9:19PM on July 22nd. Pink skin, good heart beat, and breathing well, and 1.5 pounds. However he had to be rushed to NICU because of his age. So he has been there since, in an incubator hooked up to various things, like a science experiment. It has been extremely tough for us as we watch our son fighting for his life and we can't do anything for him. My wife keeps blaming herself. His potassium level is too high at the moment and he had a low pulse. They were giving him dopamine to even out the pulse. He got worse last night, then better. Then we got a call at 6am this morning from NICU, saying he has had a rough morning. His potassium went back up and his oxygen level is at 100%. This has been the biggest test of our marriage. We fought to give him a chance at life which was very tough, now we have to sit back and possibly watch the inevitable happen. Both of us our so emotionally worn down, and I don't think we have anymore tears left. He continues to fight and everyone continues to pray. My only hope is that he can turn it around this morning and bounce back. He is now only 2.5 days old.
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07-25-2008, 08:26 AM | #2 | |
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My prayers are with you and your family. I can't imagine how difficult this is.
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07-25-2008, 08:29 AM | #3 |
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My prayers are with you and your family as well. My wife and I have been trying to have a baby for the last year or so and we've had an early miscarriage already. It's been one of the most stressful things we've ever faced individually or as a couple and I can only imagine how much worse it must be to be facing this type of struggle at 22-23 weeks.
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07-25-2008, 08:35 AM | #5 |
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Thoughts and prayers, gotti.
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07-25-2008, 08:41 AM | #6 | |
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My prayers and thoughts are there for you and the little one, poetry always helps me get through the rough times and I know what your going through, this little poem is touching and may help....it's one of my favorites, I have given it to my wife framed..
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07-25-2008, 08:44 AM | #7 |
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Having gone through a couple of miscarriages, I can only imagine a small portion of your pain. I really hope things work out.
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07-25-2008, 08:50 AM | #8 |
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Good luck to you, your wife, and the baby. Hang in there.
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07-25-2008, 08:51 AM | #9 |
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I'm so sorry. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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07-25-2008, 08:53 AM | #10 |
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Best wishes to you and your family.
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07-25-2008, 09:12 AM | #11 |
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thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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07-25-2008, 09:15 AM | #12 |
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Thoughts are with you.
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07-25-2008, 09:20 AM | #13 |
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Hang in there. Things have a way of working themselves out. I hope everything turns out the best for you and your family.
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07-25-2008, 09:26 AM | #14 |
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Very, very sorry to hear... hoping for the best, and for you both to remain strong.
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07-25-2008, 09:27 AM | #15 |
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Thoughts are with you.
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07-25-2008, 09:47 AM | #16 |
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Best wishes. Having been pregnant 5 times and only having 1 kid to show for it, I can imagine how you feel.
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07-25-2008, 09:49 AM | #17 |
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My thoughts are with you.
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07-25-2008, 09:50 AM | #18 |
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cant even imagine how you feel...you have all my thoughts and prayers for your family
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07-25-2008, 09:51 AM | #19 |
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I apologize to those who I may be bringing up bad memories for, but I just wanted to share this story as it happens to sort of vent to the public.
They are taking him off the ventilator, and his morning has already been rough so I hope he can fight through this stage. His potassium remains high, but he has gotten it down before. When they say they are taking him off the ventilator, before I did research, that sounded like "We are pulling the plug". But they have to take him off of it so he doesn't become dependant on it, among other issues.
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07-25-2008, 09:52 AM | #20 |
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best wishes to you and your family.
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07-25-2008, 09:54 AM | #21 |
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You're in my thoughts and prayers gottimd.
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07-25-2008, 10:03 AM | #22 |
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Tough situation. I hope he pulls through. Sending good thoughts...
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07-25-2008, 10:08 AM | #23 |
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My wife and I will be praying for you and your family.
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07-25-2008, 10:13 AM | #24 |
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Strength to both your family and your little tyke.
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07-25-2008, 10:15 AM | #25 |
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Hoping for the best for you and your family.
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07-25-2008, 10:16 AM | #26 |
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Hey man - hang in there. Sounds like you guys have done and are going all the right things here.
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07-25-2008, 10:18 AM | #27 |
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Good luck and best wishes - I can't imagine what that must be like to go through.
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07-25-2008, 10:21 AM | #28 |
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Oh man, thoughts are with you gottimd.
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07-25-2008, 10:24 AM | #29 |
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We are both very emotionally drained. When one of us loses it, the other is there to comfort. Haven't heard anything from NICU yet, so I am hoping that things are getting better. Doctors were still doing rounds and we are about to leave soon.
Thank you all for your thoughts, prayers and sympathies. We need all of the support we can get, whether it be from people I have never met face to face or life long friends or family members.
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07-25-2008, 10:26 AM | #30 |
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I am hoping that in a couple months, you will be sharing the baby pics. When things are out of your control, it can really be maddening, but you will be amazed at how well hospitals do with premature births.
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07-25-2008, 10:29 AM | #31 |
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You and your family will be in my prayers gottimd.
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07-25-2008, 10:32 AM | #32 |
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Really sorry to hear you're going through this - hope he pulls through.
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Having three children and a fourth due in January, I can't even imagine how difficult this is for you and your wife. My thoughts and prayers are with you all and I expect some baby pics in the next few weeks.
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Is there a place I can get this poem, perhaps framed? My wife would love it.
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07-25-2008, 10:41 AM | #35 |
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Best wishes to you and your family. My thoughts are with you.
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07-25-2008, 11:28 AM | #37 |
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Gotti, as everyone else has said, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry you are having to go through this.
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07-25-2008, 11:34 AM | #38 |
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I'll be thinking of your family gottimd. I have a 5 month little girl and couldn't imagine what you are going through.
Close friends of mine had twins at 22 weeks - one was born 1.5 pounds and the other was only a pound. Now they are 10 months and are very healthy babies - keep the faith. Macro: very touching poem - ty for sharing
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07-25-2008, 11:58 AM | #39 |
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we are praying for you.
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07-25-2008, 12:59 PM | #40 |
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Prayers. Good luck.
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I had read it a long time ago and I found it one day in a small shop...I bet you can find it online framed somewhere, I will hunt it down for you...
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07-25-2008, 01:15 PM | #42 |
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i don't want to repeat what others have already said, but it's certainly sad to hear. i'll hug my newborn extra tight when he wakes up. i'm sure your wife is trying to put on a brave face and is doing all she can, make sure you comfort her and praise her more than usual. at least your baby has a fighting chance, others don't even get that chance (ie, miscarriage).
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07-25-2008, 03:57 PM | #43 |
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It's truly the most difficult thing in life to sit back and watch your child suffer or struggle knowing there is nothing you can do about.
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07-25-2008, 04:46 PM | #44 |
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I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts. It sounds like a truly frightening roller coaster to be on, keep strong.
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07-25-2008, 04:57 PM | #45 |
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You know y'all are in my thoughts, gottimd...
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07-25-2008, 05:24 PM | #46 |
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My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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07-25-2008, 06:34 PM | #47 |
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Your family is in my prayers.
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07-25-2008, 07:45 PM | #48 |
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Bad news. The doctors gave us the MRI results. He has alot of brain hemmoraging. On a scale of 1-4, 4 being the worst, he has a 3 on one side and a 4 on the other. They said if he makes it past the weekend, there is an 80% of cerebral palsy or some other defect.
I am beyond pissed. He has fought so much and god is now in the process of taking my first born son from me. Our families are beyond devastated and our support system now needs a support system. I keep hoping that the 20% chance that he will pull through will come through but its hard. They talked to us about essentially a DNR if it gets that bad over the weekend.
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07-25-2008, 07:54 PM | #49 |
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I'm so very sorry to hear... still hoping for the best for you all.
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07-25-2008, 08:19 PM | #50 |
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I'm so sorry about that bad news.
Peace to you and your family.
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