That Cleveland B**** (DT's Thread)

[DaddyTorgo]

this post is just a placeholder. I suppose I should probably put the whole story here...once I get drunk and then sober up and prolly get drunk again.

edit: finally changed the thread title

[DaddyTorgo]

dola

note for the record I have 750 ML of Grey Goose next to me, and I have taken two shots already.

I am noting this publicly so that FOFC can hold me accountable for my drinking if I start to slide back towards the alcoholism I once struggled with.

[DaddyTorgo]

the grey goose lovessss me. It's never going to cheat on me.

Interesting question: does anyone know the entymology (or deriviation or whatever the right word is) of the phrase "round-heeled" ?

[lordscarlet]

dola

note for the record I have 750 ML of Grey Goose next to me, and I have taken two shots already.

I am noting this publicly so that FOFC can hold me accountable for my drinking if I start to slide back towards the alcoholism I once struggled with.

If that's been a problem, put it away now.

If that hasn't been a problem, put it away now.

[DaddyTorgo]

it used to be a problem but i'm not putting it away.

i'm not THAT bad about controlling myself...i can drink when I go out socially, and even get drunk. It's more the "drinking alone in my room" thing that I need to be aware of.

[Noop]

I hope she is worth going down a destructive path. I am going to guess she isn't worth it so go ahead and call an escort to please you.

[Poli]

You can give me a call. I'll talk your ear off about the double wing.

[terpkristin]

Be careful, DT.

So is drinking on the internet really any better than drinking alone in your room?

/tk

[DaddyTorgo]

I hope she is worth going down a destructive path. I am going to guess she isn't worth it so go ahead and call an escort to please you.

absolutely not worth it apparently.

Eh...i've never paid for sex yet. doesn't mean i've ever gotten any...but i've never paid for it...and i'm not about to start over this bitch.

[terpkristin]

You can give me a call. I'll talk your ear off about the double wing.

Or you can call me, I'm pretty good at handling the drunk calls...

/tk

[lordscarlet]

IMO there's never a reason to drink alone in your room.

[Lathum]

I'm alone enjoying a beer if it makes you feel better.

And oddly enough my wife is in Mass.

[DaddyTorgo]

Be careful, DT.

So is drinking on the internet really any better than drinking alone in your room?

/tk

i'll be careful. Idk...it's slightly more...connected. And at least i'm focused on typing and not on listening to sappy music and crying. I'd like to try to avoid that phase -- again...not worth it.

[DaddyTorgo]

I'm alone enjoying a beer if it makes you feel better.

And oddly enough my wife is in Mass.

shame you all are moving to the left coast and not the right

i've considered moving to cali myself - although my best friend's life has recently taken a turn for the worse so idk if that's the best idea

[lordscarlet]

IMO there's never a reason to drink alone in your room.

Sorry, I meant to say "get drunk," not "drink."

[Honolulu_Blue]

I am going to guess she isn't worth it so go ahead and call an escort to please you.

You can give me a call.

I found it funny that second sentence directly followed the first.

[ISiddiqui]

Poli is an escort?! :eek:

But yeah, man, put down the bottle. Seriously. Not worth it.

[DaddyTorgo]

I found it funny that second sentence directly followed the first.

LMAO

eh it's okay. It's a part of my "grieving process" if you want to call it that.

[ISiddiqui]

Better to, I dunno, spend money on something as part of the grieving process or break shit. Don't be drinking. Drinking by yourself when you are pissed about women NEVER ends up good.

[DaddyTorgo]

Better to, I dunno, spend money on something as part of the grieving process or break shit. Don't be drinking. Drinking by yourself when you are pissed about women NEVER ends up good.

breaking shit would be nice. Like maybe oh...idk...her fucking lying cheating round-heeled head?

[ISiddiqui]

How about something belonging to her first.... may not want to go to jail tonight.

[DaddyTorgo]

well I guess I don't have her heart, so I can't break that.

her job?

[DaddyTorgo]

watch me get wiser as I get drunker

[Kodos]

I don't know about you folks, but when I drink alone, I prefer to be by myself.




This chick ain't worth it. Break something of hers and then go beat up hookers in GTA IV. :)

[DaddyTorgo]

wish I had gta IV - maybe I should buy myself a ps3??

*listening to NWA - a bitch is a bitch*

[DaddyTorgo]

i got san andreas on my pc - maybe I should play that - and in other news...starting to get a lil buzzed

[Poli]

Or you can call me, I'm pretty good at handling the drunk calls...

/tk
True.

[DaddyTorgo]

nice - fiona apple "criminal"

[Poli]

Poli is an escort?! :eek:

But yeah, man, put down the bottle. Seriously. Not worth it.
I have many skills.

[terpkristin]

wish I had gta IV - maybe I should buy myself a ps3??

*listening to NWA - a bitch is a bitch*

Well if you decide to buy yourself a PS3, stop drinking long enough to not be buzzed before you drive to the store.

Though (and it pains me to say this) I think the 360 is a better bet, especially in this community.

/tk

[JediKooter]

Screw her (not literally). Too many women out there to choose from to have some skank screwing with your emotions.

Whatever you do, don't call her...ever. Unless it's to get your CDs back.

[DaddyTorgo]

Well if you decide to buy yourself a PS3, stop drinking long enough to not be buzzed before you drive to the store.

Though (and it pains me to say this) I think the 360 is a better bet, especially in this community.

/tk

fair enuf...maybe i'll buy a 360 - oh I wouldn't do it tonight, that's for sure. Wayyy too buzzed already (just down below the neck of the bottle - man i'm a lightweight now)

[DaddyTorgo]

Screw her (not literally). Too many women out there to choose from to have some skank screwing with your emotions.

Whatever you do, don't call her...ever. Unless it's to get your CDs back.

oh I ain't callin her. I got the closure I need.

I just wonder, as I said to DC earlier, how it went from "i adore you...i want to have your children and be mrs. phillips" in february to this 3 months later...

[DaddyTorgo]

and now i'm straight-up sobbing - FUCK...i said I wouldn't do this

hi fofc - welcome to my pathetic fucking life

[DaddyTorgo]

fuck the shotglass *drinking straight from the bottle*

[M GO BLUE!!!]

Hey... You've got a thread.

This might make you smile a bit in your drunken state:

I have a friend who was getting divorced. His now ex is the type who is not satisfied destroying your life, but must take away anything you enjoy. His deceased grandmother had given them a bedroom set for a wedding gift. The wife always hated it. It reminded him of his grandmother, so he naturally wanted the set. She demanded she get it in the divorce. She won it and he had to give it up.

How would this make you feel better? Well, before the movers came for the set he and his new girlfriend got a bit drunk and had some fun... they left gifts for the wife in places that wouldn't be apparent... like a pair of worn panties behind the dresser drawer. I think he may have urinated in places too... You want it? Well here ya go!

[DaddyTorgo]

fuckin a - I hate this shit. no fuckin more - I should just like...apply to the priesthood or some fuckin shit

[ISiddiqui]

Ack... don't drink straight from the bottle... give the bottle to me... mmmm, alcohol.

[DaddyTorgo]

Hey... You've got a thread.

This might make you smile a bit in your drunken state:

I have a friend who was getting divorced. His now ex is the type who is not satisfied destroying your life, but must take away anything you enjoy. His deceased grandmother had given them a bedroom set for a wedding gift. The wife always hated it. It reminded him of his grandmother, so he naturally wanted the set. She demanded she get it in the divorce. She won it and he had to give it up.

How would this make you feel better? Well, before the movers came for the set he and his new girlfriend got a bit drunk and had some fun... they left gifts for the wife in places that wouldn't be apparent... like a pair of worn panties behind the dresser drawer. I think he may have urinated in places too... You want it? Well here ya go!

lol - nice - too drunk to comprehend already - but seems like it's funny - thanks man

[terpkristin]

and now i'm straight-up sobbing - FUCK...i said I wouldn't do this

hi fofc - welcome to my pathetic fucking life

There is absolutely no way she's worth it, dude. It sucks, but she's not worth this much of your energy devoted to sadness over her.

/tk

[JediKooter]

oh I ain't callin her. I got the closure I need.

I just wonder, as I said to DC earlier, how it went from "i adore you...i want to have your children and be mrs. phillips" in february to this 3 months later...

You must not have read the "Women" thread. j/k man. :)

I've been there and heard that too. I think it may be an age thing really. It seems that they really have no freakin clue as to what they want until they are in their 30s. That's my scientifically unproven theory at least.

I mean, if you treated her right, wasn't a jerk to her and stuff like that, I'm willing to guess she's in her 20s. That age group, they are pretty much like that cute stray dog you find one day sitting at your doorstep. You decide to feed it and pet it and it then becomes your best friend. You have months, sometimes years of this great relationship and then one day, poof, the dog is just up and gone, never to be seen again. No matter how much you love someone or something or care about something or someone, you have no control on whether or not they/it stays or strays.

By they way, GTA4 is a pretty good game.

[DaddyTorgo]

There is absolutely no way she's worth it, dude. It sucks, but she's not worth this much of your energy devoted to sadness over her.

/tk

on an intellectual level I think I agree (too drunk to really know right now), but...idk...it seems like...the healthy thing to do in some way...i mean shit...i was at the point where I woulda moved to ohio in the fall...and now this???


wtf

(too drunk to correct typos now)

[terpkristin]

on an intellectual level I think I agree (too drunk to really know right now), but...idk...it seems like...the healthy thing to do in some way...i mean shit...i was at the point where I woulda moved to ohio in the fall...and now this???


wtf

(too drunk to correct typos now)

Well, given that I've been known in the past to get "rid" of frustrations by hitting brick walls, I guess I'm not one to talk about healthy ways to get through crap.

But drinking yourself silly doesn't seem like a real healthy thing to do, either...

Maybe you should stop drinking and go buy a 360. Maybe there's something to the entire "beating up hookers" thing. :D

/tk

[Passacaglia]

Pretty weird, my wife is out that way, too -- in Hartford.

Maybe tomorrow you should rent a 360 -- that way you'll want to cram in as much playing time as you can in the few days you have it, and not have time to think about the bad stuff.

[DaddyTorgo]

hmm, maybe a 360 is on the angenda...idk...too drunk to know

[MizzouRah]

Take it easy DT.. she's not worth it. Now I'm drinking one for you. ;)

[DaddyTorgo]

yeah...well she's getting me ripped up either way...idkhit...i was ready to uproot my life for this bitch...goees thing I found out wtf is up first

[DaddyTorgo]

and I just told my prents wtf is up...which is great bc now i'll have to answer 85000 questions

[Poli]

which is easier when you've been drinking, at least that's my experience.

[JeeberD]

Be careful, DT...

[DaddyTorgo]

w0oohooo

[M GO BLUE!!!]

How long were you with the *****?

I mean the "woman." Yeah...

[oliegirl]

DT, sorry things didn't work out, but seriously - be careful. No woman is worth going down this path for...

And besides, think of the hellacious hangover you'll have tomorrow, then she'll really not be worth it...

[Dr. Sak]

If this makes you feel any better...i can pretty much promise that she'll end up cheating on this guy too. Once a cheater always a cheater.

I know you won't realize this now...and maybe not for a few years, but you'll look back on this and realize that it was the best thing that happened to you. I found out my "girlfriend" was cheating on me, two weeks before giving her a ring. This was 3 years ago. I look back now and even though I dont have a girlfriend, I am more happy now that if I would've started a life with her.

Things happen for a reason. If you believe in God, which I do, I take this as his way of testing me personally to see what kind of person I am. Everyone has struggles throughout their life which molds them into the person they are. Others find that someone easy yet have other struggles in life...healthy...job loss..and such.

Okay my rant is over, if it made any sense at all.

[CamEdwards]

I have so many pearls of wisdom, but they can only be understood and appreciated by the sober. :(

[path12]

I have so many pearls of wisdom, but they can only be understood and appreciated by the sober. :(

I lol'd.

Hang in there DT.

[Izulde]

This thread makes -me- want to get my drunk on.

[DeToxRox]

Am I missing something? I want details.

[MacroGuru]

Mind if i join you...my business partner just f'ed a multi mill deal...walked away from it today...

I have slowly been drinking the night...once the wife gets home, I am pounding the bottle...

[CamEdwards]

I'm thinking DT must be passed out by now. Sorry to hear about YOUR day though Dennis. :(

[korme]

This thread makes -me- want to get my drunk on.

word on that. i hope dt deletes this thread

[DaddyTorgo]

wow - shortly after that last post I made it over to bed and passed out

[DaddyTorgo]

and I don't even remember that

[Blade6119]

You can give me a call. I'll talk your ear off about the double wing.

Does that offer extend to the non-drunk? :D

[Poli]

Not at 4 am.

[Neon_Chaos]

Vote DT.

[flere-imsaho]

I have so many pearls of wisdom, but they can only be understood and appreciated by the sober. :(

How does your radio audience do it, then?

Oh zing! :D

[Lorena]

DT, I'll third, fourth or whatever that this chick ain't worth it man. There's a woman out there for you and it'll happen when it's supposed to... and when you least expect it too. In the meantime, try to find something not alcohol-related and distract yourself.

If this makes you feel any better...i can pretty much promise that she'll end up cheating on this guy too. Once a cheater always a cheater.

I know you won't realize this now...and maybe not for a few years, but you'll look back on this and realize that it was the best thing that happened to you. I found out my "girlfriend" was cheating on me, two weeks before giving her a ring. This was 3 years ago. I look back now and even though I dont have a girlfriend, I am more happy now that if I would've started a life with her.

Things happen for a reason. If you believe in God, which I do, I take this as his way of testing me personally to see what kind of person I am. Everyone has struggles throughout their life which molds them into the person they are. Others find that someone easy yet have other struggles in life...healthy...job loss..and such.

Okay my rant is over, if it made any sense at all.

It makes perfect sense, this bsak guy knows what he's saying.

[DaddyTorgo]

oh man work should be fun - course i didn't really drink enough to be hung over (although I'm not sure how much i ended up drinking, i took a couple big swigs straight from the bottle before i passed out)

[DaddyTorgo]

oh...i know she's not worth it and everything, and these things happen for a reason. and like i said to people - i'm glad i found this out now as opposed to later (as in the case of bsak) where i would have invested a lot more into it.

but knowing that intellectually doesn't necessarily mean i can control my response, ya know?

[Dr. Sak]

but knowing that intellectually doesn't necessarily mean i can control my response, ya know?

No one ever said it is easy. Just take a day at a time. Do things to take your mind off of things. Calls some buddies, go out with them. But honestly, cut her out of your life completely. Even the guy that you said you talked to (I think)...don't. It will only make it harder to heal yourself.

The pain will become less and less until one day it'll be gone. I know that line is from a movie but I can't put my finger on it right now.

Good Luck DT.

[DaddyTorgo]

No one ever said it is easy. Just take a day at a time. Do things to take your mind off of things. Calls some buddies, go out with them. But honestly, cut her out of your life completely. Even the guy that you said you talked to (I think)...don't. It will only make it harder to heal yourself.

The pain will become less and less until one day it'll be gone. I know that line is from a movie but I can't put my finger on it right now.

Good Luck DT.

lol - oh i have no need to talk to that guy anymore. that was more just like...to confirm my suspiscions and at least be able to walk away secure in the knowledge that i'm not leaving behind anything worthwhile.

she's cut out - hey does anyone know if it's possible to have incoming calls & text messages blocked on a cellphone?

[st.cronin]

I once spent a night running the double wing with an escort. She was tough to stop, let me tell you.

[Lorena]

Glad you're ok DT. Shoot me an IM if you wanna get it out of your system.

[DaddyTorgo]

Glad you're ok DT. Shoot me an IM if you wanna get it out of your system.

will do

[DaddyTorgo]

doing okay. day wasn't too bad actually, aside from the gnawing pit in my stomach (which may be b/c of the drinking or may be b/c i haven't felt like eating much lately)

but i will survive. no doubt

[Lorena]

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[oliegirl]

One of my all time favorite bands...woo hoo DC! :)

[DaddyTorgo]

great. listened to that last night too (maybe), although all I really remember is that I think I passed out listening to "Criminal" by Fiona Apple

[DaddyTorgo]

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[DaddyTorgo]

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[DaddyTorgo]

okay so I ened up drinking half the bottle last night between when I took the first shot and when I last posted.

That's not bad considering my world record was a full bottle in a night (and that night I didn't pass out like I did last night)

I still got it!!

[SirFozzie]

heh. You and me need to take in a Revs game, DT :)

[DaddyTorgo]

heh. You and me need to take in a Revs game, DT :)

yes...yes we definitely do!

[Karlifornia]

Everyone gets their heart broken. And in the future you'll look at it as part "How the hell did I let it get me down that much?" and part "I'm glad it happened, so it will never let it happen again"

I've been there with drinking myself silly night after night and wallowing in my own mental feces.

[DaddyTorgo]

oh this won't be "night after night" - absolutely not. no way. she's not worth that much. but a couple nights? 3-4 bottles of alcohol over the course of the summer? sure

[Lathum]

oh this won't be "night after night" - absolutely not. no way. she's not worth that much. but a couple nights? 3-4 bottles of alcohol over the course of the summer? sure

the summer?

my god man, the summer is when you go out and bang random women! Don't waste it feeling all sad and shit. Go fuck someone already and get her out of your system. ;)

[DaddyTorgo]

the summer?

my god man, the summer is when you go out and bang random women! Don't waste it feeling all sad and shit. Go fuck someone already and get her out of your system. ;)

dude we're talking about me here...i'm in the boat with izulde as far as "lack of game"

the only way i'm going to just go out and bang random women/go fuck someone is if I pay for it, and frankly although I might actually be that desperate, I have a little bit too much self-respect for that (not that the thought hasn't crossed my mind)

[st.cronin]

"lack of game" can actually be a very effective game

[DaddyTorgo]

yes yes this is true cronin - but idk...i don't like to fish. i'm not a fisherman.

never really have been - my social skills are weak - i wouldn't know the first thing about going out and picking up a girl - not even for a one night stand, but even if you were to talk about for a potential relationship. wouldn't know where to go...what to do - i'm a wallflower in places like clubs and such.

and i feel like i'm at an age (28) where my lack of knowledge and experience is beginning to be less "cute" and is starting to work against me, as in "what's wrong with you?"

*sighs*

[st.cronin]

Dude, I'm 35, and I still play "I got no game." And it works.

[DaddyTorgo]

Dude, I'm 35, and I still play "I got no game." And it works.

lol

[Lorena]

DT, my friend, may I recommend listening to some angry music to get you out of this funk?

Fucking Hostile - Pantera

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Broken - Pantera

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BYOB - System of a Down:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3Az7JPZ6ZA

Straight out of Line - Godsmack

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVnSS9dm1zg

[DaddyTorgo]

angry music is GOOD. me likes.

lol - Bon Jovi's "You Give Love a Bad Name" was my on the train music this morning - but I'm way down with some Pantera. fuckin rad

[Lorena]

yes pantera's "fucking hostile" and "broken" are 2 of my all-time favorite angry songs... they make me wanna rip the heads off my teddy bears.

[DaddyTorgo]

yes pantera's "fucking hostile" and "broken" are 2 of my all-time favorite angry songs... they make me wanna rip the heads off my teddy bears.

i did that the other night. i had only bought one thing for her (a crystal ornament), and a teddy-bear with a little pouch to hold it in.

suffice to say that the teddy bear paid for the bitch's actions - and the crystal ornament will as soon as i get a hammer to crush it in glee...and i think i'm planning a little bonfire with the remnents of the teddy bear

[Lorena]

i did that the other night. i had only bought one thing for her (a crystal ornament), and a teddy-bear with a little pouch to hold it in.

suffice to say that the teddy bear paid for the bitch's actions - and the crystal ornament will as soon as i get a hammer to crush it in glee...and i think i'm planning a little bonfire with the remnents of the teddy bear

How about pretending the teddy bear is her, rip her a new butthole, stick the crystal ornament in her ass, and whack it with the hammer.

Then you can proceed with your little bonfire.

[DaddyTorgo]

How about pretending the teddy bear is her, rip her a new butthole, stick the crystal ornament in her ass, and whack it with the hammer.

Then you can proceed with your little bonfire.

well i already stabbed the teddy bear in the face, cut it open, cut her chest open and tore out her insides, but i guess i could stuff them back in and rip her a new asshole like you suggest

[M GO BLUE!!!]

How about pretending the teddy bear is her, rip her a new butthole, stick the crystal ornament in her ass, and whack it with the hammer.

Then you can proceed with your little bonfire.

Proof that women are indeed crazy. :D

[Dr. Sak]

All women are crazy...there are just different levels of crazy.

[CamEdwards]

How about pretending the teddy bear is her, rip her a new butthole, stick the crystal ornament in her ass, and whack it with the hammer.

Then you can proceed with your little bonfire.

Coming from Dodgerchick, this is hot in a way it could never be if Hell Atlantic said the exact same thing.

[DaddyTorgo]

Coming from Dodgerchick, this is hot in a way it could never be if Hell Atlantic said the exact same thing.

very true

[DaddyTorgo]

well - had a rough lunch hour. just...started thinking too much or whatever. walking the same places i used to walk, that sort of thing.

lil...on-edge today. maybe it's because i figure if the bitch ever does intend to call me it will be tonight or sometime this weekend and i'm dreading that.

and i know...there's a sizeable contingent of people that'd say "don't even pickup the phone if she calls" but i feel like it's almost better to pick up the phone than ignore her which might possibly piss her off and make her do something destructive towards me.

[Lorena]

well - had a rough lunch hour. just...started thinking too much or whatever. walking the same places i used to walk, that sort of thing.

lil...on-edge today. maybe it's because i figure if the bitch ever does intend to call me it will be tonight or sometime this weekend and i'm dreading that.

and i know...there's a sizeable contingent of people that'd say "don't even pickup the phone if she calls" but i feel like it's almost better to pick up the phone than ignore her which might possibly piss her off and make her do something destructive towards me.

Fuck her

[DaddyTorgo]

Fuck her

yeah but what if i don't pick up the phone and she goes "well fine then i know where he works i'm going to call his boss and rat him out for spending hours a day talking to me?" because i denied her the satisfaction of idk...playing out whatever twisted endgame she had in mind?

(and no it's not like i told her where i worked - she found out using google, it's not THAT hard)

[st.cronin]

Fuck her

in the butt.

[DaddyTorgo]

in the butt.

she'd like that

[st.cronin]

Fuck her

in the butt.

with a... coconut!

[DaddyTorgo]

with a... coconut!


:D

[Lorena]

with a... coconut!

or a pinecone!

[duckman]

PINE CONES?

PINE CONES????


PINE CONES?????????????????

[CamEdwards]

yeah but what if i don't pick up the phone and she goes "well fine then i know where he works i'm going to call his boss and rat him out for spending hours a day talking to me?" because i denied her the satisfaction of idk...playing out whatever twisted endgame she had in mind?

(and no it's not like i told her where i worked - she found out using google, it's not THAT hard)


If I got a call from some woman who wanted to tell me about one of my employees and how they were spending their free time, I'd think they were some crazy person trying to get back at my employee. If you're on good terms with your boss I really wouldn't worry about that.

Are the Sox in town this weekend? Go see a game for me and hit on the chicks in the bleachers!

[lordscarlet]

yeah but what if i don't pick up the phone and she goes "well fine then i know where he works i'm going to call his boss and rat him out for spending hours a day talking to me?" because i denied her the satisfaction of idk...playing out whatever twisted endgame she had in mind?

(and no it's not like i told her where i worked - she found out using google, it's not THAT hard)

You seem to really be overthinking this.

[DaddyTorgo]

You seem to really be overthinking this.

of course i am overthinking this. LOL

and cam - idk bout the sox, but there's a Celts game tonight - that should be quite distracting and hopefully good!

[st.cronin]

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[DaddyTorgo]

http://images.icanhascheezburger.com/completestore/2008/5/30/womenstehyrun128566535789983509.jpg (http://mine.icanhascheezburger.com/view.aspx?ciid=1247889)
moar funny pictures (http://icanhascheezburger.com)

that might be the coolest lolcat ever!!!!

[M GO BLUE!!!]

When she does call, be nice and friendly. Act like nothing is wrong. When she asks "So what are you doing?" say "I just set up a fake account on ____ and was chatting with _____. (laughing) He told me some interesting things I was glad to find out about!"

[DaddyTorgo]

When she does call, be nice and friendly. Act like nothing is wrong. When she asks "So what are you doing?" say "I just set up a fake account on ____ and was chatting with _____. (laughing) He told me some interesting things I was glad to find out about!"

that's a good way to go about it. i was pretty much thinking of going with that or something basically the same.

maybe letting her lie about it first and then whipping that out. present the accusation without any proof, let her lie and dig herself in nice and deep, and then whip out the proof

[M GO BLUE!!!]

Ronnie's got a point.

Better to take the high road. Showing any resentment is showing that she hurt you. In order to be hurt, you must have cared in the first place, which will only build her up.

If you really want payback. Piss her off by simply not caring! When she calls, just say "There's nothing to talk about. Good luck with ____." Then hang up. When she calls back, tell her you're through with her and don't need to discuss it. Tell her "It wasn't working in the first place and I'm glad that you gave me this opportunity to move on."

Always wish her well, even though you would love to hear an anvil fell out of the sky on her.

[st.cronin]

My solution: No matter what she says, or asks, just repeat one line over and over again:

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[DeToxRox]

One time, a girlfriend cheated on me as I was going to break up with her, so I introduced her to bukkake and then said buh bye. Count it.

[DaddyTorgo]

Ronnie's got a point.

Better to take the high road. Showing any resentment is showing that she hurt you. In order to be hurt, you must have cared in the first place, which will only build her up.

If you really want payback. Piss her off by simply not caring! When she calls, just say "There's nothing to talk about. Good luck with ____." Then hang up. When she calls back, tell her you're through with her and don't need to discuss it. Tell her "It wasn't working in the first place and I'm glad that you gave me this opportunity to move on."

Always wish her well, even though you would love to hear an anvil fell out of the sky on her.

I like that way too.

Whatever, it's immaterial...i don't think she'll even bother to call at this point, but i'll keep you all posted.

[DaddyTorgo]

can I just send her a link to the travis tritt "here's a quarter call someone who cares" song?

[CamEdwards]

No. An email's a weaseldick way of dealing with her. IF, and only if, you decide you just HAVE to have it out, you've gotta go in and be a man about it. Rage, rage against the dying of the light of your relationship. Then storm out and don't answer her calls.

That being said, I don't advise it. There are too many chances for you (generic you, not saying you're particularly prone to this behavior) to fall into the weaseldick mode of "Why? Why'd you do it?" self-loathing and whining, and you definitely don't want to do that. Trust me, that'll fuck up your self-esteem far worse than anything she did.

[DaddyTorgo]

No. An email's a weaseldick way of dealing with her. IF, and only if, you decide you just HAVE to have it out, you've gotta go in and be a man about it. Rage, rage against the dying of the light of your relationship. Then storm out and don't answer her calls.

That being said, I don't advise it. There are too many chances for you (generic you, not saying you're particularly prone to this behavior) to fall into the weaseldick mode of "Why? Why'd you do it?" self-loathing and whining, and you definitely don't want to do that. Trust me, that'll fuck up your self-esteem far worse than anything she did.

lol oh no I didn't mean just email it to her and be gone. I meant like...whatever...during the conversation if she was online at the same time or something.

I'm not going to rage against the dying of it - I don't need a lying cheating whore in my life...and once a cheater always a cheater.

I do feel slightly weaseldicky "why?" and "why'd you do it?" but I guess I'm coming to the realization that I probably won't get a straight answer that I can believe given the fact that she's a liar, and more than that, it really doesn't matter WHY so much, because the problem is with her.

So yeah. anyways...whatever

[RendeR]

IMO there's never a reason to drink alone in your room.

Sorry, I meant to say "get drunk," not "drink."

You haven't had enough experience yet.


watch me get wiser as I get drunker

QFT

oh I ain't callin her. I got the closure I need.

I just wonder, as I said to DC earlier, how it went from "i adore you...i want to have your children and be mrs. phillips" in february to this 3 months later...

I understand this one only too well right now DT, I hope you get a better answer than I have thus far.

I have so many pearls of wisdom, but they can only be understood and appreciated by the sober. :(

I was going to make a smart ass remark to this but...

How does your radio audience do it, then?

Oh zing! :D

THIS was SOOOOO much better =)





Ren

[korme]

and i know...there's a sizeable contingent of people that'd say "don't even pickup the phone if she calls" but i feel like it's almost better to pick up the phone than ignore her which might possibly piss her off and make her do something destructive towards me.


I'll just save you some more heartache and say do not answer any call from her no matter what. She's moved on, it's time for you to as well. It's the only option, the more you talk to her, the longer the healing process will take.

[DaddyTorgo]

How about pretending the teddy bear is her, rip her a new butthole, stick the crystal ornament in her ass, and whack it with the hammer.

Then you can proceed with your little bonfire.

I went with this idea with one addition - I had to take a leak, so I pissed all over the crystal before I shoved it up the ass of the teddybear and smashed it into a million pieces

[Chief Rum]

There's stuff I don't get here. Okay, I don't see the story here except that she's apparently a philandering whore. I assume DT you have good reason to believe this. Is this an acknowledged fact between you two, or does she still think you're cool with her? Your play out of her convo with you suggests a normal call from her. If she knows you know, why would she bother having a regular conversation with you (the "what are you doing" type of question)? If she doesn't know, why haven't you guys talked in, by my count at least four days? If you're this bent out about it, this must have been a strong relationship. And I have never heard of a relationship with that much emotion going four days without some kind of contact (unless there is a trip involved or something unavoidable to separate, etc.).

And the never told her where you work thing? That seems weird to me, too. What kind of relationship at this level doesn't have her knowing where you work? This seems to be an integral part of someone's life.

Sorry to ask hard, inquisitive questions, but this all just strikes me as weird, and I figure I must be missing something.

All that said, assuming you're right that she's a cheating her, glad you are moving on, and be glad you find out now rather than down the road after a more serious commitment.

[DaddyTorgo]

There's stuff I don't get here. Okay, I don't see the story here except that she's apparently a philandering whore. I assume DT you have good reason to believe this. Is this an acknowledged fact between you two, or does she still think you're cool with her? Your play out of her convo with you suggests a normal call from her. If she knows you know, why would she bother having a regular conversation with you (the "what are you doing" type of question)? If she doesn't know, why haven't you guys talked in, by my count at least four days? If you're this bent out about it, this must have been a strong relationship. And I have never heard of a relationship with that much emotion going four days without some kind of contact (unless there is a trip involved or something unavoidable to separate, etc.).

And the never told her where you work thing? That seems weird to me, too. What kind of relationship at this level doesn't have her knowing where you work? This seems to be an integral part of someone's life.

Sorry to ask hard, inquisitive questions, but this all just strikes me as weird, and I figure I must be missing something.

All that said, assuming you're right that she's a cheating her, glad you are moving on, and be glad you find out now rather than down the road after a more serious commitment.

oh no i've told her where I work - she just didn't need me to tell her or anything...it's not that hard if you GIS my name + boston it's like right on the first page or something.

She doesn't know that I know she's a philandering whore, no. But I have proof. Well, as much proof as one can have (i've talked to the guy without letting on who I was, and he admitted to it enthusiastically). And we haven't talked because she "had finals" (which I also believe to be a lie), and then she has been "dealing with some stuff" apparently. And as part of that same "dealing with stuff" thing she said something to the effect of "this isn't going to work. we'll talk." -- so I presume that's why she's not in a rush to talk to me to whatever...explain why it's not going to work.

[DaddyTorgo]

I am glad though. Glad I found out now and before I wasted anymore time (sorry i've been so absent from WW because of this cunt), and more importantly any significant $$, or factored her into my life decisions at all. And I'm totally done and moving on.

[molson]

I am glad though. Glad I found out now and before I wasted anymore time (sorry i've been so absent from WW because of this cunt), and more importantly any significant $$, or factored her into my life decisions at all. And I'm totally done and moving on.

Damn straight, you dodged a huge bullet.

Every hour you get away from it is a victory. Every hour that you can find something to do that you enjoy counts twice as much.

[DaddyTorgo]

yeah - well right now I am having a fun conversation with her about it. So that's...enjoyable. Not in a crying way or anything, just in a "I was definitely right. This chick needs to grow the fuck up" kinda way.

Will post it after I suppose.

[DaddyTorgo]

eh i'd post it, but there were no real highlights. Essentially it was:

"have fun with my replacement. Guess you never really had feelings for me."

to which she said "yes I did." and I said "well then why are you fooling around with this guy and having dirty phonesex with him?"

"fooling around with him? no?" to which I presented the proof and she had no rebuttal.

and then it was "i tried so hard to make it work. But I started to hate some things about you, and I didn't want to hurt you by telling you that."

and we all know that's probably the stupidest thing ever and makes absolutely no sense. Clearly she has a lot of growing up to do, and isn't even remotely a good person. because you can't claim to care for someone and think "oh...lying to them and cheating on them will hurt less than communicating with them."

so i'm walking away with my head held high

[Passacaglia]

Good to hear, DT.

[M GO BLUE!!!]

Let the drunken celebration begin!

[DaddyTorgo]

damnit - if only I had guy friends who wanted to go to RI to the strip clubs with me!!

[Izulde]

damnit - if only I had guy friends who wanted to go to RI to the strip clubs with me!!

So take some girl friends.

[DaddyTorgo]

So take some girl friends.

lol

[DaddyTorgo]

my favorite parts - where she claimed "i tried really hard to make this work." -- when in reality she didn't lift a fucking finger to make it work...it was always her bottom priority

and

when she accused me of "stalking her online." she said "what'd you check my gin score is that how you found out about him?" -- and it's like "uhhh yeah...and apparently I had good reason to."

or how about

"you have no idea about hatch. Or anyone else."

yeahh that was nice...cuz you know...i wasn't really nieve enough to think that this was the first time, but way to like...rub it in there.

psycho cuntrag.

[M GO BLUE!!!]

damnit - if only I had gay friends who wanted to go to RI to the strip clubs with me!!

WTF?


:D

[DaddyTorgo]

WTF?


:D

lol - cute

:D

[DaddyTorgo]

*bump* vodka mmm...and salty tears

[Pumpy Tudors]

"you have no idea about hatch. Or anyone else."

Hatcher Flaschen?!?

[Swaggs]

Hatcher Flaschen?!?

Oh snap!!!

[Flasch186]

uh oh...

[DaddyTorgo]

OMG YES!!! THIS IS IT!!!


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[Flasch186]

there is a site out there where you can submit nude pictures of your ex...

I have the link but I dont want to link it, even with XX as it immediately links to nude pictures....however, for your situation, you could, you know...

pics plz k thx

[DaddyTorgo]

there is a site out there where you can submit nude pictures of your ex...

I have the link but I dont want to link it, even with XX as it immediately links to nude pictures....however, for your situation, you could, you know...

pics plz k thx

wait, you want pix here, or you want me to submit them there? there's always PM's fool

[DaddyTorgo]

i'd put a pic up in here, but not one like that...

[oliegirl]

i'd put a pic up in here, but not one like that...

I wanna see what the bitch looks like...and besides, think of the great fun Ant could have photoshopping it...then you could plaster those very incriminating shots of her all over the net! :D

[DaddyTorgo]

I wanna see what the bitch looks like...and besides, think of the great fun Ant could have photoshopping it...then you could plaster those very incriminating shots of her all over the net! :D

I already have incriminating photos if I wanted to do that. But i'm taking a bit more of a high-road than that.

[oliegirl]

I already have incriminating photos if I wanted to do that. But i'm taking a bit more of a high-road than that.

Sigh. Damn you and your moral highground! ;)

Just kidding...but I would like to see what she looks like...we'd talked about her before on IM so I'm curious...

[DaddyTorgo]

http://img112.imageshack.us/img112/587/yellowshirtjx1.th.jpg (http://img112.imageshack.us/my.php?image=yellowshirtjx1.jpg)


here's a picture (and yes I have many)http://www.operationsports.com/fofc/%5BURL=http://img112.imageshack.us/my.php?image=yellowshirtjx1.jpg%5D%5BIMG%5Dhttp://img112.imageshack.us/img112/587/yellowshirtjx1.th.jpg%5B/IMG%5D%5B/URL%5D

[ice4277]

Is it too soon for an "I'd hit it"?

[DaddyTorgo]

no - and those aren't even the "good" pics

oh - and guess who wants to call and talk? *shrugs*

[DaddyTorgo]

Is it too soon for an "I'd hit it"?

I should just post the sexier (non-nude) ones and let everyone go all wild on em. Maybe one day when i'm feeling really angry.

[Chief Rum]

Did anyone else get the "You are the 999,999th visitor" ad when clicking on the picture link? I thought it was rather apropos flashing as it was over her image. :)

(And, DT, I say that fully to acknowledge again to you that this was her problem, and you shouldn't spent a moment of life worrying about it).

[Lorena]

DT, my friend, you're wasting valuable time and energy on someone who is so, so not worth it.

[DaddyTorgo]

time and energy no longer wasted -- and you're right DC -- absolutely not worth it.

Cold, heartless, lying, cheating, stuck-up, self-centered, racist bitch is prolly the best description. which really means there was never a way it could have worked out in the long-term, and I am WAY too good for her.

Now wait -- who wants the dirty pix?? send PM's with email addresses

[Izulde]

I think I saw her in a moneytalks vid now that I think about it.

[DaddyTorgo]

I think I saw her in a moneytalks vid now that I think about it.


LOL

[DaddyTorgo]

lol - choice exchange from the insult-fest that was last night (so i don't forget it)

her: your head is so big, you need to realize you're no better than anyone else!
me: better than you
her: better than me? haha...you live in your parents basement
me: at least I'm a good person and not a lying cheating bitch

:D

[Lorena]

time and energy no longer wasted -- and you're right DC -- absolutely not worth it.

Cold, heartless, lying, cheating, stuck-up, self-centered, racist bitch is prolly the best description. which really means there was never a way it could have worked out in the long-term, and I am WAY too good for her.

Now wait -- who wants the dirty pix?? send PM's with email addresses

You found your balls, good man DT.

If she calls, make sure you grab 'em so they don't fall off again.

[DaddyTorgo]

You found your balls, good man DT.

If she calls, make sure you grab 'em so they don't fall off again.

she won't. it's done and over with. i want nothing to do with her ever again, and i wish her nothing but the worst in life.

and to be clear, as i said to her - it's not because she decided she didn't love me. it's because she decided that in like january and instead of telling me strung me along for 6 months emotionally and lied to me while she was screwing around online.

had she not done that (or even had she admitted that that was wrong and that she was hugely disrespectful for doing that) maybe we could at least be civil. but she couldn't even do that...so fuck her

[Flasch186]

PM sent for the nastiest dirtiest pics you have ;)

[DaddyTorgo]

lol

[DaddyTorgo]

oh yay! guess who emailed me, then sent me a bunch of offline msgs on yahoo, then caught me online, then called me just now?

mmhmm!

[Neuqua]

Wait, did Flasch get pictures?

[JeeberD]

I like pictures!

[DaddyTorgo]

aaaaah - I still have to mail out pictures - was too hard to look at them there for a bit...even if it would be to degrade her.

anyways - gist of conversation:

"When you told me to go fuck myself...wow that really opened my eyes to what a bitch I was and I realized life's not about what you have, it's about who you are."

"Question I've been dying to ask - are you seeing anyone?"

"Everyone, even my mom, says I made a huge mistake."

"You make me feel like a schoolgirl...like here's this boy who used to love me...what do I say...how does he feel now?"

"I'm coming to Boston at the end of August for a few days. Thought maybe we could at least meet."

note: those weren't all necessarily in that order or one after the other. There was a lot of other random junk thrown in...aka "I missed you during baseball season," etc.

My head says to tell her to go away - but (you know how the rest of the line will go). Not that I'm necessarily willing to forgive and forget, but I'm not a cold-hearted person, I can't just be like "fuck off and die."

My spidey-sense (which admittedly sucks, and is very biased) is telling me that she's playing some kind of "be nice to him for a couple weeks, talk to him, and then when I come to boston see him and tell him what an idiot I was and ask for another chance" kind of angle. And if that's the case, she will have to do all the work to get it to that point, and I still don't know how I'd react honestly. To RendeR's point as I'm IMing with him "fuck what your head says. Love is a feeling. Your heart deals with feeling. Go with what your heart tells you." And right now my heart is...i dunno...topsy-turvy.

--not that i'm saying i'd give it at all, just that i'm trying to lay out what I think might possibly be going on.

[Neuqua]

I'll offer advice after i see what she looks like.

[DeToxRox]

Get a steak and a BJ and send her on her way. It's the American way.

[DaddyTorgo]

there was a pic higher up in the thread.

[DaddyTorgo]

oh but i'll go into the folder on my laptop here and upload another one to imageshack I suppose.

[Chief Rum]

http://img112.imageshack.us/img112/587/yellowshirtjx1.th.jpg (http://img112.imageshack.us/my.php?image=yellowshirtjx1.jpg)


here's a picture (and yes I have many)http://www.operationsports.com/fofc/%5BURL=http://img112.imageshack.us/my.php?image=yellowshirtjx1.jpg%5D%5BIMG%5Dhttp://img112.imageshack.us/img112/587/yellowshirtjx1.th.jpg%5B/IMG%5D%5B/URL%5D

For Neuq

[DaddyTorgo]

http://img510.imageshack.us/img510/5706/681874978lgy1.jpg

[Neuqua]

Serious answer is that you can't let yourself get vulnerable to this girl again. I am telling you straight from my own experience. And sadly, I am from the perspective of your ex.

She probably just feels a void in a part of her life where she misses knowing someone out there is caring and thinking about her. Her not getting that attention now has made her attempt to come back into your life.

Don't do it man.

[DeToxRox]

She has really skinny thighs .. or is it just me?

[DaddyTorgo]

Serious answer is that you can't let yourself get vulnerable to this girl again. I am telling you straight from my own experience. And sadly, I am from the perspective of your ex.

She probably just feels a void in a part of her life where she misses knowing someone out there is caring and thinking about her. Her not getting that attention now has made her attempt to come back into your life.

Don't do it man.

she always was quite the me-me type of person. I have strong suspiscions that you are correct sir. I think I can hold myself back from being vulnerable though.

[Chief Rum]

http://img510.imageshack.us/img510/5706/681874978lgy1.jpg

I have been pwned, I tell ya. Pwned.

All said, DT, this is probably a soul searching moment. I don't recall (haven't gone back into the thread), but she wasn't faithful, right? That's really the clincher for me.

[DaddyTorgo]

She has really skinny thighs .. or is it just me?

maybe the light or the angle? she is tiny though

[DeToxRox]

Those two girls look so different. Not calling DT a liar, but wow can people differ picture to picture.

[Neuqua]

she always was quite the me-me type of person. I have strong suspiscions that you are correct sir. I think I can hold myself back from being vulnerable though.

Ultimately it is your call, and I am just some guy on a message board, but I am just trying to be honest. I was *that* guy at one point in my life and so I feel like I can relate to what kinds of emotions and motivation she might be having. All I know is, it does not really bode well for you.

Take it for what it is worth.

[DaddyTorgo]

I have been pwned, I tell ya. Pwned.

All said, DT, this is probably a soul searching moment. I don't recall (haven't gone back into the thread), but she wasn't faithful, right? That's really the clincher for me.

well - there was the belief on my part that she wasn't yeah. And you know what, it's really the clincher for me too I've always said, time and time again. But...when push comes to shove, it's easier to talk the talk than walk the walk. And...I just dunno.

I mean, were it to ever go anywhere approaching anything, you bet your ass that I would be very upfront about how I intended to act and that she better not have a problem with that or she can walk out the door right now.

[DaddyTorgo]

Those two girls look so different. Not calling DT a liar, but wow can people differ picture to picture.

could be year-to-year too. i've seen 100+ pictures though, in all situations, so unless it's some very involved trickery I feel decent about it.

[Izulde]

Take the ticket for a ride, then after you chug the old engine in her caboose, drop her off fastlike at the next depot.

You = WINNAH!

[DaddyTorgo]

lol well played izulde

[Drake]

Dude,

Don't get back on that train. She cheated once, and she'll likely cheat again. Even if she doesn't, you'll always be wondering if she's going to. The trust never comes back.

I found out two years ago that my wife had been cheating on me. Trying to keep my shit together for the kids has made this, without a doubt, the worst time in my entire life. I think about walking out the door every fucking day. Despite the fact that she's gotten on meds and her bipolar shit is now under control. Despite the fact that she's completely re-committed to the marriage. Despite the fact that she stopped being a complete idiot cunt.

I should have walked out the door the moment I caught her...but kids complicate things.

Point being: I'm on this train because I have to be for the time being. You don't want to buy a ticket of your own free will.

[DaddyTorgo]

wackadoo

she just spent an hour on the phone with me rambling about her new job and showing me pictures online of a house she's thinking of buying to fix up and flip...like we were in some kind of frigging time-warp. Messed-up. Wayy...wacko. At one point in the 10 sentences she got out of me in the hour, she asked what i'd been up to, told her I'd been out to visit my buddy in california and she goes "how is he? I was thinking about him, hoping he was doing okay?" (his life has been a bit of a mess). I was like "uhhh...wtf?"

allegedly she says she's coming to boston in a couple weeks - thinking at that point when we go out for a meal or whatever that i'll be like "look...wtf? is this you wanting another chance? cuz if so here's how it's going to be. Or is this you wanting to be friends? Because frankly I don't have enough time or social energy to keep up with the friends I do have, I don't need another that really doesn't offer anything unique and is frankly psychologically unhealthy for me to be friends with" kinda conversation. Seems like one that is best done...face-to-face sorta. And frankly, after all the time I've spent over the past year talking to her...I at least want to meet her, so if I am slamming the door on her and walking away, I have the satisfaction of doing it to her face, ya know?

So until then I'm just going to be...friendly but not overly-enthusiastic, and not put a lot of energy into it.

[JeeberD]

Dude, you're totally going to bang her. And then have your heart broken again...

[DaddyTorgo]

bang her? methinks we're quite a ways from that mr. Dmack.

[DaddyTorgo]

my heart can't be broken - it's already in a million pieces on the floor. and my walls are way the fuck up. And man are they strong. She ran into them head-on tonight, and she definitely noticed. she can't hurt me any worse than she already has. Because at this point, I really don't care one way or the other.

[Neuqua]

Wish you the best DT, though I am expecting a sad continuation of this thread in a few months :(

Hope you prove me wrong!

[flere-imsaho]

A friend of mine (a woman, actually an old friend of my wife's) recently broke up with her boyfriend. They had gotten along really well together and whatnot, but his family (parents or siblings, can't remember) were having issues he was having to deal with, and it was making them continuing a relationship very difficult (time available and emotional committment). So they agreed to break it off.

He said to her that he'd like to remain friends. She, however, said that no, she had and still has romantic feelings for him, not "friend" feelings and that while she'd remember him fondly and would be interested in getting back together if everything got sorted out, it wasn't going to be healthy for her to try and "remain friends" with all that entails.

That, folks, is how to break this shit off.

[Neon_Chaos]

Is it too late to PM my email? :)

But you know what you have to do, DT. You don't need us to tell it to you.

[DaddyTorgo]

Step away from the woman, DT.

Why is it so hard just to cut her out of your life?

As for why it's hard: because in my 28 years, no one has ever felt about me the way that she felt about me (or even claimed to feel about me). It's tough to just give that up and walk away from it, knowing that it will likely be years before it happens again (if ever). I'm not Noop, rolling in the pussy over here.

hey I was doing just fine (relatively) going along thinking I'd never talk to her again. She's the one that jumped up and down over in the corner (figuratively speaking) to get my attention. Made it pretty damn difficult for me to ignore, because I'm not generally a mean person, so when she caught me online and then called my phone it wasn't like I could not answer the phone and just IM her and say "why are you calling me? leave me alone." -- I don't operate like that. Now you can argue that maybe I SHOULD, but I don't, I never have. And besides, like I said up above, I feel like at this point, I deserve the payoff of a face-to-face. Plus, if it goes down in the negative way, maybe that'll hurt her even more - like a fraction of how hurt I am. Probably not - I mean she'll probably just pickup some middle-aged dude at the bar and screw him in her hotel room, but wtf-ever.

So I'll go out to coffee or dinner with her while she's here in town, and we can sit and talk. I see that conversation going down two-three potential paths, and I'm going to lay them out here, along with my reactions, so i don't forget them.

We sit down, start talking. I bust out something along the lines of "okay, so what's the deal? What do you want out of me?" (paraphrase)

1) "I just want to be friends, have you as a part of my life."

My response (along the lines of what Flasch posted): "I don't have the time or the social energy for the friends that I have already, and moreover I don't really view that as emotionally healthy for me. And frankly it's not fair to me either. It's nice for you that hurting me has led to you making changes in your life, but I won't be around to share in them. Apparently you didn't get the message before, so let me reiterate: I don't anticipate talking to you ever again, and I'm happy with that. Goodbye."

*get up, toss a bill on the table, and leave without looking back*

2) "Oh I want a second chance."

My response: "Well then tell me what has changed. What's so different this time? And come clean about what went on. And you have to understand where I'm at now as far as things."

And then I can make my decision based on the particulars of that conversation - whether anything has indeed changed, whether she admits she did anything wrong, etc.

And then I either go with my response to #1 or with some sort of tentative-okay.

Honestly, the more I think about it, the more I think that it will go to #1, and the more I think that that is the more emotionally-healthy of the choices for me, but then again when the heart gets involved sometimes the emotionally-healthy thing doesn't end up happening.

[Neon_Chaos]

"What did the five fingers say to the face?"

[DaddyTorgo]

Is it too late to PM my email? :)



go for it

[DaddyTorgo]

DT:

You are conceding control of your emotions to her.


I disagree. I'm the one who walked away and didn't look back. She's the one who bombarded me (multiple times - starting 3 weeks later, and then again this week) until I talked to her. That gives me the power, because I'm not the one who "needs" her. I'm not the one who went to her and said "blah blah blah." She's the one who came to me and said "things have changed." And I'm perfectly content to walk away at any point - I'm not emotionally invested again right now, and even if I were to say yes (which is in doubt) I wouldn't get myself emotionally-invested completely again for quite some time. My emotional walls are quite sturdy, and she's clearly on the outside looking in - the question is more about whether to let her into the space between the outer wall and the first of multiple inner-walls.

[DaddyTorgo]

DT:

1. You will fall in love again.



I disagree, but that's not what worries me.

I disagree because I'm almost 29, by the time I get over this and am ready to put myself back out there I'll be what...close to 30? And I've never been at all successful in attracting women at all, so why would that suddenly change once I had reached 30 and I was still single? If anything that'd be more of a red-flag against me. Which isn't helped by my negativey which arises from my situation.

But like I said - that's not what I'm particularly worried about. The flip-side is what worries me more really - don't think anyone will fall in love with me.

*shrug*

[Karlifornia]

I disagree, but that's not what worries me.

I disagree because I'm almost 29, by the time I get over this and am ready to put myself back out there I'll be what...close to 30? And I've never been at all successful in attracting women at all, so why would that suddenly change once I had reached 30 and I was still single? If anything that'd be more of a red-flag against me. Which isn't helped by my negativey which arises from my situation.

But like I said - that's not what I'm particularly worried about. The flip-side is what worries me more really - don't think anyone will fall in love with me.

*shrug*

Then so be it. That doesn't mean that you settle for some whacked out broad. Don't wind up, as Rivers Cuomo once astutely said, "marryin' a beyotch, havin seven ki-yods"

If you're so afraid of being alone, then get a mail-order bride or something.

[st.cronin]

I disagree because I'm almost 29, by the time I get over this and am ready to put myself back out there I'll be what...close to 30?

Are you a woman? Men get MORE attractive as they age, not less.

[CamEdwards]

Well first off, I'm putting in my request for those PM pics as well. :)

Secondly, I may not know exactly where you're coming from, but I can see your point. If you haven't had a lot of relationships or luck with women, you may be inclined to believe that this is better than nothing at all. But if you can't really trust her and you're not sure you really believe her, then you better emotionally divest yourself.

In other words, if this can be just a fuckbuddy type of thing, that may work out. But the moment you get attached, you're setting yourself up to get played. And if you don't think you can remain emotionally unattached, I wouldn't even bother pursuing this. It'll just mess you up worse in the long run.

Good luck though DT. You seem to be a genuinely nice guy, and I believe you deserve a genuinely nice girl.

[DeToxRox]

Yeah I need to see if shes worth it, I need a PM, DT

[DaddyTorgo]

just PM me with your email addresses guys so I can add them to the list for when I send out the photos

[DaddyTorgo]

*shrug*

I won't do a "friends" thing, and as for the rest - I don't know. That will really depend on what she has to say, how much she's willing to show that she's changed and express remorse and put effort into something.

I honestly think that it'll likely to end up with me getting up and walking away from the table and leaving her sitting there, but ya know...at this point -- I kind of want to have that face-to-face moment.

*shrugs*

[Drake]

Are you a woman? Men get MORE attractive as they age, not less.

I <3 st.cronin.

[DaddyTorgo]

cronin doesn't <3 me though - he didn't put me on his fucking list! douchebag!

*sarcasm*

[st.cronin]

Come on, I KNOW you have my email address.

[DaddyTorgo]

haha - Idk...i'll have to look in gmail

[CamEdwards]

yeah, cronin didn't put me on his list either, but I wasn't going to say anything. I didn't want to come off like a lovesick puppy (not that you are, DT). It was still a soul-crushing moment for me though.

[DaddyTorgo]

because this thread does not ever die apparently - so I hadn't heard from her apart from a couple phonecalls back in the fall. phonecalls where i essentially let her talk a little and didn't contribute anything to the conversation besides a grunt or a "uh huh" as something to keep the conversation moving. your basic conversational-courtesy. so that died out after a couple calls from her, after maybe a month. I pretty much made the decision to let it wither and die when she was like "man i get along really well with all the guys from california that i met while i've been out there traveling (the guy i discovered she was talking to before was from L.A. - thus leading me to the assumption that she "met" him). Got a text msg from her on like 12/26 that was like "merry xmas" or something - so i waited till the afternoon of the 27th to reply and said something clever - some holiday-type pleasantry, but i didn't say merry or happy. she sent me a text back saying like "give you a call new year's eve". I was like "ok." Figured I didn't really have much to say, but wtf. Maybe I'd tear into her or something.

Didn't hear from her then (yay!) and I was like "oh good - maybe she finally got the message that I don't really have anything to say to her and she'll go the fuck away."

flash forward to...friday at like 1:30 when I get a text message on my cellphone. Literally took me a minute to figure out who it was from (deleted her number a couple months back) that said "go sox!"

Seriously...really? WTF possesses you to send me a text message at this point? I honestly was thinking it was done and over with and I'd never hear from her again. Guess she just got bored or something...idk.

Made me shake my head and feel...I guess...pity for her.

[Crim]

Please just delete that text, DT. Do not reply.

Thanks.

[Izulde]

Eh, it's one of those non-issue texts, the type of meaningless message that gets sent back and forth between people everyday.

[Groundhog]

Eh, it's one of those non-issue texts, the type of meaningless message that gets sent back and forth between people everyday.

Not sure I agree, given the circumstances.

I have an ex-gf that sends me these msgs from time to time, and I'm certain it's to make sure I don't forget about her.

[DaddyTorgo]

Please just delete that text, DT. Do not reply.

Thanks.

lol yup. way ahead of you. was just like "wow...that's sad...get a life and leave me alone already."

[DaddyTorgo]

Not sure I agree, given the circumstances.

I have an ex-gf that sends me these msgs from time to time, and I'm certain it's to make sure I don't forget about her.

yeah...i view the thought process as "watch me twist the knife that i stabbed you with in just a little bit deeper, to send that twinge of pain coursing through your body...just because i can."

[DaddyTorgo]

Awesome - LOL

It just keeps getting better.

I just got another text message: "Can we ever be friends?"

LOL

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

Awesome - LOL

It just keeps getting better.

I just got another text message: "Can we ever be friends?"

LOL

I think you should see if you can work this out. Just text back 'yeah, if you suck my cock on a daily basis' to her and see how she reacts. I think this can still be a meaningful relationship.

[DaddyTorgo]

I think you should see if you can work this out. Just text back 'yeah, if you suck my cock on a daily basis' to her and see how she reacts. I think this can still be a meaningful relationship.

:lol:

well played sir!! huzzah!

[Noop]

Awesome - LOL

It just keeps getting better.

I just got another text message: "Can we ever be friends?"

LOL

This one will hurt her deep into her selfish soul... when she texts you again ask her "Who is this" that lets her know you moved on... normally they will text their name and which point you stick the knife deep into her rotten soul and say "Oh ok"

That will destroy her....watch.

[Noop]

As for why it's hard: because in my 28 years, no one has ever felt about me the way that she felt about me (or even claimed to feel about me). It's tough to just give that up and walk away from it, knowing that it will likely be years before it happens again (if ever). I'm not Noop, rolling in the pussy over here.



I wish. Let's say my current lady friend only sees me at night....take from that what you will.

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

I wish. Let's say my current lady friend only sees me at night....take from that what you will.

I will never understand why anyone would ever admit on a public message board sleeping with their mom after they get home from a long night of work at Taco Bell.

[DaddyTorgo]

I will never understand why anyone would ever admit on a public message board sleeping with their mom after they get home from a long night of work at Taco Bell.

:lol:

you're en fuego today senor!!!

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

:lol:

you're en fuego today senor!!!

It's your world/thread. I'm just livin' in it.

[Noop]

I will never understand why anyone would ever admit on a public message board sleeping with their mom after they get home from a long night of work at Taco Bell.

You seriously want to make that corny ass joke? I am fucking your wife and she told me before I came along a dildo was the hardest thing she would get in her pussy. She said you were a limp, noodle dick, asshole who can't decide whether he is a wide receiver or a pitcher.

I bet if your wife had a dick you would let her pee on you. I bet if your wife had a dick you would let her cum on you.

Fuck you.

[DaddyTorgo]

It's your world/thread. I'm just livin' in it.

lol

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

You seriously want to make that corny ass joke? I am fucking your wife and she told me before I came along a dildo was the hardest thing she would get in her pussy. She said you were a limp, noodle dick, asshole who can't decide whether he is a wide receiver or a pitcher.

I bet if your wife had a dick you would let her pee on you. I bet if your wife had a dick you would let her cum on you.

Fuck you.

LOL, seriously? Somebody takes this whole anonymous message board thing FAR too seriously.

[Noop]

LOL, seriously? Somebody takes this whole anonymous message board thing FAR too seriously.

Nope. I just don't understand your stupid ass making stupid ass jokes. So go fuck yourself.

[DaddyTorgo]

LOL - one/both of you are taking this too seriously

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

LOL - one/both of you are taking this too seriously

LOL, it's certainly not me. I even got the threadmaster comedy stamp of approval. I thought Noop was kidding at first, but I'm getting the distinct impression that he doesn't handle this kind of thing very well. If so, I apologize to Noop's mom and Taco Bell.

[Noop]

LOL, it's certainly not me. I even got the threadmaster comedy stamp of approval. I thought Noop was kidding at first, but I'm getting the distinct impression that he doesn't handle this kind of thing very well. If so, I apologize to Noop's mom and Taco Bell.

I could careless but people like you and a few other members will get a fuck you every single time you speak out of turn. So fuck you.

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

I could careless but people like you and a few other members will get a fuck you every single time you speak out of turn. So fuck you.

"Yes! Yes, my friend! Fuck you too!"

-Akeem Joffer (Eddie Murphy), Coming to America

[Lathum]

proof you never know what you are going to get when you open a random thread.

[DaddyTorgo]

lol - you love my thread lathum!

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

proof you never know what you are going to get when you open a random thread.

If you haven't used a 'Coming to America' line in a conversation, you haven't lived.

[jeheinz72]

proof you never know what you are going to get when you open a random thread.

"!

[Neon_Chaos]

If you haven't used a 'Coming to America' line in a conversation, you haven't lived.

Absolutely perfect movie choice.

[DaddyTorgo]

*bump*

lol

[Passacaglia]

I'm confused. Whose turn is it to speak now?

[DaddyTorgo]

haha. i got several text messages on saturday - allegedly she claimed she was at somebody's house who had the BC-FSU game on...so she text messaged me. then she called me. i sat and listened to her inane babbling about nothing last night for...half an hour.

really didn't give anything back...the conversation was pretty much one-sided. still not sure why i picked up the phone - maybe because it's nice to be chased-after (even if it's only to be talked to ya know?). Then this morning i get to work and pull out my phone and see i have a "good morning" text message. Heh.

So yeah...I got to quash this before she starts thinking we're like BFF or whatever. Think maybe it's time for "what do you want? why did you call me? Nah I didn't miss you at all or think of you. I was pretty much just like...pretending you were dead and it was working fine. So do me a favor and don't contact me again. Move on. You have nothing to offer that I need, or want."

[Ronnie Dobbs2]

Move on.

QFT.

[DaddyTorgo]

lol...yes yes.

hey...like i said - i was doing just fine on the "pretending she's dead" plan. it was quite nice.

maybe she's operating under the delusion that her friendship has value to me at this point?

LMAO

[RomaGoth]

I found the best way to remove someone from my life is to stop talking to them.

[RomaGoth]

dola

But seriously, stop answering the phone when she calls. Do not reply to text messages. At this point you have no logical reason to talk to her at all, and by doing so you are just encouraging her to continue contacting you.

[DaddyTorgo]

yeah - i mean i guess i should just stop responding to her - i don't know...i just live in fear of "if she really is crazy she could make my life unpleasant" i suppose.

[RomaGoth]

yeah - i mean i guess i should just stop responding to her - i don't know...i just live in fear of "if she really is crazy she could make my life unpleasant" i suppose.

Dude, if she is really that crazy, one of two things would happen:

1) she would have already done something destructive to you, or;
2) she will do something destructive to you if you keep talking to her/get back together/stay friends

As long as you let this go on, you are allowing her to control your emotions, and your life.

[DaddyTorgo]

she controls nothing, because she has nothing that i want. i on the other hand have something that she wants (my friendship or whatever). Therefore I am the one in control *evil cackle*

[RomaGoth]

Well, FWIW I think you are selling yourself short. At least earlier in this thread you were. Especially with the "I am old at 29 oh noes I will never find another woman bullshit". C'mon dude. As someone else said, men age very well, and most women prefer older men, especially when it comes to a serious relationship.

Trust me on this. I spent my entire twenties fucking women and drinking (not necessarily in that order). I look back at it now, and what a complete waste of time that decade was for me. I met my wife five years ago and couldn't be happier. Oh, and I am 6 1/2 years older than her.

Give yourself some credit, a good woman is just around the corner. It just isn't the corner this bitch is standing on.