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Static Clin
03-16-2007, 12:36 PM
So, I'm a married guy away on a trip and I met this girl, who is also married. We hit it off. really well. We've kept in touch since we met. Now the issue is that we had a really great connection with each other, nothing I've ever felt before, and I love my wife. So I don't know what it is or how to explain it, and the sense I get from her is the same. We've talked about it and are both actually a little scared about the feeling. Part of me just wants to forget about this girl, but I can't, I find myself thinking about here more and more. Anyway else ever had anything like this happen? Not sure what to do here....thanks
Lathum
03-16-2007, 12:39 PM
http://www.operationsports.com/fofc/showthread.php?t=50589
DaddyTorgo
03-16-2007, 12:43 PM
I didn't have to read past the little paragraph blurb that pops up as a tooltop and my answer is
NO NO NO
DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE
JeeberD
03-16-2007, 01:09 PM
Just say no. Nothing good can come from it...
Pumpy Tudors
03-16-2007, 01:13 PM
NO NO NO
DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE
NO NO NO
DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE
NO NO NO
DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE
KevinNU7
03-16-2007, 01:18 PM
Lame noob post probably from an FOFC regular trying to create some spice for the board
JeeberD
03-16-2007, 01:18 PM
From a two-and-a-half year old account?
MikeVic
03-16-2007, 01:19 PM
Do you want to do more than cheat on your wife...? Leave her to explore this new relationship?
cuervo72
03-16-2007, 01:28 PM
/wonders if we've stumbled into the Penthouse rather than the Front Office
Mizzou B-ball fan
03-16-2007, 01:31 PM
My advice?
Leave her immediately before she reveals her d*ck in a box.
KevinNU7
03-16-2007, 01:33 PM
From a two-and-a-half year old account?
Exactly. Sign up for a 2nd account. Sit on it for a while only using it to vote in Hot or Not polls and then make a hilarious thread years down the line
albionmoonlight
03-16-2007, 01:46 PM
This is not a question for a football game message board.
Talk to your priest, or a counselor, or someone who knows you and is qualified to give serious life advice.
Mizzou B-ball fan
03-16-2007, 01:48 PM
Talk to your priest, or a counselor, or someone who knows you and is qualified to give serious life advice.
I may not be a priest or a counselor, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night.
Subby
03-16-2007, 02:13 PM
Get her name tatooed on the inside of your foreskin.
Drake
03-16-2007, 02:18 PM
Can I have an affair with your wife if you're done with her?
Draft Dodger
03-16-2007, 02:19 PM
when you hit it, use the back door.
sjshaw
03-16-2007, 02:20 PM
At times like these, I turn to the Bible for advice.
And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire. Matthew 18:9
I'd say Jesus would advise you to chop off your unit. I hear these guys are available again:
hxxp://www.citizen-times.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=200770315139
Eaglesfan27
03-16-2007, 02:21 PM
This is not a question for a football game message board.
Talk to your priest, or a counselor, or someone who knows you and is qualified to give serious life advice.
Winner.
Subby
03-16-2007, 02:23 PM
Oh SERIOUS life advice. I misread that.
CamEdwards
03-16-2007, 03:45 PM
can't believe no one's asked the obvious question yet.
Who's hotter? And how big are this new chick's breasts?
DanGarion
03-16-2007, 03:46 PM
This is not a question for a football game message board.
Talk to your priest, or a counselor, or someone who knows you and is qualified to give serious life advice.
Yeah ask those people. Because we can't give serious advice about life.... :rolleyes:
KevinNU7
03-16-2007, 03:47 PM
pics plz thx
Eaglesfan27
03-16-2007, 03:51 PM
Yeah ask those people. Because we can't give serious advice about life.... :rolleyes:
Sure, we could. However, for someone with only 2 posts, it is unlikely any of us know enough about him to give reasonable good advice except for the obvious standard answer that one should never cheat on their spouse.
Greyroofoo
03-16-2007, 03:57 PM
Tell her you know a message board full of single horny men
BrianD
03-16-2007, 04:07 PM
Easy, tell your wife that you are falling for another woman and the only way she can hold on is if she agrees to a three-some. She can't say yes if you don't ask.
heybrad
03-16-2007, 04:26 PM
Should I be answering this thread with an ID I created years ago?
kingfc22
03-16-2007, 04:30 PM
pix pls followed by a Hot or Not poll should allow for proper feedback
CamEdwards
03-16-2007, 04:31 PM
Easy, tell your wife that you are falling for another woman and the only way she can hold on is if she agrees to a three-some. She can't say yes if you don't ask.
Excellent idea! :p
Fouts
03-16-2007, 04:31 PM
Wrong place to ask advice. As someone said, you are better off asking a good friend (somebody who knows you well). Somebody who you trust implicitly (ironic huh?).
Desnudo
03-16-2007, 04:31 PM
can't believe no one's asked the obvious question yet.
Who's hotter? And how big are this new chick's breasts?
http://img139.imageshack.us/img139/8950/335281647muj0.jpg
terpkristin
03-16-2007, 05:41 PM
I read this post originally as "I married a guy on a trip and I met this girl..."
Yeah, what everybody else said. You've got an old account and don't post much so none of us knows much about you, but it seems like general good advice, DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE.
Repeat ad nauseum.
/tk
MrBug708
03-16-2007, 08:02 PM
Tell her you know a message board full of single horny men
How about taken and horny? :)
Or should that be a :(
Izulde
03-16-2007, 08:14 PM
Do you have kids?
If so, walk away and walk far away from this woman, especially if you say you love your wife.
But yeah, in general cheating is bad form. And while this chick may seem awesome now, she's also new and the novelty factor makes her more exciting.
Furthermore, you met her on a trip and while you're keeping in touch, it sounds to me like you're doing this from a distance.
So you don't know how she is in day to day reality.
My personal inclination is to say stop all contact with her. You've got too much to lose if you pursue it and she turns out to be not what she seems in this first exciting blush in the long run.
Easy Mac
03-16-2007, 08:17 PM
Its not cheating if you do it from behind in the dark, because I mean its not like you can tell who it is.
digamma
03-16-2007, 08:30 PM
You should probably start sending her hush money. Send cash, because checks and paypal are traceable.
M GO BLUE!!!
03-16-2007, 08:31 PM
A good part of your interest/excitement is due to the freshness of the interest from this woman. That you really seem to click with her is only natural. We meet people we click with occasionally.
The question you need to ask yourself is what will happen if you pursue this. First, don't know this woman like you know your wife. She can seem normal now, but imagine having to tell your wife how you got herpes.
If you love your wife as you say you do, the choice should be easy.
If you don't, then be respectful and move on.
Easy Mac
03-16-2007, 08:32 PM
You should probably start sending her hush money. Send cash, because checks and paypal are traceable.
unless they're sequential.
Young Drachma
03-16-2007, 08:54 PM
Whoa.
CU Tiger
03-16-2007, 10:49 PM
The real queestion is how many asseets do you have?
If the answer>0, don't go there unless she is worth half....
DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE
At worst be a man about it and tell her, end that relationship and start another if you must, but dont cheat.
Also what everyone else says, its the new exciting factor, and its nice to know another woman is interesteed sometimes. But dont act on it. Give it the test. Close your eyes and envision another man pounding your wife, if you are ok with this I'd probably end the marriage and pursue something else. If not, just remember that is how she would feel.
Vinatieri for Prez
03-16-2007, 11:09 PM
You should follow the golden rule in life: Bang everything you can.
But seriously, the real golden rule is due unto others as you would have them do unto you. So, the question is if you would have no problem with your wife sleeping with another woman and then telling you about it, then you should go ahead and do the same with your new friend.
Easy Mac
03-16-2007, 11:12 PM
You should follow the golden rule in life: Bang everything you can.
But seriously, the real golden rule is due unto others as you would have them do unto you. So, the question is if you would have no problem with your wife sleeping with another woman and then telling you about it, then you should go ahead and do the same with your new friend.
Question:
Did she tape it, so that I could analyze it?
Flasch186
03-16-2007, 11:16 PM
Unreal.
When Ashley and I were on a business trip we all stayed at the Hyatt. there was a classroom trainer that I thought was hot and one night Ashley went to bed early and a bunch of us stayed up drinking, hanging out and this was with hot trainer girl and a bunch of other people. As we all started hanging out all I thought about was "Yes this girl is hot yet she is also cool....I really really want Ashley to meet her and hang out with us!" So the next day I introduced Ashley to her and they hit it off and now we all keep in touch via email....
I guess my point is that i have a great wife (come April 29th) and to have more and more cool hot people around is fine, but to even think of sleeping with someone else other than Ashley (outside of the jokes with friends, "Id hit it." etc.) is just something that would make me want to vomit...literally. To me it is truly quite an easy frame of mind to have this not come into question and I guess I have a hard time empathizing with someone who takes the ok reaction i had, "Wow she's hot" and carries it to the bad reaction, "Jeez, I wonder if I should screw around on my wife.".
Easy Mac
03-16-2007, 11:17 PM
no initials? I'm lost.
DougW
03-16-2007, 11:55 PM
Should I be answering this thread with an ID I created years ago?
Yeah, you should.
Real Advise : Only cheat on her if she is a good singer.
DougWyatt
03-16-2007, 11:58 PM
This is not a question for a football game message board.
Talk to your priest, or a counselor, or someone who knows you and is qualified to give serious life advice.
Probably the best advice.
A good part of your interest/excitement is due to the freshness of the interest from this woman. That you really seem to click with her is only natural. We meet people we click with occasionally.
The question you need to ask yourself is what will happen if you pursue this. First, don't know this woman like you know your wife. She can seem normal now, but imagine having to tell your wife how you got herpes.
If you love your wife as you say you do, the choice should be easy.
If you don't, then be respectful and move on.
Solid.
Yeah, you should.
Real Advise : Only cheat on her if she is a good singer.
Don't listen to this jackass for sure.
Vinatieri for Prez
03-17-2007, 01:43 AM
Question:
Did she tape it, so that I could analyze it?
Well, I think a reenactment would be better.
Vinatieri for Prez
03-17-2007, 01:45 AM
I guess my point is that i have a great wife (come April 29th) and to have more and more cool hot people around is fine, but to even think of sleeping with someone else other than Ashley (outside of the jokes with friends, "Id hit it." etc.) is just something that would make me want to vomit...literally. To me it is truly quite an easy frame of mind to have this not come into question and I guess I have a hard time empathizing with someone who takes the ok reaction i had, "Wow she's hot" and carries it to the bad reaction, "Jeez, I wonder if I should screw around on my wife.".
Ok, how can you tell that the first sentence gives away your obvious take on this. Not only have you not been married a long time, but you aren't even married yet. This makes your response quite logical.
I was joking.
I think.
Yeah, I was joking.
Vinatieri for Prez
03-17-2007, 01:48 AM
Upon further reflection, I only believe going with the new girl is ok if you do her in the butt provided your wife has already rejected a similar request.
Glengoyne
03-17-2007, 04:10 AM
Should I be answering this thread with an ID I created years ago?
Hey Brad!
You guys are slipping.
Glengoyne
03-17-2007, 04:16 AM
Original Topic: Really if you're interested in exploring a little somthing on the side, man up and tell your wife you want out. Be straight with her, don't be a little sleaze and sneak around behind her back. Wanting to eat your cake and have it too, in a case like this just isn't fair to your wife.
My topic: It looks like Flasch is open to a threesome.
Marc Vaughan
03-17-2007, 04:31 AM
One word ....
NO
sabotai
03-17-2007, 04:42 AM
Three words....
pix pls kthx
A good part of your interest/excitement is due to the freshness of the interest from this woman. That you really seem to click with her is only natural. We meet people we click with occasionally.
The question you need to ask yourself is what will happen if you pursue this. First, don't know this woman like you know your wife. She can seem normal now, but imagine having to tell your wife how you got herpes.
If you love your wife as you say you do, the choice should be easy.
If you don't, then be respectful and move on.
This is the key imho, probably what you are experiencing is just the excitement of a new relationship, but it's not comprable with real love and respect with the woman you are married to (of course supossing that you are happy and love your actual wife as you said).
Edward64
03-17-2007, 11:16 PM
I do not believe it is 'normal' or in man's nature to be monogamous.
With that said ...
If you love your wife (as stated) you owe it to her to let this opportunity pass by.
If you have young kids, you owe it to them to let this opportunity pass by.
If you don't love your wife and you don't have young kids, I'm all for you finding happiness with another woman ... after you make a clean break from your wife.
FWIW, I travel alot and I have had many opportunities to cheat on my wife. I believe I know what you are thinking ... let it pass, its not worth it.
Unreal.
When Ashley and I were on a business trip we all stayed at the Hyatt. there was a classroom trainer that I thought was hot and one night Ashley went to bed early and a bunch of us stayed up drinking, hanging out and this was with hot trainer girl and a bunch of other people. As we all started hanging out all I thought about was "Yes this girl is hot yet she is also cool....I really really want Ashley to meet her and hang out with us!" So the next day I introduced Ashley to her and they hit it off and now we all keep in touch via email....
I guess my point is that i have a great wife (come April 29th) and to have more and more cool hot people around is fine, but to even think of sleeping with someone else other than Ashley (outside of the jokes with friends, "Id hit it." etc.) is just something that would make me want to vomit...literally. To me it is truly quite an easy frame of mind to have this not come into question and I guess I have a hard time empathizing with someone who takes the ok reaction i had, "Wow she's hot" and carries it to the bad reaction, "Jeez, I wonder if I should screw around on my wife.".
Ping: Flere!
And, advice to Original Poster (if that is your real name): NO NO NO
MollyMurphy
03-18-2007, 11:18 AM
First of all, you are 100% sure of what you SHOULD do here or you would not have asked a ton of strangers for their opinion. You just don't like the answer. Take the head on top of your shoulders out of your ass and use it. If you love your wife you would not even consider this for more than a second.
Second, the fact that you are keeping in touch with this woman without your wife's knowledge is bad enough. You are begging for trouble.
Third, you have to ask yourself what kind of woman would be ok with herself breaking up a marriage? Is that the kind of person you want to be with?
Last, if you are going to do it, man up and end it with your wife but know there is no going back. Otherwise, stop talking to her NOW. Nothing good can come from this.
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