MySpace question...

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 03:17 PM

If I remove someone from my "Friends" list, do they get a notification that I've done so?

TLK · 03-06-2006, 03:25 PM

I'm almost a 100% sure that the answer is no.

Franklinnoble · 03-06-2006, 03:28 PM

You're about to shatter the frail ego of a 14 year old girl, aren't you?

Anthony · 03-06-2006, 03:32 PM

listen, i can take a hint. you don't have to drop these veiled threads. i know where we stand.

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Franklinnoble

You're about to shatter the frail ego of a 14 year old girl, aren't you?

Close. 17-year-old, and that's precisely what I'm wondering. I just discovered that some time today, she posted a wholly inappropriate--and perhaps even illegal, given her age--picture as her *profile* pic, which was therefore appearing in my friends list. I want to be known as a "friend of sinners," to be sure, but I am not interested in going to jail, either.

As for the original question, after posting here, I called SWMBO to help me test it out. SWMBO created an account, added me as a Friend, and then took me off, and no, I received no notification.

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Hell Atlantic

listen, i can take a hint. you don't have to drop these veiled threads. i know where we stand.

MikeVic · 03-06-2006, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

Close. 17-year-old, and that's precisely what I'm wondering. I just discovered that some time today, she posted a wholly inappropriate--and perhaps even illegal, given her age--picture as her *profile* pic, which was therefore appearing in my friends list. I want to be known as a "friend of sinners," to be sure, but I am not interested in going to jail, either.

You just had to post this description, didn't you.

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by MikeVic

You just had to post this description, didn't you.

Well, FN asked, and, quite frankly, it is incredibly sad and disturbing.

SackAttack · 03-06-2006, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

Close. 17-year-old, and that's precisely what I'm wondering. I just discovered that some time today, she posted a wholly inappropriate--and perhaps even illegal, given her age--picture as her *profile* pic, which was therefore appearing in my friends list. I want to be known as a "friend of sinners," to be sure, but I am not interested in going to jail, either.

It's MySpace.

It's par for the course.

If this surprises you, you probably shouldn't have a Friends list there.

MikeVic · 03-06-2006, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

Well, FN asked, and, quite frankly, it is incredibly sad and disturbing.

What's the ruling on things like this? Can Myspace get in trouble if she is under-age for wherever she's from (including if that eans a country that has an age level of 21 or something)?

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by SackAttack

It's MySpace.

It's par for the course.

If this surprises you, you probably shouldn't have a Friends list there.

I've seen hundreds (probably thousands?) of pics on Myspace, and plenty of over-the-line ones, but I've never run across one like this one.

stevew · 03-06-2006, 03:48 PM

How inappropriate are we talking? Would you put her in the penalty box here for posting it? With of course the obligatory 7/18ths vote of current moderators here, and the inevitable 16 page bitchfest thread that would result.

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by stevew

How inappropriate are we talking? Would you put her in the penalty box here for posting it? With of course the obligatory 7/18ths vote of current moderators here, and the inevitable 16 page bitchfest thread that would result.

I've caught one straight-up hardcore porn pics posted here briefly, but other than that, this one would rank as the most obviously NSFW pic ever posted at FOFC, I'm pretty sure. It would be an easy automatic boxing here, with no bitchfest whatsoever, the only comments being of the "what-the-hell-what-that-guy-thinking-posting-that" variety.

cthomer5000 · 03-06-2006, 03:57 PM

link pls k thx

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by cthomer5000

link pls k thx

I'm stunned that it took this long.

Solecismic · 03-06-2006, 04:09 PM

Wow. That girl sure needs to learn about red-eye removal tools. You'd think that would be second nature for the younger generation.

Blade6119 · 03-06-2006, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Solecismic

Wow. That girl sure needs to learn about red-eye removal tools. You'd think that would be second nature for the younger generation.

Jim did some net searching it seems

Anthony · 03-06-2006, 04:11 PM

it couldn't have been that good of a pic if the only thing Jim has to comment on is her red-eyes.

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Solecismic

Wow. That girl sure needs to learn about red-eye removal tools. You'd think that would be second nature for the younger generation.

I bow to your searching capabilities, sir, but you gotta PM me and tell me how the heck you did that.

duckman · 03-06-2006, 04:15 PM

Before we start asking for "links pls k thx," we should be asking the fundamental question here: is she hot?

Franklinnoble · 03-06-2006, 04:18 PM

Ben - as a youth pastor, don't you think it'd be better to counsel this girl about this photo?

At the very least, you need to tell her parents about it.

oliegirl · 03-06-2006, 04:18 PM

I thought the fundamental question was to ask SkyDog for a link to his MySpace page!

Blade6119 · 03-06-2006, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

I bow to your searching capabilities, sir, but you gotta PM me and tell me how the heck you did that.

Its really easy on myspace to find someone if you know their e-mail..from there he just scanned your friends list id imagine...

Airhog · 03-06-2006, 04:20 PM

I just put in Ben e lou, and it took me right to ya. Guess you already removed the pic though...

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Franklinnoble

Ben - as a youth pastor, don't you think it'd be better to counsel this girl about this photo?

1. For the 3598829489th time, I'm not a youth pastor. It woudl be a very rare church indeed that I would work for, to be honest.

2. Before I ever asked the question here, I took the first step toward making sure that she gets an appropriate and loving conversation about this. It would be best coming from a female, I think.

3. Without going into detail, it is rare for a kid to get to this point at her age without having some seriously screwed-up parenting going on to begin with.

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Blade6119

Its really easy on myspace to find someone if you know their e-mail..from there he just scanned your friends list id imagine...

But I took it off of my friends list before I ever posted here. Is it still there?

Airhog · 03-06-2006, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

But I took it off of my friends list before I ever posted here. Is it still there?

Maybe Jim saw it before you removed it...

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Airhog

Maybe Jim saw it before you removed it...

As in he was checking out my MySpace profile randomly before I ever started this thread??? I guess that's possible, but what are the odds?

cartman · 03-06-2006, 04:30 PM

A friend of a friend...

Blade6119 · 03-06-2006, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

But I took it off of my friends list before I ever posted here. Is it still there?

I just went through and its not, though "slam dunk the funk" is a hottie(shes my age, no worries)

Solecismic · 03-06-2006, 04:34 PM

No. I saw your profile later. And listened to a little music. I liked it, hadn't heard it before.

I'll shut up now if you prefer. She's obviously had a tough life, and probably doesn't need dirty older men ogling her. But I'd give her a 6, maybe a 6 1/2. Maybe knowing how easy that picture was to find for a forum full of 30-something football fans just based on a tiny bit of information would help your wife (or whoever you are asking to talk with her) realize how stupid it was to post it.

jbmagic · 03-06-2006, 04:36 PM

Why the hell a grown man join MySpace?

That place is mostly teens that join and go there now.

Solecismic · 03-06-2006, 04:42 PM

You'd be surprised. There are more than 40 million profiles on MySpace already. It's definitely captured the 20-something set already.

I've thought about creating an FOF profile, sort of a blog for development. But I don't like giving development updates on a regular basis.

Anthony · 03-06-2006, 04:42 PM

i'm on MySpace, you have to be in order to send messages to the people.

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by jbmagic

Why the hell a grown man join MySpace?

Originally, because hundreds of my kids and former kids are members. What's interesting is that over a short time I've discovered that MySpace and Facebook are great ways of mass-communicating with kids (we have over 100 kids in our "group" on Facebook that we send announcements to every week about our meetings), getting new kids involved, and even of having significant conversations with them (as was mentioned in this thread). For example, I posted the following message to the profiles of all of the high school kids that I have in my MySpace friend list:

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2/5/2006 10:10 AM

SUPER BOWL PARTY!!!

It is happening at Briarcliff United Methodist Church, and there's going to be the Super Bowl on a 52-inch screen plus LOTS MORE!!!! We've got great food (chili, wings, yummmmm), great friends, and lots of fun stuff going on if you're not that interested in the game. Here's a list of what will be available to do:

* LOTS of food (come hungry, 'cause there will be wings, chili, desserts, snacks, drinks, you NAME it!)
* The Super Bowl on a 52-inch TV screen! (Make sure to cheer for my good buddy Mack Strong, the Seahawks' long-suffering fullback.)
* full-court basketball
* ping-pong
* pool
* foosball
* board games
* TONS of high school people from LHS and THS

ALSO, don't forget that today is the deadline to get the price break for the Castaway Club trip. If you're not signed up, DO IT TODAY!!! Go to http://tuckeryl.younglife.org for more information.

Several kids who weren't previously involved saw the announcement on their friends' profiles, and showed up. Two of those kids who showed up for the first time to the Super Bowl Party have remained involved since then.

Franklinnoble · 03-06-2006, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Solecismic

I've thought about creating an FOF profile, sort of a blog for development. But I don't like giving development updates on a regular basis.

Tell us something we DON'T know.

Blade6119 · 03-06-2006, 04:49 PM

Skydog, if i take trip to GA would you mind hooking me up with one or two of those ladies? Best leave FOFC out of it though, chicks dont tend to love it

Ben E Lou · 03-06-2006, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Solecismic

You'd be surprised. There are more than 40 million profiles on MySpace already. It's definitely captured the 20-something set already.

I've thought about creating an FOF profile, sort of a blog for development. But I don't like giving development updates on a regular basis.

Yeah, there's definitely a significant out-of-college-to-age-30 presence there. I've reconnected with quite a few former YL kids through it and Facebook as well. One day, I'm going to systematically go through and do a search of graduating classes of the schools I've been connected with.

Blade6119 · 03-06-2006, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by SkyDog

Yeah, there's definitely a significant out-of-college-to-age-30 presence there. I've reconnected with quite a few former YL kids through it and Facebook as well. One day, I'm going to systematically go through and do a search of graduating classes of the schools I've been connected with.

Ok, how are you on facebook...thats college only, and last time i checked you were not 20

ScottVib · 03-06-2006, 04:57 PM

That's the thing in the news here in CT there have been several sexual assaults that are happening with 20/30 something year old guys going after the teens they "meet" on myspace.

CamEdwards · 03-06-2006, 05:08 PM

looking at some of these kids makes me really depressed. My only hope is that the pendelum will swing back towards the 1950's by the time Catherine hits dating age.

Karlifornia · 03-06-2006, 05:10 PM

Man, what about "Amy" she's hawt. Click on the chick with big blue eyes in Ben's top 8, and Amy is like the first or second comment on hers. The last two pics in her "View More Pics". Niiiice.

Is 22 old enough to qualify as a "Dirty Old Man"?

cartman · 03-06-2006, 05:13 PM

SackAttack · 03-06-2006, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by RadioFriendlyUnitShifter

Man, what about "Amy" she's hawt. Click on the chick with big blue eyes in Ben's top 8, and Amy is like the first or second comment on hers. The last two pics in her "View More Pics". Niiiice.

Is 22 old enough to qualify as a "Dirty Old Man"?

Yes. Yes, it is.

Blade6119 · 03-06-2006, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by RadioFriendlyUnitShifter

Man, what about "Amy" she's hawt. Click on the chick with big blue eyes in Ben's top 8, and Amy is like the first or second comment on hers. The last two pics in her "View More Pics". Niiiice.

Is 22 old enough to qualify as a "Dirty Old Man"?

I looked, i could not find....alas, i am sad now

JonInMiddleGA · 03-06-2006, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by ScottVib

That's the thing in the news here in CT there have been several sexual assaults that are happening with 20/30 something year old guys going after the teens they "meet" on myspace.

I believe we had something less serious but in that vein happening locally here as well. MySpace was the subject of a "parents, be sure you know what your kids are doing online and who they are talking to" letter from my son's school a couple of weeks back.

The site has now been banned from access on school computers & I got the impression that some additional disciplinary action was being taken against some specific high school students who were involved in something ... I dunno, "unsavory", through the site.

(Keep in mind, I live about a half an hour from those legendary "Lost Children of Rockdale County" so pretty much anything isn't beyond the realm of believability)

Neuqua · 03-06-2006, 05:35 PM

We gotta make an FOFC Group on facebook. All the cool people would flock to it.

JeeberD · 03-06-2006, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Neuqua

We gotta make an FOFC Group on facebook. All the cool people would flock to it.

I've seriously considered making an FOF or Text Sim Fans group on MySpace before. How dorky am I?

Neuqua · 03-06-2006, 05:45 PM

myspace is the AA affiliate of Facebook.

Karlifornia · 03-06-2006, 06:06 PM

Whoops..her name isn't amy...it's Lisa....The hot one is Lisa

hxxp://www.myspace.com/lisainwonderland

Can I get boxed for this link?

03-06-2006, 03:25 PM	#2
TLK Pro Starter Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Allen Park, MI	I'm almost a 100% sure that the answer is no. Last edited by TLK : 03-06-2006 at 03:26 PM.

03-06-2006, 03:48 PM	#12
stevew Hall Of Famer Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: the yo'	How inappropriate are we talking? Would you put her in the penalty box here for posting it? With of course the obligatory 7/18ths vote of current moderators here, and the inevitable 16 page bitchfest thread that would result. Last edited by stevew : 03-06-2006 at 03:48 PM.

03-06-2006, 04:20 PM	#24
Airhog Captain Obvious Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Norman, Oklahoma	I just put in Ben e lou, and it took me right to ya. Guess you already removed the pic though... __________________ Thread Killer extraordinaire Yay! its football season once again! Last edited by Airhog : 03-06-2006 at 04:21 PM.

03-06-2006, 04:30 PM	#29
cartman Death Herald Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Le stelle la notte sono grandi e luminose nel cuore profondo del Texas	A friend of a friend... __________________ Thinkin' of a master plan 'Cuz ain't nuthin' but sweat inside my hand So I dig into my pocket, all my money is spent So I dig deeper but still comin' up with lint

03-06-2006, 04:49 PM	#37
Blade6119 Coordinator Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona	Skydog, if i take trip to GA would you mind hooking me up with one or two of those ladies? Best leave FOFC out of it though, chicks dont tend to love it __________________ *Underachievement* The tallest blade of grass is the first to be cut by the lawnmower. *Despair* It's always darkest just before it goes pitch black. *Demotivation* Sometimes the best solution to morale problems is just to fire all of the unhappy people. http://www.despair.com/viewall.html

03-06-2006, 03:28 PM	#3
Franklinnoble Banned Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Placerville, CA	You're about to shatter the frail ego of a 14 year old girl, aren't you?

03-06-2006, 03:32 PM	#4
Anthony Banned Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Astoria, NY, USA	listen, i can take a hint. you don't have to drop these veiled threads. i know where we stand.

03-06-2006, 04:09 PM	#16
Solecismic Solecismic Software Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Canton, OH	Wow. That girl sure needs to learn about red-eye removal tools. You'd think that would be second nature for the younger generation.

03-06-2006, 04:11 PM	#18
Anthony Banned Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Astoria, NY, USA	it couldn't have been that good of a pic if the only thing Jim has to comment on is her red-eyes.

03-06-2006, 04:18 PM	#21
Franklinnoble Banned Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Placerville, CA	Ben - as a youth pastor, don't you think it'd be better to counsel this girl about this photo? At the very least, you need to tell her parents about it.

03-06-2006, 04:34 PM	#31
Solecismic Solecismic Software Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Canton, OH	No. I saw your profile later. And listened to a little music. I liked it, hadn't heard it before. I'll shut up now if you prefer. She's obviously had a tough life, and probably doesn't need dirty older men ogling her. But I'd give her a 6, maybe a 6 1/2. Maybe knowing how easy that picture was to find for a forum full of 30-something football fans just based on a tiny bit of information would help your wife (or whoever you are asking to talk with her) realize how stupid it was to post it.

03-06-2006, 04:36 PM	#32
jbmagic Pro Starter Join Date: Apr 2004	Why the hell a grown man join MySpace? That place is mostly teens that join and go there now.

03-06-2006, 04:42 PM	#33
Solecismic Solecismic Software Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Canton, OH	You'd be surprised. There are more than 40 million profiles on MySpace already. It's definitely captured the 20-something set already. I've thought about creating an FOF profile, sort of a blog for development. But I don't like giving development updates on a regular basis.

03-06-2006, 04:57 PM	#40
ScottVib High School Varsity Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: My Computer	That's the thing in the news here in CT there have been several sexual assaults that are happening with 20/30 something year old guys going after the teens they "meet" on myspace. Last edited by ScottVib : 03-06-2006 at 04:57 PM. Reason: Edit - Spelling

03-06-2006, 05:08 PM	#41
CamEdwards Stadium Announcer Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Burke, VA	looking at some of these kids makes me really depressed. My only hope is that the pendelum will swing back towards the 1950's by the time Catherine hits dating age. __________________ I don't want the world. I just want your half.

03-06-2006, 05:10 PM	#42
Karlifornia Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: San Jose, CA	Man, what about "Amy" she's hawt. Click on the chick with big blue eyes in Ben's top 8, and Amy is like the first or second comment on hers. The last two pics in her "View More Pics". Niiiice. Is 22 old enough to qualify as a "Dirty Old Man"? __________________ Look into the mind of a crazy man (NSFW) http://www.whitepowerupdate.wordpress.com

03-06-2006, 05:13 PM	#43
cartman Death Herald Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Le stelle la notte sono grandi e luminose nel cuore profondo del Texas	__________________ Thinkin' of a master plan 'Cuz ain't nuthin' but sweat inside my hand So I dig into my pocket, all my money is spent So I dig deeper but still comin' up with lint

03-06-2006, 05:35 PM	#47
Neuqua Pro Rookie Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Chicago, Ill	We gotta make an FOFC Group on facebook. All the cool people would flock to it. __________________ Our Deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?

03-06-2006, 05:45 PM	#49
Neuqua Pro Rookie Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Chicago, Ill	myspace is the AA affiliate of Facebook. __________________ Our Deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?

03-06-2006, 06:06 PM	#50
Karlifornia Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: San Jose, CA	Whoops..her name isn't amy...it's Lisa....The hot one is Lisa hxxp://www.myspace.com/lisainwonderland Can I get boxed for this link? __________________ Look into the mind of a crazy man (NSFW) http://www.whitepowerupdate.wordpress.com

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