Male/Female Roles

[Raiders Army]

Talking to a dude today at work and my parents told me that the guy is supposed to sleep on the side of the bed closest to the bedroom door (or the biggest chance of unlawful entry). My wife and I sleep that way. I sleep on the right side of the bed, closest to our bedroom door. Do you guys do that or not? Poll forthcoming.

Also, I was always told that the guy is supposed to sit in restaurants facing the door.

[Karlifornia]

I always sleep closest to the door when I'm sharing a bed with a girlfriend. I was always would tell a girlfriend that I get the "caveman spot". Our bed was against the wall, so it might have been a ploy just to be able to sneak out of bed without waking her.

If it's just a casual fling type of thing, I really could care less.

[Groundhog]

I dated a girl once who always wanted me to sleep on the door-side of the bed, sit on the seat next to the aisle, and stuff like that. I don't usually think of it automatically, and no girls I've dated before or since have ever mentioned it.

[FrogMan]

Talking to a dude today at work and my parents told me that the guy is supposed to sleep on the side of the bed closest to the bedroom door (or the biggest chance of unlawful entry). My wife and I sleep that way. I sleep on the right side of the bed, closest to our bedroom door. Do you guys do that or not? Poll forthcoming.

Also, I was always told that the guy is supposed to sit in restaurants facing the door.

wow, the unlawful entry has never, ever occured to me. Ever since I've started living with my wife, we've always selected the side of the bed based on the which side is closest to a window, as we usually don't have AC in our houses up here so when it's too warm we sleep with the window open and she doesn't like having a breeze on here. Or in the winter, in really cold weather, the window side is a tiny bit colder than the side further from the window...

FM

[Craptacular]

Also, I was always told that the guy is supposed to sit in restaurants facing the door.

My father-in-law is a cop and always likes to sit facing the door, preferably with a wall behind him.

[JonInMiddleGA]

My father-in-law is a cop and always likes to sit facing the door, preferably with a wall behind him.

I'm not a cop but I sit the same way. In the past 20 years I can think of two people that I trusted enough in terms of their ability, their judgement, and their awareness to put my back to the door.

[Ben E Lou]

I absolutely sit facing the door in restaurants, and greatly prefer to have my back to a wall. I also walk closest to the street, and sleep closest to the bedroom door.

[Karlifornia]

I'm not a cop but I sit the same way. In the past 20 years I can think of two people that I trusted enough in terms of their ability, their judgement, and their awareness to put my back to the door.

LOL. Are you the president?

[DeToxRox]

and sleep closest to the bedroom door.

Yeah! Fuck women and children first!

[Ben E Lou]

Yeah! Fuck women and children first!

Uh, no. If some mofo comes in my bedroom, I don't want to get gunpowder residue on my wife.

[Poli]

First place: Furthest
2nd: Closest
3rd: Closest
4th: Closest
5th: Closest
6th: Furthest

My wife likes having the bigger open space on her side, that's about the tihng she considers.

[JonInMiddleGA]

LOL. Are you the president?

Nah, I just eat in worse neighborhoods than he does.

[bulletsponge]

i sleep on a huge pile of money with many beautiful women

[Ryche]

I always sleep on the right side of the bed, regardless of where it is. Not sure why, that's just how we ended up. Feels strange at this point to sleep on the left side.

[rjolley]

I absolutely sit facing the door in restaurants, and greatly prefer to have my back to a wall. I also walk closest to the street, and sleep closest to the bedroom door.

Yeah, I always walk closet to the street, usually directing my lady to move over so that I can. I currently sleep closest to the bedroom door and usually sit facing the door.

[SnDvls]

wow guess I'd never even thought of that or had to worry about it here in AZ I sit on the side I can see the TV in a restaurant. I currently sleep on the side closest to the door, but I was on the other side until we got new beadroom furniture and I wanted to be on the side closest to the dresser drawers as I wake up about an hour before my wife and I don't want to wake her getting my stuff out.

[Groundhog]

I always sleep on the right side of the bed, regardless of where it is. Not sure why, that's just how we ended up. Feels strange at this point to sleep on the left side.

Actually, I do this too usually, and never really realised it until now. Even when I'm in bed by myself I sleep on the right.

[Mateo]

I always sleep on the side furthest from the door. That way if someone comes in, they get my wife first.

[Raiders Army]

I absolutely sit facing the door in restaurants, and greatly prefer to have my back to a wall. I also walk closest to the street, and sleep closest to the bedroom door.

I walk closest to the street as well. Forgot that one!

[ISiddiqui]

I always sleep on the side furthest from the door. That way if someone comes in, they get my wife first.

Winner!

[stevew]

After living in the city for awhile, you do start to become aware of things like where exits in restaurants are. If not for self protection, then at least in case of fire or something.

[M GO BLUE!!!]

When walking down stars always allow the lady to go first. That way if you trip she will break your fall.

[SFL Cat]

Uhm, we've always slept on a certain side. In some houses I was closer to the door, in others she was.

[Groundhog]

I've also got to say, I'm surprised that so many people are constantly aware of exits, entrances, keeping their backs to walls etc. Maybe it's just from growing up in the areas that I have, but that kind of stuff never even enters my mind for a second. When I'm sitting in a restaurant all my attention is used up on ordering, waiting, or eating.

[FrogMan]

After living in the city for awhile, you do start to become aware of things like where exits in restaurants are. If not for self protection, then at least in case of fire or something.

being aware of where the exit is and always having to be facing one are two different things to me. I do take notice of where the exits are, as you say, mostly in case of fire, but I have never felt the need to be on the lookout and be facing the door at all times. Maybe I'm just used to living in smaller cities (some would probably say towns) but I just don't see the need for it. Having this attitude toward protection reminds me of the far west and old western movies... :)

FM

[FrogMan]

I've also got to say, I'm surprised that so many people are constantly aware of exits, entrances, keeping their backs to walls etc. Maybe it's just from growing up in the areas that I have, but that kind of stuff never even enters my mind for a second. When I'm sitting in a restaurant all my attention is used up on ordering, waiting, or eating.

you posted as I was typing but this summarizes my thinking quite well.

FM

[Rizon]

I also sleep closest to the door specifically in case of a break-in.

[Celeval]

The door is facing the foot of the bed. So... uh... I sleep in whatever side my wife isn't sleeping at.

And in restaurants, I'll sit on whichever side of the table faces the televisions. ;)

[Vinatieri for Prez]

Wherever the wet spot isn't.

[st.cronin]

My father-in-law is a cop and always likes to sit facing the door, preferably with a wall behind him.

I do this whether I'm with or without a woman. In fact, I won't sit down someplace where I have my back to the door.

[Karlifornia]

Wherever the wet spot isn't.

Haha. Amen to this.

[TroyF]

My dad is one of those who always likes to be facing the door and have a wall at his back. I've never really cared myself and no women I've ever dated has seemed to care either.

[21C]

I've always slept further from the door because my wife often gets up to go to the bathroom during the night - so it's closer for her.

And then when we had kids, it was closer for her to get up when they cried in the middle of the night . . .

[DanGarion]

I sleep on the far side, but only because my shoulder dictates what side I sleep on.

[Icy]

I sleep closest to the door but not to protect my wife if somebody enters but because she always want to sleep close to the windows and I don't care where as long as I sleep in a bed so i never complain.

[Butter]

I sleep next to the wall, because I'm big and I like the extra space of hanging a leg off the bed if I want to. Plus, when the kids come in to bug us, they totally have to go through my wife to get to me.

[Subby]

Our au pair sleeps closest to the door, then me, then my wife.

[Subby]

(he knows karate)

[KevinNU7]

My wife and I have moved around quite a bit. If you are laying in bed I am on the leftside and it doesn't matter where the door is. Every place is different but I am always on the left.

[Eaglesfan27]

Uhm, we've always slept on a certain side. In some houses I was closer to the door, in others she was.


Same here. Ever since we were married, my wife always prefers to be on the left side of the bed. In most of our places, this put me closer to the door. In our house, it puts her closer to the bedroom door. I never considered the safety concerns before seeing this thread. However, I almost always sit with my back to a wall and facing the entrance in a restaurant.

[spleen1015]

I don't sleep closest to the door, but there's not much difference for us. The door is directly across the room from the bed.

I do all of those other things though. I will also make sure I am the person sitting in the emergency seat on an airplane. I doubt I'd survive a plane crash, but if I do, I'm not relying on someone else to get that door out of the way.

[Passacaglia]

I usually sleep closest to the window, since I like it to be cold more -- unless I have to get up super-early, in which case I sleep on the other side, closer to the alarm clock.

[Desnudo]

I just got the boot to the far side of the bed this week

[TroyF]

I don't sleep closest to the door, but there's not much difference for us. The door is directly across the room from the bed.

I do all of those other things though. I will also make sure I am the person sitting in the emergency seat on an airplane. I doubt I'd survive a plane crash, but if I do, I'm not relying on someone else to get that door out of the way.

I travel a lot and sit in the emergency row whenever I can. My reasons have nothing to do with personal safety though. If the plane goes down, I figure I'm screwed anyway.

No, being 6'3", I want that extra leg room.

[Kodos]

For now, I sleep on the side that is about a foot and a half from the wall.

And I usually pick my seat in restaurants based on where the TVs are, or which one provides the best "scenery". :) On sidewalks, I make my wife carry me.

[Honolulu_Blue]

Same here. Ever since we were married, my wife always prefers to be on the left side of the bed. In most of our places, this put me closer to the door. In our house, it puts her closer to the bedroom door. I never considered the safety concerns before seeing this thread. However, I almost always sit with my back to a wall and facing the entrance in a restaurant.

Likewise. I always sleep on the same side of the bed. In our current bedroom, it's the further from the door than my wife.

As for restaurants, I perfer to sit facing the door/window, but don't make a big deal about it if I don't. In fact, I think most of the time I don't even really think about it.

[BrianD]

I sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door. I also sit in a restaurant with my back to a wall. My wife isn't terribly observant so I like to have a view of the surroundings.

I have also read that guys should get into an elevator first just in case there is a problem with it, so I do that too. I guess I'm cautious by nature.

[digamma]

I sleep on the left side of the bed. When we lived in our old apartment, I think this was because it was closer to the door. Now, because of the somewhat odd shape of our bedroom (there is a nook for the bed) it is probably equidistant or she is a bit closer.

[Mateo]

My wife is lucky she gets to sleep in the same house, let alone in the bed.

[Eaglesfan27]

I have also read that guys should get into an elevator first just in case there is a problem with it, so I do that too. I guess I'm cautious by nature.


I've been having a lot of nightmares about stepping into an elevator shaft with no elevator waiting and dying in a similar fashion as Rosalind Shays. So, now I've been extra careful about making sure my wife doesn't step into an elevator first, either.

[Kodos]

I've been having a lot of nightmares about stepping into an elevator shaft with no elevator waiting and dying in a similar fashion as Rosalind Shays. So, now I've been extra careful about making sure my wife doesn't step into an elevator first, either.


Dr. Drake Remore?

[Toddzilla]

I sleep in the middle, between my wife and HA's mom.

[timmae]

some strangely paranoid people around these parts... having said that, I have no preference on seating choices, etc. so I always let my wife decide on her seat. I'll grab whichever she doesn't choose. Make things simple I guess...

also a question: how often do fires/ gunfights/ bomb explosions/ etc. take place where some of you guys live?!?;)

[Eaglesfan27]

I sleep in the middle, between my wife and HA's mom.


Does she ever bring a sandwich to bed?

[CU Tiger]

ALWAYS,ALWAYS,ALWAYS sit facing the majority of the restaraunt, and will ask for a wall if I see a table available.

Wife knows it and as we are walking towards a table will position ourselves accordingly.

Always on the street side on sidewalks or parking lot.

And on the "nighstand" side of the bed. In our current room configuration that puts her closer to the door. I'm not paranoid, just prepared;) ...in almost every room of my house....

[Runtheball]

some strangely paranoid people around these parts... having said that, I have no preference on seating choices, etc. so I always let my wife decide on her seat. I'll grab whichever she doesn't choose. Make things simple I guess...

also a question: how often do fires/ gunfights/ bomb explosions/ etc. take place where some of you guys live?!?;)

Well put!
Paranoia is rampant around here. Don't you guys realize that the threat while you're sleeping isn't going to come through the bedroom door, but from monsters that are under the bed?

[Surtt]

I usually sleep against the wall. Every woman I have ever dated takes longer to get ready in the morning and gets up earlier than me. So she gets the out side and can get up without climbing over me.

[BrianD]

also a question: how often do fires/ gunfights/ bomb explosions/ etc. take place where some of you guys live?!?;)

Very rarely, but then houses very rarely burn down yet people still buy insurance. It only takes one time to really mess things up, so you prepare as necessary.

[Mateo]

Seriously, I have never heard about facing the whole restaurant. When I eat, I want to look at as few people as possible, so I can shovel food down my gullet with wild abondon.

If given a choice, I'd have to say near the closest door. That way, if the shit does hit the fan, I can bail without paying.

[21C]

I asked my friends Mark and Sonia which side of the bed they sleep on and Sonia said, "Mark sleeps on the left hand side . . . because he's left-handed."

[M GO BLUE!!!]

I have to sleep away from a wall in as open an area as possible. If the bed has a headboard (mine doesn't) I sleep upside-down. I am claustrophobic and need to feel openness. It is strange... I moved into a new apartment a week ago, and my bedroom is only about 7x11. My queen bed fits in sideways, so there is only a few inches of room between the bed and wall. I need that few inches, plus I sleep as close to the edge as possible.

I never mentioned how a woman sleeps with me, because the odds of that happening are worse than my winning the lottery (and I don't waste money on tickets!)

[Raiders Army]

Seriously, I have never heard about facing the whole restaurant. When I eat, I want to look at as few people as possible, so I can shovel food down my gullet with wild abondon.

If given a choice, I'd have to say near the closest door. That way, if the shit does hit the fan, I can bail without paying.

There is another theory towards sitting towards facing the majority of the restaurant: if you sit that way, you can check out all the chicks in the restaurant. If you sit facing the wall, all you have to look at is your wife/girlfriend. ;)

[Eaglesfan27]

There is another theory towards sitting towards facing the majority of the restaurant: if you sit that way, you can check out all the chicks in the restaurant. If you sit facing the wall, all you have to look at is your wife/girlfriend. ;)


There is that.

People assumed us door watchers were just paranoid ;)


By the way, in case the Rosalind Shays reference didn't click with some people, I was joking about the elevators (although I have had a wierd falling into an elevator shaft dream twice in the last week.)